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  1. 22 points
    I do not care for my surgeon as a person, but as a surgeon I know he's well-qualified. Obviously, it would be great to have a surgeon that didn't talk and behave like an ass, but if you're willing to overlook his bedside shortcomings in exchange for a competent surgeon, then feel confident that you made a good decision. Do I find your surgeon's comments inappropriate and sexist? Absolutely. Would I have wished that I had the perfect comeback when he made his disparaging remarks about women who want to build healthy muscle? Absolutely. My guess is that you're mainly peeved because he got away with saying what he said, and you weren't able (out of sheer disbelief perhaps) to challenge his asshattery. Instead of being able to express yourself fully with him, your only outlet (and a less satisfying outlet) is to vent here. I doubt if I'm alone as a woman in feeling hesitant to speak up for myself. As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, I often "flew away". It took years of therapy before I could rid myself of that shame. In some ways, I was conditioned, as are many women, to be shrinking violets. There's also the issue of status involved in your case. We've been taught to respect certain professionals, doctors included. So, here you are confronted by a male doctor who completely caught you off-guard by basically equating unattractiveness with muscles. Heck, we're already fat and feeling bad about that, now to be told that to build muscle is unfeminine. Wow. Imagine paying an insurance co-pay to hear all this crap. It's important for you to be a strong self-advocate. You are taking a life-changing step with weight-loss surgery, so why stop there? For your own self-respect, I'd politely but firmly revisit this conversation by letting him know that you were offended by his views on women who lift weights and press him about whether there is a medical reason for you to not lift weights or if this was just his subjective view. If you read my profile statement, you'll discover that I had a negative hospital experience with my doctor. Yes, I vented like crazy here and elsewhere, but as soon as I saw my surgeon at my first follow-up appointment walking down the hall (I was actually supposed to see a nurse practitioner for this visit), I approached him with confidence, touched his arm, and said, "Dr. S---, I am not very happy with you. In fact, I'm very disappointed." He was so taken off-guard by my bluntness that he escorted me into the exam room and spent 45 minutes worth of damage control on me. You can imagine the bewilderment of the nurse when she walked in and he was with me. She probably thought she was the one in trouble. The point is, I took back some of the dignity that I felt had been taken from me previously. Yes, it was "just" a statement about muscles, but where do you draw the line? You wouldn't be here venting if it didn't bother the becheezits out of you. Believe me, you'll feel better about yourself for at least trying to stand up for yourself. It might not go over well, maybe you feel clumsy getting out your words, but it's better than saying nothing. Practice self-advocacy until it becomes second nature. The older I get, the easier it's becoming. When you don't speak up for yourself, you are essentially giving the other person the power and permission to put you down.
  2. 20 points
    Down 150 pounds. Why didn’t I do this surgery 10 Years ago!?!?!?
  3. 20 points
    Hi everyone! It's officially been a year since my SIPS (aka Modified DS) with Dr. Roslin at Lenox Hill and I couldn't be happier! I am down 125 lbs and 25 BMI points. I had my one year check-in and everything looks good, and they told me I don't have to lose any more weight (although I think I'd be comfortable losing 5-10 more and toning.) Now I'm planning for a Tummy Tuck and brachioplasty in a few months once my weight is stablized. This surgery is so worth it; I can't believe the difference, not only physically, but emotionally and mentally as well. To everyone thinking about doing this or who has and may be struggling: keep at it. You won't regret it. #transformationtuesday
  4. 17 points
    *Oprah voice* EVERYONE GETS A NEW DIET!!!! VSG2017 HW 249 SW 238 CW 169
  5. 16 points
    NSV: so i randomly went jean shopping and the size 4 actually fit, and really fit. I thought i was going to have to squeeze into them for dear life lol. I've been fat my whole life so this is new to me. The fact that i'm actually a small still blows my mind, but yet the scale still says im overweight smh. I'm still going to view this as a victory.
