The Gals' Room

So, is there anything you have ever wanted to buy but thought you were too fat to wear? Or that you were afraid to wear (maybe you were always one of those "If I wear all black no one will notice me" girls?) Post a picture of yourself in something you thought you could never wear, or an item you want to buy when you hit a goal. I'm about 18 lbs from being below 200 lbs. So I've decided that when I get below 200 lbs I am going to treat myself to this Kensie dress from Macy's.

Hello! I am about 3 weeks out from my sleeve surgery and I keep having this fear that it's simply not going to work on me and I'm going to be fat the rest of my life - does anyone else feel this way? I mean, I am following all my doc's and nutrition guidelines and am exercising so there is no rational basis for my fear, except that, on a whim, I got on the scale a few days after a weigh-in at my doc's office and it gave me 3 different results, all were heavier than my previous results a few days before. It really kind of sent me into a tailspin. I mean, what if I just start gaining weight? Please tell me someone else has had this fear! Thank you!

I can cross my legs like a lady! No more ankle to knee lumberjack crossing here! Knee to knee dainty crossed legs. Btw, that means my thighs are small enough now to fit together! Silly NSV but made me feel good. : )

I cannot stop playing this song, an extremely moving rendition of Wrecking Ball It is alluring, resonating with me, and brought me to tears earlier. Does anyone feel the same?

So this morning I'm getting dressed and pull on my sports bra and undies. Something didn't quite look right in the mirror and I realized I had put my bra on backwards....and it fit fine! Thats how pitifully tiny my boobies are now. I literally laughed out loud and flipped it around the right way. But I don't think that's what they meant by "reversible".

4 months post-op Gastric Bypass. 67lbs lost. Half my hair has fallen out!! Every morning handfuls come out in the shower. I'm getting my proteins in. Will it stop?? Will it grow back??? It's so thin on top I'm scared I'm going bald.

Hello! I'm 20.. I have had my boyfriend for 5 years. He has never really seen me fully naked standing up with the light on etc. I am 3 days post-op, and I was wondering if this ever gets better. I am young and I just don't want to spend the rest of my life so scared of my body. Also I am curious about excess skin. I have been told since I am young that my skin is more likely to not hang but that's not guaranteed. If my skin does hang, what can I do to fix that? Does lipo fix that or what? I know I am getting way ahead of myself but I guess I'm just curious and I've never found someone to talk to about all of this. Thanks

Hi all. So, cold winter and losing weight is AGING my face. My skin is dry and now that my face is getting thinner -- well -- hello wrinkles. Any suggestions??? Also experiencing dry itchy skin all over from tough winter. Do you have a fave body lotion? Thanks girls!!

Well, now that I'm down about 60 lbs. it was time to replace my old lingerie with new, more appropriately sized lingerie. The "girls" just were not happy hanging out in the old stuff, so I went shopping yesterday after work and got re-fitted for a new bra. The style I had been wearing for 2-3 years is no longer available so I had to find a new style. It never fails, find a style of something that you love and that is working for you and they always discontinue it sooner or later. Same with make-up, nail polish colors, Bath and Body Works scents. Can you relate?? Anyway, I'm very pleased with my new purchases, and so are the "girls." Next shopping trip will probab…

Hello ladies, So I had my surgery on the 9th of this month and I just got my period yesterday, but it's weird. The blood is a dark brown, kind of like the blood at the end of a period, and it's still that way today. The next part may be too TMI for some: anyway, I had a blood clot that was a normal size but it was very dark as well and kind of shriveled looking? It was odd. Nothing hurts or anything and I called my weight loss doctor who said it sounds normal, but if any symptoms come up to call my ob/gyn, but it's kind of creeping me out and I wanted to know if anyone has had anything similar. I was diagnosed with PCOS a while before surgery so I don't know if it'…

Is anyone experience a delay and or change in their period after surgery and if so how long did it take for your period to return to normal?

