I've been looking to make more friends. Been separated for a long time, down 101 pounds with 39 to go...have my self confidence back, and want to meet women or a nice woman to spend time with. It's been 18 years since I've been in this "game" and am getting discouraged.

Wanting to meet for things like walking/hiking, meet for coffee, maybe go to movies, etc.

Here's my dilemma. What's with this sexting crap? I mean if I were in a committed relationship and we wanted to flirt with some pictures maybe that's one thing. But just meeting someone over the internet and never in person yet, and the next thing you know you've gone from getting regular face pics to naked pictures on your phone?!?

I know some of you would not mind this but that's not me or what I'm looking for. I genuinely want to become friends with someone by spending time together.

Are there still people out there like me or is everyone just looking for a hookup?

VSG 10/11/17 HW = 360 SW = 292 CW = 259 GW = 220 (6'5")

Intimacy on the internet moves at light speed.

Trust is impossible.

You know what I hate worse than d**k pix? Guys who can't communicate. If a brilliant conversationalist who makes me laugh wants to show me his parts...I might just want a peek. Yep, i'm bad.
But you've gotta pay to play that game. You need erotic writing skill. You need a mastery of language. You need the ability to completely capture my mind....before I want anything to do with your naughty bits.
And I don't just mean the ability to talk dirty. We need commonality, similar values, similar politics, similar creativity and twisted humor, compassion, intelligence, emotional intelligence.
Yep, I've got a LOT of tough criteria. But if the guy fits THAT bill? They can send me all the skin shots they want. But not one minute before.
If a boring guy sends me a shot of his junk, I use paint to make a weird cartoon out of it and send it back. Then, I delete them. That kinda stuff should never be a surprise.

Well said.

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One thing I’ve started to do when a guy sends me his junk... is to send one back... and be like “oh I thought we were comparing”

hey dude

"the times they are a changing!!"

SEXTING???? say whattttt???

are you kidding me!!

i would forget the smart phones, computers

trying to meet someone.

old but true - maybe a friend could introduce

you to someone, maybe meeting someone at

the library (they are reading WLS books by

@Alex Brecher meeting someone at the

grocery store. you pretend to be all dumb

and perplexed over which cereal to buy!!

fingers crossed for you!!!whole big world

of people waiting to meet you.

good luck

kathy

I've been looking to make more friends. Been separated for a long time, down 101 pounds with 39 to go...have my self confidence back, and want to meet women or a nice woman to spend time with. It's been 18 years since I've been in this "game" and am getting discouraged.
Wanting to meet for things like walking/hiking, meet for coffee, maybe go to movies, etc.
Here's my dilemma. What's with this sexting crap? I mean if I were in a committed relationship and we wanted to flirt with some pictures maybe that's one thing. But just meeting someone over the internet and never in person yet, and the next thing you know you've gone from getting regular face pics to naked pictures on your phone?!?
I know some of you would not mind this but that's not me or what I'm looking for. I genuinely want to become friends with someone by spending time together.
Are there still people out there like me or is everyone just looking for a hookup?
VSG 10/11/17 HW = 360 SW = 292 CW = 259 GW = 220 (6'5")

Oh gosh, sexting *covering my eyes*. I’m the worst at that. Its one thing to talk dirty in the bedroom, but to type it out...wait for a response... We do too much with our phones as is. Not my cup of tea.

Dating is so hard these days. I commend you for wanting to do an activity for a first date. Something to keep the awkwardness to a minimum.

I'm widowed and have the reverse; got a MMS a while back,of someone I knew in a Speedo, do you know what the average guy my age(72) looks like one of those? Bow legged and white fur everywhere, suppose he thought I'd be greatful he was still,above ground. Didn't like him that well when we were young, why now? The nice gals are still out there and decency trumps anything else. Now I'll get from behind my preaching pulpit and wish you good luck,in your journey.

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Hey there. Don't settle for that if you're not comfy. Sigh me up for hiking/coffee. I'm post-op 12 years and haven't given up yet on becoming friends first. Just saying.

