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Has anyone besides me been denied the first time then was approved the second time by the surgeon? My insurance covers it.

My husband more then once tells me oh "you think your all that cuz your slim now"... Also you have your kids as money. "They are special need & get SSI"... I have complete control of there money I'm there mom,but no one is hungry thirsty with out clothes. He told me last night oh *****(his 33 year old son) mom is fat I rather have a fat woman that cooks then a skinny woman that don't. I didn't cook last last simply cuz I had left over chicken noodle soup. I feel he is happy with the new me but then says things to make me feel bad.

Been dating a guy for over 2 months now. He didn't know me when I weighed 270 pounds or before WLS. Wondering when/if should tell him. We've ate out at restaurants so he's seen the small amounts I've eaten and always take home the leftovers too. I told him I'm watching what I'm eating & have mentioned to him I've lost weight but haven't told him how much or how. Opinions??? Sent from my DROID RAZR using VST

All i want for christmas is... 1. sex under the Christmas tree 2. stockings that fit and dont roll down. 3. calf-high boots 4. Christmas sweaters that dont make me look fat. 5..my VSG on December 26th !! What are you wishing for?

At work walking past the vending machines.... My thoughts: what I would do for a cold diet cherry Pepsi and a bag of hot Cheetos/munches mix chip things. I'm having strong cravings for soda and salty! .::SurgeryDate 7/25/12::.

I couldn't find anything on this topic. I've started my period and my surgery is tomorrow. Do I need a pad or can I use a tampon? I've never had this happen before. :-/

My date is jan 22 and ready

Hi, So I've lost 50 pounds and my belly is sagging. I'm 51 and have carried 2 children so there's no way to avoid the sag. I live in TX and sweat...and I'm developing a rash. Any suggestions? Thanks!!

Hey Ladies, So I have had PCOS for about 10 years... I haven't had a period in about that long..the only time i would get one is when my dr would have me take progesterone to force on on. But it wasn't a regular one on my own. I am a little over 2 1/2 months out and Monday I got my first real period on my own... this probably explains the sever moodiness the past few weeks that I couldn't figure out before. The last time I dealt with this was long I forgot what it was like. My only problem and question is how horribly bad it is! I know this is going to be TMI so i apologize ahead of time. I have to change my tampon less than once an hour.. and I"m using the strongest th…

I know it's normal for your period to be irregular after surgery but seriously?? I'm just about 8 weeks post op and am on my period for the FOURTH time since surgery! Every two weeks I turn around and there she is again! I was on a normal cycle before surgery, am not on any type of birth control and haven't been for quite some time. The most frustrating part is the weight gain randomness... I finally broke a 3 week stall, past the 50 lbs down mark and then BAM I'm up 2-3 lbs again. FRUSTRATED!

So I got it on... My wish was to do it standing up. Wow! I felt like a porno star. Lmbo I did it hubby holding me (me on top) delicious. I didn't know he can still keep up I hope I don't kill him with all this sex. Standing up will be a charm gotta wait till kids are in school.

I know it's normal for your period to be irregular after surgery but seriously?? I'm just about 8 weeks post op and am on my period for the FOURTH time since surgery! Every two weeks I turn around and there she is again! I was on a normal cycle before surgery, am not on any type of birth control and haven't been for quite some time. The most frustrating part is the weight gain randomness... I finally broke a 3 week stall, past the 50 lbs down mark and then BAM I'm up 2-3 lbs again. FRUSTRATED!

I am so excited with my weight loss! I am a little over 1 month post-op, and before I started the pre-op diet, I was a small 24/3x. Today, I am already a regular 18/1x!! Woo Hoo!! Luckily I have saved all my 'smaller clothes' from when I was gaining and gaining, so I haven't had to buy any new clothes, but just the joy of taking a pair of 18s off the hanger that I hadn't worn in years, pulling them up with ease and buttoning them with awe, was an experience I had to share Yay!! Good luck to all of you on this journey! One day at a time!!

has anyone had this problem? and no possible way i'm pregnant! lol

So, the hubby just called and says "I have a bad feeling about this surgery". wtf do I do with that piece of info? My surgery date is Dec. 26th.

Ok so I've been sleeved a few weeks now and I feel i have been doing great! My husband on the other hand.......hmmmmm! Ever since being sleeved we have been at each others throat! Anybody else going through this?

For all you ladies who have been banded, how soon after your surgery did you feel comfortable enough to resume "the good, good"? (Meaning, the booty?) My husband and I have a healthy relationship and I don't want him to have to wait too long.

