The Gals' Room

Ill keep this as clean as possible. Has anyone had issues with going #2? I was banded Jan 8th and by the second day I was in so much pain I was close to going to the ER. Several bottles of water with miralax, 2 enemas and some 'soul searching' to release the impact in my bowels I was much better. 6 months later...same situation. Except now im on vacation and don't have access to all the other things. I did some 'soul searching' this morning and this evening and finally got relief. This time was different because I had some blood as I relieved myself. What are you taking (daily or otherwise) to prevent hard and near impossible to pass stool? When I fly back tomorrow im…

I've had the Mirena IUD for a year now and I was wondering if anyone knows if I can keep it in during surgery. Most people say its ok because the hormone dose is pretty low.. Just want to make sure. I see my PCP tomorrow and the surgeon for Pre Op appointment next week so I will double check with them. Thanks

This is the first time in my life that I maintain or even lose weight during my menstrual cycle! I think my band is tighter during my cycle which makes me less hungry. Instead of craving sweets I actually don't want them and if I crave anything it's protein. I still have a long way to go, weight wise and life style changes but so far I am loving my band! (I was banded 3 1/2 months ago. I lost 30 lbs pre surgery and have lost 22 since!)

Hi everyone - Hope this gives you a little laugh, or at least a smirk. First a quick bio - I'm a newbie, hoping to talk my husband into agreeing to my much needed VSG. He's not against the surgery, just the cost as our INS (Aetna) doesn't cover it. We're on a serious "paying down debt" deal right now which is great of course but kind of counter-productive to my evil scheme of persuading DH to part with thousands. But I WILL win !! Anyway, here's what happened yesterday. I was reading our local paper and saw a big ad for a hospital that was beginning a physician assisted weight loss program. My interest was piqued so I called. A young girl (receptionist - sounded …

I currently have a colonoscopy scheduled for sept 6th (fingers crossed if it goes well i will fianlly have my gastrointestinal clearance) I am expecting my period sometime this week and was just wondering will they still perform a colonoscopy if i am still on my period?

I was told yesterday I have to have a Hysterectomy ASAP! I've been reading as much as I can and everything I read says you will gain weight. I'm 14 months out from my sleeve and I've lost 125 pounds. I do go to the gym 6 days a week for an hour and a half. I do eat the way I'm suppose to. I'm still scared of gaining weight back. Has any one else had a total Hysterectomy since their sleeve?

Ok, so its not exactly how it sounds but Friday I will finally become a mom... and it's a boy! I have been trying to adopt for over a year and he is coming to live with me this weekend. After four months of rushed evening visits and having to take him back after a weekend stay, he is finally coming home for good. This was one of the reasons I had the surgery--so that I could be a healthy and active mom. I still have a ways to go, but I feel better than I have in many many years. These last months have been life changing, and the surgery was the best thing I could have ever done for myself!

I've noticed that I'm losing more and more hair in the shower after surgery. My hair is getting thinner and I feel like i'm going to be bald before its all over. Anyone else lose hair? I'm 3 months post op. If you did lose hair when did it finally stop falling out or has it? Have you been taking anything for it that works? I just want my thick hair back

Hi. Did anyone else skip a period after surgery? I never got mine this month and I am wondering if it is related. I am not pregnant for sure for sure. Surgery was June 27th.

So im a month post op, and my boyfriend (sons father) is just 10 days post op and has lost just as much weight as i have in a month! Not to mention hes still losing and im at stall since week 2...it suuucks..just venting

Has anyone purged your closet pre op only to regret it later? There are some things I know I wouldn't wear even if I fit into them again, but then again, I don't want to get caught ...well with my pants down . What If I don't lose weight as fast as I think I'm going to? My closet is out of control and I just want to purge it!!!! This is mostly mental, but physically, my closet is a mess too!!! Any advice would be appreciated.

I am 25lbs from my goal and I refuse to buy any new clothes or panties until I reach it. Idk why I am so excited about buying skinny girl panties!!!! Maybe it's because I've always had to wear granny panties and there is nothing sexy about that lol. My poor hubby ha.The ones I have now are old with holes but I will not buy any until I can fit in the sexy ones like what I envision myself in!!

When I was obese, I was ironically, invisible. Men looked right through me. And if there were men who may have still found me attractive, I still found fault with their attentions, reasoning that they must have a fat fetish which is every bit as objectifying as someone who only dates skinnies, and it is still someone being interested in a superficial aspect of you, not YOU. right? So then I became not-obese, and then I got fit and almost trim (all the excess skin kept me from really looking buff) and suddenly I was visible. Men not only saw me, they pursued me, doggedly and I discoved that this kind of attention is just as saddening/depressing/disappointing as the in…

I've read some of the best, and the funniest threads.... But never seen anything about back fat!! I'm hoping not to lose all the weight I need and have boobs left on my back!! Do they go away with weight loss?

I'm eleven days post op and so horny!!! When is ok to have sex? My husband scared its going to hurt me cause I'm still a little sore. ..

​I am watching a repeat of the Doctors. They have a woman who weight lifts with her vagina. If you go to the Doctor's web site you can watch the video. TMI for me. How gross is that? Just thought I would share today's grossness with everyone.