So, being fairly ignorant about such stuff, here's a question for the ladies: I am 5'5", now at 179lbs, and CANNOT FOR THE LIFE OF ME find things to fit. What to do? I am travelling in a month's time, and am stuck in that "in-between-world" (also known as never-never land) of plus sizes and misses sizes. I don't think I'll lose more than 5lbs in that month, as I am slowly losing at 1-2lbs per week. I really don't want to invest a lot of $$ right now, only to end up giving those clothes away. Any suggestions for clothing styles and brands that carry those styles would be much appreciated. The climate to where I am going is central Minnesota, where ANY weather can happen i…

So we all talked about how great it is being skinnier and healthier, or at least being on the way to a healthier life. We all know the benefits and at the end of the day we just want to be healthy. I am very happy I decided to get the RNY. I am losing steadily and I enjoy the journey, I cherish every pound I lose, and I would do it all over again in a New York Minute! However, and I know it will sound strange, sometimes I miss my fat... and a few things that came with it. 1. Food. I miss food. Yes, I know it was what broke me, and I am better off now, but I still miss eating large quantities. I miss big bowls of pastas and pizzas and rice, and I miss how I used to spend m…

Ladies, I'd love some input. I've been off of my birth control since I started my WLS journey back in mid january. I won't be back on it until a month post-op, which will be early to Mid-March. I've been on Ortho Tri-Cyclen (with a brief stint on Ortho Tri-Cyclen Lo) for going on about 9 years. It's gone swimmingly. I have regular, brief, tolerable periods, my skin feels clear, my moods are great. Since I've been off, it's been pretty hellish. Can't predict my cycle, off the charts moody, acne like a pre-teen. My question isn't about returning to it, because until it's family-making time in a few years, I'd like to stick to it. My PCP and my surgeon state that …

Hi all I have rny on the 15th and I was wondering how soon after I can have sex.

My husband and daughter run marathons. I occasionally walk a 5 k and I come in dead last most of the time, if not next to last. They are hard for me and I don't love them. My family runs ahead then circles back to find me and walk me to the finish. I feel very self conscious while doing it. I don't own a sports bra but you don't need them to walk. I am proud that I even did some (total of about 7) but it is hard coming in late. Well in October I am running my first 5k. I found a bra at Old Navy that actually is a sports bra and it fits (amazing). I am trying a program called couch25k. I am going to follow it religiously and this year I will run it and not feel …

Today, for the first time in years, I went shopping. At the mall. For clothes. For myself! It felt amazing to be able to fit into clothing that is sold locally and not have to order it online like a hermit. I tried on clothes, not circus tents, actual clothes! And I bought stuff, not just because it fit and I had no choice, but because I actually LIKED the way it looked. I know it's still early, but this is great motivation for me. I can't wait to see all the changes that are to come.

My surgery is scheduled for 4/23, I'm told to get off birth control for 2 weeks before surgery and 4 weeks after and I don't understand why? I take nuva-ring, (vaginally for 3 weeks in). I'm not sure how my hormones being regulated plays a role in VGS. This make me very nervous as do not want to get pregnant. Any suggestions?

Hi ladies, I'm just wondering how everyone's weight loss affected their marriage. Did it improve things? Make things worse? Did it bring forth issues that you didn't realize were there? Has anyone gotten divorced post-surgery?

I feel as if my pooch is getting bigger. I am doing everything right. Exercising and eating right. I started my journey Jan 28 225 lbs and I weighed in at 188 today. I can't seem to get passed 188. Please any help would be great.

