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    I don't know if this is necessarily the place to post this, but I just got married!!!! This woman has been by my side through the last 2 and a half years in this journey. She met me when I weighed over 600 pounds. I am now back down to my playing weight for football in college, but I am much healthier and and in better shape than I was then. I still have a lot of work to get under 3 bills, but I am extremely happy to head down this new path in life.
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    Today I had an "ah-ha" moment. It took 4 years, but I think I get it! It was triggered by this before photo popping up in my facebook memories from 5 years ago, (coupled with my most recent post-op photo taken last week, down 120 pounds since surgery in 2013). (attached below) ....And then reading the following quote on a friend's post: "Maybe the journey isn't so much about becoming anything. Maybe it's about unbecoming everything that isn't you so you can be who you were in the first place." I've struggled for years since losing the weight after surgery with questions of "is this the 'real' me, or am I just pretending and the 'real' 'fat' me will resurface sooner or later?" "Can people really change long-term?" It felt like the obese, sad, self-hating "me" was a monster waiting just below the surface to re-emerge. Give enough time and the right circumstances, the "real me" monster will rear it's head and I'll find myself back at nearly 300 pounds. Guys! I get it now! It's not about change. It's not about the "sticking power" of change. It's not about willpower or determination. It's not even about counting carbs, protein, calories, and ounces of water. Sure those are tools that help. But it's not about that. It's about doing the hard emotional work to figure out why I was hiding myself behind 150 excess pounds. It was about allowing myself to have a voice and using it. It was about demanding self-respect and respect from others. It was about leaving behind, painfully as it was in some cases, the toxic people in my life who emotionally damaged me. It was about processing the feelings that I didn't allow myself to feel for 18 years. Once I realized this, once I did this work, I could little by little shed the layers that hid who I was. I don't hate myself anymore. I'm not even angry at myself for letting myself get to be 300 pounds like I was when my journey started. I realize now that I was coping. I was doing the best I knew how to do at the time. I look at that person in the "before" picture below and I feel compassion because I know she did her best. I'm able now to let go the "fear" - and trust me, it's a literal fear - of that "real me" monster re-emerging from just below the surface. I can let it go because I realize, this is the real me. It was actually opposite. It was all the hiding I was doing under the emotional eating and the 150 excess pounds that was hiding the "real me." So I have to on some level disagree with those who say this is a process of change. Sure, you have to change your behavioral choices with food and exercise or none of this will work. But for me it was not "becoming a new person" or "changing" who I am as a person. For me it was about simply allowing myself to feel and allowing myself to return home to who I was before I was hurt and who the universe intends me to be. Feel free to check out my blog linked in my signature for more of my journey!
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    Yes I did that [emoji41]! Thank you God and Dr. Monk! So in love with the new me!
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    So I am just about a year out since my surgery. Had it on May 23rd of 2016. Far and away I can say this was the BEST decision that I have ever made in my life. My highest weight was 433 lbs with my surgery weight at 397 lbs. Proud to say just about a year after surgery I currently weigh 194 pounds. 203 pounds down since the surgery and 241 down overall. I literally cannot even tell you how much this has changed my life for the better. I am posting this because I want everyone to know that if I did it you can too. If anyone has literally any questions at all for me please don't hesitate to reach out. I
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    Today I celebrate my 1 year anniversary of my sleeve surgery! It's amazing how much has changed in a year! I've lost 118lbs. I've gone from a tight size 28 jean to a loose 18, and a 4X shirt to an XL. I recently fit in an airplane seat comfortably and didn't need a seat belt extender. I love clothes shopping now, can pound out an hour on the elliptical with ease, and can paint my own toenails AND breathe at the same time! =) I still have about 60 lbs to go, but I have no doubts that I will get there. I feel amazing already, and it's only going to keep getting better from here.
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    How? That's simple. You chose to eat the pizza. You chose to eat piece after piece knowing that every bite was a bad idea, yet doing it anyways. Totally lost your journey? I don't even know what that means, but drop the melodrama. Wallowing in useless emotion does no good. You made a mistake. Own it. Make a decision now; will you take the surgery seriously from now on or will you let the desire for simple food rule your life at the expense of your health. The surgery is only a tool. How you choose to use that tool will determine how successful you will be after the honeymoon phase.
