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Well guys I met the surgeon and my case manager yesterday. Officially got this thing started. Took awhile for me to get over the im a failure why can't I do this on my own part. Now I'm just looking forward to being the dad my kids think I am. But seriously you guys have any regrets? Anything you would of done different? I'm done being 390 pounds. Dr said I'd be about 250. I said I will see 200-215 again I'm ready to tear the gym up. Even thinking about joining karate with my kids after the surgery. Well thanks for reading just kinda had to get it off my chest.

Hello Gentlemen, ​I'm about 18 months out from VSG and am down 92lbs. I haven't lost any weight in probably 12 months. I also haven't gained any so I'm not complaining. I am very happy with my results. ​ ​​I would love to lose the last 25lb spare tire. It seems like I've tried everything. I eat CLEAN and meticulously measure and log food portions into MyFitnessPal. I'm getting 1,600 calories per day, aiming mostly for 50% Protein / 30% carbs / 20% fat. I usually exercise 30min cardio per week but recently upped this to 60 min/day 6 days/wk, alternating between weights & cardio. ​ ​I go to these fitness sites and their calculators put me at needing anywhere…

I'm a grouchy kind of fellow. I honestly believe that half of the reason for that is I just cannot keep regular. I eat well, a fair amount of Fiber and supplement with Benefiber; but honestly only 1 in 5 BM's are the type that are satisfying. You know the type, where you leave the stall with a smirk and know that you have bested the commode instead shaking your head saying that next time will be different. Lately, my relationship with the john has been one of menace. I step into the stall and immediately cop an attitude with the shitter: But more often than not, I leave like this: You know, head hung low in shame. I'm happy to report that today, I have best…

Hi gentlemen-- I've been lurking here for five months or so, but wanted to say a note of thanks to everyone who posts regularly. It really helps the process. This morning, I made the leap and had the VSG done. Because I'm a self-employed consultant with insurance from the ACA exchange, self-pay was my only option. After quite a bit of investigation and discussion, went to Dr. Curry in Cincinnati (at JourneyLite). I live in Indianapolis, so it's only about 2 hours from home. Dr. Curry does the sleeve via outpatient -- although he makes you stay in a hotel overnight. Quick stats: about 6-1, 302 on first day of two-week pre-op diet, and 283 today for surgery. (Althoug…

Any odd side effects from weightlifting/bodybuilding supplements following VSG? I am 2 yrs out and have started supplementing my nutrition plan with glutamine, phenu greek, fish oil, and a thermogenic. Do any of you have any info on what you have tried and found success with...anything to def avoid?

So I have almost all my Pre Op Procedures done. I have 3 More Weigh ins. Dietician, Support Group Meeting and Psych Eval. Hoping for Surgery in August. I haven't really been giving much thought to it at all though. Just saying Okay Surgery is in AuGustm. I feel guilty like I should be mentally preparing or doing something but I'm not. I'm carrying my life as if it's regular day. Maybe it will hit me a few weeks before the surgery date Any advice?

Damn Stomach! Leave ME! The last Hurdle... I am a man, work out with weights and aerobics 4 to 5 days a week, had sleeve, been about 8 months, down about 70lbs , almost at 200 lbs., 2 lbs shy.... Chest, shoulders, and arms are cut up. down from 4xl shirt to an XL... paints from 48 to 34... Problem is my shirt size really should be and is a large but my stomach in it makes me feel fat because it is THERE... It makes me wear XL shirts which are huge around middle and makes it look like shirt is too big... Weird to be feeling so thin and fit but that Damn Stomach is in the way! Anyone got that problem? you can say work it out, I do, intensely but it is here mocking me..…

Hi everyone! So I am 30 years old. I was fat my whole life. Around 23 I managed to lose 200lbs on my own. However my life changed since 22 and I managed to put it all back on. So I am going for the Gastric Sleeve Surgery in July (just about) I have some questions. Okay so I will divide this into 2 sets. 1 Health related, and 2 Casual 1. I weigh 346lbs currently. And there is no way to predict for everyone but on an assumption. How much weigh will I expect to lose? And is it as rapid as I am reading? 2. How bad is the saggy skin afterwards? Is it mainly the stomach, or do you get the turkey neck (pardon me) as well? 3. Heard there is bad acid reflux after the sur…

I, like many of you, have gone through many clothing sizes, and it keeps happening. The cost is incredible, especially as the seasons change. I have found some things in thrift stores for the first time since I got fat 40 years ago, but have recently discovered EBAY for men's clothing. Amazing variety. I found a very nice name brand navy blazer for $20, perfect jeans for $15, nice shirts for $10. Check out EBAY, I just donate them after I got through those sizes, but i could sell them on EBAY I suppose.

