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Hi All, I am 4 years out.... lost about 100 lbs... never reached my goal but feel so much better. Appetite returned and now it's sheer will power. Having dehydration issues even though I drink Water ALL DAY LONG! Seems to now be affecting my bladder..... ugh Anyone else ever deal with this?

There are a lot of changes I have noticed about my body since I have become slimmer. Some of them have freaked me out, but most of them I have become comfortable with. Feeling and seeing my ribs and my hip bones is still weird, but it is becoming normalized. If you have thin friends these things are normal to them and they take them for granted, so it isn't something you have a lot of people you can discuss it with. This blog post hits on 5 differences. Belly Button Hips Ribcage Collarbone Sternum http://fromfattofitgirl.com/what-people-who-successfully-lost-weight-are-hiding-from-you-5-alarming-things-about-your-new-fit-body/ …

I wanna go into Victoria Secrets and find out just what she's been hiding all these years!!! I want to wear pretty panties and bras, look in the mirror and not want to throw up!! Can you imagine - a "no roll zone!"

Hi ladies, my surgery is this week 12/15 and i just know im going to start my period either night before or day of [emoji849] ive had a few procedures and diff. Surgeries in the past 2 years and for every one of them my period came up to a week or 2 early on the day of procedure. I guess its some kind of stress response triggers hormone change ??‍♀️??‍♀️ also last month it was early and i got it exactly on nov. 15 so ive been dreading dealing with this huge life change, pain and healing in hospital with horrible period on the side. So my main question after probably too much info is will i be able to use tampons within hrs of postop or should i just resign myself to pads?…

Just had my GS surgery on 12/19/17 and went to bathroom and started bleeding bright blood. I haven't menstruated for 6 months..but this is very bright red blood not my normal cycle symptoms..is it possible to be bleeding from somewhere else?

So, I'm not sure who else to ask, I'm sexually active for the first time in four or so years. I'm down 168lbs. With that has come some fantastic loose skin on my arms, thighs, and "apron". The Issue I'm having is I have to "dig" past the extra skin when alone and help with my fella, he's a newish fella and we get along really well. I'm not quite a year out and do plan on having a tuck next summer, but will it help? I'm not sure how to talk about this issue because I don't know if the looseness there is now will tighten up. It feels like the skin on my lower half is all just hanging as low as gravity will let it including the parts covered in coarse hair. Has anyone els…

Were any of you ladies on your period during surgery? Got mine today and my day is Tuesday. My hospital has you completely naked under the gown, wonder how this will go down with the catheter and all.

I thought that losing weight would help with the boils I get on my inner thighs. They were pretty bad at my heaviest and after losing forty pounds they lessened greatly. Then all of a sudden they are back with a vengeance. What makes them worse is that they are no longer up near or in the folds of my upper thigh, but lower down where they show from my bathing suit shorts. They hurt like heck, rub in pants, shorts and the like and are simply miserable. Anyone have any ideas for dealing with them? My wls stated that it could be taken care of "later after more weight loss" meaning surgery. But until then...

Went to the Er last night in horrible pain! I have pcos I knew it was a cyst or two. Well I have several on both sides pretty large. My surgeons office called today and was on me about it. Letting me know I need to clear this up before surgery. Ugh I thought I had jumped through all my hoops and here is another one.

For those whose period stopped as a consequence of being obese. I had high prolactin levels before surgery (i have to wait 3 more months to get that checked again) How long after surgery did it take to get back to normal? Im almost three months post op and i haven’t gotten my period since long before surgery, my gynecologist wasn’t worried back then and still isn’t, my endocrinologist says it could take up to 6 months for the body to normalize, and then one of the doctors of the team where i got surgery thinks i should have gotten it already. I’m confused and a bit scared i’m only 26 and i plan on having children in the future.

