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Hello all, I’m William and I had RNY Gastric Bypass on April 5, 2012. Since then I’ve lost 186 lbs and went from a 56 waist to a 34 waist.

Just wanted to say Hi All! I'm new to this app and to the Bariatric journey. I'm still in process of trying to get my sleeve. Hoping it happens this summer! I joined here in hopes of making friends and support from those that "get it" any and all advice/suggestions are more than welcome! Sent from my SM-G955U using BariatricPal mobile app

Ok, I understand if you laugh. LOL. I'm the old fart who's just learned about the wonders of The YouTube. LOL. And after many years away -- during which time FB moved on and broke up with me and changed...I'm now trying to get into the Bariatric Pal Group and I'm completely bamboozled! If anyone can or wants to help, I'd appreciate it! I joined the group--answered the 3 magic questions and joined. I got my email confirmation and clicked on the helpful "Visit Group" link in the email. And this is what I see. The group is not showing up in my Groups area. And the posts from the groups are not showing up in my personal feed. What on earth am I doing…

First of all, I tried to post this in the Powder Room, but I got an error message. I'm not shy, so I really don't care who responds. I used search and didn't really find an answer. After RNY, I've heard there can be bowel issues. Would any of these issues cause problems for anal sex? I'm not worried so much about just the act, but I'm wondering if things there get volatile so that if he comes there, would it trigger an issue? This is not something we do regularly, but once in a while it's a nice way to spice things up. I'm hoping my new plumbing won't take that away.

OK, I am watching MI-2 -- Tom Cruise is 2 years older than me or my husband but he NEVER AGES! What is up with this -- seriously!!! This movie was made 18 years ago, when we were 36-38 YOs. Last week we watched Made in America and TC looked YOUNGER than in the more recent movie. Damn, I want to be a movie star!!

I honestly entertain myself Today, in the car, I was putting makeup on before going inside this building. And ladies, you know how you'll put concealer under your eyes or on diff areas of your face to "sit" , and dry before blending. Maybe 5 min or 10, whatever. Right? Anyways, so I was doing that. Finished doing other areas of my face and realized, I was going to be late. Got out of my car and went inside. Several different guys were looking deeply into my eyes, as I passed by them in their seats. I thought "Hmm. Wonder why are they looking at me so intently. I'm not even made up really cute today.Strange" Then I thought to myself: Jo, duh, it's your per…

Has anyone ever left their surgeon post-op because they were extremely rude? I left mine after I went in with pain. My pain was completely dismissed and because I had gained 20 lbs back after 4 years, he screamed at me for messing up his surgery. Then he stormed out of the room and told me not to come back until I had lost that weight. Completely non professional and a jerk.  9 yrs. out

For all of you who live or travel through Selfieville, can you answer a question, por favor? What is it with fish lips? Why does it seem like most women pose with fish lips? Is it an unspoken rule of Selfieville that 80% of any selfie taken while in Selfieville must contain at least one person with a sultry, come-hither glance and fish lips? Or are they a condition that just naturally occurs when you hit the Selfieville county line? TIA and can't wait to hear!!! ****** This post humbly sponsored by Marvin Gaye: Let's Get It On Sexual Healing

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It was an encouraging thing to hear a message from my paster about his own personal weight and gluttony struggles. The message centered around 'do you want to be made whole' the example of many given when we go to the ER or hospital outside there are those with an IV pole, smoking with an oxygen mask. The obvious is they want healing but not wholeness. He was convicted by God about his weight when various health issues came crashing down on him. He elected to have a gastric bypass done a year ago. None but a few in the congregation knew. As Jesus said to the man at the pool, 'do you want to be made whole' who'd been sitting there for 38 years. He took up his mat…

So, I've read posts where people said they had sex at a couple days post op. One post I read said they did it while patient was still in the hospital. I have a very healthy (or maybe even so high it's unhealthy) sexual appetite. I could go at it all day most every day. Today is day 4 post op, and while the idea of certain favors does greatly appeal to me in my head, my body would disagree. And I have had a pretty good recovery. Nearly no pain at all. Zero pain meds since the day after surgery. But intercourse??? No way! Now, I could give him pleasure, but that's about it. So, I'm calling bs. I'd say "Pics or it didn't happen," but I don't think that's allowed.…

I've been looking to make more friends. Been separated for a long time, down 101 pounds with 39 to go...have my self confidence back, and want to meet women or a nice woman to spend time with. It's been 18 years since I've been in this "game" and am getting discouraged. Wanting to meet for things like walking/hiking, meet for coffee, maybe go to movies, etc. Here's my dilemma. What's with this sexting crap? I mean if I were in a committed relationship and we wanted to flirt with some pictures maybe that's one thing. But just meeting someone over the internet and never in person yet, and the next thing you know you've gone from getting regular face pics to naked pict…

Well? Has anyone seen this episode! Aired 2/28 I think! Bless Dr Nowzardan for all he does trying to help the super morbidly obese. I’m sure it’s frustrating at times but rewarding when he sees someone succeed and get their life back.

