The Gals' Room

Ok, I'm a little embarrassed to ask this question, but my husband really wants to know, and I know you all will give us honest answers. How long is normal for a guy to last during sex? My husband is almost 40 and he's worried that he doesn't last very long. (I have no complaints, however, because he always satisfies me in other ways). I would also love to hear from the guys on this one.

Good Morning All! I have two quick questions - has anyone experienced changes to their cycle since they have been banded? I am 4 months post-op and my cycle time is getting shorter - I used to be a perfect 28 days - now I am 21 to 24 days in between cycle. I am not sure if it's because I turned 40 this year but it's definitely a change and it's unpredictable. My second question - has the water-weight during your period changed? (do you gain weight during your period? - meaning is it different than before the band?) I used to gain like 7 lbs - now I really don't gain but I don't lose anything for about 10 days... Thanks I appreciate any input! Christina

I asked this on a post of mine but never got an answer.......so can someone clue me in?? I am going to buy all my stuff soon and I just want to make sure I have EVERYTHING I need. Thanks Ladies! :w00t:

I was just wondering how many of us have a family history of obesity. I have read about there being a so called "fat gene" and I just wonder if it's true. Almost everyone on my Mom's side is obese. Not just overweight, but severly obese. My Dad is overweight as well, but most of the people on his side don't have weight issues.

Ok so I'm wondering if I have enough to go into a doctor and ask about getting tested for PCOS. I do have diabetes in my family so I just want to make sure all my hormone levels are alright. I have very greasy hair and skin, acne, excess hair growth(facial and body), my periods (before BC) were always every 28 days but lasted a full seven days and they were pretty heavy and then sometimes they'd be really light. I'm not sure what they are now since I'm BC and all (will this affect if they need to do a blood test or can they take that into account?) I don't have darkening of the skin really though I do have a few random skin tags which I read can be common. I also have anx…

But for the first time since being banded I have gained weight. I think I have put on about 9 lbs, but it is right before TOM so it might be less. Basically I was too tight and was eating slider foods. Add to that I have had some very serious bad news from my mom ( really not comfortable elaborating further) and I slipped into some old emotional eating habits. I have also been tackling some anxiety issues. So I am calling myself out because I'm not going down this road again. I updated my ticker to reflect the gain :w00t: I've always posted my successes so I think it is only honest to post a set back too.

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Hi everyone...I was wondering... Has anyone else used the birth control inplant called Implanon? I had it put in back in July and I was wondering if anyone else used it while being banded. :shades_smile:

Like I didn't dislike my TOM enough already, it so far has lasted an extra 2 days, with no end in sight. Today it is still heavy like it is on the 2nd day, and i've been having killer cramps. WTF? I know it's not a huge deal, but as heavy as it seems, it could go on for at least 2-3 days more. Maybe just one last hurrah before i hit menapause? lol, i will be turning 40 in about a week and maybe this is mother nature's little "happy birthday" to me? Seems each of my decade birthdays are "off". When I turned 30 I had just had my first depo shot and the dr. had me on hormones to get things evened back out and my mom thought it was a good time to tell me that mos…

I have been reading alot here and really enjoyed the questions and comments. I was wondering if anyone was having the craziness I have had lately. I have currently lost 77lbs from a size 28 or 26 now in a 20 to 18. I am even having troulbe buying clothes because I want to get baggy things like before and my friends are trying to get me to guy tighter fitting and low cut which look great but I just don't feel comfortable for some reason. Which brings me to my next question. Dating !! I have been out of the dating sceen for some time now. Again because not feeling so great about myself, but now OMG I am ready for action all the time. I have noticed the men looking at me and…

Did anybody else's cycle go way out of whack post op? I had surgery 8/13/03 spotted off and on till period 8/22 then fine for a week then spotting until yesterday and now I am having one of the heaviest periods I have ever had. I hate to be one of those people who think everything is related to the band but I am wondering if this might have to do with the stress of surgery or losing weight fast. I am debating calling the gyno but to be honest I will avoid doing that for as long as I can.