I know this sounds totally totally shallow and stupid, but the other day I was just overjoyed that when my bra strap peeked out, it looked cute not embarrasing. I like that the size I wear now has normal straps, not the extra wide, extra gel, extra support, extra non slip models...LOL

I am 7 days post-op I've tried to wear a sports bra but it hurt too much! When were you able to wear a bra again?

So I lost 120# to have a better, healthier life. I do feel great, more energy, more sexual interest...BUT...having sex is just downright dreadfully painful!! Whether its dryness, lack of hormones, dehydration, or the fact penetration is further than its ever been...I don't know who to turn to for answers. I just know I can't go on like this. It feels like a knife stabbing me deep inside. The first few inches are just fine. But the deeper, the more pain. Last night, I was with someone new and it was totally embarrassing. I started screaming in pain!! That's not what is supposed to happen. I have read that maybe there is loose skin in the vagina and its rubbing?? …

Ok ladies when is it safe to have sex? I'm 5 days post op and my husband keeps wanting it.....

Hello, I had my first full Aug 5th and my menstrual cycle normally begins on the 18th of each month. Does an adjustment delay a woman's menstrual cycle? I just wonder if any of you ladies had this problem.

I know this is weird, but every once in a while my urine will smell really strongly like Cheerios. I'm not diabetic, and I do take daily multi-vitamins. Does anyone else get this?

It's unusual for me to be late... And so far it's only a cpl days. Wondering if stress from surgery might be the culprit.

So tomorrows the big day! My anxiety is SO high! I have scrubbed every inch of my home, bought tons of groceries for the family, even laid out all my daughters clothes into outfits for my husband! I'm going crazy preparing my family for me to be gone. My husband has been acting like he's mad at me for the past few days and yelled at me last night over something stupid. I'm just ready for the surgery to be done. Ready to start this next chapter...

I'm 5 weeks post op and I have yet to start my monthly cycle. It's approx 2wks late. I wonder if my body is just in shock from the lack of calories? TIA

Any ideas on how long it takes for your scars to fully disappear? I have been using Mederma for 8 weeks straight and I notice improvement - but it is slow going. Will they ever turn white or go away?

So I am one of those overweight girls with small "girls". I'm afraid ill have no boobage left after! Anyone else had no boobs before surgery ?

I am just not about that life. I cannot sew things onto my tongue. That fleshy par hurts lots!!! I had my tongue pierced twice when I was 2o ish and 30...mistakes for me both times....but plastic mesh on tongue...Nope....I will take 1 sleeve please.http://abcnews.go.com/Health/pain-weight-loss-tongue-patch-diet/story?id=19840923

TMI, I know, but I have to ask! I am usually pretty darn fresh in my va-JJ area but latey, Eeeeek Gads! There is a very unfamiliar smell coming from down yonder. Is this possibly because I am passing fat? I can't stand this but if it is because of that, then I'll just have to deal with it...but ew.

I was sleeved on 1/23/13 and for the last few days I've been having some severe pains in my left breast. It doesn't bother me too much when I'm wearing a bra but when I'm not I get these sharp pains. I'm thinking it's probably not related to surgery but just thought I'd ask if anyone has experienced this-just in case I'm not alone. Thanks! -Betsy

Whilst I am looking fairly proportionate in my clothes, the problem I had pre weight loss remains - my boobs are way too big for the rest of me. (Including pre surgery, have lost 58lbs, 20-ish to go.) They were 40g, now a 34 hh. Good bra makes them look ok in clothes but undressed they look ridiculous in the context of my shrinking frame :-( Went yesterday to buy a dress for an upcoming posh dinner and was so disappointed that despite my new size, I still can't get a dress that fits top and bottom :-( So, to you girls who have had breast reduction, when did you get yours done post surgery? And did you get the timing right? Thanks...

Umm. How long do you have to wait after surgery to have sex again?? I don't know if I can fight my Hunni off for real long time. Anyone know??? Tc's Ready!

Past Six Hours: Water Walking Colace Heating Pad Milk of Magnesia Hot Bath Glycerin Suppository Hubby has been to the store twice! I'm getting desperate here...should I try the saline enema he bought?!? Never tried one; any thoughts?

A year ago spring, I was the fittest and smallest I had been since getting sleeved July of '10. I was so SO proud of my size 10 Levis, even though I had to pour myself into them and had to wear a tunic length top to hid my front pouchiness, the fact is is that they fit and they made my but look goo-ood! Today, I am wearing a pair of khakis from Old Navy, Diva cut straight leg, they fit perfect ... and they are a size 18. *sob* *weep* NOOOO!! I still have the Levis, I look at them in sorrow.