  6. 16 points
    Being afraid is 100% natural. But the sleeve's mortality rate for "on the table" issues is amazingly low. In fact, ALL of the WLS now have super low "on the table" mortality rates. The numbers you might be looking at or hearing are usually skewed by old numbers, the surgeries have all advanced quite a lot even in the past 10 years. As far as getting "too fat"... we all understand. It's not 100% your fault either and you shouldn't shoulder all the blame. It's a battlefield out there, horrible easy to access foods are all over. Advertising bombards our subconscious mind at every turn. Let the past be the past. Stop dwelling on it and start moving forwards. The road ahead is going to need your undivided attention. You can't change the past, but you can control your future. So leave the past where it belongs, behind you. Now you get to start working on where you are going now. Congrats on deciding to take back control of your life. The path laid out ahead of you is tough, and is going to require major changes to so much of your typical daily routine. It's going to get emotional. It's going to get stressful, it's going to be painful, it's going to be very hard. But. It's very worth it! Remember, you are stronger than you give yourself credit for, be ready, post-op is an amazing journey!
  7. 14 points
    I figured it would be nice to have a section where we could just confess to some of the potentially dumb things we've done, pre or post op. Just so others can see we are all human. I want this to be kept as civil as possible, where people can own up to things without anyone else chiming in with anything negative, we all know what we did wasn't "right" but I'm sure we ALL have done something we shouldn't have. I'll start. I cheated on my pre-op diet a few times. I also like to find loop holes and exploit the crap out of them. I drank beer for a week+ on my pre-op, because it didn't say I couldn't. I only stopped after I was forced to, because my wife asked my surgeon and of course they said "no"... boo. I also ate a whole slice of French Meat Pie at my Dad's 60th birthday luncheon. I cheated on my post-op diet/puree stage a bit too. I ate rice cakes and protein chips or other veggie chips. Not a lot, but it happened. I "pureed" a steak and cheese sandwich once. I ate a few fried ravioli on my puree stage as well. This past weekend, I had a beer. My wife and I took my parents out to dinner at a local casino, it's Restaurant week, so we found a good looking location and went out to eat, part of the deal was that you got a draft beer with your meal. So, I had a shipyard summer ale with my grilled chicken parm sandwich (only ended up eating 3 bites of the chicken and none of the bread). I did all that thus far and nothing bad happened. I understand the changes are to ensure we stick to our diets, but understanding that we are all human and WILL either slip up or just stray from our diets on purpose like I did. It's good to see that, it's possible to still live and be able to enjoy a few things we "shouldn't" without any negatives happening. So, what's your WLS confession?
  8. 14 points
    We see them all the time. Hell, maybe we'll write one someday... OMG, I've regained! What do I do??????? You know what I like to do? I like to go back in that person's post history and read about their diet habits in the beginning when they were losing....get a feel for what kind of dieter they were. And I almost always find that the re-gainers....were super strict, super disciplined, never-touch-a-carb, low calorie extremists. And it kills me...because the advice to these folks is always the same.....get back on your super strict diet! up your protein! don't touch a carb! And I'm sitting here shaking my head. Why do people return to what doesn't work? Over and over and over. Isn't the definition of insanity doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result? Don't mean to just pick on our Ketovangelists....there are plenty of Passive Pollys out there who ate junk constantly, never kept track....and wonder why their weight went back up after the honeymoon. My point is.....if a particular strategy ends in failure.....why in the world would you return to it? Why encourage someone to return to what didn't work longterm? if the goal is longterm maintenance....why send them back to another stop-gap measure that fails them in the long run? Ketovangelists....try something different if extremely low cal and carbs doesn't work long term for you! If you eventually lose your mind and fall off the wagon, maybe the wagon you're on doesn't fit. Try something more moderate so you can stay in control long term. Passive Pollys....try something different! If a total lack of structure is resulting in your surgery being useless.....add some freaking framework to your diet. Work on healthy limits without going completely overboard. Be accountable. More and more, I believe an addiction to EXTREMISM is what keeps people fat. So many of these folks are either "I must be in COMPLETE CONTROL"...or "I am helpless against my eating"....there's never any middle ground. Stop with the extremism. Knock that shite off. It's hurting you.
  9. 14 points
    Repeat after me: I have to have a medical procedure and the doctor says I must be out of work for x time. To your supervisor - I will bring in the medical note as soon as I have it, but wanted to let you know for scheduling purposes. To your coworkers - I'm having a medical procedure and I will be out for x time. Thank you so much for your concern and asking about it, but I don't want to discuss my medical issues with anyone other than my doctor. Assuming you are in the US and you work for an employer of more than 50 people, they cannot force you to say anything else. If co-worker's push, say - did you have sex last night? When they are shocked explain that you feel the same way about your medical issues - they are private and no one else's business. I only had to do that once. It worked.