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    October 28, 2016 I was 470 pounds and started my 2 week pre-op diet. Surgery was Nov 9th. Today is April 29, 2017 and I was 320 pounds today. 150 pounds gone. Another 70 or so left to lose. Surgery was the best decision I've made in years. My life has improved in so many ways.
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    So, let me first say happy Mother's Day to all of the moms on here. Secondly, I want to let you all know that I'm currently 161 lbs... which is 11 lbs away from my goal weight of 150 lbs. 👍🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 round of applause for that being that this is month 5 for me. Tjirdky, let's discuss the topic at hand. Anyone who has followed me know that my journey with my husband has been bad . Well , it's reached an all time low. We were asleep 3 nights ago and the phone kept vibrating. I told him to answer and he wouldn't. Well we have 2 kids that are outside of the home right now so I said let me make sure it's not the kids texting him. But my gut told me this is gonna be bad. But I checked anyway. This is what I saw " You left your rubber in my bed and my baby found it""" with lil joking emoticons. OMG... my heart dropped to my toes. I felt he was cheating but didn't know for sure. Let me also put this out there. My husband had not slept with me in 3 1/2 weeks at the time. So I knew something wasn't right. I had been praying to God for a revelation in this marriage be it whatever way, good or bad because my spirit knew I wasn't being treated right and I knew he was messing around. Heck I had just caught him maybe 1 month before that trying to hookup on Facebook. So, needless to say I told him I want a divorce and this was it. No more will I be the hurt wife who is trying to sacrifice herself for her husband, nope. Already have been consulting legal counsel because it's over. Now, he swears he is gonna do right and wants his family. I told him he had 21 years to do right and if he wanted his family his penis oils have stayed in is pants. Ohhhhhh.... here's the agonizing part for me. This is the same woman he had an affair with on me 13 years ago. Same dirty tramp. I'm like oh no that means this never ended. Which he swears it was only one time. Yep I believe that like I believe in Santa Claus. I cried for 2 days straight. Then I said forget this , on Mother's Day I put on a backless sundress ( in my new size 8 yassss) went out shopping ,had a great time with friends and felt like I was coming into my new, happier peaceful self. I am still very hurt but I thank God for revealing his evil because I don't want an std or aids because he is a hoer. This surgery has truly changed my life. The old me would have cried and just took him bk and dealt with the pain. But not the new confident, strong Diana that this surgery helped to bring to surface. I posted before that I knew we were gonna divorce , just didn't think it was gonna be like this but it is what it is. There is someone out there who will cherish me and love me for the jewel that I am. Thsnk you guys for all your support throughout the months. You have truly become my family.😊
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    First of all at 5'4 and 165 you won't be skinny or anything close to it. Everyone is so damn fat in America, people don't even know what legit skinny even looks like. Big boned is a myth, yeah some people might have slightly larger frames but big bones is BS. My bones are 3x denser than the average woman my age and they still barely weigh anything, and they look TINY on a DEXA scan. they are covered in fat and muscle. Big bone is just lie people tell themselves and others to justify obesity. Just because the weight is harder to lose or slower coming off doesn't mean you aren't meant to lose it or you can't lose it. You are barely one year out from surgery. It will probably take you another 6 months or so to lose the rest if you keep eating right. People need to think about their general health and wellness. The way insurance is going right now, those few extra pounds can cost you a lot in insurance premiums in the future. Everyone should be striving to get to a normal BMI at this point. And just because you are smaller doesn't mean you won't have curves. I have lost an entire grown man in weight and I still have enough titties for 3 broads and I have hips, thighs and a butt. Slim thick is really a thing. People need to stop kidding themselves. You will never be this young ever again in life. Go for your goal, go for it hard. It is never going to be this easy to lose weight ever again.
