Been dating a guy for over 2 months now. He didn't know me when I weighed 270 pounds or before WLS. Wondering when/if should tell him. We've ate out at restaurants so he's seen the small amounts I've eaten and always take home the leftovers too. I told him I'm watching what I'm eating & have mentioned to him I've lost weight but haven't told him how much or how.

Opinions???

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Been dating a guy for over 2 months now. He didn't know me when I weighed 270 pounds or before WLS. Wondering when/if should tell him. We've ate out at restaurants so he's seen the small amounts I've eaten and always take home the leftovers too. I told him I'm watching what I'm eating & have mentioned to him I've lost weight but haven't told him how much or how.

Opinions???

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Have you guys had monkey sex yet? Does the weight loss show on your body? If it does, you probably should tell him. If it doesn't....then my suggestion is to use your instinct. I think it depends on how the guy may/may not react. I will be very curious to see what others say about this. Good question! I think you are going to get passionate answers from both sides. Good luck! And remember to stay true to yourself, not what others push you to do. :-)

Whenever you're ready to share that. I was following a gal on Youtube that didn't tell her man until he'd proposed. He didn't seem surprised.

Yes the weight loss does show on my body, I do have loose skin and saggy boobs. I am very self concious about that too, more so than when I weighed 270. Yes we have had sex and I wondered what he was thinking when he saw me naked. I have thought about telling him but wondered what his reaction would be.

Thanks for your thoughts.

Have you guys had monkey sex yet? Does the weight loss show on your body? If it does, you probably should tell him. If it doesn't....then my suggestion is to use your instinct. I think it depends on how the guy may/may not react. I will be very curious to see what others say about this. Good question! I think you are going to get passionate answers from both sides. Good luck! And remember to stay true to yourself, not what others push you to do. :-)

I would do what you feel is in right at the time. Eventually probably,

but why not enjoy the moment til you're ready!

I'm in a similar situation, although I'm not quite as close to goal. We've been dating 3 months and I always think about telling him but I worry after this long he's suspected or figured it out. I mention often losing weight, working out, low carb, hoping he will ask questions but he doesn't. He has seen old pictures of me too. I've lost 30-35 lbs since I've met him but he hasn't said anything. He's a nurse and he has seen me naked so I'm sure the scars tipped him off. To me, my weight loss shows on my body but since I still have a lot to lose he may not realize it. I am also more insecure now than I was 135 pounds ago, which was one of my biggest fears with VSG. I also think it's because I worry he's a little out of my league. He's so much hotter than any guy I've ever dated.

That is a really personal decision and depends on your relationship. I had been dating a guy for 5 months that I really, really liked (still with him). He is a former pro soccer player and very fit. He and I started dating at my highest weight. He didn't know about my surgery until the day of and he went to the hospital with me. He didn't find out the nature of the surgery until a week after. As a middle aged person with a few controlling relationships under her belt, I did not want or need one more man telling me what I could or couldn't do. I never lied or deceived, I just didn't disclose until I was ready. He was really shocked at first, and somewhat hurt. Then he started cooking nourishing broths for me and has been my biggest supporter since.

Not that this would be what might happen in your case. Just sharing my particular story.

Well this is a good question. I am single also and since losing weight have very loose skin. I will definitely have to disclose that I have lost weight BUT not necessarily the surgery. I think that I will play it as it happens; if he asks about my scars I guess I will have to spill it all...............

I just had my surgery and my bf new but four months into us going to the dating! He couldn't figure out why I was going to the dr monthly! He has been nothing but supportive. Tell him when your ready! Always remember you deserve that hot hot guy! I found mine and people tell me he is hot all the time!

No surgery date yet but my biggest fear is also the skin adding to insecurities...