The Gals' Room

My daughter is going to be 12. She is tall for her age 5'5 and is just about 150lbs. She is beautiful w legs for days. But she is eating like a grown man. Shoves food in her face, sneaks food She is becoming covered in stretch marks. I don't know how to handle this. I really don't keep a lot of junk in the house. She buys stuff at school or goes to a friends and devours stuff. She talks her grandparents into getting her stuff too But I'm the bad one. I try to sit w her and explain to her that she is repeating exactly what I did. That she is creating horrible habits and I don't want to see her go down the same road I did. But now she cries and says I h…

So Happy that my surgery is only 2-1/2 weeks away!!! I have been working on getting my house clean this week and today and man till today I didn't realize how much my weight holds me back. I did most of the cleaning this week and today I just swept the rug up in my hallway upstairs cause it's a low pile rug and I wanted to get all the fuzzy's up and my vacuum is a POS, so I did that and it's only about 15 feet long then swept it down the stairs which there is only 10 stairs with a little landing in the middle and I am sweating like no other and now I just want to take a shower cause I feel like crap? So I don't think I am getting much more done today. I can't believe …

Ok ladies I have a question about weight gain during your period. I have heard of some women noticing weight gain during your period. I guess before losing weight, I never noticed, or paid attention to my weight. That and I had stopped having my period all together. However, now it's back. I noticed this week during my weigh in that I had gained 5 lbs! Which of course freaked me out. Then I started my period. Have any of you gained 5 or more pounds during your period? If I would have been eating wrong, and not exercising I wouldn't have freaked out. But I work my butt off! lol..

I have wrote on here before about my marriage issues. I don't know where else to turn bc my friends and family want me to leave my husband A little background information, We are high school sweethearts that got reunited after my first marriage. He was the one that got away. But during that time he got addicted to marijuana. I always dabbled too, but it was more social for me. After a while, I started smoking 3, 4 times a day. My weight started going up and up. Finally I got it under control, but hubby has not My kids are now smelling it, it's causing major fights between us. Financially it's killing us too. My husband has left countless jobs, wrecke…

OMG!! I cannot for the life of me stay away from sweets! I really had no problem and I was low -carbing but as soon as I start PMSing I need sugar!!! I just finished off a piece of cake. How in the world was I able to even eat that? I feel crappy and I don't want to do it again. I'm wondering if anyone else has this issue and how they take care of it

Has any body feet gotten smaller since losing weight?

Do you guys have a problem with cravings? I don't usually but when I'm ovulating all reason flies out the window. All I can seem to think about is all the crap food that got me in this situation in the first place and how good it would taste. I'm having a personal battle right now trying to avoid my daughter's birthday cake. Help...... New Life Started 07/24/12

Anyone from dayton ohio area!?

I am single and although I am not currently dating/trying to meet someone for a Long term I have over the past nearly a year done some online dating. I have always felt that before someone decides to "see" me he should know my history of obesity and plastics. I don't bring it up on the first or second date, but planned to tell anybody that I really intended to "go" with. I have a "friend" that I have been seeing quite awhile (no long term potential there) and he told me -without my even asking - that I shouldn't bother mentioning my plastics. He knows everything I had and saw the wounds at 2 and half weeks so is very aware - and now at 3 months tells me he doesn't e…

Hey lady friends, I have PCOS and have been taking the pill continuously (no placebo week) for YEARS (over 15 years to be precise) with out having a period. Well for some reason, I started having moderate (not what I would deem as light) spotting a few days ago! I haven't missed pills so that can't be it. I'm finding limited answers online but did see something (not from a doctor/medical professional) talking about how rapid weight loss can cause you to produce more estrogen or something but again, I am on the pill so I can't figure out why is this happening. Anyone else have this happen or have an idea what the f*** is going on?

Ok so ladies, I am having a mind blowing day, I am a single mom of 2 kids, with a menial job which I do ok at but my boss is a real jerk and doesn't give out yearly raises so I haven't had one in 6 years now, he normally gives out bonuses and didn't this year, and so I am just financially strapped with everything else I have been through this year. I am getting ready to start my 2 week pre-op diet next week on Wednesday the 5th and my surgery is scheduled for the 19th, I am stressing out today because the pre-op diet that my doctor requires us to use and we buy from his office costs $230.00, I have so much going on right now, and I just want to feel ok, but I don't. The…

Im almost 8 weeks out from surgery an i just cry for no reason im aggrivated annoyed pissy can't sleep I think im depressed im exercising n getting protien an my fluids an vitamins in daily jyst dont know what to do im thinking bout asking doc for depression meds help is this normal I just found out last Friday on top of all this that im losing my job in march store is closing that im a supervisor at an I got in car wreck 1/2/14 girl pulled out in front of me

With everything going on, my 3 year old chooses now to start this whine all the time throw tantrums every day phase AND IT IS DRIVING ME MAD!!!!! I have done so good today staying away from food, but this is something that drives me to food!!!!