Okay - I've noticed the last couple of weeks (and no I'm not pregnant and it's not TOM) that my breasts have been killing me. I take off my bra and I feel like I'm breast feeding again :w00t:. look the same and yes feel the same :cry_smile:, with the exception that they are so sore. I know they are getting smaller (I'm from a 44DDD to a 38DD or 38D depending on the bra). Is it due to the weightloss? :cool2: Hormone changes? Have any of you experienced any soreness or changes in "the girls" since losing weight?

Is it a good idea to have your gallbladder removed during the lapband surgery in order to prevent gallstones?

Okay - I think we need an NSV thread in this room....I'll be 1st :smile2: So - it's Saturday and the kids are at the neighbors playing for a couple of hours. You know what that means? A little "alone" time with DH... Well - he is so excited because he hasn't really been able to get it lately. Post revision surgery (had to take things easy), then my monthly visitor has to rear her ugly head. Well, anyway he is excited. Clothes start flying, hands start roaming and he stops and looks at my body. Something he has never done (his eyes usually divert). He mumbles, "I love your body". "I love your body."...WOW! I've never heard that - ever. I think we all dream o…

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Hey girls, I'm a little too embarrassed to ask this anywhere else and I don't even know if it's appropriate for the forums, but I need to know: When were you able to be "on top" during sex? My thighs have been too big ever since I've been with my fiance so I have no gauge of how much I'd need to lose before I can try again. I used to think I was the only one with some of these problems, but since I joined the forums, I realize many of my issues aren't just me! Any insight or other possible positions until the weight is gone would be appreciated.

Hey ladies (and well the guys who will look...) I have some questions on the sexual peak for women. I am 31 now. I have been feeling very different in the desire deparment and what I want to do lately. I have become open to things I would have said HELL NO to years ago! How long does this sexual revolution last? I am enjoying it, but hoping I can keep myself in check....lol..

Over the years of being married to the man in my life of whom I completely adore; I have noticed all the different names I have given him. His real name is Thomas, but every one calls him Tom. I never call him that. I call him Honey, or Babe most of the time. When I want to make my point of view heard by him I call him Thomas. When I'm mad at him I call him an Ass. When I speak of him to other people I call him Tommy. Last but not least....I call him Baloney butt when I want to let him know....I still love him but he needs a shower. Yes ladies....he will answers to them all! :smile:

ok ladies, help me remember please, because i'm racking my brains out! :thumbdown: i haven't had a period (normal or drug induced) in a long time, im currently sorting out my PCOS issues, and i never really been diagnosed for it until i switched GYNs and demanded for a whole slew of tests to be ran...by the way, i got poked three times today to do the insulin resistance and hormone level testing, what a joy that was! :crying: so, im posting this because, i remember way back in the day when i was of normal weight and having periods, my nipples would get really tender/sore and deep pink about a week before i was to get my period. that's what's going on now. BUT i also ha…

Now before I was banded I would take fiber pills every day or over other day, and my bowel movements were like clock work.. Now since I was banded i stopped taking them because i read somewhere that said that u should not eat foods high in fiber or something.. so i kinda figured that the fiber pills would get stuck.. but I know my stomach is bloated due to me not having the proper eliminations... Now last night i went to the drug store and bought some metamucil fiber pills and i took them last night before I went to bed and i must say I have had about 4 bowel movements already and I have only been up for 2 1/2 hours... I feel so much better... One thing I will say is that…

Ok, I officially don't know what the MONS are.