Do I have to say TMI in a ladies forum? If so...TMI! Just a little venting. I've lost 95 pounds so far which is 51% toward my goal so I still have a ways to go before plastics would be recommended/wanted. I was expecting saggy skin and wasnt too concerned about it right away because I knew it was just part of this life. What I wasn't expecting was having SO much extra skin on and around my genitals! Theres at least 3 inches of excess skin on EACH side of EACH interior and exterior folds. That's 12 inches of extra skin around my vagina! Then there is literally a full hand-full of extra skin in the front pubic region. My bum around this area is saggy as well which is c…

Hi all! I'm doing a school project on bra designs. Can you all please help fill out this survey. It's only 11 Questions should take you no time. https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/Columbia_Business_School_Bra_Design_Survey Thanks so much!!!!

I highly doubt that my husband (who had gastric bypass last year) worried or even thought ahead to what clothes he was taking to the hospital to wear home. So I thought I would post this here, because ladies may care a little more about that comfort! What did you, or what will you, bring with you to the hospital to wear home? I'm still a month away from surgery and my mind goes everywhere right now, and this is where it has landed for the moment. Ha! I want something comfortable, that won't bother the incisions, that I can wear around the house in those first few days.

I’ve been using an app to track periods for the past few months. Everything was on track until this month when I started a week early. It’s been super heavy and this is gross but throwing huge clots. I’m trying to figure out if this is related to weight loss? I’m currently at the three month mark since surgery. Prior to surgery I had an iud which fell out during preop phase and I didn’t bother to get another one or go on the pill. Not sexually active, I’m on a self imposed hiatus lol. Anyone else experiencing heavy flow out of whack with your normal schedule? Trying to decide if I need to contact my gynie, my last pap was normal in July of this year. Thanks in advance f…

Do you all experience a stall during pms and/or your period? I had my first period exactly a month after my surgery but still lost weight. It’s now been 8 weeks since my surgery and, starting with my PMS, for a week and a half I neither gained nor lost weight until after my period was over. Before WLS this was a problem and I remember having the same issue when I did Weight Watchers with weekly weigh-ins. I tracked using MFP during this time and there wasn’t a huge change of food intake, although I ate a few crackers every day to deal with hormone-related nausea. I didn’t see an increase in calories. I worked out except for the four days of my period. I’m los…

I'm 7 weeks out from surgery and will have my second period since the surgery next week. I've noticed I'm very nauseous to the point that I only can eat broth and crackers. Can anyone relate to this? Are my PMS hormones going crazy now that I'm losing weight? For the record, I've ways had a regular cycle and PMS. I've just never had nausea this bad before. I really hope things even out in the future so I don't feel sick.

Sooo... since we obviously can't drown our sorrows and hormonal crazies in a tub of ice cream anymore once post op... please share your secrets for keeping it together?

Some people don't know what PCOS is, but it occurs a lot in overweight women. It is the number one reason for infertility. It is a set of symptoms due to elevated androgens (male hormones) in women. Symptoms: - Irregular periods - Heavy periods - Painful periods (usually excruciating pain that can occur in the lower abdomen, lower back, and down the legs) - Excess body hair (usually above the upper lip and chin) - Acne - Patches of thick, dark skin (usually on the back of the neck) - Infertility (hard time getting pregnant) My symptoms are: Irregular periods (sometimes I skip a month, and sometimes I can bleed for up to 2 weeks), heavy periods (the heaviness usually o…

Hey all, I'm 31, always struggled with a heavy period until I placed an IUD in about 2 yrs ago. My periods immediately stopped! At most I'd spot when I was on my lady time, which I honestly loved But yesterday, bam. Period. For the first time in 2 yrs. It caught me totally off guard. I know my doctor had said rapid weight loss led to high fertility, but I have my IUD so I wasn't worried Now I'm confused. Are the changes in my flow related to the surgery? Should I be worried about the placement of my IUD? And if I'm really so fertile, should I be worried about getting pregnant even with the IUD?

HI ladies, I'm just checking in....my period is driving me crazy. It started July 31, then I got my IUD on August 1. Period ended about 7th. Started very light spotting around the 20th. Got heavier with darker flow, and I thought it was about over when I had my surgery on Aug 25. It got lighter again, and just when I thought it was gone, it was back, like it had never happened. It's been going on ever since. I don't know when this will ever end!!! If this is TMI, I'm sorry. I'm going to my post-op appt tomorrow and will ask my surgeon if he knows what's going on.