So I'll be getting the Mirena IUD soon and I'm worried that it's going to be very painful. I've only known two people who've had them- one has had children and the other hasn't. Both of them have said that it was very painful and they had to take a few days off of work. I don't have very much vacation time left and I don't want to take any days off. My doctor told me that it can be more painful for women who haven't had children vaginally. Does anyone have any experience getting a Mirena inserted that wasn't painful? Thank you!!

so this past sunday (02/02/14) I had a family event my nieces baby shower wasn;t worried about going at all the strangest thing happened I didn;t think about! so I come from a big family I have 8 siblings myself most of them have kids and I have a lot of aunts and uncles and cousins etc so massive family a lot of them do not live in London so I don't see them much. anyway what I didn;t think about at all was how many family members were coming to the baby shower who haven't seen me at all in 4 years or more! as I am used to the ones I see all the time seeing me this didn;t enter my head that my own family wouldn;t even recognise me and walk right by me! yep this happe…

Before the op I didn’t have periods for years now I do. Holy hell I have MAJOR pmt hormones mega cranky irritated b*tch syndrome! They only finally settled down and become regular as clockwork end of last year so nov till today I can honestly set my watch by then the week before I am a major pain the in butt everything annoys me and I would happily kill people in a heartbeat! I like being a normal woman who doesn’t have issues with having them and all the bad bad crap I had to deal with from not having them for so many years but a side effect of this op I could do without is these raging hormones! Anyone else noticed a increase in monthly raging crazy since the op? It cou…

I'm 1 month out of surgery, I have lost 34.5lbs. The last few weeks, I'm having a very hard time taking my pills and getting protein in. I don't even feel like eating, and if I do I end up getting sick. I get sick more often. In the last week, I have been having a lot of pain in my stomach. The other day I was walking around the mall with my bf, and I barely made it back to the other in before getting sick. I see my doctor on the 7th, and she is about a hour away, and with the snow storm I haven't been able to make it done there. I do plan on going to the ER tonight, but I don't know what else to do before than. I have three small children and I feel useless. Is anybody e…

hello all. I have lost near 100 pounds since my surgery June 18th 2013. While I feel great there are other parts that don't. To make a long story short I went to my ob/gyn and he did some tests, took some blood and turns out I'm estrogen deficient. I am 27 years old. Not even near menopause. Has this happened to anyone else? When asked what the cause of this could be he said stress but when I asked if it could have anything to do with weight loss he immediately wrote it off. Thoughts/ opinions?

I was on Yaz 2 years ago, but stopped it. I wanted to do the implant in the arm after surgery, but everyone is telling me not to do it. And people at work say no don't get on BC, it will make you gain weight. I have PCOS. I do want kids but want to be able to wait until I'm at goal weight for awhile. Which BC do ya'll like or reccomend?

Ok ladies is there any body lotions that help firm the skin as we loose weight or with cellulite?? I know it's all in ones genes but something anything that minimizes and helps with the skin. Thank you all!!

I picked a sleeveless dress with a fairly high neckline. I am thinking of skipping the necklace because I would feel like June Cleaver in a close fitting string of pearls and not sure what else would go with it. The neckline part of the dress is lacy so I think it is simple and enough of a statement itself. Thinking of dangling earrings and my hair up. Cant afford diamonds so considering some kind of dangling earrings that are NOT fake diamonds but something else. I have dark hair - lady at Macys suggested black dangling earrings since hair will be up ... will still be noticable. when I put my hair up, I always let loose some curly tendrils. Shoes - well, I have bl…

When did you after surgery? I was told it is a very important step. I got sleeved on the 14th and i haven't yet, i'm getting very impatient. (I can burp though and the gas pain in my shoulders isn't as bad as it was before.) I want to fart and make sure i'm okay!