  10. 13 points
    I just got my surgery date and I want to make some August surgery friends so we can share our ups and downs in the weight loss journey.
  11. 13 points
    @apositivelife4me You ask for help in your first post. You ignore @Orchids&Dragons suggestion to donate them, and now you are defending your choice. You posted asking about buying dates, and then despite most advice, you bought them anyway. And then there were your Irish coffees, and that's just what you have posted about. Some people can have success despite not following a traditional plan. But since you also posted you have lost 23 lbs in 3 months and you regret your surgery, it doesn't sound like you're one of them. Instead of posting your poor choices and then defending them, why not use the resources of this board to get on track and actually have a successful WLS outcome?
  12. 13 points
    Feeling pretty good with the differences in these photos. Literally the same outfit! Still a long way to go though. Started at 340lbs & currently 261lbs Sent from my SM-G955U using BariatricPal mobile app
  13. 13 points
    I met my husband when I was 22 but we did not start dating until I was 25. At that time, I weighed 125-130. He was a former model and absolutely gorgeous. We were wildly attracted to each other. We married in 1984 when I was 26 and always had an active lifestyle (sailing, water and snow skiing, tennis). I never had weight problems and we had a great relationship. In my late 40s I begin to gain weight even though there were no changes in my diet or activity level. I had multiple appts. with my doctor to do testing (thyroid, cortisol)---all normal. I gradually got up to 220 which was unbelievable to me. At age 50 I started Atkins and lost 40 pounds in about 7 months. At age 51 I quit smoking after 33 years. Over the next few years my weight really shot up and my asthma got worse. I then, in 2014, was involved in a horrible car accident and sat in my house recovering from surgery and injuries for 4 months and then forced myself to return to work but I was unhealthy, obese and miserable. I hit my all time high weight of 290 pounds in November 2017. I had gained 165 pounds since we met... Through all of this, he was and is my biggest supporter. Our relationship has suffered in every way because I was depressed, sick and felt so bad about myself. He has never gone a day without telling me that I am beautiful and he loves me. He has always said that the only thing that bothers him about my weight is that it makes me down on myself and limits/changes what activities we can do together. I do not believe this 100% but that is the type of man he is. We especially miss being able to take trips on the Harley, which we dearly love. Hopefully back to it soon. He is thrilled with where I am at now, even though there is still a ways to go. I know our commitment is forever.
  14. 12 points
    I finally have one. Took the kiddos to Rye Playland this weekend. When I was a teenager, the first time I dealt with obesity, I couldn't fit on the Dragon Coaster and had to get off. It was crowded and I was humiliated. My daughter asked me to ride with her and I explained that this coaster was built in 1928 when people were a lot smaller and mom might not fit, so dad might have to step in. But surprise, surprise -- bar closed and an old demon was banished.
  15. 12 points
    Just had to share the good news after having a really rough first week ! Today marks a week from my surgery ! Weight date of surgery 232 , weight TODAY 210 !!!!!!!!!! I did not see that number coming when I stepped on the scale !!
  16. 12 points
    Today was hard. I have surgery this Friday 20th. I've been eating the pre-op "envelope meal" diet almost 2 weeks and today the office ordered Cheesecake Factory. It's not their fault that I made the decision to do the surgery, but I still wanted to kick their chairs out from underneath them. It's literally all I can do to keep myself from saying "Eff it" and going for a steak and beer. I know I know, I am so close to surgery; I wont sabotage myself. One other thing that has been on my mind is how some people I have told have reacted to my news. I honestly didn't tell people for a long time about what I was doing because I didn't want to listen to everyone's opinions. I've worked in the medical field for 20 years and if I have questions I know who to ask. It doesn't stop people from saying things that are seriously discouraging: - "Oh wow. Can't you lose it on your own without having surgery?" - "I could NEVER do a liquid diet for that long." - "Haven't people died getting that done?" - "Awwww! Your surgery is the day of my party?? That sucks! We were having a Mexican food buffet too! I know that's your favorite. Well, at least you are missing for a good reason." - "I'm fat too, but there is no way I would have surgery." - "Let's go to {insert restaurant/bar here} before you have surgery since you wont be able to do it after that." - "You know you can't have carbonated beverages the rest of your life, right?" - "Don't people gain their weight back most of the time anyway?" It's hard to tell if people are trying to make me feel bad about my decision because they don't understand it, or it they are jealous or just being downright hateful. I don't get it. I just needed to vent. Today was the hardest day I've had so far and I needed to get that off my chest. I keep telling myself that by this weekend it will all be over and I can start focusing on living a normal life again, just healthier this time.