On 1/5/2018 at 9:59 PM, kakatlady612 said:

I'm widowed and have the reverse; got a MMS a while back,of someone I knew in a Speedo, do you know what the average guy my age(72) looks like one of those? Bow legged and white fur everywhere, suppose he thought I'd be greatful he was still,above ground. Didn't like him that well when we were young, why now? The nice gals are still out there and decency trumps anything else. Now I'll get from behind my preaching pulpit and wish you good luck,in your journey.

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Haha! That wasn't a sexting pic. That was POL (proof of life).

pssssst @336Mike Did you get my sexting piccy of my beak? Here it is JIC.

Edited January 13, 20188 yr by FluffyChix

Fluffy you are one foul fowl but gotta love you for it. You brighten up the dark corners of my life and like most of us I have a few. Always count on you to see the ironies in this life.[emoji197] Let me tell of my son. The Tomkitten. I was peeved at him for something and. I said "you are an agitator", he said an agitator stirs up the S*** so you can get rid of it. Danged if the boy isn't right, think he might be following in my paw prints.

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The whole texting back and forth forever thing just doesn't work for me. If she doesn't want to meet IRL I just move on. Seems a lot of people of both sexes just want to mess around online.

On 12/1/2017 at 1:41 PM, 336Mike said:

I've been looking to make more friends. Been separated for a long time, down 101 pounds with 39 to go...have my self confidence back, and want to meet women or a nice woman to spend time with. It's been 18 years since I've been in this "game" and am getting discouraged.

Wanting to meet for things like walking/hiking, meet for coffee, maybe go to movies, etc.

Here's my dilemma. What's with this sexting crap? I mean if I were in a committed relationship and we wanted to flirt with some pictures maybe that's one thing. But just meeting someone over the internet and never in person yet, and the next thing you know you've gone from getting regular face pics to naked pictures on your phone?!?

I know some of you would not mind this but that's not me or what I'm looking for. I genuinely want to become friends with someone by spending time together.

Are there still people out there like me or is everyone just looking for a hookup?

VSG 10/11/17 HW = 360 SW = 292 CW = 259 GW = 220 (6'5")

There are still people with old world values , you may have to meet them the old way...

I met my husband online 12 years ago. Things have changed a lot, but one thing hasn't (IMO)... when you go onto the free dating apps/sites, you get what you pay for. If you're really looking to connect with someone and want to go the online route (totally valid way to meet someone), then do your research and find a reputable site/app that charges a bit. You'll get a higher quality of options.

(just my two cents... good luck!)

LOL that WAS funny !!

I’m a woman , also lost quite a bit of weight and have the opposite issue. I cant put my true age online or I meet decrepit retirees looking for free nursing/housekeeping or smirking cynical younger guys thinking they’re about to get supported.

So I like you have been keeping to myself. I did put my profile out on a couple of websites but refuse to pay for them so basically I meet no one. Honestly , I ask myself could I fall in love given that I’m not presently “ finished “ with my own look - and I’m honestly not interested in putting the time and effort for that search right now.

I am however regretful that I don’t have more friends and have a free way to remedy that - meetup groups. They’re free- they re about shared interests like hiking . They can be a positive way to perhaps meet interesting people or at least burn off a f ew calories .

I've been looking to make more friends. Been separated for a long time, down 101 pounds with 39 to go...have my self confidence back, and want to meet women or a nice woman to spend time with. It's been 18 years since I've been in this "game" and am getting discouraged.
Wanting to meet for things like walking/hiking, meet for coffee, maybe go to movies, etc.
Here's my dilemma. What's with this sexting crap? I mean if I were in a committed relationship and we wanted to flirt with some pictures maybe that's one thing. But just meeting someone over the internet and never in person yet, and the next thing you know you've gone from getting regular face pics to naked pictures on your phone?!?
I know some of you would not mind this but that's not me or what I'm looking for. I genuinely want to become friends with someone by spending time together.
Are there still people out there like me or is everyone just looking for a hookup?
VSG 10/11/17 HW = 360 SW = 292 CW = 259 GW = 220 (6'5")

I understand completely I had same thing happen. I was married for over twenty years lol since I was 18 then I get divorced and I am completely clueless about how I am supposed to date. I want to talk get to know a person and well it seems yeah it is all about sexting now a days. Good news I have met nice people going to karaoke lol. [emoji847]



Lapband 9/11/07 227 pounds

Vsg 2/13/18

Pre op diet 188
Sd. 180
Cw 169.6