So my insurance requires a 6 month medically supervised diet before my surgeon can submit for approval. I am not sure what I was expecting but I have to say that what I am getting is not what I expected. Its just a class where the nutritionist talks about food, exercise, snacking etc. I feel like I should be getting more out of all of this. I see guys on here who loose a nice bit of weight pre-op, I have maybe lost 5 pounds since starting in January. What was your insurance required diet like?

The past couple weeks have been hard physically and emotionally - I fell and broke my shoulder and had surgery last Friday to repair it. Luckily, I'm over the worst of it and on my way to a long but what looks very optimistic recovery. I just keep thinking about all of the stuff I can't do likely for the whole summer - golf, biking, etc. At the same time, I hit my stretch goal weight that I really never thought I would! I was expecting to end up around 220 and thought that 190 was really a pipe dream. I'm excited, but also worried because my weight loss shows no real signs of slowing down! I lost 13 pounds in the last month, and that's after adjusting my calories s…

i know that there is a restriction on lifting weights for a few months post-op but what about calisthenic workouts? i'm talking things like push-ups, burpees, sit-ups, squats, lunges, etc. it's not exactly lifting but it is strenuous work

Any of you fellas (vets or newbs) doing or completed a couch to 5k program? I have this NSV goal of running a 5k with my two older kids. My 8th grade daughter does cross-country/track and my 6 grade son will likely do both as well when he is in 7th grade next year. I'm currently at 335lbs, and usually don't have much problem walking 2+ miles at an 18 min/mile rate. Curious if any of you guys started a C25K program at a similar size... all tips are welcome.

When was the last time you were scared for your physical safety? I mean really scared? Middle school? In the military? Most women are scared everyday. You didn't probably realize this because you never thought to ask. They get scared in parking garages, walking to the car at night. I never made that connection. I used to get mad when my ex would wake me up to investigate a noise she thought she heard at night, but at least now I understand it. That's why security is soooo very important to women. I have read a large number of books and articles trying to understand women. Most are sappy, and are opinions based on some observations or feelings, but I never felt…

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I am 11 days post op. People have talked about hair loss at some point, but maybe it is mostly women posting that? I was curious if men have had the same problem and if it is noticeable or problematic. I always wear my hair short anyway. Experience/advice?

Well... I'm trying not to have food funerals but it's hard. I think I may need to say goodbye to my friends, craft beer and pizza. I hope it's not forever but I'm preparing myself if it is. Is there beer and pizza on the flip side of wls?

I'm doing some quick research and would love some assistance from our guy members. What do you consider your ideal pants size after a successful weight loss surgery ? Please vote here.

I have done all my research on the Sleeve. I have really not even thought about a full bypass until yesterday. I am looking for long term update from the guys who have had a sleeve or bypass. I have a few lady friends who have had great long term success with the full bypass. They are 5+ years out. But I do not personally know anyone who has had the sleeve long term. I have been doing all the insurance mandated precursors and my Bariatric Dr. has recommended me for the Sleeve. But the second thoughts have sprouted in my head as to which one. Thanks in advance guys.

Anyone else have that feeling before surgery that the imposter syndrome was sneaking up on you? Today the doctor who performed my psych eval dropped me a line to let me know the eval is complete and ready for my review. She mentioned I was an "ideal candidate" who is prepared for the road ahead. When I read those words, I had a "fooled you!" reaction. While I've done my research, started the pre-op diet two days a week (dietitian's instructions), and have completed a number of the eval steps, I sometimes feel like "How can they let someone as fat as me have this surgery? Don't they know I'll gain it all back?" That is not at all my intention, but let's face it: Most o…

Hello guys, Sleeved in April of this year and have lost about 66 lbs with 30 more to go. I am interested in plastic surgery - namely a neck lift, tummy tuck and upper eyelid surgery. I would like to hear other guys' experience with plastic surgery following weight loss. Cost, satisfaction with procedures, visible scarring, etc? Any help out there?

