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Hello All!! I am starting my 2 week pre-op diet and trying to find what powders work best and taste best. I've tried a whole bunch of samples like the nectar drinks, but i think i'm going to stick with the basics like chocolate and vanilla. Do the flavorless powders work well? Please help... This is starting to get a bit nerve racking

My wife is allegedly going thru menopause, shes very scary to be around, but the problem I am having is the lack of sex drive on her part. is this normal. Shes only 45. Im getting sleeved in Sept. and soon my libido is going to be thru the roof, I dont want to have sex all alone again. Anybody else with wives in menopause help me out how long does this last. thank you paul

Having VSG in the morning! CW: 380 GW: 215

Since I been feeling sexy I started buying lingerie weekly so I try to have something different & see what my husband says. Last night he tells me "you no longer need to wear that". I said you don't like lingerie anymore. He says no it's not like. You already have a nice body so you don't need to cover it anymore. Should I just be butt naked & not wear lingerie?

Hey Guys...new to forum. Finally decided to listen to my doctor and attend a bariatric seminar. Went to a seminar, Decided on the VSG and completed all my paperwork. I am excited about getting started, and just wondering how long it was before you guys got called for your first appointment with the surgeon? Also curious guy's thoughts about who and when tell others you're having surgery? My wife and I have talked about this, but I am a bit hesitant to start letting others know that I'm going to do the VS G. I want to stay focused on the process that I have to go through, and not really wanting to hear a lot of feedback on reason not to do it. Finally, interest…

Just played my first round of golf post surgery. I was worried that I wouldn't be able to put the same weight into my swing, etc. Silly, I know but that's the type of stuff that goes through my head. Have to report that golf is much easier with less weight. Besides the fact that the weight loss had no negative effects on my game, there was a bunch of little stuff that made the whole experience more enjoyable. Not having my shirt go all untucked every swing, not sweating like a pig, not feeling like I was climbing Everest every time I walked up to an elevated green, not having my thigh smooch against the side rail in the golf cart we're all welcomed improvements. …

The catheter didn't come out until this morning. Now that I'm home, I've noticed that my scrotum is swollen. Anyone else experience that? I guess i need to sit with a bag of peas?

A female member asked me to post this question to Men here on BP as she wanted to respect the guideline of women not posting in this subforum. She also wished to remain anonymous, so here is a question from her: I'm wondering if any of the men on here had trouble with ejaculation (ie: not being able to ejaculate or having delayed ejaculation) when they were heavier. My husband has been between 300 - 340 lbs (his weight fluctuates) in the two years that I've known him and he has a lot of trouble in this area. Though he gets and maintains an erection the entire time we are intimate, he's never once ejaculated. At first I thought maybe he wasn't attracted to me, but h…

Hi, First time to write. Glad to have a place like this. will have Lap Band this Thursday. 60 years old diabetic and 355 lbs. I have a 4 year old Grandson. I want to spend more time with him. I know its gotta be do it for my own but it works better when I see Luigi and don't want to leave this world any sooner than I have to. Thanks for being there! Mike

Hello Fellow Gentlemen, How long after surgery did you feel foggy, out-of-it, etc? Thanks!

What are you guys doing for it? I have few ideas if anyone wanna hear about them?

All is going really well but still sore. I think I overdid it today. My large incision where the drain started to bleed a little. Hope it's nothing. Going back Tuesday for my 2 week followup so hope they can close it up. It's so bizarre eating so little but I feel great otherwise.

I'm now six weeks post op and for some reason have developed a nasty case of heart burn.. Have not changed my diet for the past 3 weeks,,, Anyone else out there dealing with this?

I'm doing some quick research and would love some assistance from our guy members. What do you consider your ideal pants size after a successful weight loss surgery ? Please vote here.

