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Hey fellas, I been lurking the boards for a couple months. I was sleeved on Nov. 9th. This seems like a really weird question, but since my surgery my wife has a smell to her. It seems like it's her breath that I cant stand. Numerous people tell me that her breath don't smell but sometimes I don't want to be around her. Anybody else experience this or am I overreacting?

It's been just about two years since my VSG and I thought I'd share an update. I've copied my post from one year out below so that you can have a point of reference. In sum, VSG was really the best thing I ever did. While it has only been two years, my life as a big fat dude is sort of a distant memory. Let me share some of the observations I find most interesting... Positives: I'm basically at peace with food. By that I mean that I enjoy and appreciate food, but it's just no longer a monkey on my back. I weight 186 pounds (5 pounds greater than last year and about 85 down from my peek of 272). There are just so many things that you can do at a lower weight…

Hey guys I've been reading the forums for a while. Lots of good info and help. I spent the last decade going back and forth about having the surgery. Finally was sleeved on 10/8 everything has gone surprising well. Nothing more than I guess the normal pain you'd have from getting sliced open in 6 places. Like I said thought I'd finally say hi after reading for so long.

Good Day Gentlemen, I had Gastric Sleeve surgery in January of this year and have lost 143 pounds and have plateaued which I am fine with. I have gone from a size 46 pants to a 32 and a 3 to 4 XL shirt to a large/medium. I am writing to see if any other men have had any experience with Male breast/chest reduction or lifting after weight loss surgery. I understand insurance will normally not pay for this unless there is a medical issue. I do not have such an issue, I honestly have not had a major problem with loose skin. I have some loose skin on the inner thighs, buttocks and under arms but this is minimal and nothing I really can't live with. My issue is my chest. To be …

While my wife & I were getting ready for work this morning, I double checked the weather. Looked like it was going to be a chilly day here in Ohio. I grabbed one of my new-to-me fleece sweaters that I picked up at the local thrift store. My wife grabbed one as well and to her dismay she discovered she could not wear it because it was too small for her. The days of my wife stealing my clothes are finally at an end!

So i will be blunt. The whole penis thing is beyond true. its amazing to see what i was actually packing without being buried in flab. My wife regularly is like, Holy shit! whats the hell. But here is the rub. Im 44 now my wife is 43. She has dropped 30+ pounds just being with me in this journey, im down 204 pounds pre surg 158 since surg. since i started at 408, that means im half the man i used to be...( get that song out of your head now, hah) Literally went from probably 3 inches erect to now showing 8 inches. yeah im happy with that lol Let me ask though, my libido now drives my wife nuts i literally want it every day and then some. and I have to ask has your sex…

Hey guys. Anyone have any good compression shirts or garments they recommend? Looking for one but dont want to spend the big $$$

I've been searching all over the place for more info on this but I'm bored at work and I just decided to go ahead and ask you guys. I had my surgery on 6/2, Started at 445, 419 at surgery, 397 now. Everything is going well but I'm just trying to get an idea of what kind of weight you GUYS lost month to month. I know I'm just obsessing but I've been trying to search and find this stuff and I'm not having a ton of luck.

I will be getting the DS on Nov 24th and I have really enjoyed your posts here. Sounds like most of you had the sleeve which is okay, I was wondering if you got any DS dudes here. No big deal because a lot of the subjects to me anyways and I think it's awesome y'all have your homepage! Thanks Shawn

I was never a touchy/feely person before surgery, but I was at least apathetic of it when I saw it. I have noticed however that I am having a very real emotional response to things I read or hear in person. And it is disdain or outright aggression. I swear I want to slap the person who utters the words Journey or Chapter. You know the ones, "Beginning my journey!" Starting a new chapter of my life!" Ugh. And the crying. Oh god they never pass up a good opportunity to talk about how they cried about something. "I saw something I couldn't eat!" "Someone ate in front of me!" "Someone said I took the easy way out!" et cetera, et cetera... There will always be s…