I am three months post op today and down a little over 50lbs (I have a goal of 100 down so already half way there ) I have also had a Mirena IUD for the last two and a half years, which I love! But I don't get a visible menstrual cycle anymore, makes it hard to figure out when things are going down. I believe I'm in my TOM now because I am more emotional and a few other calling cards (Water retention, bloating etc). Before surgery I had "bottomless pit" syndrome (sister suffers from it too) that on our menstrual cycles nothing fills us up. I never gave any thought to this side effect for after surgery but now during this noticeable influx of hormones, I find I can eat m…

their WLS track like this....always feeling insecure? I'm at the start of my WLS road, just getting my initial appts in before the sleeve. All of our years of being married I've felt insecure but even more so since I've slowly gained weight over time. I basically let my insecurities ruin our time (i.e. I will get so upset that someone he works with is really good looking--skinny etc) and it creates arguments/stress for us. I hate myself for doing that. I need to get over the fact that he may find other people attractive, he has done nothing to make me feel insecure though, it's definitely coming more from me. I guess this doesn't totally have to do wi…

OK, let me just start by saying, this may be TMI for some of you but I really just need to get this off my chest. Anyway, what has caught me by surprise with this surgery is that I’m having some self-image issues. I’ve always had self-image issues as an overweight individual but I assumed that as I lost weight, I would feel better about myself. And I do. In some ways. Maybe it’s not a self-image issue at all. Maybe it’s just anger and resentment? Perhaps it's a mix. I don’t know. The problem is this. DH had reached a point where he was no longer interested in being intimate with me at all prior to my weight loss. Now he’s enjoying my weight loss. He keeps telling me h…

Ok, I get it! I need a new running bra! My first full 3K run last week after my tummy tuck and recuperation, I knew I was physically ready to do it start to finish (on the treadmill in the gym) so I psyched my self up. No stopping unless I broke my leg! I didn't plan on my boobs going down and the bra going up at the 2 mile mark! Ever try to re-tuck those flabby boobies while running on a treadmill, in a crowded gym. And not attract any attention or go shooting off the back! I thought everyone here could use the laugh. I am happy to say I have a new running bra which compresses those babies into pancakes, and new running tights...... Size SMALL! Hope you got a smile!

I'm down 80 pounds, and wearing a size 14. At size 22/24, I heard the comments "moo"........and other hurtful things as many of us have.......and quietly I put it up with it.....shame on me..... I heard someone at my office talk about a larger woman in an ugly tone while at a party----I gave the person a disgusted look and walked away, and this morning I heard men talk about a coworker........and it really ticks me off.....after the comment, the gentleman said "I guess I shouldn't go there"......and I told him "no you shouldn't have, that's just hateful" .......and walked away before I said something I would later regret........a few hours later our paths crossed, an…

Took BCP for many many years before surgery. My surgeon required I stop them 2 weeks pre-op. After surgery I decided to stay off them in fear of gaining weight once starting again. I'm 9 weeks out & am still off them. My OB/GYN told me it was totally up to me if I wanted to get back on them. My main question is to any ladies who were on them & continued them post op...did u notice it hindered your weight loss or helped? I kinda miss the regularity of periods & no cramps but I don't want to stall (again!) thanks!!!!

I had my surgery November 5th. Healing and progress is great so far. My sleeping habits have changed astronomically since then. I used to be a heavy sleeper and now.. Not so much. The worst part is my boyfriend! He's always stayed up later than I have but recently I wake up and want to strangle him! He watches T.V. until 3 or 4 in the morning, mostly falling asleep with it on, gets up and down to go outside, eats! Before I could sleep through this, now I fall asleep at my normal 10-11 and I'm woken up by 12:30-1. By this time I'm so tired, so MAD at him I toss and turn until finally he falls asleep and I can turn off the TV. I am living this amazing healthy lifestyle and …

Pre-diet and 3 weeks post sleeve I am down 42 pounds. I cannot get enough of my husband. The past few years sex has not been as pleasurable for me because of the weight i carried in my midsection. Now that the weight is falling off I am finding that I achieve orgasm more than I have in years and I love it. I hope more women will have this experience. It has brought my husband and I closer and I feel so beautiful when he looks at me.

So I'm 9 weeks out today and I'm down 41 lbs and I think most of it came from top and a little from the stomach (it is a lot flatter) but still, so now it looks like I have these large arms still (bat wings) and these nice big thunder thighs!! But I guess I can say I'm thankful for this new waist that's reappearing!!! Maybe I will go but me a few new bras with padding!?!?! LoL I guess we can't pick where the weight comes off first!! Thumbs down Kim

I am going to a big deal cocktail party/awards banquet in a few weeks. I am a little at a loss as to what women currently wear to this type of event. I have lots of dresses, but i don't really have a little black dress. Any tips of where to shop and find something appropriate? I sometimes feel that the dresses I have seen are just a little too casual.... but I dunno!

