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FluffyChix

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  1. Earlier, a friend and I were discussing the vital importance about one of the most important aspects (key ingredient) for long term WLS success: "getting the head work right" or "doing the head work." Doing the mental preparation pre-op, and continuing that foundation as a post-op Bariatric Pal is an often overlooked aspect of successful WLS. I can't tell you the number of times, that main tenet was repeated and reinforced by my RD and my surgeon--and in fact, is still at 15 months, being reinforced and reiterated--it's that important. We were given referrals to bariatric counselors, access to our RD, and access to our surgical team's surgeon and PA, both directly and through an online charting/communication platform, and also introduced to several local support groups and online support groups and given copious links to support information available online. So we felt very well supported and well educated/well versed on the subject. And yet...you know, recidivism happens. We just sometimes can't seem to keep ourselves focused on the long game and we opt instead for short term "rewards" punishments. (Yes! That's me I'm pointing an accusatory finger at!!!) Little did I realize how blessed I am to be part of my bariatric program until I really started participating in Bariatric Pal and read thread after thread about people who had ZERO clues about life as a post op (PO) Bariatric Pal. Holy cow! And not only that, but I routinely see (myself included in this group), people determined to make the choice most diametrically opposed to success--from a food standpoint, a head/emotional standpoint, and a lifestyle standpoint. It's just kinda fruit loops behavior. Right? I mean why would any of us CHOOSE to make decisions that would potentially jeopardize our longterm WLS success? And yet...here we are...we all make 'em! We all skirt the fine red line between compliance, and direct disobedience to direct doctors' and RDs' orders! And then not only that, but we staunchly stand in defiant defense of the protection of our position--and we TRULY believe that we don't have any consequence as a result of our choices! It's total cognitive dissonance. That is until you see the number of people return to BP asking for help on "how to start over" or how to lose their regain, or worse--how do they become successful at getting insurance to pay for revision surgery for a 2nd type or 3rd type of WLS! I saw this brilliant post by Dr. Tim Noakes and I wanted to use this thread to share it with you because it's very GOOD! I also hope we can use this thread to share important links to information that will lead people toward help in getting some assistance and support for their tools. Cuz if you use a screw driver to pound in a nail, it might be effective with great effort and for a temporary time, but the nail will eventually fail and you will probably break the handle on the screw driver, using it as a hammer. Whereas if you use the tool properly as it's intended and with the proper instructions, then you will have a join that can withstand great force and challenges of strength. For instance, maybe you use the screwdriver and use an actual long screw and use the tool properly to make the join--screwing the entire length of the screw through the join of two materials. The join using the screw will be very very strong and can withstand the test of time way better than a nail. So I'll start things off with posting the link to Dr. Noakes' article here. And will be back with some super online resources of where you can go to help you address the mental work that will allow you to "get the head work right." Please post your helpful links below!!! (I'll be back to post a couple other great places to go on "The Facebook" to get some help and education doing the headwork! Success Begins In The Mind (Live Better, Eat Better) https://thenoakesfoundation.org/news/blog/live-better-eat-better-success-begins-in-the-mind?fbclid=IwAR07h7r4e3ZzCDdxQdZKzoK7fdlCGYDLpJZBr8Xh_4zR0X3EFjyJyf2l3Ok
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    Food Before and After Photos

    Happy Belated Birthday @Bianca S. It looks so yummy. I heart grilled shrimpy and fajita fixins!!!
  3. Stay tuned. I am working on building a private membership club to provide additional, more intensive mentoring and sponsorship for getting back on track!
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    Foods you can no longer tolerate

    Have you tried it peeled and the English kind wrapped in celophane? It's the "burpless" kind with few seeds? You can maybe try it again in a month or so!! ((hugs)) Cucs are a staple for me! I use them to replace crackers!
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    My Plastic Surgery Thread

    Hope you get some rest soon sweetie!!! ((hugs))
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    OOTD

    DeeDee!!!! I you!!!! And it's awesome to see you! You look gorgeous and you have a terrific figure and smokin hot legs missy!!!!! LOVE the outfit! Love the tights and CFMPs!!! And I love your freedom from Spanx! I hope you will post like a ho now that you've come out to us!!!
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    Daily Menus for Maintenance

    Sorry you didn't like the ACV. It's an acquired taste I guess! LOL. I like it cuz it's "supposed" to help your gut biome. Dunno bout that, but I do it and feel pretty good! I did try your cayenne in the coffee! It's delish and does have an appetite killing effect on me as well! I like adding it with ground cinnamon (to lower insulin). And it's the bomb dot com adding an ounce of chocolate premier protein! Kinda like Mexican hot chocolate! Thanks for doing the R&D on it and coming up with some cool ideas!!! Will have to try the Earl Grey with the coffee!
  8. Just want to say congrats for catching it at 15lbs and for recommitting to health! Congrats on losing 120lbs. That's phenomenal and no small feat!!! Make sure you give yourself credit for that dedication and effort! For me, I find it very easy to gain and my maintenance is a lot like a teetertotter. It goes up easily but it does come back down with my normal Forever Diet for WLS (weight loss success). So I look at maintaining a pretty tight 5 lb window. Tracking is critical in my honest opinion. As is daily weighing (when I'm needing extra accountability) and measuring monthly or weekly. Or taking pics. Whatever you need to actually SEE the losses! I also have to walk daily for 30-60 minutes and drink my 100+oz of liquids each day (64oz of that is plain water) and take my vitamins. Hang with us and we can help keep you focused on success.
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    OOTD