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    I'm well on my way.♡ Hw 395 Sw 356 Cw 263 Gw Zen Surgery date 12-27-16 Sent from my SM-N910V using BariatricPal mobile app
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    For the first time in 19 years (June 1998), I weighed in at less than 200 pounds this morning! This is a big deal for anyone losing weight, but it is an especially big deal for me as I started at almost 400 pounds (397 to be exact). I now have only 19 pounds to go until my goal of 180 pounds. I am overcome with emotion today, but I am so pleased and proud of my success that simply could not have happened without changing my relationship with food. And I can't help but think about the 99 pounds I lost during my six month pre-op diet program while I was jumping through the insurance company's hoops. Without having done that work, I would be celebrating getting under 300 pounds today, not getting under 200 pounds. That time does make a difference! At 7.5 months post-op, I've lost 198 pounds; I am wearing 33/34 pants and shorts, medium shirts, and my new suit size is a 40 regular. My labs are perfect, and my skin is in remarkable shape considering that I have lost half of myself. Life is amazing! Onward and upward! I'm almost there. Happy weekend, everyone.
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    Officially reached my 1 year mark! Sw=217 Cw=153 Gw= 140
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    Well I am almost 6 months out from surgery. I am 159 lbs and my goal weight is 150 lbs. I am posting updated pics just so you can see my progress. Good luck to everyone that's still working hard , including myself . First pic in black dress I wa 242 and on left side I was one week out of surgery . The other pics are recent pics of myself.
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    SW 307.6 SW 291.4 CW 169.4 GW 150 Hi Everyone! I had Gastric Bypass done September 21,2016 and it was the best choice I have ever made! This Journey to a new me has been amazing and I love the look of shock on peoples faces when they see Ive lost 138 in 7 months! I work out hard kickboxing 3 days a week and cardio in the gym another 1 to 2 days a week it takes alot of hard work but if you want it bad enough tou have to fight for it! Best of Luck to everyone out there! Sent from my SM-G930P using BariatricPal mobile app
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    Im down 160 pounds ai started out at 360 i was in a 26 im now in a 14/16 I feel great
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    Sent from my SM-G935V using BariatricPal mobile app
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    Walking down the street as usual with my earphones on ( u know, the fat blockers .. to fake like u didnt hear the fat commentaries ). Instead i walk past a really cute guy, much younger than me and i hear, hey beautiful. Of course, its not to me, my fat brain says. So i casually look over my shoulder to see who he's talking to.... wait a minute, holy crap, there's nobody behind me, wth, is he talking to me, huh??? So he must've seen the dumbfounded look on my face and says... you look beautiful in that dress. Awww, I smile, say thank u, wave and move on. Lol. HOLY CRAP, i just got a hey beautiful. .... she gets home, lol, shakes booty. [emoji126][emoji126][emoji126][emoji38][emoji38][emoji38] GASTRIC SLEEVE.. U ROCK. Hope you all have a great "hey beautiful" weekend. [emoji6]
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    It sounds to me like the women you are approaching are too ugly on the inside. Not all women are like that! Keep looking and you'll find one worthy of you.
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    Back when i started this process, I made sure everyone knew it was about health, not vanity. And that's true, it was mostly about health. But it's also about vanity. I want to look good! It's another way of feeling good, and I have every right to feel good about myself and if that makes me vain, so be it. It's not that anyone has said anything, but I just have had this sense that it's not socially okay to do this for the sake of appearance. But sure it is. Why not? I feel good. I look good. I want to look better. I'll do what I want and need to make that happen, and I'm going to stop apologizing for it.
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    9 months out, Sw 250 CW174 Gw160 Surgery date August 2016
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    I can finely post a full body picture! I'm so excited I'm down 50 lbs and I have 60 more pounds to go! So determined!
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    YAY! I cant believe I have lost 100 it is surreal. I hope everyone is doing great and best wishes. Starting weight 388 on Dec 6th 2016, todays weight 287. Sent from my SM-G920P using BariatricPal mobile app
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    So my support group awards you with a pin for 100 pounds lost or 1 year since your surgery. Last night I received my pin for 100 pounds lost (two days short of 7 months). I will wear this with pride on my Veterans of Foreign Wars Uniform Hat to remind me of my journey.