Hi everybody, I hate to say this, because I feel like such a statistic, but I am going to have to divorce my husband. We've been married for almost 7 years. We've had our struggles, but it has turned into an abusive relationship that is escalating in violence. I have decided to leave. We don't have any kids. I honestly have tried to save this relationship with everything I could, but now it's time to go. The only problem is, I have no idea about the divorce process. I live in TN. Has anyone been through a divorce with no kids? We don't have a house or anything major to fight over besides maybe appliances. Is it possible to do it yourself without an attorney? Also, I'm …

I can understand fully that everyone has their type, everyone likes a certain kind of person. Some men are attracted to larger women, some like super skinny, some like in between. But this isn't even about that. I have noticed that last time I lost weight three years ago, I was right around this same weight, and suddenly men at my job who had ignored me were talking to me. I wasn't even aware that they ignored me, I guess I am a private person and I don't talk to everyone either. But out of the blue men who were friends with the people around me started to include me in their jokes or ask me questions or what have you. And now it is happening again. It isn't like they a…

Hello! I had surgery on 10/7/14 and have lost 50 lbs to date. Yeah hurray!. However, after being in menopause for at least 3 years, I found I've started my period again I'm only 51 yet wondering if I could really be getting my period back again and, if so, should I worry about pregnancy? Has anyone else got their period back after being post-menopausal?

Hello everyone! So right now I'm preop - if everything goes as planned I should be sleeved in May or June. So here's my dilemma - for the last 6 months, my periods have been out of control. For the first 4 months, I was off the pill, So in December, I decided to go back on the pill (I'm on low dose because of my hypertension) to see if that would help. It seems to have made it worse. This month I've been "red" for 9 days now...I've never had these kinds of issues. Not only am I "Seeing red" but I have cramps from hell and its like Niagara falls! Will this get better after surgery? It's making me miserable. Not only that, it's embarrassing at work to run to the bathro…

I'm weeks post op and my period is 10 days late. is this normal or should I worry that I'm pregnant?

I am having Surgery soon. I was wondering how much did your breasts shrink?Right now Im a 40 DD, I think I am bigger but for now they fit just fine. I have always thought besides my eyes that my breasts were the best assests of my body. I love my breasts and would not want them to get small. I know this is vain and that it really shouldnt matter but it does to me. Any advice on letting go or experiences on how your breasts changed sizes would be appreciated. Just a little back ground, when I was in HS and about 145 lbs I believe I was between a D and DD cup, not sure on the band size.

Hi All, I am basically at goal (actually 10 under my original goal), and am having fits finding the right bra. When I get measured and get the size they recommend once I put it on there is so much sag that there is extra fabric on top. My only solution so far has been a bra that is basically a workout style. If I knew where to go for a good fitting I'd do it, but up here they don't know anymore about measuring than I do! I'm thinking of trying a push up style just to solve the issue. Surgery isn't an option because I can't imagine insurance covering that! I'm 57, lost over 100 pounds, and my boobs were working models (three kids). Any suggestions?

While I am not a fan of romance novels, the sex scenes in the trailers for 50 Shades of Grey aroused my curiosity enough to see the movie today. There was a lot of sex and some scenes were rather erotic, but what's missing is foreplay. If you've seen the movie what did you think of it?

One of my girlfriends has been trim her whole life. Over the last year she put on quite a bit of weight. she is 5'7" and as a young woman, was one of those 100-115# chicks. Even as a post 60 year old, she was mostly in the 140s. She got up to like 180 in 2014 and has dieted down - yeah! Yesterday, she announced that she weighs 155, which is the same as what i weigh. She isn't back to where she wants to be but has made amazing progress and credits me for some diet coaching since it is a subject I have much expertise in... I had one of those..whoa, you are taller and 12 years older, I SHOULD weight less than you! She made me do a side by by side body comparison - …

Ok I'm just a few weeks post op and I don't know if it's the hormone changes or what but ???????????????? I feel like a 18 year old guy! And I was reading the guys thread (yes I know it's a no no) and they talk about better erections due to more blood flow... All I know is orgasms are way better. Also Quicker To achieve. This is tough because it's obvious my relationship is coming to an end. And now this!! ????gets rung !