... and when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly... on our broomsticks. We're flexible like that." Lmao when I read this - and, yes, it works for me ????

Hi everyone! I have a question that is really hard and I could use some advice. Just a background I have 2 kids 6 and 3 and I have been married for 8 years but have been together since I was 20 and I am now 34. Our relationsship has always been rocky, very hot and cold and he has always been very jealous and moody. We are also from two different cultures so this may add to our differences. Well two years ago I started talking to an ex and we carried ona four month friendship (emotioanl affair) and talked frequently. We did kiss but there was no sex. My husband found aout about it and all hell broke lose. After that he became very physically abusive and I stayed b/c I felt…

My cramps are not that bad they could be worse. But they hurt in the beginning, what I normally use is ibuprofen like 3. Tylenol never really helped me that much. What can I take to get me through the tuff days?

I just read that my surgeon asks that his patients stop all birth control pills/ Estrogen/ Progesterone 2 weeks before surgery....would this include an IUD/ Mirena?? I just got that sucker in there and my body used to it! Heck...I haven't even had the opportunity to take it on a "test run"....please tell me I'm not going to have to remove it and go through the serious pain of having it reinserted! <I, of course, will talk to my surgeon about this at my next visit...but I thought y'all might have some insight or perhaps have had the same issue come up >

Anyone have trouble with their periods after surgery? I am not getting it on time. Last month was a week late, this month I am going on 2 weeks late. Anyone have this problem?

So I am 6 weeks out and I haven't had my menstrual cycle yet!!! Anyone else missed there period for a few months after gastric sleeve? My period was regular before!!!! Please help

My surgery isn't until March and I haven't done my pre-op meeting yet (it's February 19th). Can I wear a bra during surgery? I just don't know if you can only just wear a gown.

Ladies, any suggestions for lingerie that de-emphasizes our flaws during and post weight loss? Something that somehow accentuates my drooping breasts and hides my bumpy belly? Suggestions for stores for purchase of said lingerie? Thanks!

I've come to the decision that I need new friends. All my closest and dearest friends are hours away from me. The closest thing to friends in my area is a woman that I used to work with and her partner. I had always thought they were relatively nice under their bitterness. But here lately I'm getting strange feelings from them. They never want to get together to do anything anymore claiming they don't feel well and when I'm on the phone or even posting something on Facebook I receive a lecture about how I should be doing that particular thing another way. Its irritating me. I'm sorry but if you have never actually raised a kid you have no business telling a mother of …

Was you marriage more romantic driven or sex driven before surgery? And what about after??? Going through some pretty tuff emotions right now, I need some help.:-(

Have had PCOS since I was 18 and I'm scheduled for surgery in April I was wondering if anyone can tell me about facial hair growth... Did it stop did it get better? And the deepened voice did it get better??? Please help

I'd just like to experience one more orgasm. I'm guessing the lack of an orgasm is due to medication ie anti-depressants. I have a wonderful hubby who tries EVERYTHING! Helping myself doesn't work either... So is an orgasm important or should I be happy with just the touchy feely thing?

Has anyone gained weight from the depo shot?

Ok I have a question. It has been brought to my attention that I have a strange body odor. I cannot smell it, but others have. I have NO clue why? I am very clean. Sometimes I take two baths a day (morning and night). I really don't know what to do?? It was brought to my attention by someone who I have always thought to be one of my main supporters. So it's left me pretty crushed and heartbroken. But I am aware of it now, and I can't ignore it. Does anyone else have this problem? And if so what was the cause and how did you keep yourself from being "smelly" It must be pretty bad because I was told that I "smelled" the house up, and I left a scent in the seat I sat in. …

Have had blue bunny ice cream bc it was soft and Mac an cheese and other things and I cant handle the dairy will I ever be able to or can my stomach just not handle it anymore any one with the same thing ?

Three months out and four days late. And no im not pregnant. What's going on?

He wins! Last night I was told that he thought it was extremely selfish of me to have my tummy tuck during his busy season! Let's see, who knew how long getting insurance approval would take, who knew they would approve it in two weeks with a short window that, besides his busy season, included the birth of our first grandchild and then lambing season (very intense time for me), who knew my Mom would pass away the day before my surgery after a long illness. He works for fedex, yes, busy, but not rocket science! Wow! He had a bad day yesterday and blamed it on my surgery four and a half weeks ago. Wow! Just makes me want to do more to help him out. Why do some people not r…

With loose skin I now have...need a swim suit one piece or tankini that is going to keep it all in place...suggestions??