I have read a lot of posts, and I know it is more a pre-op thing than a post-op, but I have noticed, and I am guilty myself, that there is a count down to the operation. That there is a lot blood, sweat and tears getting to that point. Like all the answers and a pot of success is just six days, 17 hours, and 2 minutes (for me) away. The GREAT FINISH!!! I had to reevaluate this for me. Yes it is a GREAT BIG accomplishment, but it is more of a START than a FINISH. I see people saying gosh this pre-op diet is hard, I barely eat anything and it's liquid. Well reality check. That is pretty much what you are going to be eating for a month after surgery. Then I see the on…

There was quite a volatile thread about a guys tool and size there of earlier. Well I am not exotic nor am I posting about "My" meat. Sorry lady lurkers. This post is about meat other than beef, pork, chicken, or fish. One of the support group meetings I attended, the lead talked about eating Bison and Elk meat instead because of the high Protein, low fat content. I have also thought of Ostrich, I am really interested in trying some, if not all of these when I get to that point where solid food doesn't kill me. I was wondering if any other guys here have tried one or more of these, and/or if there were other meats high in protein, low in fat you have tried? If you hav…

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Hey guys. Hope all is well with everyone. Very first post ever, on here. Im 39 with Type II Diabetes with sleep Apnea at 370lbs. At my heaviest I was at 443lbs. I've lost some weight on my own. Now Im exploring Gastric Sleeve WLS. For you guys who have already had the surgery this is for you. What do you wish you knew before your surgery that you know now. The HIGHS and LOWS of it all.

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Who here works in law enforcement? I work for U.S. Customs. My supervisor and I are both getting the Lap Band. She can get hers paid for with her health plan. I am going to Mexico because I am not fat enough to get the band here. I need to take off at least 30-40lbs. I have high blood pressure. 140-88, today. I am getting the band to help me quit eating so much. I have been on steroids (prednisone) for 3 months due to kidney problems. I cannot stop the hunger pains. I got 30 lbs fatter due to this terrible drug. I am off of the pills and I cannot take the fat off. I getting banded as a preventative measure. Most of my family is obese. I am just fat. I want to stop the p…

Are there any firefighters or EMT's or Police Officers who had the sleeve done? I am and I was wondering about the after effects and working out. In our line of work we need to be extremely physically fit (strength and cardio wise). Has or is anyone having problems? Any advice or anything at all i should know or y'all can tell me? I want to make sure I am able to get into the gym and get my lungs and body ready for a career as a firefighter.

Monday will be seven weeks since my surgery. I had a really difficult time transitioning from the liquid diet to food, but I finally have. I have been eating about 2 oz. six times a day. I measure everything out, so I know that I am eating what I am supposed to. I have also relied on my stomach. If I eat too fast or too much, I can tell it right away. Today, I ate with friends at their house. I didn't measure my food, but I easily ate 3-4 oz. I know it is not majorly overeating, but I figured that I would get sick or that full feeling that I had been getting when eating my 2 oz. According to my surgeon's plan, I should still be eating about 2 oz. at each meal throughout…

To put it bluntly, my pecker itches! I know why, but I dont know how to stop it. As Ive lost weight, my fuppa has shrunk signifigantly and what used to be a turtle head is now hanging there. Problem is, its rubbing up against my clothes and skin. I thought, ok no problem, I will just sprinkle some monkey butt down there. It didnt work! Soooo....my wife says, put some lotion on it! Bad idea, I had to show my wife what the lotion did and then of course it was very hard (literally) to keep a straight face and lie to tell the kids why we were late for Christmas dinner. So this has had to have happened to someone else? I know I would be grateful (and Bernie too) if someone had…

For the vet fellas out there, did you find WLS spurred a mid life crisis? While only 35 I am married with 4 kids... so feel a bit older than my age. I have found myself making a lot of changes in the 4 months since surgery. I bought my very first brand new car... all black with black wheels. I've been shopping for clothes and not just because nothing fits me anymore, but rather because I want to. I care about shaving and getting haircuts again. Sex drive is at my 19 year old self level. Hell, I just bought a pair of retro Air Jordan IVs because I wanted them so bad as a child. Most of this I've attributed to just loving life again... but now I'm starting to wonder…

