Ok, I'm a little embarrassed to ask this question, but my husband really wants to know, and I know you all will give us honest answers. How long is normal for a guy to last during sex? My husband is almost 40 and he's worried that he doesn't last very long. (I have no complaints, however, because he always satisfies me in other ways). I would also love to hear from the guys on this one.

There was a guy that I wanted to be with so badly, and he was a complete dick. He strung me a long and I'd do ANYTHING for him, so I did. He got a kick out of me being embarassed by it. We did it all. Anything you've read or seen we did it -except for the feces thing...never did, nor would have done that.

Glouc, please don't discuss our prior relationship on the web. I've changed.

Does anyone have a certain brand of condoms they recommend? I have been having these problems with yeast infections and uti's so we have been trying to use them to see if it makes any difference, plus I think he could catch a yeast infection from me.

He says "he can't feel anything" when he has one on. He was married for 25 years so doesn't have much experience using them.

My personal favorite is Trojan: Shared Pleasures, Warming Sensation...comes in a bright orange box. They don't really have much of a warmiing sensation, that I can tell, but they seem to be the most comfortable for both parties involved, and just enough lube: not too much, not too little.

Hey y'all...

Just caught up on the thread...I firmly believe that we have to tell and teach our partners what we want. That's for both men and women!:tt2:

I have to remind my DH of 18 years occasionally that while my breasts enjoy the occasional tweak, too much pressure is painful and does NOTHING for my desire level! He gets 'caught up' and tends to forget when he's really excited...same for me - I'll get excited and forget to ease up on him as well...

I frequently cliimax with penetration - though I must say it's usually preceded by lots of foreplay. My DH is masterful at finding the right spots on my body with his hands and mouth - and I love to return the favor!

Take it slow at first - I read an article where they suggested a couple do everything BUT penetration in an effort to make each other climax...it can be fun to explore the landscape of the body. Use toys if they help you, and not just the battery-operated ones - use feathers, fabric, Fluid, food, restraints, hey - whatever has the potential to turn you on!

Try reading some of the stories on erotic websites like Xandria.com - they have a section called "Pillowbook" that has reader-submitted stories. Might inspire some new ideas (or new positions) that could spice things up. :frown:

Above all - be safe and have fun!:thumbup:

Glouc, please don't discuss our prior relationship on the web. I've changed.

Liar ...

:crying: LOL...Thanks Leslie for getting my back!

Plain, I'll do that thing that we did that one time in that one place, if you'll only just forgive me!

Blackcherry, Does your partner feel that they are thin enough? Mine wants one that feels like he does not have one on. I am not at all sure that is possible.

Blackcherry, Does your partner feel that they are thin enough? Mine wants one that feels like he does not have one on. I am not at all sure that is possible.

ATD, there is no condom that I know of (but.....I've been married the last 12 years, so things could have changed) that feels like nothing. There are "ultra thins" in most brands, but even then, if you are not used to wearing condoms, it's a strange sensation. On the plus side, the slight diminishment of sensation should make the BF last a lot longer. And that means more exercise for you both. :crying: Cheers to better health!!

Thanks Plain. He's just going to have to get used to them or put his hand to good use. I didn't get a UTI this time, and that is worth it regardless of any slight difference he felt.

Like everything else in life, change sucks. It just takes time, then he'll get used to them.