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I find myself noticing others who might benefit from knowing more about bariatric surgery. I have kept my mouth shut thus far but it's getting harder when I see struggling,and our of breath young people. I want to tell them there is hope and answer, but in their place(where I was until I started my journey) would I have accepted a gentle suggestion? I have found 2 acqaintances who are post surgery but they didn't tell me of their plans. I'm afraid I asked one if she'd had cancer- well she was thinner and so was her hair- how was I gonna think? She is looking better now cause her is thickening back up, and most important she feels better about herself.

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I understand completely!!! I want to tell people about this option too but I decided it was not my place and I should simply lead by example, No need to crusade ...

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57 minutes ago, kakatlady612 said:

I find myself noticing others who might benefit from knowing more about bariatric surgery. I have kept my mouth shut thus far but it's getting harder when I see struggling,and our of breath young people. I want to tell them there is hope and answer, but in their place(where I was until I started my journey) would I have accepted a gentle suggestion? I have found 2 acqaintances who are post surgery but they didn't tell me of their plans. I'm afraid I asked one if she'd had cancer- well she was thinner and so was her hair- how was I gonna think? She is looking better now cause her is thickening back up, and most important she feels better about herself.

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I think most of us get over excited about WLS. Mostly its that high from the honeymoon phase. We understand what it's like to walk in the shoes of people that struggle with weight. We wish they knew how life changing this was.

Your profile says pre-op. So if you are contemplating or had surgery, Weight loss and obesity issues may be on your mind more than normal. That may be why you are observing others around you more.

I personally don't want to be the spokesperson for bariatrics. How many times have I heard from others that I needed to lose weight and it was so simple in their opinion.

I think most of us understand it when friends make an off comment when they see our rapid weight loss. The hair grows back and life moves on. Healthy is what's important.

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Hmmm...there is nothing worse than a reformed smoker, drinker, drug addict, etc... :D

Trust me, anyone who wants/needs to know what's in the koolaid will ask.

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Just now, FluffyChix said:

Hmmm...there is nothing worse than a reformed smoker, drinker, drug addict, etc... :D

Trust me, anyone who wants/needs to know what's in the koolaid will ask.

TOTALLY AGREE FluffyChix. To many times I have heard about this diet and that diet someone just wanting to help!! I am a reformed smokeer and I have been known to speak up about how I hate them now. People that are any of these things have their feelings on their sleeve. I know how I felt hearing that there is a new diet that works yada yada. My own grandpa said, Shirley (he never used my name of Sherrie) if you want to lose your weight, just push yourself away from the table!! I was hurt. I never felt to close to him before due to him not being in our lives but after he said that I avoided him!! So just be careful when you think you are helping them, they may not want or need to hear what you are saying!!

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Someone once suggested to me that I should get surgery-- back when I was a size 10/12. Yeah-- I really had to restrain myself.... I think my eye was twitching when I told her that there is no way I'd qualify, and then she insisted that I would. Luckily I considered the source and laughed it off, but it was infuriating.

Unless it's your BEST friend, I wouldn't say anything even remotely suggesting it. I think a lot of people are in denial and would be majorly insulted, especially if a stranger or casual friend mentioned it. Your best intentions don't always lead to great decisions! LOL

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