Hey girls,

I'm a little too embarrassed to ask this anywhere else and I don't even know if it's appropriate for the forums, but I need to know: When were you able to be "on top" during sex? My thighs have been too big ever since I've been with my fiance so I have no gauge of how much I'd need to lose before I can try again. I used to think I was the only one with some of these problems, but since I joined the forums, I realize many of my issues aren't just me! Any insight or other possible positions until the weight is gone would be appreciated.

I find that I am too insecure and feel like a big fat cow on top. I will feel much better after weight loss.:smile2:

OK ladies, not to sound too naive, but what the heck is a NSV????? But anyway, I am a shortie, only 5' 1" so being on top on my knees is not an option, my DH is a large man, not just is girth,(much smaller now after he got banded) but not lanky, You Know???? anyway, when I get on top, which he really likes, is I have to straddle him like in a squatting position. Much easier after losing some weight. He just loves how much more active we are, not that we weren't active before.

NSV = non scale victory. Such as fitting into a smaller item of clothing or being able to do something sexually more comfortably then before hehe

I have always been with bigger guys and with my fat legs had a hard time on top - though it's always been the fav position for the guys!

I plant my feet on either side and do "squats". It's a work out, but the sensation is much better because I can actually feel it, not just all our fat mushed together.

see at over 400 lbs I cant do the squating, id end up having my knees lock up and fall on his most important part. :tongue2:

I'm liking the bouncy ball idea.... :tongue2:

I'm not on top that often. I can't get much out of it, and he understands there are better positions for both our enjoyment. Usually, it's more of foreplay than the over-all position. Like a "tag! you're it" kind of thing.

lol i think at walmart you can get pretty cheap exercise balls

Being on top is one of those things I am looking forward to allot.

Heck any possition other then doggy would be a nice change. Getting rid of the stomach is gonna be something I won't miss for sure. Prevents 99& of the possitions we want to use.

I was reading this thread the other day and the exercise ball caught my eye. I am happy to report that it was a HUGE success :frown:!! Tried it with the DH yesterday, lots of bouncing went on, there was no exploding exercise ball, and both parties were very happy!!

only position im comfy with is missionary not even really comfy then either but WOW

lol mstrina your exercise ball idea got tried

lol lots of bouncing hehe

I was reading this thread the other day and the exercise ball caught my eye. I am happy to report that it was a HUGE success !! Tried it with the DH yesterday, lots of bouncing went on, there was no exploding exercise ball, and both parties were very happy!!

Imagine the calories you burned! :smile2:

I was reading this thread the other day and the exercise ball caught my eye. I am happy to report that it was a HUGE success :biggrin:!! Tried it with the DH yesterday, lots of bouncing went on, there was no exploding exercise ball, and both parties were very happy!!

lol... I told u.....:cursing:

K- I am going out first thing tomorrow and buying an excerise ball, lol...:cursing:

Y'all are cracking me up! This things you learn online...

This week, I told 2 married, normal sized friends that I was looking to LB so that "I could get laid again before I die!!"

I'm reading these and all I can say is when I was a young as you all are, I had the knees to be on top. Now my knees are shot to hell and top is difficult. Also, my port (8 weeks old) is painful when having sex, so it isn't always a quick road back to the good stuff. I'm not sure that being on top would help in the "long" position. Just waiting to heal more.