I was on the bus home the other day and when we passed the high school I saw that they had a sign for Bay Path University. I've been wanting to go back to school and get my Bachelors (I have my Associate Degree) so I looked it up. They have a campus at the high school for their "One Day A Week" college. I talked to one of the Admission's peeps today and I filled out the online application. I even completed the financial aid paperwork, but I know I won't qualify. Luckily my work will reimburse me up to $6,000 a year for classes (as long as I get a "C" or better). The school even has a "deferred payment" program knowing that most jobs won't pay until after you get your…

Does anyone know if there's any connection between bypass and menstrual cramps? I had my bypass on March 13. This is my first period then and I am having the worst cramps I've ever had. Anyone experienced this? Or is it just a coincidence? Thank you

I've had the paragard IUD for a little over 2 years, I haven't had any problems with it this whole time. My first period after surgery was about a week after getting sleeved and it was like it has as always been, nothing out of the ordinary and after my cycle was over I checked my strings before me and hubby did it and I noticed I could feel the bottom part of my IUD coming out of my cervix [emoji30]. Has anyone had any problems like this or am I one of the unlucky few? Do you think it could be from rapid weight loss and the hormones or maybe from surgery with them blowing up the abdomen with gas? I don't know but anyways I'm getting it taken out tomorrow and having anoth…

I'm a week out today! I haven't eaten solids in 9 days. I feel like the world is going on without me. My entire old life is null and void at this point. I'm off work for a month due to healing and my lovely new liquids only diet. All my friends work. My unemployed roommate/bf goes on the same as always, eating everything in sight, and acting like it's no big deal. I feel like I can't go out with friends because I don't fit in their social life anymore. I can't go out for a bite, because I can't eat. I can't go shopping because I'm shrinking --it's a good thing. I'm not ready to walk miles like I used to. I feel so alone. NO one here understands. I don't know what I thoug…

Before surgery, my cup size was an DDD/E. I'm now down to a D and think I will probably go lower. My current sports bra is by Wacoal. I like it well enough, but would love to know more about your experiences with other brands. What do you like? What works? Any brand or style that you absolutely hated?

So, prior to my WLS, I struggled with infertility, I have PCOS, So, the doctor said it could be easier to get pregnant, but even skinny people with PCOS have problems. Well, 7 months after surgery, down about 75 lbs from my high weight, I go to the minute clinic for a lingering upper respiratory infection, and have the Duh Moment that I'm two weeks late... Well turns out I was pregnant, I freaked out, they said wait a minimum of 12 months... Oops, well, I was told quickly that I was going to miscarry, that I had a blighted ovum. (So, I'm preparing myself for my 3rd miscarriage), Well, my blighted ovum isn't a blighted ovum. I'm now about 9 weeks along, and baby is going g…

We're highly contemplating carrying the full line of Slimpressions body shapewear in the BariatricPal Store. I'm curious if any of our members have had experience using or wearing their products? How do they compare to Spanx? Why would you purchase Slimpressions over Spanx or other shapewear available in Walmart? Any feedback or information you can share with me would be greatly appreciated!

Hi ladies, I was sleeved 3 weeks ago. 1st period on the horizon. Since we cannot take NSAIDS for a while what are you using instead for those days that cramps are just unbearable? I was taking prescription strength Ibuprofen for the first 2-3 days along with non-traditional remedies. Tylenol just doesn't cut it for me. Tramadol makes me sick. What has been your experience? Thanks!! Band to VSG revision:5/23/17 HW: 315 Pre-op: 294 SW: 283 CW:268.7 GW: 175

I'm moving to Omaha and looking for an awesome friend who gets this lifestyle and needs a good friend! If your interested message me!and if you don't live in Omaha and just need a friend message me too!! Follow me on instagram: ashuleem88

Looking for female friends to get to know, chat with about surgery, support etc. eventually meet up! I don't have much support here and really could just use some good friends. Anyone else feeling this way?!