A little over a year ago my wife and i bought what we thought at the time was an awesome set of bedding. We went with a Tempurpedic memory foam king sized set. First time in 20 years of marriage we've had a king sized bed. At first is seemed okay. She still loves it. She's a 140 pound side sleeper and I"m an oversized dude who only sleeps flat on my back. We are two vastly different profiles and I now see how foolish it was to think we'd both be supported to our liking by the same bedding type. The salesman did his thing and said everything he needed to sell it. For the first few months is was okay by my standards and great by hers. I herniat…

OK men, I have to come clean about something. I have participated in an activity that I do not believe Jack Palance nor John Wayne would have approved of. (And I am pretty sure we can all agree that those are the epitomes of manliness.) I have been hitting the gym pretty hard and frequently and I had a fellow gym member tell me that I should consider a yoga class to stretch out the muscles I have been punishing for the past 10 months. "Yoga? But I'm not a hippie. I can't stand patchouli nor sandlewood and I don't hug trees. And I am certainly not 'poofy'." It took me about 2 months after our conversation for me to consider it. After a particularly strenuous session…

Posted this in the general forum, but, was mainly getting responses from women. Wondered what your guys' take was? Thanks: I am 31 years old and have basically done whatever I wanted (within reason) whenever I wanted since mid-college. I'm self-employed in the financial industry so I have been able to take off on a vacation, golf, or whatever reasonably easy (since I didn't have to ask my employer first.) This do whatever, whenever mentality is partly why I'm in the shape I'm in, I love to eat... and eat good. One of the things that I'm most worried about is the possibility that I won't be able to drink carbonated beverages such as beer or alcohol in general…

Had my sleeve gastrectomy on 12/16/14, and have lost 120 pounds in 7 months. I am jogging, following the diet like crazy, and have gone from being a daily (heavy) drinker to only having two drinks (on my birthday in May) since the surgery. My doctor is thrilled. All tests read great. I've lost more in 7 months than the doctor predicted I would ever lose (he said -110 was what he thought would be likely for a final loss, but more would be great), and I am still losing. And while I physically feel pretty good, doing things I couldn't or wouldn't have dreamed of a year ago, I can't help but be uncomfortable in my (saggy) skin. I feel like I have that "used to be a fa…

Hello everyone, got sleeved on Jan.08.2016 Dr Paul Macik Northside Bariatrics. Was wondering if anybody else have the same doctor.

I am now three months post. Things are going great on the weight loss side. BUT..(then inevitable but) for the last week I have had a sour stomach. Nothing I put in sits well. Not Water, not the trusty Protein shake that had gotten me through the rough Patches, I mean nothing. I have read here that there is a "getting used to it period" but given things had gone so well, this little set back is a little annoying. I have resigned myself to calling the dr in the morning, but wanted to reach out and see if anyone else had experienced the same and gotten through it in some way.

Hey guys looking for some insight and experience for some fellow guys. I keep going back and forth between which surgery to get. I was wondering if I could ask you all few questions about your experience. I have a surgery date of February 8 and I keep going back and forth between the sleeve and the bypass. I'm 27 years old 290lbs 5' 10 BMI of 41. I have no health problems which require one surgery or the other. I'm currently leaning towards the bypass because I believe the best weight loss will result from the bypass and I am an over-eater and have sweet tooth, which I have heard the bypass can help with However, I look at a lot of male before And after pictures on here a…

hey i just started on this walk about 5 months back and its been hard even more so since im a truck driver. i was just wondering if there are any other drivers out there that can help me out with ideas for food in the truck and some exercises that i can do inside my truck. i have a few that i do each day but not many. if you driveres are out the i would love to hear from you now come on.

Ladies – I posted this here in the Guy’s Room because your caloric intake is not relevant to the question, but please feel free to read the thread. Gentlemen - I’m currently coming out of a stall that lasted about 3 weeks, but for the life of me I do not know what I did to break the stall. I tried increasing calories, decreasing them, drinking more and of course just waiting it out. I finally had 3 really good BM’s, so I think I am getting back to regular too. During this latest stall, of course I went online a read tons of articles, used the online calculators, yada yada yada… they all say I should be at 1700-2500 calories to lose weight safely. Obviously they are no…