Am I the only one watching this tonight? I'll also tune in to tomorrow's hockey game USA vs Russia

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So I think we can all agree, we need more content. More people posting!!! More! More!

I find a lot of names on here interesting and I'm sure there are good stories behind how everyone chose them. Anyone like to share? For me, Kindle is my horse's name and she was the "straw that broke the camel's back" in my decision to have VSG. I feel bad for her, having to lug my fat ass around the mountains and would love to be able to hop on her without having to find a rock or log to climb up on. (there's a dozen other reasons behind my decision, but my profile name is my tribute to her and how much more fun we will have next summer!)

This stuff is serious. The changes we're making are serious. I've read about so many people loosing it because they can't handle the seriousness of it all. So many of the threads in here are replete with seriousness... Where's the humor? The therapeutic, easing, making-this-heavy-****-easier-to-handle, humor? Where's it at?! Certainly not a central theme in these threads, as far as I've seen in my short time perusing them. I'd appreciate more. Maybe not everyone would. I would. Going through a bout of head hunger? Try cocaine! (Hahhhahha) Seriously thinking about eating cheeseburger two days post surgery? Oh, my god, the opportunities! And wh…

...is that I will be at a distinct disadvantage during the zombie Apocalypse. What was I thinking?! I'll have to double my prepping efforts.

I find myself noticing others who might benefit from knowing more about bariatric surgery. I have kept my mouth shut thus far but it's getting harder when I see struggling,and our of breath young people. I want to tell them there is hope and answer, but in their place(where I was until I started my journey) would I have accepted a gentle suggestion? I have found 2 acqaintances who are post surgery but they didn't tell me of their plans. I'm afraid I asked one if she'd had cancer- well she was thinner and so was her hair- how was I gonna think? She is looking better now cause her is thickening back up, and most important she feels better about herself. Sent from my VS880PP…

Two things actually: 1. What apps can you recommend for tracking weight loss; 2. What apps can you recommend for a food diary. Or is there one app that does both? Thanks in advance. Candy

My op is not for 2 months, but I want to start setting up a practical joke on everyone I know. If you have any ideas, please post them. My main Target is my ultrafitness-centered brother who measures his bmi and fat content to at least 0.1%, and my fitness oriented brother and my personal trainer sister in law. Only people that know about my surgery are my parents. And they will be in on the joke. My mother will call my brothers with great concern about my weight loss and obsession with medicine balls. She will be concern that I have been unhealthy, possibly bolemia, and suffering from OCD and my medicine ball use is worse than the local teenagers and their skateboard r…

I'm pre surg and already driving my family crazy complaining I'm cold. Doesn't help I live in the Midwest but my usual outfit now is a sweatsuit, will I be wearing thermal undies once I lose more insulating fat? I'm widowed so I don't have a snuggly hubby to curl up with maybe I should invest in an electric blanket? Help! Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

Holy cow. So sad about this! He was 3 years younger than my dad when he died. I will miss him, but am thankful for his incredible music. Mr. Fluffy and I walk to Tom Petty tunes every day! Me=sad monkey. Any other Petty fans out there?

Since I'm a pre-surg noob and can't post to your Veterans forum, I just want to say thank you to each and every one of you for answering thousands of questions from us newbies! Thank you for sharing your journeys through the ups and downs. Thank you for giving me (I'm not gonna speak for anyone else lol), the opportunity to witness your scale and NS victories. I've learned and will continue to learn so much from your challenges and journeys. You wouldn't even believe! I hope one day to be able to pay it forward to others. And I really, truly hope that I'm now mature enough to learn from your experience, without having to reinvent the wheel through personal trial and …

I've had a c pap machine for about 6 weeks; things were fine in the beginning but I find myself rebelling against it and on a couple nights took it off,in the middle of the night. It probably doesn't help that I've got a head cold right now. Help. Sent from my VS880PP using BariatricPal mobile app