Have you had more bladder infections...or some after being banded due to more sex...or anything else. Here's some helpful info on them. http://www.sexinfo101.com/sh_bladinfect.shtml

Since most of us feel more comfortable with our bodies after being banded...and tend to be sexual more...I thought this link would be helpful. Female Masturbation Guide

I'm still upset and it's been a week. Do y'all think I'm wrong to be still upset? My husband, who is very absent minded, and who really has taken me for granted for years, didn't even get me a birthday card this year. He said he bought two of them back in March and put them away, but then couldn't find where he stashed them when it got close to my birthday. He said that he just didn't think to go buy another card, even when he couldn't find where he put those he had already bought. He said that, if he finds the cards, he figures he can just give them to me for my birthday next year or maybe for my half-birthday. OMG, if he does, I think I'll give him something in…

Has anyone had any problem with their marriage since losing weight? My husband likes the new me, but is so overly jealous and protective. He has even accused me of things that aren't happening. It has been very painful and is hurting our marriage. Any words of wisdom?

I am a bit disappointed.. I have worn 11W-WW since I guess I was 12. I normally wear flip flops year round, since they don't discriminate. For the first time since banding, I went shoe shopping 2 weeks ago. Down over 100lbs, and I heard others mention losing a size or two--or the width, etc. My feet LOOK skinnier to me, but in the store, 11W is still what I wear. 11's were too tight, and I couldn't get my foot into a 10W. What a bummer

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I am glad this room got started. There are things I need to ask and have absolutely nobody in my life that I can ask these kinds of personal questions. The band has given me back my life in a way that has made me extremely happy. I know I wouldn't have the wonderful health conscience bf that I have now if I hadn't lost all the weight. My life for several years before I lost the weight was empty and lonely. I just wanted to say I am glad that we have a place that we can come and feel comfortable sharing things that we can't share with people we know in real life.

Ok for those of you have been banded awhile and have lost at least 50lbs+ have you noticed a change in cellulite? I'm hoping that my cellulite in my legs will be less with weight loss, do I have hope?

Since a lot of us are having sex more often and many doctor's want you on birth control after being banded because when you lose weight you become more fertile...here is a website about all different types of birth control. Enjoy. A Guide to Birth Control

Looking for anyone who has had the lap band procedure in Iowa. I will be using Dr. Peter O'Brien in Sioux Falls, SD. I'm new here! Thanks everyone! Laura

i had my lap band surgery a year ago ( July 23 2007) and i've lost 100 lbs since then. i was 297 now im down to 200. growing up i was very self conscious about my body and i even debated doing this surgery since id' be naked... but later came to my senses... (i haven't gone swimming in a bathing suit in since i was 8 years old and i haven't worn shorts since i was 10).... i haven't been to a gyno yet and im afraid to .. but at the same time im 20 and i know i should go to one since we have a family history of breast cancer and cervical cancer is rare but its important to check. I'm still very self conscious but i feel that now that i weigh a little less it would be less …

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Hello all;....my name is lauren cannon, i am the proud owner of a mastiff named titan who we show in the show ring...i am sooo excited that i had to do a quick brag. I handle titan myself, i get comments on how horrible i do and whatnot...just because i have only been doing this for 6 months. WELL.... Today we had a dog show, and we beat the #2 mastiff in the country!!!! We ended up with the best of winners dog...we are very excited. If anyone knows anything about dog shows, they will understand the politics of things, and being a newbie....it is almost impossible to win with all the Pro's. I beat the PRO's!!!!! I am so excited..ok that is it!

I am looking for suggestions on a GREAT eye cream! What do you use? Have you found a really awesome product? Miracle in a jar would be a great find <laughing> :thumbup: Yes the crows feet and wrinkles are an issue but I have noticed in the last year I have my mothers eyes! Puffy, circles, just plain old. I have tried many things and some work ok some don't. I was curious if ya'll have found something that you really like! Thanks so much!

