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Im almost 8 weeks out from surgery an i just cry for no reason im aggrivated annoyed pissy can't sleep I think im depressed im exercising n getting protien an my fluids an Vitamins in daily jyst dont know what to do im thinking bout asking doc for depression meds help is this normal I just found out last Friday on top of all this that im losing my job in march store is closing that im a supervisor at an I got in car wreck 1/2/14 girl pulled out in front of me :(

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Oh sweetie I am so sorry to hear all the things you got going on, hang in there and take one day at a time. I pray that things get better and that you are able to find a job soon!

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I'm so sorry. I had a lot of things happen to me last year that were really crazy.

Accident, two knee surgeries , two hand surgeries and neck epidural. Then my daughter suffered a concussion.

The only thing that made me feel better was to eat and drink. Maybe that's why ( besides the job/ accident) because we turned to food for comfort and now that is gone. Easy to say but reach out to friends and family for support.

Lots of luck.

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That's a lot to handle. If this continues then it might be worth taking for a short time. I would try to find new things to do to help soothe your emotions. Today I am going for a mani/pedi. Be kind to yourself.

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So sorry to hear everything is outta sorts right now. You do have a lot on your plate and still getting back in the swing of things after surgery. The emotional mess I felt fortunately resolved not too long post op. If it continues it's definitely worth seeing someone and maybe some meds to help or some talk therapy. You have a lot to deal with right now so it might be helpful as you try to get things in order again. You can do this and you have us. Remember no matter what you are going to be ok! Things will work out. Hugs!!

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damn girl..sheeeezz..when it rains it pours..the depression is a normal side effect. I had it. but first let me say this->Im not bio-polar or have a affection for depression to begin with. I had a bad bout of depression, call my psychiatrist, she told me it was normal, but if it hasn't pass in time, we would start discussing meds, I had meds, so I waited it out. Thank god it finally went away. Horrible experience, that was.

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bad typing..I don't have an affliction for depression, and I hate meds..sheezz I gotta get spell check or sentence check!

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Hang in there. If you need to see a doctor see one. Depression is no joke. I'm taking meds for it.

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Thanks everyone for all the kind words an support im trying to stay positive still crying for no reason ive read a lot an it says people who have surgeries like ours an other one will cause depression so im hoping it passes soon an my life gets back in order ive had a lot more problems happen since last post its like everyday something more on my plate im like can I just go back to 2013 lol but god has a plan im sure of it an i just try n take one day at a time feeling good tho go to gym at least every other day weight isnt coming off on scale as fast as I thought but im losing inches my biggest trip is the 2 inches in my neck alone lol but now I have wrinkly skin under chin oh well an ive got major angle wings going on under arms but ive been on pain meds for many years for pinch nerves in neck an back but im almost off as of this week just take one a day from the 3 I use to take so thats great

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It gets worse but then it gets better ...there's nothing wrong with getting some help and meds to level yourself out...in fact maybe you just need a progesterone shot ... We look forward for this surgery and have all the expectations of a better life but it doesn't happen right away and when things happen that's outside our control it can bring us more down ...I'm sorry for what your going through but it will get better ....we are all here for you

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Im almost 8 weeks out from surgery an i just cry for no reason im aggrivated annoyed pissy can't sleep I think im depressed im exercising n getting protien an my fluids an Vitamins in daily jyst dont know what to do im thinking bout asking doc for depression meds help is this normal I just found out last Friday on top of all this that im losing my job in march store is closing that im a supervisor at an I got in car wreck 1/2/14 girl pulled out in front of me :(

Hi stasea, I am sorry to hear about the job and the car, that stinks, I feel ya though, I am the exact same way if I don't take my depression meds. I take them every morning and believe me they help. I take cymbalta, and if I forget it I know it. I start to cry for no reason and just am a total wreck for the day. There is nothing wrong with taking a depression med or mood stabilizer? I know a lot of people who take them and you know with all the changes your body is making right now that might be the reason. Best suggestion is talk to your doctor???

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