Today makes 4 weeks since my VSG surgery The "average" is 15-25 in weight loss. I've lost 16 pounds as of today, but most of that weight was in the first two weeks. A stall for the most part this past two weeks. Depressing. But what can I do? I've already had the surgery, I'm doing everything I'm supposed to do. And I am working out. Total weight loss Preop diet = 23 pounds Weight loss since surgery=16 pounds Total weight loss 39 pounds (Since Nov 27) (Kelle did the best she could with getting full length pics of me today. But the sun was her competition ) The bright side. If I didn't lose another single pound, I still lost 39 poun…

Not sure where to post this but... I didn't have any mobility issues till after surgery. I mean it's temporary but still messing with my head. I never had problems showering or walking before. To make matters worse, my daughter has been at her grandparents house. They planned a vacation and my daughter wants nothing to do with me. I missed her so much though. I know I'm being overdramatic but damn. I'm on Oxys for pain but I've been having horrific nightmares since! Like I'm actually depressed. Really depressed. I take pills for it but they're not even working. Damn [emoji17]

C'mon we all know some, I'll start. I asked my friend to help me with a math problem. He said: “Don’t worry; this is a piece of cake.” I said: “No, it’s a math problem.”

So I have this guy friend who I'm kinda into... I have this notion in my head that after I finish my journey he may decide I'm worth dating at that point. And all though I'm really fond of him and love our conversations, and think he's amazing... but I don't think I would be into dating him after this. I'm probably living in a fantasy world but I'm wondering if any of you had dealt with this and how you handled it. Did you end up together and you're currently living happily ever after or did you tell them to eff off because they were shallow when you were bigger? I do know for sure I'm not interested in anything serious until after my surgery.

Thanks for the update. I hate you. You've officially exhausted me in the first 5 minutes of the update with the continuous slow loading pages. Thanks for changing my life... ... (still waiting) QUIT JAMMIN' ME, MAN! (take back Mo-zill-a!) Disgruntled in Texas, Fluffy

I thought it would be good to have a thread for the senior set to help encourage each other during our journey. I'll start: My name is Candy - I kid you not - and I'm 64. I have my orientation with Kaiser on 1/6/18 with a phone appointment with a surgeon the next week, 1/13/18. I'm very excited to start my wls journey. I'm 5'7", current weight 220, BMI 34.5. I have degenerative disc disease exacerbated by my weight. I also have GERD, general arthritis, costochondritis (inflammation of the rib joints in my chest), arthritis at the site of back surgery, Type 2 diabetes, peripheral neuropathy in my feet. There could be more but that's all I can think of at the moment. Let me…

Dear Santa, I've been a very good girl this year. A pretty good girl most of the time. I've just been so-so lately. I'm working on being good today. (Nah, not really...) Crap, Santa!!!! Being good isn't all it's cracked up to be! I'm shittin' bricks over here waitin' for you to come and worried you won't! Could you please bring me the following? 1. A "smacks head" emoji. 2. A unicorn emoji--cuz come on, doesn't everyone need a unicorn emoji? 3. A rainbow emoji. Well hell! It goes along with the unicorn right? 4. A "party hat with horn" emoji for those moments you want to tell everyone to enjoy the party. (Because it might get m…

So Saturday we got about 4 - 5 inches of snow in Detroit. Today we are supposed to get another 4 - 6 inches. I need to retire and move South for the winters. LOL. Everyone be safe shoveling (if you live in an area that gets snow) and try to stay warm (I know that it is hard to do after WLS).

I was surfing the internet when I came across this weight loss chart. So far I have lost the weight of a new born calf. Your weight loss = 1 pound = a Guinea Pig 1.5 pounds = a dozen Krispy Kreme glazed donuts 2 pounds = a rack of baby back ribs 3 pounds = an average human brain 4 pounds = an ostrich egg 5 pounds = a Chihuahua 6 pounds = a human skin 7.5 pounds = an average newborn 8 pounds = a human head 10 pounds= chemical additives an American consumes each year 11 pounds = an average housecat 12 pounds = a Bald Eagle 15 pounds = 10 dozen large eggs 16 pounds = a sperm whale's brain 20 pounds = an automobile tire 23 pounds = amount…

I hope everyone has a great day. Remember, it's not about the food. It's about Christ's birth. Merry Christmas to all! Sent from my SM-G920T using BariatricPal mobile app Candy

Hi everyone.... I've been trying since I signed up to change my stats that show here in my profile... the highest weight, current weight, etc... and I just can't tell where to change that info. On 'edit my profile' I only can edit certain things, but not those. Can someone help? The stats are wrong, including my HW (which shows an incorrect weight)... just frustrated. Any help with this would be awesome. Thanks so much in advance.