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    I am beyond ecstatic. I am now below 300 pounds! I started at 540 pounds on October 29, 2015 when I started this whole journey. I had surgery on May 29, 2016 at 480 pounds and Now, 10 1/2 months later I weigh 297.8! I have not had a 2 in the front of my weight in FOREVER. I only have 98 pounds to go until I hit my goal! (Which may change, I'm more going for a clothing size goal now more than a number goal ) I used to have to be on oxygen all the time because I was so fat I could not breathe properly. Now I can walk for over an hour with no break and not be out of breath! I am so extremely happy with my progress! I used to HATE getting my picture taken, it was the WORST. Now I love getting in front of the camera, I ASK for pictures to be taken! This is the craziest thing for me. I feel pretty for the first time in a very very long time. I started out at a size 6x (36-38) and now wear a an 18/20 on top and 22 on bottom. I even wear leggings now! I have a large hanging skin on my stomach which I am having removed on June 5th! I will need a revision surgery when I get to goal but I am very excited for the surgery and the relief it will give me. Here are some before and after pics for you guys!
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    So I am 14 weeks Post op, and things are going great. However, I have had several stalls, which get discouraging. I will go 2-3 weeks and not lose a pound, and then drop 5 lbs in one week! So weird how the body works. When I am feeling disappointed in the slow weight loss, I do side by side photo comparisons of before and after. Here is one that lifted my spirits today. When you see yourself every day, you don't always see the huge changes that are taking place. Don't always count on the scale to show you your victories! Use photos and body measurements as well. You will need them at times when the scale is not moving.
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    My following comment may be controversial, but I don't particularly care anymore. I assume you are African-American based on your profile picture. I am also black. In a nutshell, many members of the AA community have skewed body image perceptions with regards to women and think that bigger is more attractive. My BMI is 22. I am squarely in the middle of the normal BMI range, yet certain people in my circle think I'm "too skinny." Funny enough, all of the people who think I'm skinny are badly overweight and need to address their own weight problems and health issues. You are 5'4 and 165 pounds. Most Caucasian and Asian women with those stats would be aiming for goal weights in the 120 to 140-pound range, and no one in their respective communities would chastise them for it. However, many folks in the AA community would shout a black female down for even entertaining the idea of getting "that skinny." Essentially, you do you. If you want to attain a lower body weight, it is possible. If you need to attain a lower body weight due to health issues, you'd better do it. Forget about the naysayers. This is your journey. They, on the other hand, can end up in a dialysis chair 20 years from now or have a massive stroke because they paid too much attention to keeping their fluffy curves and round booties. It is all about you.
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    No one asks me anything. Resting B$#%^ Face for the win. I talk about healthy eating, but I don't talk about the physical stuff with people at all. Most people are clueless about nutrition so after like 3 sentences they have zoned out anyway.
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    GOOD MORNING EVERYONE! just a little message to throw out there because im excited!!! as of this morning I am down 216 pounds from 465 to 249 in almost a year AMAZES ME! I hit a stall for a month and stayed at 277... I really thought my weight loss ended lol but I changed things around and I started to lose again! the stall sucked!! it made me feel awful for some reason..then my co workers reminded me how far I've come already. this surgery wasn't an easy way out, it still takes a lot of work mentally and physically to get to where we want to be! so for those of u who are at a stall just remember its temporary and don't beat yourself up. I've got 50 more pounds to lose to reach my goal of being under 200lbs. (I never ever thought I could say that) and 69 pounds to get to my drs goal of 180. im almost there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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    Haven't posted on this site for almost a year. I was sleeved 03-16-16 by Dr. Laura July in Minneapolis, MN. No complications. The last year has been wonderful. I started at 270lbs in October 2014. On surgery day I was 250lbs. As of today I am 158lbs at 5'7.
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    I was sleeved 7 weeks ago with Dr. Illan in Tijuana!