Hey folks, I have toying with the idea of biking some here and there as another form of exercise. Who has done this as well, and what equipment did you guys use. Thanks, Mirv550

In going through this procedure, I've been very pleased with the weight loss that I've had (lost more than 100 lbs in less than 4 months) and the lifestyle changes that came with it (working out every day, less laziness, changing my wardrobe, eating less so spending less money, etc.). I've felt my confidence growing and I've been told all about how much better I look (even though some days I don't feel it...) and my life is all around better. I have quite a bit more to go before reaching my ultimate weight loss goal but I admire the path that I've walked so far and I hope to keep it up! Ever since I've been a kid, I've never been able to be with anyone in regards to a…

I need to get some new gym clothes. Shirts, long gym pants, shorts, etc. Casual Male has a nearby store, but the prices are insane. Was hoping to find a more affordable online source.

Well, I just hit my 2 year surgery anniversary! WOW! I thought I would be 200 lbs, but I weigh in at (wait for it) 262 lbs. My highest weight was 462 lowest point was September of 2013 243. This past year I've added 20+ lbs of muscle which I'm really happy with. Now I just have refocus on the cardio which is shall we say challenging.

The question I have is in regards to "head rolls or folds" that some of us have on the back of our head. Hopefully that makes sense. Do men that have these "head folds" pre-op see that these go away as they lose weight post-op maybe over many months or years and end up with a "smooth" head? Can't imagine there is a head exercise for that...is there?

I am 4 years out of surgery this coming November.I am recently having issues with pain in my stomach and pressure, I do have a hernia so it does affect that. Anyone else have this problem? Also what do you do for it? I have read that Pepto is a big no-no but what about Tums and Dulcogas ? I also take 2 Previcid every morning.

For the first week or so after surgery it's advised that we wear loose fitting clothing. I could just get stretchy sweatpants, but I was hoping for something a little more... stylish? Anyone have any ideas or suggestions for loose fitting pants/shirt other than sweatpants?

Just thought I'd share a study I found in one of my medical journey subscriptions. Interesting read! Sleeve Gastrectomy Improves Testosterone Levels in Obese Men Thu, 10/08/15 - 11:39 Sleeve gastrectomy can normalize testosterone levels in men with obesity-related hypogonadism, according to a recent study. Previous research has suggested both the potential benefits of bariatric surgery to overall health and potential adverse effects of testosterone replacement therapy. For this reason, researchers aimed to investigate the effects of surgery-related weight loss on serum testosterone and prostate-specific antigen (PSA) levels. ______________________________________…

Hey fellas; I'm in the southern suburbs of Mpls/StPaul Minnesota, and just starting to research options. 6'0", about 450#, BMI 60+, hitting 40 years old next year. High stress job, 3 young kids, and an incredibly supportive wife. I need to be around for my family, and feeling like WLS could be a game-changer. Likely RNY path, though VSG intrigues me. Either way, just getting started; if all lines up, then possible surgery date late 2015/early 2016. I'm lookin for a (or a few) buddy/mentor that I could interface with on q's, experiences, the good, the bad, and the ugly of your individual process. I'd welcome speaking with those that had recent surgeries as well as th…

Hi Guys - I've heard a couple of females discussing this, and wanted to see if any guys experienced this too: going down a shoe size once the weight starts coming off. I totally get going from wide-width to regular, but do guys experience a length shortening too? Seems weird. I'm currently a size 14 and wouldn't mind going to a 13 (14's are hard to find in regular stores). Thoughts?