  17. 12 points
    Updated progress pic!
  18. 11 points
    Kind of ironic @MIZ60 believes @Creekimp13 is a bully. "soul is ugly" "very rude queen of crappy carbs" "jump in and run your mouth. pure class" So ... @Creekimp13 has strong opinions. That's great, where would this board be without them? She and I have disagreed. But you know what, we disagreed respectfully, because Creek's way wouldn't work for me, and my way wouldn't work for Creek, but you know what, it's works for each of us. It is a simple fact that for most people, diets that limit the foods that you can eat do not work long term. Of course there are exceptions, but if these diets were easy to stick to, how many of us would have needed WLS? Just Google to see the research done on this. BTW, I weigh the same as Creek, I'm 3 inches shorter, and I LOVE the way I look (in clothes) . Are you going to tell me I shouldn't?
  19. 11 points
    "Man who eat too many sweets, take up too many seats"
  20. 10 points
    I am happy to answer any questions. From 356 to 207lbs. Who is a happy boy? That would be me. Best decision I've made in my life. Healthier, more confident, better family and social life. Thumbs up all around from moi. Loose skin, hell yeah, does it bother me, not really. It's part of the package. Love y'all, sorry I have not been around a while. I have a life now
  21. 10 points
    I'm a Compulsive Overeater and went through a similar situation that you went through. The surgery fixed my ability to not over eat but it didn't fix my will to eat the things that I shouldn't eat. To be honest, there are a great many people on this message board that want and will offer you advice to succeed but if you don't make the changes needed all the advice in the world will not help. If you can eat those Cheez Its in moderation then there is really no harm but if you gobble them down and buy more you're setting yourself up for failure. I can't eat in moderation, that's a big part of my problem being a Compulsive Overeater. That's why I sought outside help, with a therapist. My therapist went one step further and recommended that I join Overeaters Anonymous. (OA) Between them both I'm starting to work through my problem and I hope and pray that I have long term success with my WLS. We have been given a great tool to be healthy what we do with it is up to us. I wish you success and good health.
  22. 10 points
    I was 477 the day of my surgery (489 heaviest weight) and yesterday I went in for a blood pressure check up with my primary care doctor and was 416!!! I had surgery on May 10. So about six weeks. Granted I have been walking 5 miles a day. I’ve been waking up at 5 am and lifting weights five days a week for the last three weeks after I was cleared to lift. I’ve been eating about 1200 calories a day. 120g of protein or more a day. Still is is almost too good to be true. I don’t weigh myself at home because I don’t want to be discouraged during stalls.
  23. 10 points
    I'm going to respectfully challenge this entire premise. Food hasn't worked FOR you (or me, or pretty much anyone). If it did work for you, you wouldn't pursue weight loss surgery. Instead, realize that food has been working AGAINST you. It's a huge source of stress for you. The good news is you're soon going to set that huge source of stress aside. You're going to develop other, much more healthy, coping mechanisms. We don't know what that will be for you, but we'll be cheering you on as you discover it. Good luck. You are not alone.
  24. 10 points
    Hello ALL!!!! i had my surgery back in March 26, 2018. my highest weight which 2 weeks before surgery was at 348. I went on a two week liquid diet (UGH) before surgery and on my surgery date i was at 326. Today i am down to 245 pounds just outside of my 4 month mark. i am extremely happy that i had the surgery. i like a lot of people was very scared and even got to the point of cancelling the surgery the night before but here i am now. it is possible. it is a different life style but its a better life style. to anyone out there trying to get the surgery id say DO IT!!! it is very important to have people around you to support you. i had my amazing girlfriend who has helped me sosososo much and also my sister. i couldnt be more grateful.