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    Hi everyone, I was sleeved going on a year ago and am at my desired goal weight 135. Ive lost 75 pounds and am very happy about it. Im a size 8 and am the size I was in high school. Most family and friends give me compliments but some people are starting to tell me now that my face is looking too thin and then they go one to talk about how when they lost weight their faces started to look sickly and sunken in. They have all gained weigh since then. I don't really feel that this is the case for me-sunken face-,and quite frankly i can be very critical of myself on my own. It actually hurts my feelings because there is nothing I can do about it. Its not like im going to gain weight just to make them happy! Im so grateful that i had the opportunity for this surgery and that it was a success. Normally when people tell me about my face looking small, I say "if that's the only repercussion to this surgery- Ill take it.!" Theres a part of me tho that wants to get angry and lash out and critize them and their looks, but I do not. Im grown and know better, and respect others. I honestly don't like people who think its ok to criticize others on things they cannot change. those are not my kind of people. However , some of these people Im very close with and are family. Has anyone else had this problem and what did you do? Here are my before and after pics.
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    I definitely did this partly for vanity. I'm 30 and single. The main reason to do this surgery was to save my life because I was killing my self at 540 pounds. But a part of the reason I did this was to look hot. To shove it in the face of every person and guy who judged me first for my appearance and personality last. The ones who said I had a great personality but they weren't attracted to me...I want to get to a healthy weight and shove it in their face that I can be hot and I'm not interested in them because I can change my weight but they can't change their attitudes or poor personality. It's already started and I haven't even hit goal yet.
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    This is part funny story part cautionary tale. I, like many post-oppers, intended to be super strict with my diet and never even look twice at my old bad habit foods. I kept the house clear of all bad foods and had gone through the pre-op diet and the many stages of post-op eating. My fiancee (now husband) stood with me through it all and for a person who loves his food and never gains weight (lucky!!!) He was suprisingly supportive of the lack of food in the house. So when he asked me to pick up pizza after all this time of patient support, I agreed, not even suspecting what was about to happen. The thing about pizza is that it smells soooo good! So I thought I would just take a look. Well the thing about that is, it looks good too. I was now in the solid food phase of my diet and I considered that a piece of sausage couldn't hurt. It was so good that I then considered that a bite wouldn't hurt if I chewed it well. Like any addict , a little is never enough. This evolved into 3 large bites of pizza, the first bready item post surgery. Now all of this has taken place in the car...hiding my shame from my fiancee. I walk in, still finishing my last bite, and then it happened. As you may know, bread tends to swell. At first I was full, then I was uncomfortably full, then I was suddenly convinced that my stomach was going to explode and I was going to die! My fiancee wavered between concern and scolding. I had yet to over-eat severely, so if you have you understand the anguish. If you have yet to over eat then take my word for it....don't! So here I am groaning about pizza and dying and asking him to shoot me to put me out of my misery when suddenly I let out the loudest burp ever and the contents of my stomach settled a bit. I was still uncomfortably full but no longer in the throes of death. So there I am, sprawled on the couch completely silent and a little shocked with the echo of the atomic bomb of burps still ringing around me. My fiancee just looks at me and laughs uncontrollably. So the moral of the story is this: over-eating is never worth it even though it smells like it will be! Also, laughing at a post-opper who has over eaten may land you eating your pizza outside
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    Got some great news from the scale this morning, I'm officially down 100.4 pounds from my starting weight of 314.6 on 12/7/16. That was the date I started my pre-surgery diet, and my surgery date was 12/21/16. I never dreamed it would work out so well. So close to my ultimate goal, but this was an unofficial goal for two reasons. First, 100 pounds just sounds nice Second, when I did Weight Watchers about 10 years ago, the lowest I ever got was 214, so I wanted to get there again. Before that, I can't even remember the last time I was so low, maybe 25 years ago. Anyway, just wanted to share!
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    Sorry, but I can't stop sharing this ****. Every time I look at it, I am like WOW, I'm actually doing this ****. I am actually changing who the hell I am.
