mommymar

Just do you are aware, pain med can cause rebound headaches. If I take pain meds more than 1 or 2 a day. So your best option would be to talk to the doc and maybe try another pain med. It sucks I know, but I have to choose headache or surgery pain and I usually take the surgery pain. Good luck, hope you feel better soon!

Congrats to BOTH of you. What huge accomplishments. Keep up your hard work and no doubt we will all get to our goal! I am so happy for you both!!

Chances are (of course if it isn't constant) that it is a muscle strain. Our muscles DO NOT like being poked around. My passion started about 2 weeks out post OP and lasted til 4 weeks post op. It hurt worse than my surgery did. You can always call and check with your doc (I suggest that, if for no other reason than peace of mind) good luck! Hope you get doing better soon.....

The reason for my question was that I wanted ways I could be kind and sincere WHEN people noticed. I have a problem taking a compliment. I commend you that you don't. I am hoping to be better with that. Losing weight has been a battle with changing life long bad habits. It's been a hard journey and I appreciate people helping me along this path.

I am wondering if you have an update? I hope things are going better for you. I am thinking if you really love him, and you aren't happy with the way your marriage is just like everything else in life, you can only change yourself. I have gone through dry spells in my 12 year marriage. The hardest one was when my husband had gastric bypass. I spent a lot of time thinking, he thinks I am gross, he now realizes he can do better, now he is looking good, he doesn't want to be with me. (it's possible these are going through your hubbys head) but I decided I was the problem. I made a nice dinner (that he could eat) got dressed up, had a romantic dinner and made moves myself. It turned everything around. I have learned my husband needs to feel wanted and desired too. Just a few thoughts. I hope things are already better for you though!

I am extremely sorry about this! It is a HUGE accomplishment. I think learning to take a compliment is better than no one saying anything. Hopefully you have lots of support outside of work!

Piper- I agree with you.... I do realize people really mean it because I know I truly do. The one I have the HARDEST with right now is, "you look great! How much have you lost?" I understand people are excited for me or have secretly wanted to know how long I have been working and they haven't noticed (I have thought that, but don't like the question so I haven't EVER asked) I am embarrassed to say 53lbs. Because my friends that think their 20 extra pounds is just horrid I think "yes I said 53 and yes, I still have lots more to go" It is nice to know you aren't alone in these feelings. I have perfected the blending in the background and now I am being forced out of the shadows (yes, I chose this) but it came faster than I expected. I am going just make a goal that the next time I get a compliment I will say thanks and look them in the eye. If I can change how I eat and if I can learn to love my 5am workouts, I can certainly learn this.... hmmm it would be nice to have a surgery to work on this brain of mine :-) I am going to make a confession here. I did a lot of research before I chose WLS. I read a lot of blogs, posts and websites. Each one cautioned it was hard on the psyche. Each time I thought: I won't have a problem with that. (I knew I had issues with food but didn't see the body issues coming) I thought, I am not going to have a problem wrapping my brain around a new body. I am sure it's not going to even be am issue for me. I AM WRONG! 100% dead wrong...... This is a problem I can be grateful for every day of my life. Much better than obesity.

Now that I have gone down 8 sizes, I am trying to wear clothes that actually fit. (new one for me) When I was a size 28/30 I would always buy the biggest size they had. The baggier the better (really, who was I kidding?) When I wear the correct size is when I get people coming up to me and saying, wow you look great or have you lost weight, you look wonderful. This is SOOOO uncomfortable. I have spent the last 15 years trying to fade into the background. Trying to NOT get noticed. Now when people say anything to me I awkwardly change the subject or mumble a "thanks" and put my head down. How do I get over this? I am probably just at the beginning of these compliments. Honestly, as proud as I am that I am a size 20 I am under no illusion that I am "small". What did you say, or are planning or hoping to say, when people compliment you? I don't like it when I give people a compliment and get "oh, I have so much to go" or "no, I really don't" as a reply. I don't want to be that person.

I walked past my mirror and did a double take. 2 months out and that dreaded double chin was GONE! It was at about 40lbs. I am now at 53.2 and I try to look in the mirror (because it was something I have refused to do since I graduated high school) everyday and tell myself one thing I "noticed" or feel better about or even something that is not as bad as it used to be. That has helped with my self esteem.

Ok! I will take all the friends I can get :-)