  25. 10 points
    My top 12 (In no particular order) Diabetes in complete remission Sitting in booths Not worrying if I will fit if I need to use a public restroom Boundless energy Fitting in a chair with armrest - getting out of it without it being stuck to my a$$ Not avoiding my photo being taken Everything I do is easier No pain (Knee, feet, back ....) Going from a 48" wait to 34" Having to remove 4 links from my watch band This conversation - Me: "Honey, did you pick me up anything while you were at the clothing store?" Wife: "NO. I'm afraid to buy you clothes because they will be too big by the time I get them home!" This picture VVVVV
  26. 10 points
    I'm so very sorry that you are having to deal with this too. Good luck with everything and if you need someone to talk to on the phone, message me and I'll give you my phone number. I'm a great listener and it sounds like you need to vent.
  27. 10 points
    Plenty of us who eat that way aren’t retainers either though. It’s not a road that’s doomed to fail. I think as we study and learn more we will be able to tell by your genes who will do well on what diet. But we are still in the dark ages. There isn’t any one size fits all. I did the high carb low fat diets in the 90’s and those always ended in me falling off the wagon and regaining. I was quite strict on the low carb train till I got to goal. I’m still pretty low carb but I don’t stress about them a bit here and there. I’m five year out and it works just great for me. I know your plan is working for you (so far). Can’t we just all realize that there is no one size fits all answer? I know you’re certain your plan will be the answer for you. And time will tell, but since I think a big part of this is mental, I think it will. But you make it sound like being a “carb nazi” means you’re doomed to fail. I didn’t.
  28. 10 points
    Um, your response is incredibly rude. You don't know me AT ALL. How could you possibly get from my original post that I have an alcohol dependence problem?? I gave you ONE day of information and not even full information of what I ate, just the calories. I had white wine, on one night. Not a nightly thing at all. I've read a lot of your posts and they've always been friendly and you've always given good advice or feedback to questions. I'm truly shocked and disappointed by your judgmental response.
  29. 9 points
    I wanted to post this ongoing photo grouping that I've been working on with my sons. It started as a great way to show their aging, but it's also showcasing my weight loss. 2010, pre-band. I was around 370 in this photo. 2014, post-band. I was around 310 in this photo. 2018, post-bypass. I was 237 in this photo. Just wanted to show everyone that, even just 4 years can change things so drastically, 8 years is even more amazing. Looking forward to going back and taking another update in 4 years, I can't wait to see what 12 years of changes looks like. So when you are just a handful of days out of surgery and are feeling like nothing is changing. Or when you are stalled out for a week and are super frustrated. Please remember, this is a long term adjustment. Some folks are lucky and do see really fast results, but that doesn't mean anyone that doesn't see fast results is a failure. Just keep looking at the horizon and taking 1 more step forward. Soon enough, you'll be where you want to be.
  30. 9 points
    Ever since I can remember, I have been the "fat guy". That is what I was known for. I never took my shirt off at a pool or a beach, ever! That is something I want to change though. So, my best friend who I graduated high school together has always been much slimmer, popular, girls flocked to him; I sure you get the drift. Although we have been friends for over two decades I feel he never took me seriously because of my weight. At parties, clubs, bars, social situations I was always the one who was ignored and not payed attention too. Well, he moved out of state and we see each other about twice a year. He has a very stressful job and as a result has been emotionally eating and gained a significant amount of weight. He is one of the few that know that I had my surgery and he is very supportive. We saw each other for the first time in over a year last week and guess what...drum roll.....I weigh less than him. He even made a comment on how I was flirting with the waitress at the restaurant we met at. It felt like I was in his shoes for once. It felt truly that the tables have turned.
  31. 9 points
    I had my surgery almost 5 1/2 months ago and honestly I'm so happy it has changed my life so much for the better!!! I have way more energy and when I look in the mirror I love my self again!! I am beautiful again!! it was the best decision I ever could have made!!!