Well just got back from my Cardiologist. I had not seen him since about a month before surgery so I'm down 65-70 pounds. He eliminated one of the BP meds I was on. So with the Diabetes meds that left about 2 weeks after surgery I'm down to half the prescriptions I was taking. Feels great to be able to see improvement in all the things that were killing me because of the weight. Keep it up everyone its a good ride down. Oh and not to sound excited like a girl but stopped in Goodwill to see if they had any jeans. Picked up a size 42 pair of Levis. Mind you I used to not even look at anything less than 50's. Didn't think i would even be able to button them but f…

My family really opened up yesterday about how rough the transition since surgery has been for them. Bottom line, the last few months I have been a royal pain in the butt to live with. I seem to be permanently seething. I don't blow up, I just seem to hate everything happening and never am happy with anything. My responses are sharp and I seem to have completely lost my sense of humor. Worst of all, I didn't really see it. But when my wife and son laid things out by chapter and verse, it was pretty clear. It also turns out that all my friends have been asking my wife about my irritability. I know that many speak about the excess testosterone form the fat melt of…

I am exactly 6 weeks out from surgery and things are going well but, even after talking to a dietitian, I am still uncertain on what my protein target should be. Her advice was that 60-80 grams of protein per day would be good, but 100 grams per day would be good, too. I am eating virtually nothing except protein-rich foods, but it is pretty tough to get much over 60 grams of protein a day and stay at the 600 calories per day that the dietitian recommended. From reading these forums, it seems that most men aim for a higher protein target. I would normally defer to the advice of the dietitian, but my consult with her turned out to just be a less than 12-minute phone call t…

Coming up on my one year anniversary of Sleeve Gastrectomy. Thought I would post an update. Weighed 348 on day of surgery. Been steady for a month at +-210. Down from 3-4X to L-XL in shirts, and from 48-50" pants to 34-36". Went from being a daily, heavy drinker and a glutton (of some renown!) to no drinks for six months, and 1-2 a week since. Started a walking program immediately after the surgery, then started a C25K app, and ran (jogged) my first 5K on my birthday in May. Moved on to a 10K trainer app, and have since run (jogged) 4 10K's, each one posting a better time. I exercise frequently, and for the first time in my 45 years, I don't mind it! (Honestly, I …

I immediately felt self-conscious that I (for once) was the smallest person in the room. I almost felt like I was being judged and stared at for considering weight loss surgery. And I am sure it was perhaps mostly if not all in my head. I would say that to reach what I would consider being my ideal weight I would only need to loose about 65 lbs. Because of that I have not exactly received any type of support from my family, which makes me question whether or not this is something I need to do. I have battled my weight for years. The last year and a half I have been doing cross-fit training 5 days a week, counted calories for a while, did weight watchers for another while…

Okay guys.....you had WLS surgery......got to your goal weight........and realized it was time for a new ride. Did your choice of vehicles change as a result of your streamlined weight attack ? I'm going to nurse my trusty '07 Nissan pickup for a couple more years.....and wonder if I'll want something drastically different than another truck. A convertable muscle car has always been something I wanted but the practicality of such a vehicle seemed Limited to a big guy with sore knees. Did it open up any more car choices for you?

surgery date is 12-11. how soon after surgery were you able to go to the gym and lift weights. and did you feel weak from the lack of calories?

Well, something has started happening to me the last few weeks... I get angry REALLY fast. My patience has dropped with people, places and situations. Water off the back used to be my way... But lord, I'm even getting on my own nerves these last few days with how bitchy I have been. I'm sure I'm dealing with not having my usual outlets... I can't over eat for fun... I don't smoke anymore... I don't drink... My mind knows the facts, but I have yet to find a way to get it out. I go to the gym daily, and that doesn't help... I do the sauna, whirlpool and steamroom..nothing. I'm to the point I might have to get high class hookers to beat the anger out of me. I'm going…

One of the things that my improving health is doing is allowing me to return to the things I enjoy doing. For instance.....walking up the driveway and into the front entrance of the house yesterday I notice that there is gunk built up between the bricks.....driveway is looking dark, too. Working through the weekend and will get off next Thursday for a day off. Instead of laying around and recovering, I think I'll buy a pressure washer and clean up the driveway and front stairwell. Why keep paying someone else to keep doing it ????? Several home repair/update issues like that awaiting some attention. Gas Honda motor chugging away and a Water jet......what c…

I go in Oct 7, for my surgery. Getting the Gastric by pass. Started this ride in Jan and now finally the procedure. I have been experiencing a little anxiety as I get closer to the day but this is what I've been waiting for.