Hello everyone I recently had my bariatric sleeve surgery on April 1 st. I went for my two week check up after the surgery, and the doctor said for me to go ahead and work out he gave me the clear to go do cardio and work out. I have relatives and family who went to the same doctor and had there surgery done by my same doctor. Now when talking with relatives and friends they stated wait six weeks not two weeks to start training. Well I visited the doctor again after a month which was a last week, he stated I should have started working out so I started working out which ended up being a month later just to be save. After working out lifting up lightweights bench pressing …

Hey everyone, Was curious if anyone lost any hair or had thinning hair post surg? I'm 3.5 months out, getting my Protein in, staying hydrated.

Why are there so many ladies in the Guys' Room? Kind of discourages me from asking questions about guy stuff.

I was sleeved on Apr 17. When I drink, which is all I can do at the moment, if feels and sounds like there is a gas exchange happening or the water is replacing gas in my stomach. Is that what the bubbling and grumbling is and does this last?

Wanting to get out and ride 4 weeks post op

Gents: I've been wearing the same sturdy leather belt for 15 years. Today I [needed to] cut a new hole in the belt, [because my pants kept falling to my knees]. Made me feel like a million bucks. How are you guys celebrating?

I just started my journey my first visit is march 18 im 6ft and about 300 lbs my goal is around 180 but im worried about all the extra skin is there anything to do about it or just learn to deal with it

Hello all. I had gastric bypass RNY on March 20, 2013. My highest weight was 349 (11/12) and I got down to 306 by the morning of surgery. My previous BMI was 46 and I have high blood pressure and borderline cholesterol. So far everything has been great. Had a lot of gas pain at the beginning but its getting better. Been working hard on getting my Protein and fluids in. Just wanted to introduce myself!

Anyone have any issues with iron deficiency, or protein deficiency, or b12 or anything like that? Most all people I know are women that had full rny. Also differences between rny and sleeve...

Greeting, I am now 9 days post and on full fluids until Tuesday. My daily intake is basically Soup, Protein shakes, Water and some low calorie juices. I'm concerned because it seems I'm able to eat more soup than I thought to be full. I'm taking about 1 cup in each time. This is way less than I would have eaten pre sleeve, but I have not felt very constricted yet. Will this change when I move to soft more dense foods? Thanks for the support.

Hi, I'm new around here and am scheduled for my sleeve on Friday. Do any of you guys know how long I need to wait to have sex after the surgery? I'm not worried about the exertion (my lady will handle the "workload" for as long as necessary) but I'm worried about how my stomach muscles contract when I get to the "end." Thx!

Well, I'm back. Kinda surreal how quick it was over and I'm back home. Had to have a hietal hernia and a umbilical hernia repaired as well. The surgeon said the belly button one would probably hurt the most afterwards. It does. Was in the hospital for two nights, three days. Clears while in lockup and advanced to full liquids coming home. The hospital was the best I'd ever been to. Everyone was great and things couldn't have gone more smoothly. I had no luck with the gas though, and everyone here was dead on right about gas discomfort. I was only able to eliminate a significant amount just a little while ago. How do you spell relief???? G-A-S releas…

Hello getting sleeved on the 25th need some help with getting my liquids ready for post op. please give me the does and don'ts .

I'm 4 1/2 months post-op and working out 4 days a week with my trainer and doing cardio 6 days a week. I'm hungry all the time which makes me afraid that I will start to gain the weight back. I've also noticed that the amount of food that I consume at one time has increased. My Dietitian wants me to eat meals of 2-3 oz 7 times a day every 3hrs consisting of high Protein and good carbs that will keep me satiated. I told the dietitian about my Special K high protein cereal/crack obsession;I can eat this all day long, she told me to get it out my house and never buy it again because it's obviously a trigger food. I'm so scared of stretching my sleeve and gaining the weight …

Hey Guys - Just thinking about life post-op, how I'm going to look, etc. I've always been known as a 'big guy' for as long as I can remember. Anyone else worry about not being a big guy post surgery? I know that sounds weird, because, well, that is the point of the decision to have surgery, but along with the many downsides to being a overweight there are some advantages to being a big guy. Just wondering if I'm the only one that thought of this or if anybody else thought that too?