I briefly dabbled with it years ago......looked like a freaking circus act, though. My big arse balancing on a seat made for a much smaller hombre. There is a nice path to ride less than five miles from the house. Along the path there are several exits where riders peel off onto technical trails. I always stayed on the easy riding flat path. Hopefully by this winter I'll be a much lighter post-op version of myself. A buddy told me that I'll want to sell my very lightly used five year old bike and buy a new "Twenty-niner" Evidently the market is now moving from 26" to 29" . He said it'd make a huge amount of difference.......I don't know. It'll be fun wheelin…

ihave my date,so i'm starting to let family members know that im going to get sleeved.i think this is a mistake. instead of getting encouragement, i have o hear its not needed your not that big 5'9'' 260 i have gained and lost the same 40 pounds numerous times and never really been able to get to a healthy weight and can not keep it off for any extended period of time. high blood pressure and sleep apnea are also a problem. so instead of getting excited about this the doubts are starting to get into my head. i love food as im sure everyone here does or we wouldn't be having or had this surgery. so what im asking is do you ever regret having the surgery. men a would appr…

Well i just got word that my time has come to get skinny...August 4th on a tuesday. I'm very excited not nervous at all just ready for the change and complete health.

Well here is my update. I got to the hospital at about 1:30 and was on the table at 3:15. I was ok a little nervouse leading up to it but when they put the iv in and all that it got REAL. The hospital would not let my son in to see me in the "staging area" if you will, The nurse was nice enough to let me out of bed so I could go the hall and see my wife and son. I looked him right in his little eyes (he is 5) and told him that he means the world to me and daddy loves him with all his heart. I would love to post what he responded with but.. it was one of those very emotional things..and coming from a 5 year old got me all chocked up.. Anyway!! here I am a day out from the …

We did Fantasy Football last year with our sleevers. I LOST miserably! Open for more torture if anyone wants to do a sleeve league again. We have to move quick...but thought I'd throw it out there and see if interest was there.

Post # 1 guys. Decided to introduce myself here instead of one of the generic pre-op boards. I am just beginning this journey towards weight loss surgery. I am unsure if I will have the surgery. Deep down I know that I need it. 1/2 my family is against it, and 1/2 are for it. Both camps want to talk me over to their side and right now I am caught in the middle. I met with my doctor 2 weeks ago to discuss my “situation”. My doctor recommended weight loss surgery. I went to the seminar last week and it was very informative. Today I got my blood results and I have high cholesterol and low "T". 2 years ago I was diagnosed with sleep apnea and given a CPAP machi…

Once those pounds drop off and the muscle go on, a whole bunch of activities are going to open up to us. So how are you going to put your weightloss to use? I'm going to learn to scuba dive. Always wanted to, and now I'm going to make that happen. I have some friends who go hunting every year, deep into the northwest wood. I've never hunted before but I'm going to join then next winter. (Imagine how long the venison will last me now that I'm sleeved). Better sex. Give it my all like I did 20 years ago, when I didn't have limitations. What are you planning for?

So as the days and nights slip by and get closer to "THE DAY" I am getting very nervous! I look at my kids and think what if something goes wrong! My little girl starts 2nd grade and my son is going to kindergarten starting MONDAY. I try to think of all the positives and work it out in my head but it is very hard to not be scared a little bit. I am going to show up and conquer the day but WOW I did not think I would be getting this caught up. NOT if but WHEN things get good I will be home Sunday I think the Dr. said so I will post an update if any one is interested. please send good vibes my way I need them!! Have a great night!

I'm a bit of a troller on this site. I don't feel like I relate to all the woman on here. I search for dudes that are similar to me but then I finally found "The Guy's Room". I'm choosing this room to post my first post because... just because. My name is James and I'm 42. I was introduced to the sleeve by a friend who had it done with great success. I've been at my heaviest, 372lbs, and I'm over it. I'm ready to be done with the high blood pressure pills and I'm tired on getting winded when I walk up the stairs or tie my shoes. I want to live a long life for my family. My knees have been hurting and I'm just done. I started my research and found out that my insurance…

I've been wearing New Balance sneakers and shoes for years. Their wide widths, orthopedic insert friendliness, and motion control have been great for both my feet and knees. Wondering if any of you gentlemen have experience with Dr. Scholl's, Skechers, Asics or other brands marketed as walking shoes for obese men.