I'm just over 1.5 years post-op, and down 130 pounds--25 to go until my goal. Anyways. I've recently started dating again, and have been asked out on some first dates. So far, I've either gone out for coffee or a drink, which hasn't been any big issue sleeve-wise. But a new guy asked me out to get dinner and I'm nervous. I don't want to be so up front as to tell him about my weight loss or surgery yet (I want to wait and see what happens), but he's obviously going to notice that I can only eat a small amount (probably smaller than what could be covered up by a "I'm just trying to cut back" excuse or something like that). My question is, has any one on here gone on dates p…

As I'm getting closer to goal and it's beginning to heat up here in Tx, I've been thinking about bathing suits. My boobs have completely deflated so I need a suit that pushes them up and out. Plus one that hides the extra tummy skin. I've been looking at Miracle suits, but many kind of look too old. Does anyone have a better idea where I can look for a good one piece suit? That does all the above plus looks a little sexy and up to date? Any suggestions would be appreciated

Hello! I am a new pre op member and had a question about fertility. I am scheduled for my sleeve 03/02 and was wondering about contraceptives. My significant other and I are currently 'gambling' in the protection dept, with minimal fear of conception. Due to my PCOS, I suffer from amenorrhea, so we aren't to concerned about me ovulating right now. I have read stories of women saying they are asked to not take their BCP weeks leading up to surgery because of the blood clot risk. Did any of you take other precautions if so what? When did you start it? Thank you in advance!

Okay, I'm just curious, if you weigh during your period do u weigh a couple pounds heavier than normal? I was always about 2-3 pounds heavier whenever I weighed before my surgery. Now, though, my diet has changed so much I wonder if it's still the same. I only weigh once a month, & it fell on my period this time.

After surgery I felt amazing I haven't felt like my stomach sticks out or anything but I don't know why but the last couple days I feel like I'm still 259lbs (im at 228 now) I was also starting to notice how my belly was lying flat but now ugh I'm just feeling upset and feel like I'm still big. Also as I'm writing this I realize my period is due sometime before the end of the month. Could it be that? I don't know I'm just feeling down right now. Also the scaled hasn't moved up so I know i haven't gain weight I'm just really bloated??

This is an actual text conversation I just had with my husband. We have been together just over 9 years: Me: if we venture out of the house for anything besides hockey this weekend, i need to buy a new bra Me: the band part of my work bra is just way too loose now and my boobs fall out the bottom Husband: I love you Me: aw Me: what inspired that? Me: certainly not my bra comments! Husband: "the band part of my work bra is just way too loose now and my boobs fall out the bottom" Husband: hehe Me: lol Husband: I'm just happy someone will talk to me about her boobs falling out of something. Me: that's all you needed in life? Husband: I'm all set now. Me: i'm glad i can p…

I'm doing my 2 week liquid diet abd I am having the worst gas stomach bubbling. I just feel horrible. When it kicks up then I usual get a headache. I'm thru much first week but Jesus I don't think I can keep this up. Im clearing rooms.

So... Ladies post op. I am having surgery on the 15th of july(YAY!). But the one thing on my mind is support. Not the human contact kind either... although I think my husband wouldn't mind the job. I need some advice on what to do for brassieres? I don't want to have to go out and buy a new bra every few weeks. I had thought of just getting a sports bra, but I hate the uni-boob look. So any and all advice would be helpful. What you did? how fast you lost your boobage? If you even lost that much? Thanks ladies!

Has any of you had a yeast infection before surgery? Mine is in 12 days and I'm considering taking one of my Diflucans just in case it is. Had anyone's dr not recommended Diflucan before surgery? Longshot I know but my doc is gone for a bit and I need to start this now for it to be done by surgery

Random question, but did you stop at your goal weight or continue losing weight? I didn't really have a goal weight set with my doctor, but have a goal set for myself. Saw a bariatric doctor after my surgery (different one, not my surgeon) and he said I would get to 120 lbs by the summer time. I'm at like 147 right now and have started receiving comments that I shouldn't lose more weight, and that I look too skinny :s I thought we lose weight until our body decides to stop? Like I still have extra fat on my stomach and etc. so I still have weight to lose Not sure if I'm making sense :/

Ok, so I am 1 year out and have now lost 107 lbs (Yay me!!!!) But along with all the loose skin I've noticed I've been queefing lately, and not during sex. ... am I alone?

