Just wondering if anyone is keeping their sleeve a secret and how it worked out for them? I know you need a support system but I am only telling literally 2 people, besides my hubbs of course! We live far away from family and only see them a few times a year so they will not be able to really support me in any way and i only have a few friends who see me on a regular basis. I just don't want to tell people i had to get surgery to lose weight and have to validate my reasons to them. Do you think its wrong?

Do what you like about it. I would stand on the roof and shout it out if I could climb up there!

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I told my family of course and a few selected friends and that was all,when I had the surgery i used vacation time instead of sick pay, now as people noticed the change I tell them

I was sleeved Monday and only told two people; a friend who's struggled with his weight and whom I stayed with in San Diego for a couple days before going to mex for surgery. And one co worker whom I'd heard was considering wls. I figure I'll decide to tell others as I go along.

I was sleeved May 14th. I only told my husband, son and mother. I'm a very private person. I don't want to have to answer questions at work or family gatherings.

I waited to tell those that would be critical till I had to; my mother is one - I told her when I got my date; my grandmother- the day before.

These two are the only ones I really didn't want to discourage me. My children weren't for it; but who cares what they say; they barely have weight issues cause they gave seen me be far my whole life and listen to my husband complain about it and they are all three careful about their weight. My oldest worked at the hospital in the catering department before delivering meals to the bariatric patients so she knew what kind of non food I would be eating and she said F THAT!

All of my co workers have been supportive; I work at WINN DIXIE as a floating cake decorator; most of my coworkers are female ; two of which had bypass; one 7 years ago and one year ago!

My best friend didn't like it but oh well!

My family knows; but through my husband all our mutual family and friends know; because my Husband put the crap on Facebook !!!! Uuuugggggg I told him not to; but I'm pretty open with everything anyway; just wanted to answer questions after not before. I have been overweight for my age since I were 5; had strep throat ; tonsillitis and asthma all during childhood; took a lot of steroids and my family was poor or penny punchers so we ate poorly; I despise a lot of vegetables raw and don't like fish. Now I'm taking control of those bad habits and cravings! No shame!

Until I'm approved and surgery is scheduled, I'm telling only a handful of people...husband, best friend, one friend who's had it done, my boss and 3 work friends.

Once I'm approved, I'll likely take out a billboard and tell the world! LOL I'm one if those "open book" kinds of people and I'm sure I'll blabber to anyone who'll listen to my story.

I struggled with infertility and chose to be really open about that too. It was amazing how many other people shared their own stories bc I did.

I like to think I'm helping educate some people and let others know they aren't alone. However, to tell or not is a private decision and there is no right or wrong answer.

Well, I too decided to keep it a secret. So don't feel bad about it, it's your decision and yours alone. The only ones that know are my family members (mom, dad, sister and brother, and only my two closest friends) The main reason of why I decided to keep it a secret is because there's still a lot of ignorance regarding these procedures. And also, lets just say I don't have the best work environment. So I don't wanted to hear unwanted comments like "you took the easy way out" or my personal favorite "I heard of someone who died during the procedure".

Truth is, this decision is one of the most important decisions of your life since it's not reversible, and you are obviously informed of the risks that any procedure has. So you don't want to hear hater comments about it, you want people who support you and who are happy with you being happy. Maybe if I had a different environment in my office, it would be great to tell everyone about it, but since I was aware of how things really are and how difficult it is for me to trust people, I decided to keep it to myself.

So it's great that I found this forum, a lot of people here are very supportive (thank you everybody), and it's cool to have someone else who is going trough the same stuff you are telling you that it's going to be OK, that what you are felling right now it's completely normal, and how much things are going to be better from now on, not only because of great you'll look, but how good you will feel.

I hate when they say you took the easy way out.There is nothing easy about it,it is a tool that you are given to use along with diet and exercise to help with weight lose.but like anything else you use the tool wrong its not going to work

I have only told a select few. My boyfriend knows, but my mother doesn't. My mother would not be as supportive. I figured once I start loosing, I'll just say I am on a diet and working out, which would not necessarily be a lie. Only my supervisor and Director know at work and one person i am close to, because she is taking me to the hospital.

I am a nurse in an emergency room and almost all my co-workers know that I had the sleeve done. I am not ashamed. I was mmorbidly obese, having trouble with every day tasks for my job. I see this as a tool and to me it goves me some accountibility in the food choices that I make. There is SOOOO much temptation at work since there always goodies in the breakroom. all the staff is very encouraging.

I too have been open to most people. Except the in laws. My reason for that was my husband had gastric bypass last year. He did want to keep HIS a secret but felt he needed to tell his parents. He told them specifically not to tell his bros, sis and step family. 2 weeks later we were up at his dads and his WHOLE family knew. I was so upset they would treat him that way. That is the only reason I am not saying anything. I feel like they lost the opportunity to be given information. It's petty I know. But we have never had a good relationship. But those that know, have all been supportive.

I told everyone because I am a complete blabber mouth :-)

I am now 3 years out and I still tell strangers if we are chatting and they mention a diet issue and are obviously in the range to be considered for the VSG. I wish I had known about the op earlier but it was quite a new procedure in Europ 3 years ago. My family and friends have been really supportive. I am still waiting for the critical comment because I will be ready with a comeback but it has never happened. I do say I was self pay (I was, £5,500) though as people in the UK are judgy of the NHS being used for this op.

People are woefully ignorant about WLS, and our press seem to only understand the lapband and the bypass. I have written to journalists asking them to look at the VSG but I guess they don't want to write good news stories. Far better to scare the cr@p out of people!

My family and co-workers all know. No point in keeping it a secret. I work in a large office building and they way I figure, if its successful and helps just one other person, then thats ok by me. I have not told my facebook friends. Eventually I probably will.

Lori

Only my parents, siblings and a couple of close coworkers know. I'm sure questions will be asked but its nobody's business. I just tell them I'm eating better. Which I am.

Only my parents, siblings and a couple of close coworkers know. I'm sure questions will be asked but its nobody's business. I just tell them I'm eating better. Which I am.