Call me crazy, but I am I the only one that feels like my weight loss has aged me 10 years in the past few months? It's like wrinkle city has suddenly appeared on my face, turkey neck, the whole thing. I'll take that over the fat, but I was not expecting this...at all

My confidence is way up since losing about 80 lbs, but I still feel like a deer in headlights in front of a camera. I've been avoiding them for so long I have no idea how to look good in photos! I guess this means I am not photogenic, but there must be something I can do to get a flattering photo of myself. I have only one picture taken with my 6 year old, and none with my toddler. I would really like to take some pictures with them. Any tips? TIA!

Has anyone else had trouble with UTIs since having their weight loss surgery? I was sleeved approx. 1 year ago and now suffer with these more frequently than ever. Someone mentioned to me it might be my alcohol intake, another one said not enough water. Thoughts?

How in the world is it possible to lose 70 pounds and none of it came from boobies. 46G pre-op. 38 G 4 months later!! When I hit Goal, these puppies are going!! 30 more pounds!

So, I am nine weeks pregnant with our 2nd baby. I had my first before surgery. I am now a little over 2 years post-op. I have been below my goal weight for over a year. Before I got pregnant I was running 5 to 10 miles 4 days a week, zumba one day a week, and weight lifting 2 days a week. I had some spotting at 7 weeks and my doctor banned me from running at least until 2nd trimester. I also cannot lift heavy weights. I literally ran a half marathon at my best pace every 4 days before I found out I was pregnant. I have been walking and using light weights, but it is so hard for me to "rest". I have not gained any weight yet but my NUT wants me to gain at least …

I wanted to get a goal outfit and realized I don't even know where normal sized women my age shop?! My 30 something friends are plus sized and my 20 something friends buy dresses so short I considered getting one as a shirt. I like girly, slightly bohemian style, similar to anthropologie. But nothing really jumped out at me on their website. Any other suggestions? Thanks!

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Hello! I am new to this site. I just weaned my second and last child and really need to lose weight. I want to have energy for my kids and be healthy and around for a long time for them (two boys, ages 3 and 1). I am contemplating my options and am strongly considering gastric sleeve. My BMI is 35, but I have chronic hypertension and had gestational diabetes during both pregnancies so my risk for Type 2 is very high. My husband had the gastric sleeve procedure done nearly 2 years ago and he looks great and feels even better. He has tons of energy and said his only regret is that he didn’t do it sooner. He said he went through a mourning period knowing that he coul…

Anyone here have a thyroidectomy after surgery? I had my VSG in 2/2024 and had a total thyroid ectomy in October 2014 due to cancer. Wondering how you are doing with weight loss or weight maintenance?

And ordered these Vera Bradley pajamas during a recent clearance sale. I didn't even have a surgery date, but putchased them in the largest size available, hoping they'd fit come this fall/winter. They arrived in the mail today. I also got my surgery date today: 5/22!!!!! These are a size 12/14 and I'm currently in a 22/24. Hoping I can wear them by Christmas Eve, at my family's annual brunch (we all wear pajamas as a tradition). I have 7 months to make that happen! [emoji4] Sent from my SM-G930P using BariatricPal mobile app

Silly, vanity post. Read at your own risk. I've always had a dream that I could have mermaid hair. I'm not referring to the multi-colors that have become trendy over the last couple years. I'm referring to the length and waves. Here is an example of what I mean by mermaid hair: http://kristinaludwig.com/ludwig/wp-content/uploads/2014/12/Mermaid-mermaids-15836666-1024-768.jpg My hair is already to my boobs, so I'm good there. It is naturally wavy and thick. However, I need it to be just a little bit wavier to achieve my vision of mermaid hair. I read a post previously where someone's hair grew back very curly after the loss, whereas it was straight before. My…

Hi! I absolutely adore the Lane Bryant T3 straight leg, bootcut, and flair jeans that they carry. I wear those jeans from sizes 22, currently in a 16, and bought on sale over the Black Friday sales the 14s, but once I am out of those sizes (yay!), what brand is comparable? I love the tummy support, stretch, and softness of the T3 line of jeans. Has anyone found a brand/cut that is comparable to point me towards? I don't do skinny jeans -- way too much cellulite to ever look good in them, but the LB T3 straights fit me like a skinny jeans, without sucking me in like a sausage. Thanks!