I feel like the guy in the dos xx beer commercial, I don't always have to poop, but when I do it's gonna be a good one lol.

Hey guys, Lately I have been waking up with HUGE morning boner. Maybe TMI but its like a third bigger and thicker than my usual erections. I wish I could harness it and have it all the time, not that im lacking im a human tripod ya know but this is some serious lumber. I was wondering if any of you guys have had the same issue, is it the weight loss or something else? Maybe my nightly vitamins or protein shake? Gotta remember to be careful, almost took out the bedside lamp getting outta bed this morning

Mens Room....... Ever since my surgery I've noticed my (clearing throat) loads have been much smaller. I've been getting my 64oz of water but I don't think I was getting more than that before the surgery. It seems like as much as three quarters less. Orgasims feel the same but it was very satisfying having so much produced. Any thoughts

Thought it might be helpful to share something that has worked out rather well for me so far post-op. Got inspired by some examples I came across surfing the internet and figured once I had committed WLS it couldn't be a better time to build a treadmill desk. Since I already had the treadmill, building one primarily meant fashioning a desk add-on that could lock to the upper portion of the treadmill and support a keyboard / mouse. Secondarily was finding a decent media stand that could support the componentry desired and raise it to a functional standing height. Though it would be possible to do computer work on these, I primarily use it for gaming (Xbox / PC) and w…

Since I have been back on solid foods I have been keeping my meals very simple. Mainly because I have not wanted anything else. i see alot of people talking about complicated recipes (which is fine), but I really dont care much bout what I am eating. An average day for me consists of 2 eggs for Breakfast, usually fried(using pam spray) lunch 4ish ozs of turkey, chicken, tuna, and for dinner somewhat the same as lunch with maybe a small portion of veggies. In between I may have a greek yogurt, Protein shake or some beef Jerky. I actually love that it is this simple and I hope I can keep on the same track indefinitely. Anyone else having the same experience??

Guys any veterans that can give some examples of what they can eat for a meal? Also can you only sip. Really freaking out that I'll only be able to eat a tiny tiny amount for the rest of my life

First day I was cleared for weights and it's amazing how much I lost. Basically was working out with 25% less weights than I was 6 weeks ago when I had the surgery. I knew it would happen and not trying to bitch or anything, just kind of amazed how much it was. Anyone upped their Protein and calories after 6 weeks to over 100 grams and 1,000 calories? My goal right now is 80 grams and about 850 calories. The calorie one is arbitrary as my surgeon just wanted me to get between 60-80 grams of protein and didn't say anything about calories other than obviously don't push it and don't eat around the sleeve.

"My 600 Pound Life" on TLC is my current guilty pleasure. I think I have watched parts of the show before in the past but now that I am getting ready for my sleeve surgery the show makes much more sense now. I am nowhere near 600 pounds, halfway there so I'm proactively stopping the weight gain madness. I've tried to watch as many episodes as I could find on Netflix and the Internet, I still have not seen any with guys at this point. I did find on Netflix, "The World's Fattest Man" which was a little disappointing because they dragged out the pre-surgery process to the very end and basically with only a few minutes left he has the surgery. I was thinking were they actuall…

Had surgery on Feb 3, everything went well, pre op diet was worse then the actual surgery. Still can barely eat any food but finally to solids. Glad I got the surgery no regrets so far

How's it going guys? This is my first post to the forum, so please bare with me here. It was relieving to see the guys have a forum at their disposal. I have read through some of the discussion boards and found that there are still some who still choose to enter the guys room, which makes me cringe a little bit. I am diving in with both feet on this sleeve procedure. I start the liquid diet tomorrow for 10-days prior to surgery. My doctor told me if I follow his instructions, the procedure will be easier for him, easier on me, and a quicker recovery will follow surgery. I am 90% excited and 10% nervous. I've stocked the pantry with beef, chicken and veggie broth…

I hope this isn't too personal.... I was wondering how soon after surgery did you all start to feel the sex drive improving or returning? I have low testosterone levels but had to stop taking the testosterone replacement after I started having problems with swelling in my legs. I don't know if I will be able to start using it again after surgery but hopefully if the sex drive improves I may not have to. Thanks in advance for the help!