I didn't know where else to post this and it does have to do with WLS. The short version is my ex and I have been seperated for almost two years. We last spoke almost a year ago and I honestly never thought we wouls speak again. The other day we spoke on the phone for the first time in a year and long story short we've been talking about how we both want to see each other and see what is still there. The issue is my ex met me when I was big- I was around 350 when I met him and he is someone who is soley attracted to big woman. I have met a lot of guys who view it as a fetish but he was just attracted to larger girls as a preference which I understand. I didn't tell him I …

I am only 7 days post-op. Pre-surgery I often skipped periods. I had my period just a week before surgery. I dropped 23 lbs. my first week & got my period today. Have you found since surgery that your period cycles are different? Do you also find that you are a little more "hormonal" than you were before surgery. Thanks in advance.

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This weekend for the first time ever . I went to payless shoes and was able to put on those trendy boots that zip to the knees. God i love my sleeve.

ok only sleeved since November 19th still away from home as i was sleeved Im Mexico so don't have a clue what i weigh but getting out of the shower tonight my boobs were definitely bigger then the belly Im thrilled and with no bra on . i guess this is my official NSV and Im hoping there is still a little swelling around my tummy still so its only gonna get better x

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Hey everyone, I am new to this site but, I really like it already.I am almost 16 months post opt and within pounds of my goal. I really feel great about myself and how far I have come. With that said, I must be honest....... I feel sexier and could really use some attention to feel vindicated. Its like its not real if no one seems to notice. When I say that I mean men....Of course people in my life have noticed and lots of things have changed.... all except this. Men NEVER flirt or come on to me Its sad. I know that I must make myself feel good and not depend on outsiders to make me feel valued/good/better/whole that's my job but, it would still be great to get noticed t…

So I'm getting banded at the end of December. I'm curious about something, if you are on the bottom during sex does it ever bother your port? My husband is a big guy. He is 6'4" and well built so I'm worried about the pressure on my port when he is on top. Is that a silly worry to have?

I'm scheduled for surgery on 11/14....so excited. I read online that you're suppose to wait 4 weeks before having sex. What is the minimum amount that anyone has waited? I'm already having withdrawals just thinking about it.

So... if I don't take my Vitamins first thing in the morning, I find myself forgetting to take them throughout the day. I'm a Nurse manager and find myself running from crisis to crisis and meeting to meeting. Rarely do I get quiet time at my desk. Can I take all my vitamins together???? I know I have to separate my Iron and my omeprazole from other stuff. morning: Chewable MVI Citrical petities x4 Viactiv chews x2 (hubby bought them for me so I'm taking 2 a day just to use them up but still taking my citrical too) d3 5000 IU Biotin 10,000 mcg b-complex with Vitamin c b-12 sublingual afternoon (empty tummy) Ferrous Sulfate bed-time omeprazole

As anyone else had this problem I'm on the pill and never have spotting or other issues. I had the lap band and I am now 2 1/2 weeks into my pills but I have been spotting to the point it's like I still have my period most days. I was on the pre op diet and lost 20lbs in 14 days and have been post op for 4 days and have really heavy spotting again. Is this normal or should I call my doctor??

I know this might be a stupid question but I never paid attention to it when I was heavier but is it normal to gain 3+ lbs during that time of the month? I got on my scale this morning and I was shocked to see the gain and I've been doing everything right.

Ladies, I love cute sexy shoes, but as you know the larger one is the harder it is to wear those 4 inch heels. Also, my feet have gotten larger over the years. Did any of you go down in shoe size as you lost weight? Thanks, Sydney

OK since surgery, a few complications and hospital stays after.... I'm 6 weeks out and starting to feel great! I'm down 30 lbs! My HOT husband, who I am very attracted to keeps wanting to get to gettin, bit I just have no frigging libido whatsoever! WTF????!!!! Anyone else go thru this? Is it a hormone issue? I'm 37, in my prime!!!! Grrrr! Please help!

I was just at my gynecologist's office for and unrelated reason. I did mention that I can't have big horse pills anymore. Then he said "you can still take pills. Just put them in your vagina." I hope your eyes were as wide as mine were! So, there you go. Got a big pill to take? Stick it in your vagina. (I wish I could make this stuff up!)

Today, I did awesomely well with my eating, I made it to 1,086 calories, and got all of my protein in through just eating, no gross shakes. That amount will off set once I get in my cardio/weights before bed. I logged in my meals for today in a food journal and I looked at the list and got scared...scared of regaining weight. All of my choices were healthy and I don't understand why I'm nervous and on the verge of tears(it could be the period hormones acting up this month) My greatest fear is failing this journey. I can't understand why I feel this way, I've done well so far I just have this picture in my mind(and on my phone) of how fat my face looked and how tired I w…

I'm 46 and am peri-menopausal. I haven't had my period since January. I've since forgotten when you get the signals that you have your period. Do they come before? Do they come during the period or do they come after? I never remembered to write down my TOM schedule. The reason I ask is twofold. (if you're a man, get off this thread!) My breasts feel like they weigh 20 lbs each, my nips feel like they've been freeze dried and are about to crumble at the slightest touch, my abdomen is killing me. At what point of menstruation do these types of signals occur? BECAUSE... I notice my band feels "tighter" during this time. And I have gotten stuck more than I care to thin…