I have a few events coming up that will require a bathing suit. I refuse to sit on the side lines after having dropped so much weight, like I have done for the last several years. This put me in the precarious position of purchasing swim wear. ACK !!! When I was a teenager I had dropped 135 lbs on my own ( of course I couldn't keep it off) and only had mildly flabby arms to contend with. Ten years later and I am not as fortunate. Besides my arms, my thighs are awful and I have a shelf for an abdomen from having a c-section. Yet some how I am now nearly flat chested ( weight loss and nursing perhaps ?) A plastic surgeon could make a fortune off of me. Ok en…

Thank you in advance and I apologize if my posts contains TMI.

My husband supoorts my wishes and is here for me but wants to know when I start losing the weight will I loose my boobs?...lol:lol:

Well now that my insurance came through and my date is set I've realized that I will most likely have my lovely period on the surgery day. I've heard that you shouldn't get your legs waxed etc. when you've got it because it makes you less tolerant of pain or something so will i be in more pain? i'm not really worried about that too much though. what i am worried about is the fact that i'll be having my period on the surgery table. i know what doctors/nurses/anesthesiologists are medical professionals and don't really care but it's still embarassing to think about. anyone else have to deal with this? do they let you wear tampons in surgery. i would assume not since …

I've been having trouble in my marriage for about 4 years. I love my husband dearly but I don't have a real love connection with him. They say you can stay married if you are just friends, but it is very painful for me because I can't get to that level I want to. I don't want to make love anymore. It feels like I am kissing my brother. I have one teenager by a previous marriage who lives with us. I also have a 7 year old. My husband is a less that perfect father. He is a screamer and has difficulty disciplining the children. It really affects me. We have been in marriage counseling before and even did a Marriage Encounter retreat last year through the Catholic …

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I really have no place to ask this, I'm super embarassed, and have been on webmd all night, and I feel so weird! First off, I'm 24, and in the testing stages before lapband. For a while, I've always had that "need to pee NOW" issue. A few times, I've accidently slightly peed my pants on the way to the bathroom, before I could get my pants down. Now tonight for the first time since I was say, maybe 4, I peed my pants, like, totally. Thank God I was outside and no one saw it. I've had some tiny pain in my lower abdomen, but I have IBS and I've had ovarian cysts my whole life, and I've kind of gotten used to it. I'm going to be calling my doc on Monday and trying to get in r…

only allows you to have a period every so often? I am on of you who goes through the hard time of trying to get anything down during my PMS time. Having fewer periods would help there...but... I don't need the pill (tied tubes) and I am worried about side effects and weight gain (I gained weight on the regular pill) at least I blame it on that!!!:thumbup: Anyon have updated infor?

I have an appointment tomorrow to get my haircut. I'm ready for something different. I am always at a loss as to what style would suit me well. I need some input! I'll attach a picture of my current mop of hair. Hopefully someone is better at this then me!

I have been getting utis chronically. I do everything I am supposed to do, like getting up to pee immediately. My daughter told me that if we were to use condoms, that would take care of it. We are both in our 50's and there is no way either one of us could make a baby but I am wondering if that is what is causing the uti's . I have always been told by all the doctors that bacteria gets shoved into the urethra. I go and see a urologist next week, and I will ask him this question. I was just wondering if anyone else finds using condoms cuts down the UTI problems.

I was banded on 7/9/08. And I was expecting TOM to come this past Friday and yet nothing...nor any signs. I know I'm not pregnant. Has this happened to anyone? If so, WTF is going on with my body?

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Ok, so the hubby is insistant I spoil myself for my birthday. Well ok, he actually had to twist my arm for it cause I don't like spending lots of money on me. Well anyhow, July 15th hair highlights and a new phone (the apple iPhone 3rd generation 8gig, or 16 gig if I can get a good deal). Then on my birthday I am getting a brazillian wax and back/neck massage. FINALLY on August 15th I am getting a manicure and pedicure. I know why break it up, but see here is how it is. It was the ONLY way he could get me to agree to it all. I don't agree with spending that kind of cash on me, when I can get the boys or the hubby so much with it. SO, he said no, this is for …