Just wondering if anyone is keeping their sleeve a secret and how it worked out for them? I know you need a support system but I am only telling literally 2 people, besides my hubbs of course! We live far away from family and only see them a few times a year so they will not be able to really support me in any way and i only have a few friends who see me on a regular basis. I just don't want to tell people i had to get surgery to lose weight and have to validate my reasons to them. Do you think its wrong?

I have told obviously my hubby, my mum, my brother & about 6 friends so far. I have just been telling friends as it comes up.

Part of me wants to tell everyone on facebook. But then I worry what people will think, or if they will be watching all the time to see how much weight I lose.

Tons of people on here have kept their surgery a secret. I chose not to, I told everyone -- my coworkers, friends, family, strangers -- I felt that I was comfortable enough with this that I didn't care what people thought. So far I haven't had any negativity, just tons of support. I have even had a few people who are going to check it out and see if they want to have it too!

Whatever you chose to do is a deeply personal decision and depends on your comfortableness with letting people know your personal affairs.

Do what you like about it. I would stand on the roof and shout it out if I could climb up there!

you just need to do what is right for you. I've told everyone now and have it pretty public on FB and through my blog. In the beginning there were a few extended family I didn't tell just because they had a lot they were dealing with right now and I didn't want them to worry about me, especially since this is elective surgery. However, they now know & are supportive.

Just because it's right for me to tell people doesn't mean it's what everyone should do though! Just do what you are comfortable with.

My immediate family knows, aunts/uncles/cousins do not. A few friends know, coincidentally none of them live in the same state as me. Work knows I have (had) a lap-band, and that I've had surgery, and a few co-workers know that my surgery was related to my lap-band. They can draw whatever conclusions they want.

When I had my band I told anyone who asked. I didn't advertise it, nor did I hide it. This time around I just didn't want to deal with having to explain what happened, why, what was being done to fix it, etc.

I tried to keep it only between me and my very close family members..... but word is getting around and its only been 3 weeks!!!! Now I feel like people are looking at me like I am a liar. The people I told only told their husbands or boyfriends or other people they thought would not tell but damn.... everybody has the one person they think they can tell and word is getting around.

I am keeping mine a secret. I have only told a select few- dad, hubby, son, and 3 friends and my boss- no one at work. A lot of people are judgmental, and I just don't want to hear anything they have to say. I try to keep myself and those around me positive. So I feel the same way as you. We don't have to validate anything to anyone. Our lives, and we are on a mission to get healthy. Good luck with your journey. I am still waiting to to get sleeved. No one's business but ours. I posted something similar to this - check my previous post.

I have told obviously my hubby, my mum, my brother & about 6 friends so far. I have just been telling friends as it comes up.

Part of me wants to tell everyone on facebook. But then I worry what people will think, or if they will be watching all the time to see how much weight I lose.

I feel like a horrible liar keeping it away from facebook!! lol, only because I have people who I am not that close to and I don't want to hear negativity... I know I shouldn't care what people think, but I just want to keep my business my business. My husband, immediate family know.. some aunts/uncles, cousins bestfriends know but not beyond that.

I have decided to be very open with my surgery! It's opened up some very awesome conversations with friends and strangers. The VP of HR reached out to me because she heard I was having the surgery. She had a RNY 12 years ago and we talked quite a bit about it today. She said something that really stuck with me...as women we have to share our experiences and be the role models for those to come. There are so many people out there who don't have support...I can't wait to be like her in 12 years

My family, co workers and facebookers know. Everyone on my Facebook is MY family (no in laws) and a few closer friends. I have also told a few strangers in conversation (hence I accidentally met someone on this site inadvertently! Lol). However, I have ZERO intentions of telling ANY of my in laws. They don't care about me to begin with...cause I'm not their religion, I don't drink alcohol with them, I don't smoke, I don't party, cause I'm a BBW...so many reasons. I have only had 1 coworker say negative things...that it's not gonna work...she knows ppl that didn't change their habits, etc...she's the b!£€* of the office anyway, so...that's my story. I have 3 more months to wait.

I met a lady at my support group who did not even tell her own husband!!!!! he was away on a _{business trip (what the.. how did my font go this small!) yea but no one knew but him.. I asked her, didn't he wonder why she was in the hosp for few days or why she doesn't eat or can't eat like before.}

_{She said, she lied and said she "gall bladder removal" hmmm, crazy huh? if you own husband can't support you... then what? but to each their own}

Jaspersgirl, I do find that a little strange too, but yes, I guess each to their own.

Personally I wouldn't lie & if someone openly asked me I would tell them the truth.

I've told no one but immediate family and I'm happy with that decision. I figure it is no one else's business and I don't see that it is an appropriate topic for strangers or casual acquaintances. They probably don't have any interest and probably would wonder why I was telling them such personal information.

I decided to share With ever one in wanting to get sleeved .. I felt comfortable w my choice of wanting this surgery because it's people who are in the same situation as some of us who are over weight , obese and need help but don't know where to start are fear of talking to their families about wanting the surgery .. If someone says why did I have the surgery and not do it on my own ill tell them that if I don't have this surgery I will die from the complications of being obese watch their faces change ... I'm not sleeve yet I'm in the process and I want to say god bless and good luck to each and everyone of you

Its a personal decision, there is no right or wrong answer. You do what you feel is right.