I found the coolest site, ladies! You enter a height and weight and are shown a gallery of photos of real women with these stats. This may be a useful tool in helping determine your desired goal weight. http://www.mybodygal...com/search.html

I have always had that "fat stomach", i.e I have a huge bulge UNDER my belly button that "hangs" down (i'm only 4 weeks sleeved... and am losing slowly, so I havent seen much change yet". I have (even when I was a KID... I was always overweight all my life... and I can look at a pic as an 8 yr old and I had that "under belly button-fat bulge". Now, ABOVE the belly button, it has always been pretty flat (strange, I know...) I have always been sooooooo jealous of the heavier women who still, by the grace of God, had a "flat stomach" pretty much. If I had one wish, it would be to have a flat stomach after all this! (something I have NEVER had in all of my almost 43 years…

I have been seeing someone who is very athletic - a mountain biker and bike racer. It sounds great, but the reality of it is that our fitness and athletic abilities are so far apart that I can't even join him on a recreational bike ride. I admittedly spent most of my life as more of a bookworm then an extreme athelete and even though I am trim now it doesn't make me suddenly "good" at sports. He doesn't care about that but, it does mean it is hard for us to spend much recreational time together The plusses are that he is very food conscious and isn't the least concerned with my weird sleever eating ways. In fact, he is the type that has to be reminded to eat ... a…

Hey ladies! I didn't really know where else to post this, and since women are the ones that will most understand how emotional I've been lately, I thought this was the perfect place! I had an incident with crying in a Chinese restaurant today. I wrote about it in a brand new blog I'm starting, it's the first post actually. Please read it and let me know what you think, and if you can relate. http://mrstinytummy.blogspot.com

So I'm engaged and my fiancé and I have been together for over two years now. We've even flown to Europe to meet my family together, we have a ridiculously expensive trip to Antarctica booked this fall, we've lived together for over a year now, etc. But lately I find I'm not attracted to him at all. There are, naturally, some things about him that irritate me, like complete lack of desire to improve his health while constantly complaining about falling apart and what not, but really, the biggest worry to me is that he basically disgusts me physically. I went through a stage where I had no sex drive, so of course, I was not terribly attracted to him then, but now I'm fin…

My husband married me as a big girl, and a few times I talked about the WLS and he basically brushed it off, he said he didn't think I'd do it, not because he didn't have faith, but I think he just didn't think I'd actually get approved. I thought long and hard and I have severe sleep apnea, hb, and pcos, and truly need this to get healthy, be around longer for him and our kids, and possibly have a chance to have another baby. So this year I went through the whole process and got my approval a few weeks ago, my surgery is August 19, and he is scared. He thinks I'm going to leave him once I lose my weight. I love him dearly, and I know he loves me, and I'm constantly reas…

I'm just wondering why everyone's having different test done before surgery. Why are some having stress test and others EKG? I had EKG done two days ago and now I'm looking at some pics of pre op patients having stress test done and not EKG. It kind of worried me why the stress test wasn't done on me . I was actually cleared for surgery by my cardio but why not a stress test? I didn't think of this when I was at my appointment but now I am. What if they missed something? My cardio doc said I have a very low risk of heart failure during surgery. Anyone know why some cardio doctors do stress test and others EKG?

This afternoon: Took stool softener pill b/c I've been on antibiotics and have barely pooped in a week (and am otherwise a daily BM kinda girl). Pill (I think) gets stuck in esophagus. 20 min later pill still feels like it's lingering, but I have a perfectly normal BM.

Ok ladies I've been fat since the age of 5 I'm almost close to goal 30 pounds more to lose well I want a new look, new hair style, learn how to put on makeup, eyebrows done, fake eyelashes that last about a month without refills, new clothes I don't even know how to clothes shop so basically I want to become a different person. Where do I start, where do I shop for someone who's a young 41 but feels 30, can anyone tell me where I can go in the state of Washington or Portland area who specializes in this transformation.

...considered or used the Essure procedure for birth control post-op? It's permanent birth control, but non-hormonal and doesn't involve surgery. It's an option I'm looking at for post-op peace of mind, since I have two kiddos already and I'd be content with having a permanent solution for birth control. http://www.essure.com/

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I had surgery on 7/30 and my period started 8/1, 2 weeks early. That's all I wanted to deal with in my first couple days of recovery. It seems to be very heavy this time and usually I have very light periods. Has anyone else had this issue? Did your period start early after surgery and was it heavier than normal?

Lord have mercy my boobs are like slinkies or something. They are sagging, literally a few inches from my belly button and are so "wobbly." I have gone down quite a bit but am still wearing a D cup but because of the loss of breast tissue or whatever they are so pliable. Really like a slinky. I kind of mold them into the bra but they just don't sit right, they spill this way or that way and are still saggy. What bra have you found to be really supportive and uplifting? I don't know that I will ever have the money or truly make the plunge to get a breast lift, so my bra is my first line of defense. Suggestions?

Anyone loosing hair by the clumps ? Getting all my fluids and protein in and taking biotin just is not helping 3 months out hard as a female

I was wondering if anyone had their tubes tied at the same time as laparoscopic rny. My surgeon works with a gyn that is willing to do it but I'm worried about the recovery time after. I don't want to stay longer but I definitely don't want a second surgery. Thoughts?

Hello ladies. Has anybody's sex drive gone all cuckoo on them? I feel like mine was just turbo charged! i seriously feel like a teenager in high school again.. Just curious as to whether anybody else's has changed.