  32. 9 points
    I was shopping yesterday, looking in the clearance section for clothing, and a saleswoman stopped me and said, “Are you shopping for yourself? Because if so, those clothes won’t fit you. You need to shop over on that side of the store,” and she pointed me away from plus sizes to regular and petite sizes. She was right. I’m a size 10-12 now, but I keep forgetting! 😊
  33. 9 points
    Does this sound condescending to anyone else? Maybe it just irks me so much because of my own situation. I’ve got a few people tripping over themselves to let me know how proud they are of me for having the surgery... mostly family members. I am pretty open about having had surgery- so I know that opens me up to this sort of stuff... and comments like “before long that dress will be like a tent on you!” 😒😒 But what really grinds my gears about this “proud” comment? I completed my Masters degree this year also and these same people barely said a peep about it. I’m sorry, but in my mind getting an advanced degree is an accomplishment... having weight loss surgery to improve my health is just a smart medical choice. Obviously it’s something I’m working hard at... so yeah, it is an accomplishment, but I just feel that the “I’m so proud of you” comments are really, “I’m so proud that you’re going to be thin and attractive.” It just really kind of highlights how much importance some place on physical appearance and a number on a scale above all else. I am not trying to diminish our struggles or experience with weight-loss surgery. I know we all fought for this and worked for this, but I’m pretty sure most of the ones telling me “I’m so proud of you” are probably the same ones who will think I took the easy way out and didn’t work hard enough to lose the weight. I was working plenty hard at this BEFORE surgery. I got to the point where at 340lbs I could actually do a push up, plank for 2 minutes, and make it through a 45 minute spin class and not die. I have a family reunion in a few weeks and am already prepared to clap back when someone tries to give me their opinion about my body and my decision. So yeah- this is my contribution to the rants section. 😂😂
  34. 9 points
    I know I posted earlier but it was more a HAHA comment. Not trying to be an ass or the food police but it sure as **** sounds like a lot of EXCUSES to justify eating this garbage. These things have been a favorite of mine since I was a kid but why go through everything we have and will go through just to give in and possibly put us on a path to lose? You justify this then what's next? I'm tired of making BS excuses for my choices or why if I only have a little it will kill my craving and get me past this moment. 379lbs later and a hell of a lot of bodily pain and thankfully my eyes were opened. I won't say I will not cheat or give into temptation but I will try my hardest not to. Just my opinion and I really hope to not piss anyone off or offend anyone. Good luck everyone, I really hope we all succeed on our journeys!!!!!
  35. 9 points
    I'd go with fake procedure. My fake procedure is going to be a hernia repair. At work, I am the only female, so I'm going to say it is lady business related. That'll shut em up real quick. : )
  36. 9 points
    When my kid's turned 18 ! Just trying to brighten things up a little bit. Hope you don't mind.
  37. 9 points
    Hi Ladies! I think I’m a little further out than most of you but I wanted to share in case I can give anyone else hope. I’m nearly one year out from surgery and I’ve lost 70kg (154pounds) since then (no pre op program as I’m Australian). I started at 156 (343pounds) and I’m now 85kg (188pounds). Today I feel like a million bucks!
  38. 9 points
    It was a stubborn last 5 pounds to lose but today I conquered! Next goal lose 50 more pounds & maintain.
  39. 9 points
    1. Remember that Bariatric Pal is a business. If you appreciate the boards, throw Alex a bone and actually BUY something to support his business. It's a pain in the arse to run a board like this. Open your wallet once in a while...the products are awesome and it's the least you can do. 2. Don't stay too long. One day you're gonna come to this place and it's gonna be more negative than positive for you. In the beginning, it's a lifeline. By the time you've read the board for a year and seen the full cycle of repetition and mental health issues here.....it's not a lifeline anymore. It can become a kinda toxic habit. Part of recovery is leaving the hospital. Know when it's time to pack your bag and go! 3. Remember that intimacy moves at light speed on the internet....but real trust is nearly impossible until you take your relationship real world. Message board friendships are real friendships...but they're different. Don't expect more than what's realistic, and be careful out there! 4. Everyone is going to have their own recipe for and perception of success. Lotta ways up this mountain. Live and let live....you'll live longer. 5. No person on here is an expert in how to do this...for anyone but themselves. No one can save anyone else...and they shouldn't try. 6. If you're happy with your results, you're doing it right for you. 7. Never lose your sense of humor. If you can't laugh at this board...even when some dork is heckling you....you're taking it way to seriously. 8. "but the vets needs to staaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyy!" No, they don't. Really...they don't. They have lives (we can hope!) and mentoring others is an unpaid job. And again, even your most successful vet....who is an expert at making this whole thing work for themselves.....does not know what is best for you. They don't. You do. Vets are people, too....some are awesome, some are toxic. Trust yourself. You can do this. 9. But there's so much contradictory information...what's the best way to go? That's up to you. And will be different for each of us. Keep trying. if something doesn't work, try something else. Just don't give up! 10. Wishing you all the very best. Adios!