I am extremely worried about my husband's health because: 1. He is only 28, but weighs close to 340 lbs 2. His health is starting to suffer (joint pain, fatigue, severe obstructive sleep apnea) 3. His job and all his hobbies are sedentary 4. Diabetes runs on both sides of his family 5. He is unable to do lightly active stuff like go to festivals because of the standing/walking I thought last summer would have been a wake up call to him. We went on a family vacation that required a light to moderate amount of walking and even though my husband and I were the youngest people on the trip he was the only one that had to keep stopping. Eventually he ended up having t…

Hi ladies, I haven't had the surgery done yet, i go next week. but I keep getting concerned with how the loose skin is gonna look btwn the stomach,the girls and other lady parts. Have any of you had any sort of plastic surgery procedures? And do tell what you had done (if ya Dont mind sharing) and the average cost for that procedure.

Ok I'm 2.5 years post op, I've never hit my goal weight. I have a belly and saggy boobs ( im only 29 ) I've been on 5 dates with a guy that im really falling for... We talk every night and I'm close to thinking I'm in love. I don't know when I should tell him about my surgery. i've intermittently been with guys since I had the surgery but nothing was serious so I just didn't care about it so I didn't tell him about the surgery. I also don't know how to bring that up into conversation. I am very self-conscious about my saggy stomach. I do not believe he will care because he has had physical issues in the past but I don't know how to handle the situation. tomorrow he …

I was suppose to start my cycle one week after my surgery... (Two weeks ago...) I seemed to have skipped it this month. I think it is due to all the chaos of surgery. Has this happened to anyone else?

Hello, had my surgery 02/03 and lucky me (not), I was on my period during my hospital stay (but no cramps bc of the pain meds). Not sure how I survived the pre-op diet and PMS but anyway... My period should come again early next month and now that I can't take ibuprofen for the pain I'm wondering what do you all take? Thanks!

I am 12-yrs post gastric bypass. Back in the day, we did not have a treatment team to help us succeed in our journey. My surgeon, Dr. Vishal Mehta, told me, "I do the surgery. The rest is up to you." I was so focused on transforming my physical self and learning healthy eating that I never did the work to transform my inner self. I didn't even know it was part of the process. I think it is an important part of our transformation that is often overlooked -- we don't find ourselves. So I've been exploring finding myself, which has led me on a spiritual path where I've learned to love myself and others unconditionally. And I've started to share those experiences through my…

So I've had date 3 with the really sweet guy and things are going well. And starting to get a little frisky. And, well, it may not be date 4 or 5 but if it continues to go this well I'm eventually going to have to get naked. And I'm ugly naked. I look like I'm half sharpei puppy. Saggy wrinkles everywhere!!! How am I EVER going to be able to do this?!?!?!? (He knows I've had the surgery, he knows how much I used to weigh, he knows I'm insecure and he's not pushing at all) I'm finally getting to where I like the me I see in the mirror with clothes on! That's huge! But man it gotta get over the naked insecurities.

Funny how when I was 340 lbs I didnt want my husband to see me naked and now at 155 I still dont. I finally showed him my belly this morning with the lights on... I just feel like I look good with my clothes on and then you unwrap me an I have hanging skin. Now I dont think it looks as bad as I have seen some look but am still self concious. I am still thrilled with my results but at my age of 45 I dont hold out much hope of my skin bouncing back. Too bad we cant donate extra skin to burn victims!! You cant.. I have researched it!!

Why is it so hard for me to cut him out of my life? I wasn't raised in an abusive situation. My parents were very kind to me although my siblings could be mean at times. We fought like normal siblings. I was a chubby kid and it hurt my self esteem, mostly the way it was handled. I admit I did have low self esteem. By the time I was in my 20s I had an eating disorder and my self worth revolved around men. I didn't value my looks although I was beautiful and I didn't have any self confidence when it came to men. I had several nice boyfriends but still ended up with a man who was withholding and controlling of me. I am struggling because verbal abuse is so gray area.…