Hey all, I was actively on here when I first began the surgery process looking for surgeons, tips, tricks, anything I could find to prepare for surgery. After surgery, my new life got the best of me and I became a flake on the forums. So here's a brief update: I was 23 years old and a year out of college when I had the gastric sleeve. My company's insurance didn't cover bariatric surgery so I was a cash pay. I looked at going to Mexico for the cost but with the support of my girlfriend and family I decided to have surgery in the states and pay a little extra. I had surgery with Dr. Folahan Ayoola in Denton, TX on December 6, 2013 and it truly was life changing. At the tim…

So I have made it through surgery and the first week of post-op. It hasn't been all sunshine but the worst of it is over. I go into a little more detail on my blog The MGB and Me. Thanks everyone for the well wishes and I look forward to hearing and sharing as I go along the path to my new life.

(Just noticed I posted this in the Men's Room - can someone please move it to the General forum?) Early last year I began researching WLS and decided I wanted the sleeve. I've been set on the sleeve ever since, but in going through the pre-op investigative tests earlier this year, it was discovered that I have very bad acid reflux and Barrett's, so both the bariatric surgeon and thoracic surgeon agreed I wasn't a candidate for the sleeve, and that the bypass was my only option. I really felt deflated at hearing the news, and since then have been on the fence about getting the surgery and struggling with the decision. To me, the bypass seems much more invasive, with mo…

This question is for single men who have lost a great deal of weight. If you were thinner in your youth and used to get laid a lot, even better. Plain and simple; does being thin have a large impact on your ability to bed hot chicks? See, I have heard all the stuff about how you have to be confident and know how to talk to them and all that. Not only have I heard it, but I used to teach guys how to pick up women. What I found is that no matter how good your game, there is no way you are going to bed 10s unless you are thin. Now in fairness, if you are thin and just a chode when it comes to chatting up girls you may benefit greatly from learning good game. But, I…

Im scheduled to have my Sleeve done on 23rd July, I'm now worried that a) am I not heavy enough at 295 to have this done, as the majority of videos are from guys bigger than me will I be able to return to play soccer and have enough energy to do so I was all set, my mind was made up but in last 24 hours I have been second guessing myself, is this normal? Thanks in advance

If you are begining your weight loss journey, look into getting one of these belts: http://thefrugalfashion.com/2014/05/29/best-mens-leather-ratchet-belt-reviews/. I have enjoyed cutting eight inches off mine during my journey, hope you have even greater success. And all my old pre-sleeve belts are doing other things.

A few years ago before my surgery I noticed less leg hair around my ankles. It looked like it was happening where my socks were, so I didn't think much about it. Shortly before I had surgery someone pointed out that my feet were changing colors when I was standing outside barefoot. I looked it up, looked like poor blood circulation. After the weight-loss and working out, the foot discoloration stopped. But this week I noticed I'm getting my leg hairs are back. I think that is a good thing, but has anyone else experienced this?

But.. was sleeved mid Nov. Down (remarkable) 83 lbs... been eating per nutritionist and working out... at least 5 times a week... (swimming) have TONS TONS of energy... but obviously have saggy skin... seems a shame to feel so great... and have saddle bags! Any thoughts on Lipo... tummy tuck? Non evasive procedures? Freezing? Deep ultra sound? Aka. Lipo blast plus? Any thoughts most appreciated

Well just one friend really but it's been a very interesting experience. My wife is 1000% supportive and I don't have any worries at all that WLS will cause any problems with my marriage. What it does seem to be causing issues in is my relationship with my best friend. It didn't take a lot of reflection to realize that a large part of my relationship with my best friend, in the past, has revolved around eating and drinking. Now it's like we don't have much to do when we hang out. It's pretty interesting so far and I'm really only 8 weeks into this process. I'm sure it will even itself out but I thought some of you on here might have the same issues.