Yesterday I was playing some basketball at the gym. Running, jumping, and twisting during basketball is the most strain i have put on myself since surgery. Today I am getting random sharp sudden pains in my abdomen and I am wondering why this is? 4 months post op so I should be practically fully healed. Is there some scar tissue in there that is still a little raw? are the muscle fibers getting some sort of an acid build up along the staple line since i went from no workouts to a semi-high intensity workout? This happened to me about 3 weeks ago as well after I hit the weights and I was getting these pains for like a week, and then they went away and everything wa…

Just curious what kind of strength programs and routine you guys are using I'm about 5 weeks post op, for the last couple weeks I've been out walking, using the treadmill or usng the elliptical machine for about 30-40 mins a day, but looking to add some different types of training in to mix it up.

Any smokers got the sleeve?

loading and unloading trucks by hand. Very fast paced and some of it is fairly heavy. I am wondering how long I will have to take work off for the surgery. I would really like to keep this job and I think they may allow me a few weeks off. My wife seems to think I will never be able to go back to lifting stuff after this surgery. Any of you have any experience to share that may help me decide whether to go through with this?

So far I have done the initial consultation with the surgeon, seen the psychologist and took that crazy 330 question test, did the required support group and the nutrition evaluation. Yesterday I did the group nutrition class. Going into the class I was not sure what to expect. The conference room they did the class was about 30 feet away from the hospital lobby's Starbucks. There were 9 of us in the room, 4 guys and 5 girls. All of the girls seemed to be doing the full bypass when 3 of us guys were doing sleeve. I was warned on this website that the nutritionist would be some skinny little 20 something who has no idea what is like to be overweight and spend the 90 minu…

Although I've just started on my path towards WLS - in the past two weeks I've had my first consult with the surgeon, my first dietician consult and next week I have both pulmonary and gastro appointments. I am also going to my first support meeting this coming week. Things are progressing quickly and I've got a schedule for surgery at the end of May My greatest fear is that I'll loose the weight after surgery but not be able to maintain - I've failed so many times in the past with diets loosing weight only to regain it (and more!). I've been reading post here about success stories and they help - knowing that others have gone through what I am starting to go throu…

Good lord, what did I get myself into. I just finished Day 3 of my pre-op liquid diet and the gas is off the charts. I am drinking the shakes recommended and sold by my surgeon (Bariatric Advantage) and the gas is unbelievable. I'd get on something else but I already paid a good $140 on it so they are being drunk even if I clear the room every now and then. fart jokes make me laugh like a 3rd grader or Anderson Cooper when he gets the giggles. I can't help but lose it because for some strange reason I think fart jokes are really funny. I know it will all pass and on February 28th I'm having surgery and will have a whole new set of complaints to share. For Topic Title r…

I'm 11 weeks out and down 50 pounds (HW 256, CW 206). Honestly, if I just stayed at my current weight forever, I'd be happy. I have 190 as a semi arbitrary goal weight, which would be something like a 27 BMI (still "overweight" but good in my book). My real question is how and when to stop losing weight? I'm able to eat so little now and and have such limited desire to eat. If I continue with the current intake, I'm concerned that I will blow past 190, which I don't think would look very good. As the weeks go by, will I just naturally be able to eat more and will my weight just stabilize on its own? Did anyone intentionally try to eat higher calorie foods to sl…

I'm 1 month out and was doing well when all of a sudden I ate approx 2 Oz of baked fish last night and I've been sick for last 16 hours. I'm at a loss to understand, can't take fluids or anything. Any suggestions

Started getting a little nervous, put three weeks in off work and starting to gather my protein vitamins etc for after surgery. Like I said before i am 255 now with a bmi of 37. I know I