I've been looking to make more friends. Been separated for a long time, down 101 pounds with 39 to go...have my self confidence back, and want to meet women or a nice woman to spend time with. It's been 18 years since I've been in this "game" and am getting discouraged.

Wanting to meet for things like walking/hiking, meet for coffee, maybe go to movies, etc.

Here's my dilemma. What's with this sexting crap? I mean if I were in a committed relationship and we wanted to flirt with some pictures maybe that's one thing. But just meeting someone over the internet and never in person yet, and the next thing you know you've gone from getting regular face pics to naked pictures on your phone?!?

I know some of you would not mind this but that's not me or what I'm looking for. I genuinely want to become friends with someone by spending time together.

Are there still people out there like me or is everyone just looking for a hookup?

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336Mike tell Jenn1.[emoji12] better Magic than Tragic[emoji12][emoji12][emoji12]

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@336Mike Or should we call you Magic Mike now...[emoji3]
Back then hoes didn't want me, now I'm hot hoes all on me
Back then hoes didn't want me, now I'm hot hoes all on me, I said
Back then hoes didn't want me, now I'm hot hoes all on me
Back then hoes didn't want me, now I'm hot hoes all on me, I said

@jenn1 You're killing me!! Haha!! Keep 'em away!!!! [emoji44]

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336Mike tell Jenn1.[emoji12] better Magic than Tragic[emoji12][emoji12][emoji12]

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Haha!! [emoji23] True!

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I’m with you. It’s annoying. The second that “send me a pic” txt comes, I block. Gross. What happened to conversation??!

20 hours ago, mandiejo said:

I’m with you. It’s annoying. The second that “send me a pic” txt comes, I block. Gross. What happened to conversation??!

I'm kind of on the other side of this. I post pictures on my profile. When someone without a picture gets in touch and starts a conversation, I kind of want to see a face. I have no idea if the person I'm talking to is someone I'd ever be attracted to, on the one hand, or, in fact, if he's a real person or a scammer. A picture helps answer those questions. Looks aren't everything, but they are one of the things.

I’m putting in my two cents: plentyoffish.com - I was a widow (lost my husband of 31 years to the big C back in 2007). By 2009 I felt that I didn’t want to be alone anymore so I heard about POF and tried it out. Yes, I met men who were only looking for a hookup, but ultimately I met a widower who lost his wife back in 2006. We have been together since 2009 and we are in a committed relationship. Neither one of us wanted to remarry. I moved in with him in 2013.

I’m putting in my two cents: plentyoffish.com - I was a widow (lost my husband of 31 years to the big C back in 2007). By 2009 I felt that I didn’t want to be alone anymore so I heard about POF and tried it out. Yes, I met men who were only looking for a hookup, but ultimately I met a widower who lost his wife back in 2006. We have been together since 2009 and we are in a committed relationship. Neither one of us wanted to remarry. I moved in with him in 2013.

There is hope! Thanks for sharing.

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@336Mike google contra dancing in NC.

http://www.contradancelinks.com/schedule_NC.html

The people are all very genuine and it is great exercise, always done to live musicians - not at bars - and they teach it before the dancing starts. You don't have to take a partner - everyone dances with each other, and it is traditional to ask a different person for each dance.

And in the same vein, clogging or square dancing. My aunt and uncle were in a square dance club, my cousins tagged along as did I often. We saw our relatives doing it, we organized,our own junior division, a bunch of pre-teens and teenagers and we go pretty dog-gone good at it. I know the best cloggers are from the Carolinas and Georgia, one of the square dancers was from the upstate NC mountain area so we kids learned to do it too. Betcha if you ever came to Ohio I could drag my arthritic old self up and show you how it's done! It's fun and it do burn up them calories!

PS ---Late hubby and I seldom danced together, why? Danged fool,was a slow dancer, I did the more athletic ones, besides I tended to lead, well when I practiced with my girl friends I was always taller and learned to lead then. So we wrestled to a standstill in the middle of a dance floor, suspect he didn't enjoy it, knew I didn't. I enjoy dancing by myself instead of pairing off And he refused to square dance. Ah well, his loss!

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@kakatlady612 (shhhh I'm a square dancer too. I like to get them hooked first with contra because it only has about 12 basic calls and once they realize how much FUN it really is.....and WOMEN LOVE TO DANCE)

@sosewsue61@kakatlady612
I used to go dancing way back when. That's how I met my now ex. Maybe I should give some kind of dancing a try. You never know...

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Alright y'all. I went out Friday and Saturday night to see some local bands and had a great time. This'll be a go to activity for me every once in a while.

Met some nice people and can't believe how many woman were flirting with me. [emoji50] One even bought me a drink...that has never happened before. I was kind of embarrassed at first but then felt like hey, I'll just go with it. Not used to that kind of attention. It was a great time out both nights. Here's some funny ladies I met.


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You are now officially a resurrected stud muffin. Now that you've made it back on the relationship pony keep riding. Proud as if I were your mamma, okay aunt. That's me- Auntie Frust8, got a ring to it!

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Lol. Thanks!

VSG 10/11/17 HW= 360 SW= 292 CW= 224 GW= 220 (6'5") [emoji256]

Look at you with two!!! Cheers to a great weekend for you!