My gastroenterologist did not answer this one for me so I had to find the answer online: http://www.webmd.com/women/features/digestive-problems Now that I know it is undigested bile from my low fat diet, I am wondering if any of you gents have gone through this and how long it lasts? Being an optimist, I guess I should think of these as being environmentally friendly bowel movements.

I've hit a tipping point where even the densest person in my life can't help but notice my weight loss. I've had a bunch of people coming up to me to say "You've lost weight! What are you doing?!!" I told a couple of people what I did early on and then spent 30 minutes defending why VSG was good for me and why doing it in Mexico wasn't a death wish. That cured me of giving a damn about giving anyone the backstory. So, now when I get the "What are you doing?!!" question, I (truthfully) say "Well, I dramatically changed my diet and became much more active." When they asked what I did with my diet I say, "I cut out soda, most carbs, sugar, etc. and emphasize Protein. I a…

Hi everyone - If you had/have moobs, have they reduced and/or toned up? How long and/or how many pounds did you happen to lose before noticing a difference? If you did specific exercises (realizing that targeting areas is almost impossible), what did you do? Thanks in advance for your comments.

Any guys using MyFitnessPal? I just started a couple of days ago, and definitely do not think I'm getting in enough calories. I struggle to get over 400-500 along with all my Water. I'm eating very Protein dense, clearing about 60G a day on average. Any other guys using this app so I can see what you're eating would be a big help! My username is RickyReality on there, and also on Instagram @ VSG_Rich

Well not real depression. I am scheduled for my MGB surgery on July 1st. I am just realizing I am having several things for the last time and I am not sure how I feel about that. Don't get me wrong I know I will be in such a better place after I lose the weight but I have been emotionally tied to different foods for a long time. Am I just a wacko or have others dealt with this and is it truly worth it?

Gentlemen, I am experiencing a slight disconnect between feeling hungry and my stomach feeling full. It sounds like a strange concept, but I have heard other people mention it. My doctor told me the feeling is not unusual and that the conditioning of my stomach feeling full will resolve the hunger issues. Have any of you guys experienced a similar disconnect, and if so, how long did it take? Before surgery I felt that I could compete with Adam Richman's Man Vs. food as to who could eat more. Now I behave myself to avoid exploding my new pouch.

Why do guys not go to support groups? One of my bariatric surgeons insisted on my going to support group for six months prior to surgery. What I noticed was that the groups were mostly women's issues like adjusting their clothes or using safety pins to make their blouse fit better. Few of the guys said anything and most stopped showing up all together. I personally felt I couldn't be myself in group and the topics were mostly just for women. I had that same uncomfortable feeling guys get when they go hang out with friends at a strip joint and one of the guys brings his girlfriend or wife along. I thought that this site could be a substitute for Men's Group, but it s…

Alex has graciously allowed me to sneak into the mens room to tell you all about something exciting! I've started a dating website for bariatric patients. I wanted to create a safe place where men and women who've had surgery can meet people with similar goals. I can't think of anything more awesome than finding someone to share this journey with. Our website is TOTALLY FREE! It features profiles with up to ten pictures, private chat, private email, blogging and more. We are just getting off the ground so it will take some time to build the membership but you can help make this a success. If you are single or have other single friends, please send them to check o…

Ok. I was sleeved on 12/30/2014. I was down 46 pounds from me pre op weight, however this week I gained 2 pounds. Is this normal for a stall? It is so disappointing. Thanks.

This is the point in the journey when you realize how much life has changed for you. I am about to a 5K walk/run with my daughter on Saturday at her school. I thought it was insane that I wouldn't even have considered taking part in this last fall at 395 lbs. Wish me good luck! Trying to prep for it nightly so I don't collapse!!! Lol!!!

I need a guys perspective: How much does the sleeve surgery REALLY hurt? I've only talked to two people that have had it done in person, both are female. One said she was uncomfortable, but not in agony, the other said it was a living hell. Since male/female pain tolerances are about as different as a race car and a T-Rex, I thought I'd ask some of my male comrades here who already went under the knife what they thought about the pain/recovery time. What say you?