  40. 9 points
    Thanks Ash .... you're right on every point. What I tell myself is he had the absolute best of me for 7 years. And his embarrassment over my appearance mattered more to him than anything else. I can change my weight (and I am!), but he can't change his shallowness
  41. 9 points
    We're all very different. For me, yes, it is absolutely worth it. I have been dieting since I was about 12. I'm 59 now. If I were ever going to be successful at maintaining weight loss, I would have known it by now. (I can lose weight fine, I just regain). It's already tough to get older, and hauling around 3 large sacks of dog food on my back was making everything worse. I was fortunate that I did not have co-morbidities, but it was just a matter of time, imho. I'm down 75 lbs. in 5 months. I've never lost more than 40 at any one attempt before. But, don't be fooled. It is hard. The surgery helps, but it takes real commitment from you to make it work.
  42. 9 points
    Did you mean "grammar" by any chance?
  43. 9 points
    That's because every new wave of patients & forum members brings a deluge of fragile or hostile people who don't want information and talk from members with experience. They want validation, *hugs*, and immediate results/responses. In my opinion as an older member, you can only take the verbal lashing and emotional outbursts for so long before you just don't care about helping anyone. Escalating and explosive replies with the sole purpose of shocking or generating more knee jerk responses has become the norm across all social media as long as it is done in the name of social justice. I can say that I have seen so many of these people come on here and spout off, gather a group of sycophants, then fade away because they have wasted the honeymoon phase and never established their own healthy habits. They never reach goal, they develop a transfer addiction, they gain it all back, they develop a new eating disorder... I've pretty much seen it all. Why should a vet invest time to help people when they don't want to be helped?
  44. 9 points
    I just don’t think there’s any place for name calling. If you truly think someone is a bully (and you seem to be good at searching people’s history so you can easily find out what I think about slinging the name “bully” around—in brief I think it’s an over used ad hominem attack) then perhaps you shouldn’t call people names. It’s also against the rules to personally attack like that. I can disagree with someone and not resort to that. Even if I think they were inappropriate, it’s no reason to stoop to that level. You lose your own credibility. I mean here you are, supposedly on my side of this argument, and I wish you weren’t.
  45. 9 points
    I love the idea of a fecal transplant... But only for married people. Imagine the vows. My $h!t will become your $h!t / Your $h!t will forever and always be my $h!t Lol VSG2017 HW 249 SW 238 CW 167
  46. 9 points
    I had my 3 month check up today ( 12 week mark ) . I was hoping to be at 70 lbs loss. I am at 73 !!!!!!!!!!!!!! So excited. Also Nutritionist said ok to eat some summer melon, berries, tomato , cucumber if I feel I can tolerate it. She said introduce one at a time see how I do. So excited to have some fresh fruit again, especially now in the summer. Go back in 12 weeks for my 6 month check up. My Goal for myself is 100 lb loss total.... and get my A1C to 5.5 ok...............I am on my way..........
  47. 9 points
    I am one week away from being four months post op. After much thinking and contemplating and anxiety, I decided to post some progress pictures. And no, I am not drinking that beer in that picture, it was my friends.
  48. 9 points
    This would have def offended me, but I'm going to take a different approach on it. I would say that his opinion has little to do with your choices or success after surgery. You need him to do the surgery, without complications, period. After that, his job is to monitor your vitamin levels and record your weight loss. Just because he's a bariatric surgeon, doesn't mean he's a fitness expert. I wouldn't take advice from a surgeon on fitness, just because he's a doctor. So if you want to "bulk" up, then go for it! But I wouldn't let it discourage you from using him. If his known skills are reputable, and you've established with him... I'd say continue forward.
  49. 9 points
    The scale is not my friend today (2 lbs, overnight, wtf??) But I feel fantastic, and am loving how I look (in clothes, naked is a whole nother story!)
  50. 8 points
    I was sleeved 6/6/18 so this is my 6 week progress pic 🤗 excuse how blah I look lol I’m 31 lbs down total!! HW: 199 & CW: 168!!!!
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