So I have coworker who is quite lovely, but since she lost a lot of weight she sometimes forgets to wear pants to work. Today was one of those days, and it occurred to me while we were engaging in a fan vs. space heater battle that she has no idea where or how to shop for her new body...and that I probably won't either! I've been shopping in plus size stores or online as far back as I can remember and don't even know what's out there. If you've gotten out of the "plus" world, what are your favorite stores? If you haven't, is there someplace in particular that you're itching to be able to shop at?

OK, I'm looking for a great bra 34C (that can do magic, preferably, lol) within my price range. Hopefully less than $30, preferably less than $20 so I can get more than one. A bra that can make empty wind socks look round-ish, separate and stay in place. Features that I'm looking for: ecapsulation, no uniboob separation underwire light padding hook & eye back closure adjustable straps compression & no bounce firm support not stretchy

Ok, This is my first post and of course it's a great question.. Has anyone experienced dryness before/during sex? I have NEVER had this issue before surgery. I had a full gyn work-up 2 month before surgery, so I know I am all good. I have lost 38 lbs in 4 weeks. I am feeling great. My sex drive is back to pre-weight gain status,lol. I am just having some lubricating issues. I am having a tough time 'getting warmed up' and staying that way. I have used lube in the past (after a very amorous few days, I needed it. My fiancee' and I are very 'active') I feel excited, but my nether regions are not reacting as they did pre-surgery. I am hoping someone else has some insight…

So I had surgery this past nov, only lost 20lbs so far but things are starting to look up (FINALLY!). Anyway Out of nowhere one of my old bffs, hits me up. Says hes been looking for me everywhere and missed me so much! I was happy We started texting and then talking the past 3days. The thing is, hes married! He got married this year because last year she got preg after dating for 3months, and now he has a kid. It was nice to hear from him, my old bff who I was supperrr close to! congradulated him on the baby an all that. But anyway..hes been super flirty an its getting a little weird. I've made hints like, I don't think your wife would appreciate that and blah blah blah.…

Anyone ever get a spray tan while fat or with loose skin? Did you have to lift your skin up for the technician? I don't know why I have anxiety about getting a spray tan right now but figured this is the right place to ask!

okay, my build is kinda skinny butt, top heavy by nature. Wearing jeans, it is fine but I just bought a daring new outfit - which I love, except it makes my butt look even flatter and skinnier than it it is! This is the item, I got it for a song on their clearance rack: https://www.whitehouseblackmarket.com/store/product/Lattice+Neck+Jumpsuit/570147604 Never in my life have I been able to wear a jumper (pant type) because I always looked like a barrel in anything like this! It is a classy looking outfit and I think it is very flattering - except it makes my butt look even flatter than it is. Because it drapes, it does tend to hide the top/bottom size difference (…

Okay so after having maybe 2 light periods a year for the last 7 years thanks to the weight gain and PCOS, I have had a period the last 3 months. First month was pretty 'normal', last month was SUPER heavy, and this month has been pretty heavy as well. I've noticed last month and this month that I'm very, VERY drained and tired, and very spacey. I feel very out of it, and like I'm a walking zombie. My blood tests have all been normal since surgery (the last were done 5 months ago, though, so I ordered new ones). I'm fearing that I'm now experiencing iron-deficiency anemia due to these heavy periods. While yes I'm going to speak with my doctor about it and have the blood t…

I been attacking my husband everyday a few times in a role. I go out to buy or get something & I'm calling him on the phone just so we can have sex. If he's not around I have a personal"toy".. I seem not to get enough. If he's done here I go again. I can't get sex out of my mind. Is it age just turn 34 it is losing all this weight?