    BBL to comment!!! ((hugs)) @sillykitty No FOMO! Keep your eye on the prize and what you're giving up now is just priming you for cardio (with the lights on)!!!! You're welcome.
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    Food Before and After Photos

    ((hugs)) Welcome "home"!!! I raise a matzoh ball to you!
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    Steamed Chicken

    Yep. Make sure they don't "velvet" it with a slurry of cornstarch. But steamed fish, chicken, shrimp were my go-tos in the early days at restaurants!!
  12. This is natural and normal and part of the healing process. ((hugs)) Doesn't make it any easier. Feel that sadness and process. See if you can discover WHY this idea makes you so sad? Work through it. It's an opportunity for doing headwork and for beginning a new relationship with food on YOUR terms in ways that fit a new healthy lifestyle.
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    Food Before and After Photos

    Did it taste as bad as it looked? And I agree...I brake for long posts!!!
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    1.5 years out & still throwing up?

    Wow! I am so very glad you got to the bottom of this and will soon have a remedy. Saying prayers hon. And congrats on being a good self-advocate!!!!
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    My Plastic Surgery Thread

    Congrats on such a great report!!!! Woooohoooo look at your girlie you did it!!! The numbness will hopefully diminish with time. Mine did for both of my lower abd. surgeries (alas no TTs involved but huge hip to hip incisions. Awesome news that twins are shakin' out and that you have sensation. That is super duper!!! And wooohooo on dodging the Rosemary's Baby Bad post op poop!!!
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    Starting to cheat

    Yep. Agreed. But that's assuming that any of us who became MO have the ability to eat just one Reese's. Especially when life happens...
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    OOTD

    Cuz every girl's crazy bout a sharp dressed man!!!! #swoon Just sayin...
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    Starting to cheat

    Hahaha. I do use peanut butter powder in my shakes and reconstituted. My pouch likes it better than the heavier full fat one. I also think a square of dark 80-90% Lindt is not a crime. I find it much harder to eat a ton of those squares. One is enough, especially smeared with reconstituted peanut butter. (SECRET: Don't judge me...I use the Walden Farms Marshmallow Dip to reconstitute the Vitacost Peanut Butter Slim Peanut Butter Powder. It tastes like Fluffernutter. And it's about 50cals for 3-4 tbsp. It's great on a square of 90% Lindt and also on Granny Smith apples. All for around 100 cals for a snack. Not too much damage. Right?)
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    Starting to cheat

    @Brent701 I know you probably don't want to hear this, but I can relate and feel your "pain". LOL. Confession is good for the soul. Snacking and snacking on poor-ish choices (wouldn't call some kinds of chocolate and peanut butter poor choices exactly...but it's easy to overeat them) is often difficult to control--especially once you hit the sophomore skid: diet fatigue, a fully mature pouch that begins to hold more food at a meal or in shorter intervals, the scale isn't moving quickly, so motivation dulldroms set in, life picks up socially and presents more options to stray, etc. It's one of the reason vets taught me early on to use the time wisely to build new habits and neural networks with food. It's cuz I see that propensity in myself that I'm so hard core about it to newbies. And I trust Dr. Weiner (youtube) who says WLS has 2 myths: the myth of restriction and the myth of malabsorption. Both of those are expected and desired to lessen over time. I think it is awesome and courageous that you recognize you are beginning to learn the tricky ways around your tool and to stop it before damage is done. Hang in there!!! We all have our days!
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    Daily Menus for Maintenance

    ^^^This!! I second this! Sorry, am swamped this morning but will try to swing by later to chat y'all up!!! Hugs and have a great TGIF!!!
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    OOTD

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    Missing you

    I will occasionally miss a Banh Mi, but I do pretty well doing bahn mi salads. Pretty much nothin else?
  23. Up in the signature area. Go into your account information area and I think it's listed in a similar place as "Surgery".
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    Daily Menus for Maintenance

    I expressed my inner @ms.sss
  25. For you. And that works for you. But for some of us, personally, it creates a great conflict. So we either choose to follow what works for us as individuals, as long as it stays within the healthy realm, or not. But I would certainly not advocate that EVERYONE must do it this same way. I'm thrilled you have a weight that works for you and who cares about the charts. Cuz it works FOR you. Psychologically. But I do relate to the OPs feelings.
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