Where to begin this might be lengthy but I need outsiders opinion. I been with my boyfriend six years he has worked off and on but mostly hasn't worked. I love him and he does some house work and helps with our 2 kids. He is a good man to me but as I am getting older I want things like a nice house and to live comfortable. He has a GED but no education beyond that. I have a college degree and support all of us and I'm just sick of it. He lost his license and has been driving my car and all I can think if he gets pulled over or wrecks it I have no money to fix it or get it out of impound an I work an hour away so I need my car. It's 300 to get his lose de back so once I start making money again since I been off for surgery I will have to pay it. He isn't known for his good driving or lack of crashes. He has been looking for work but not as much as I would be if I didn't have a job. He has changed a lot since we first got together he is a way better man but I'm sick of supporting him but I love him and have told him he needs to find work to help out. My question is am I being shallow cuz money is the issue? I'm sick of working so hard and not getting ahead and I went to college to better myself and not be broke, what should I do? I want all opinions nice or not.

I would have to say this the heart wants what the heart wants even though he's a little lazy and don't help out around the house you put up with it. Sit him down and explain to him what you need from him. If you don't work outside of the house' date=' you have to work inside. Let him know you're not his mother.[/quote']

Well said! If you don't look out for you, no one will.

It's good that you talked to him but, hold him to it! DO NOT let him drive your car especially if you can't afford to replace your car should he wreck it. No license then no insurance will cover you if they find out you allowed him to drive it. Definitely hold him to helping around the house if he's home all day. There is no excuse for NOT helping you out there. With kids houses won't be spotless but, the dishes can be done and things picked up and heck..dinner on the table or at least started. Resentment can build up and override any love that's in your heart so if you feel you love him but, this stuff is buggin' ya...definite say something and hold em to it.

Good luck!

Where to begin this might be lengthy but I need outsiders opinion. I been with my boyfriend six years he has worked off and on but mostly hasn't worked. I love him and he does some house work and helps with our 2 kids. He is a good man to me but as I am getting older I want things like a nice house and to live comfortable. He has a GED but no education beyond that. I have a college degree and support all of us and I'm just sick of it. He lost his license and has been driving my car and all I can think if he gets pulled over or wrecks it I have no money to fix it or get it out of impound an I work an hour away so I need my car. It's 300 to get his lose de back so once I start making money again since I been off for surgery I will have to pay it. He isn't known for his good driving or lack of crashes. He has been looking for work but not as much as I would be if I didn't have a job. He has changed a lot since we first got together he is a way better man but I'm sick of supporting him but I love him and have told him he needs to find work to help out. My question is am I being shallow cuz money is the issue? I'm sick of working so hard and not getting ahead and I went to college to better myself and not be broke' date=' what should I do? I want all opinions nice or not.[/quote']

I'm old fashioned. Sure there are plenty of stay at home Dads but the answer to all problems can be found in your Word (Bible). The man's role is to be the strong one and provide. I left a man once who told me that he was gonna stay at home and care for the kids. I told him if I wanted a wife i'd get one. Surely if I can get up and work everyday certainly the man should be able to as well. I applause the man that will work at McDonald's or any other low paying job as opposed to sitting on his ass letting a woman support him.

I'm old fashioned. Sure there are plenty of stay at home Dads but the answer to all problems can be found in your Word (Bible). The man's role is to be the strong one and provide. I left a man once who told me that he was gonna stay at home and care for the kids. I told him if I wanted a wife i'd get one. Surely if I can get up and work everyday certainly the man should be able to as well. I applause the man that will work at McDonald's or any other low paying job as opposed to sitting on his ass letting a woman support him.

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