Where to begin this might be lengthy but I need outsiders opinion. I been with my boyfriend six years he has worked off and on but mostly hasn't worked. I love him and he does some house work and helps with our 2 kids. He is a good man to me but as I am getting older I want things like a nice house and to live comfortable. He has a GED but no education beyond that. I have a college degree and support all of us and I'm just sick of it. He lost his license and has been driving my car and all I can think if he gets pulled over or wrecks it I have no money to fix it or get it out of impound an I work an hour away so I need my car. It's 300 to get his lose de back so once I st…

Ok, do a friend of mine freaked me out this weekend and asked me what my husband will think when I lose the books. I responded to her that I wasn't expecting to lose them. She shared that she had a friend who went through the surgery and they went down dramatically. Listen, I want them to.be smaller but I certainly.want to remain very curve. What has everyone else experienced?

There is a lot of talk about gas immediately post op. Are we talking like embarrassing flatulence? Some mild burping? Scale of 1-10 how bad was this? I'm sure that post op it will be the last thing I care about - in fact I will prob want to due to discomfort from what i am reading - but right now I have some anxiety thinking about passing gas in front of people - or within ear shot lol!

Can anyone suggest something to stop the hair loss? I am 4 months post open feel great down 58 Pounds but loosing a lot of hair. So far this is the only negative of surgery I have experienced and it is starting to worry me. Any help is greatly appreciated!

Do any of you ladies have Instagram, Facebook or Twitter.?

Ok...very touchy subject! I have PCOS and have been on Metformin for a long time which has caused diarrah...which caused hemrroid and ultimately 2 anal fissures! The most painful experience ever!!! Saw a rectal surgeon but this pain has been doing on for almost a month. Has anyone experienced this and what did you do about it. The Dr. says it not surgery worthy at this time but it has been a real pain in the butt!!!! LOL! Tracy

I don't know wether this happens with everyone but I get very hungry a week prior to getting my periods and during them. I seem to have an insatiable appetite. I don't know what to.

So if my period comes when I'm scheduled for surgery...and with my luck it will happen lol...can I wear a tampon during surgery? Will I be naked? Thus making a pad not an option...

Okay...so I need some input on this because as an overanalytical person in general...this has been driving me INSANE. So right before Halloween, my boyfriend and I broke up. We had been together since May and he knew what I was doing with surgery and weight loss, etc. I was always skeptical of how he would react once I began to lose weight...because he always seemed like he didnt want me to. I think at first, he thought it was a vanity thing...kept telling me how beautiful I was and how I didnt need to change...blahblahblah. And I say "blah", because this was NOT a vanity thing. I wanted to feel better, I wanna be around to have a family one day, and I was 23 and pushing …

Had surgery on 11/14. I'm totally ready to knock boots w/ my boyfriend. He says it will be at least 4 wks for sex b/cause he isn't going to be the blame for anything going wrong with my recovery. I'm feeling good, yes I'm sore..anyone else having this issue w/ their mate?

Hey guys, I know you probably think this isn't a big deal, but in my culture it is seriously bad, and if it were true (which I'm hoping it isn't!) I would probably be kicked out of my home etc. Okay, so my boyfriend and I were dry humping, he had his pants on (cargo denimy pants) and I had my tights and undies on, so we were both dressed etc.. but his pants were abit moist, and so were mine (because we were turned on etc) is there a chance I could be pregnant? I am still a virgin btw.. and I'm extremely nervous I did some reading up and everyone says its pretty much unlikely, but I am feeling beyond anxious

Ok I started my journey at 441lbs as of March 26,2012, now I'm 270 almost 7 months. I'm a little worried that my weightloss won't slow down or stop. I'm addicted to the gym and not a fan of eating. I'm consuming 600 calories a day. I tried to eat more,but its just not possible. I do take in protein shakes daily and I'm not saggy I'm toning up due to intense weight training. How do I slow my weight loss down some.

O, I am in the I between stages is clothing. All of my church clothes are either way to big, or just a tad to snug to wear to church. Indon't have money to go buy new one's. Very frustrated. Any suggestions?

OK, um, I am 53, I had my last TOM in Feb this year. I thought maybe I was done, its been 9 months and this morning... there it was, laughing at me!! Does surgery affect this? I don't know how menopause works and just thought I was done!! Any insight on this?? I was pretty darm happy to NOT have it LOL!!!

I had my surgery on October 3rd. Maybe 1 week after surgery I started having very dark brown discharge. I started my BC on October 29. It stopped it for not even a week. Should I call my OBGYN about the discharge? There is no blood, just very very dark brown discharge. It's driving me crazy!!

My husband called this redneck engineering. My pants were about to fall off at work today ( got dressed quickly and didn't realize these pants were this big now ) so I had to find done office supplies to keep them up....omg did I look like a clown !!!!