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    Today I am 2 months + 1day past my operation. I am down 55 lbs. But this journey is more than just the weight loss. This journey is about rediscovering myself. For the last 9yrs I have hid myself in the roles of being a wife and a mother. The heavier I got, the less I did. I became a bystander to my life. And worse, to my kids life. This surgery has given me my courage back. My confidence. My sense of a adventure. The day I had my surgery I started walking and have not stopped. Today I walked my 1st 5k. And I signed up for 2 more this summer. I cannot believe I am a 5k'er. I went in to this surgery thinking I would lose weight and get healthier. I never considered I would find myself along the way!
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    HW: 257 SW: 236 CW: 185 GW: 150 I'm getting there slowly but that's fine with me. Taking it one day at a time I'm 5 1/2 months post op. I use to complain about walking. Now if someone asks let's walk then I say let's go.
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    Got my weight down. Hopefully my liver has shrunk enough and in less than 24 hours, my VSG surgery will be near complete.. Love y'all [emoji171] Stay Strong [emoji1434] Ima VSGee #SW: 319.6 #CW: 295.6 #VSG Date: 5/16/2017
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    I appreciate everyones feedback. Some of the responses came off a little abrasive but i can take it . Let me make it clear that im not trying to be "skinny" im trying to be healthy and i want to learn to love myself. I personally dont want to be down to 120 lbs because i wont be comfortable. My goals are my goals whether im no where near skinny or im still considered obese. I came on this site for support and to share my thoughts and to get positive feed back and have another support system outside of my family because they dont understand it the others who are going through it would understand. This is all new to me even tho its been a year im still trying to figure it all out
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    Oh, and I also looked at my wife's breasts the other day and noticed something sticking out below my gut which I have not seen for over 15 years!
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    I never weighed myself before WLS surgery. It allowed me to get morbidly obese and stay that way. I'm trying to make different habits. I weigh myself every day, or every other day. I only count one day a week though. It has helped me learn more about how my body works. There are a lot of fluctuations in weight. My weight can be 5 pounds different from when I went to bed to when I wake up. I say if you didn't weigh yourself before, do something different and weigh yourself. A good way to disconnect yourself from the scale is to weight yourself all the time. If you are tracking your food and doing the right thing you know you didn't gain 3 pounds of fat from one day to the next. I think a scale is a great tool, and I think not weighing yourself often is a recipe for regain. It is a lot easier to catch regain if you are weighing yourself all the time instead of not weighting and catching it at 20 pounds instead of 5.
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    I saw this on FB and thought that maybe some of the "newbies" might like a list of the WLS abbreviations that are used on this forum.
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    Maybe you could say, "Thanks for your concern. If I lose too much weight I'll ask to borrow some of yours."
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    Made my first mini goal of reaching 208 lbs, have to share a quick split screen! (Disclaimer: this happens to be a fabulous angle and I'm wearing the hell out of some industrial strength Spanx)
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    I don't give a damn if you are in the right place or not. This is AWESOME. Congrats buddy!!
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    Exactly a year ago I had the sleeve done, and today marks my 45 kg total loss. I never thought i would ever come close to the number i now see when i stand on the scale "59 kg" last time i was that weight i was in elementary school! The surgery was the best decision i have made in my life, people always told me weight doesnt matter thin or fat big or small it wont change who you are. Well it did, first with my confidence. I learned to embrace how i look now, i became more comfortable in my skin which is something i failed to do in past years. I don't try as hard as i used to to fit in, i don't seek peoples acceptance of me. And on a physical health level, i don't take half of the medicine i used to take when i was obese, i can be more active i have so much energy to anything i put my mind to. Even if i don't look the way i imagined myself to. I still love where i am and how far i came. My stomach doesn't look perfect, but im so grateful for it. My arms flap, but its only a small price to pay for your mental and physical health. If you're struggling in anyway or if you're second thinking the surgery, just know that you're the one that can make it work. Set your eyes on the end goal and you will defiantly get there. Its not easy, at all! It takes commitment and patience. The road can be long and hard, but in the end it will all be worth it all! This is how I am feeling after losing 100+ lbs and i hope you all have a successful weight loss journey!
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    Almost 100 pounds down [emoji1373][emoji1373]