I was watching some you tube videos and came across a young man that lost all the weight. He was talking about that now that he is thin he would never date anyone that was overweight because he was not looking at going back to where he was an an overweight person would only drag him down. Now i am not thin My journey just started however if i were ever to get thin i would hope that i dont turn into some of the people that make fun of me now. However i also see his point of view only about the being healthy. What do you guys think do our minds really change that much that we forget who we once were? Or is it all in oneself? Sent from my SM-G920P using the BariatricPal A…

My orientation is on Tuesday, January 9th with a phone appointment with my surgeon a week later, January 16th. It's beginning!!! I'm so excited. I plan on posting something after each point in the process. Candy

I'm a ways away from this decision but would appreciate responses as to what surgery you choose and the reason why. I'm leaning towards gasric bypass but would like to know what everyone did. Thanks in advance! Candy

My sister has been trying to get me to tune into this show for a year now. Anyone watching this show? I'm only on Season 1 Episode 4--but right now, it makes me very uncomfortable to watch it. I can so relate to the character, Kate...and watching her storyline, really brings things home for me. I also kinda picture my sissy watching the show and thinking that Kate reminds her of me. Anyone else experience this?

Hi, everyone. My name is Candy and I've just become a member. I've been struggling with my weight all my life but it's been worse after I had back surgery around 10 years ago. I have chronic back pain, costochondritis (arthritis in the chest ribs), diagnosed degenerative disc disease, Type 2 diabetes, arthritis in the body back at the incision site for my surgery. There's more but I don't want to take up everyone's time listing it all. My primary doctor at Kaiser finally agreed to refer me to the bariatric department. I haven't had my first appointment yet but feel relief from the referral. I plan on being a regular on the board, especially once I'm seen…

Hey guys and girls.. I'm new to this site.. Started my journey July 12,2017. I'm on the 6 month supervised dieting before surgery and Ive got 3 months left before surgery.. My starting weight 321 I'm down to 292.. I'm from Arkansas and looking for new friends in baratric world.. Support.. I'm doing the duodenal switch in late December or early January Sent from my LG-K540 using BariatricPal mobile app

I haven't had my surgery yet. It's in December. But last night my partner got all upset and said that she thinks I am going to find someone new after surgery. We had this discussion months ago that she was okay with it and not worried and eased all the concerns she had. Or I thought I had. I have no intention of finding anyone else. I am doing this for me and no one else. Also she pointed out that just because I will be changing my lifestyle she is not going to change. It's pretty much the opposite of what we had discussed. Before she said she wanted to eat healthier and be more active also. I'm frustrated and feeling like she has no trust or faith in me.. I also feel lik…

So how did your relationship change after WLS? I hear so many horror stories. I do worry that my significant other and I will drift because of this new life style and me wanting to be more active and other things that seem to change after wls.

I attended a WLS support group meeting with other bypass patients and a story was relayed to me by a man who had a long time gf which ended after the WLS because she couldn't handle the saggy skin. Not just this once but 4 other times since his surgery more than 2 years ago has he had women stop seeing him because of his appearance without clothing. One woman went so far as to tell him that when they met he looked great but it was like "false advertising" after getting to the intimacy phase (I know, I would have knocked the outta her too) So yes we all know this is beyond shallow but hearing this man tell it, I would imagine there may be others out there who have experi…

I live in Michigan and even though it was a pretty easy winter for us I was still cold all winter. Both of my daughter's bought me smaller fleece sleep pants for Christmas (mediums which are a little big on me now) and I wear them every night. Now that the weather has been getting warmer my wife asked me if I had any sleep pants that were not fleece. I said sure I do but the fleece ones keep me warm. So last night I decided to dig out the non fleece sleep pants and wear a pair to bed. The first pair I took out were X-Large and putting them on made me feel like MC Hammer. All the others were X-Large or large and are way too big on me. I guess I need to go to the store and …

Hello!! I just joined the site I have my intro seminar on Aug 4th YAYYY!! So needless to say I am just now starting my WLS Journey!

Hey guys and girls.. I'm new to this site.. Started my journey July 12,2017. I'm on the 6 month supervised dieting before surgery and Ive got 3 months left before surgery.. My starting weight 321 I'm down to 292.. I'm from Arkansas and looking for new friends in baratric world.. Support.. I'm doing the duodenal switch in late December or early January Sent from my LG-K540 using BariatricPal mobile app