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that's atrocious :(

I thought so too!

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I so look forward to the good and the bad.. I'm going to be so happy.. i don't think ill be bothered.

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for some reason the one that bothers me the most is when they tell me "STOP losing more weight!" I have no doubt it has to do with their own feelings about their weight (no one thin or normal says this).

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for some reason the one that bothers me the most is when they tell me "STOP losing more weight!" I have no doubt it has to do with their own feelings about their weight (no one thin or normal says this).

My hubby has always said he thought I looked fine the way I was and didn't want me to lose any more...he still does that, doesn't bother me - I take it as a compliment. I suppose the folks who tell you that could be saying it for the reason you stated...idk

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I am 7 1/2 weeks out. 60 + pounds from my high weight, this time last year.

I have not told everyone.

Especially my mother. When I was down 27 pounds........She said I looked like I had gained.......

When I was down 50 pounds she noticed " something"

I told her I had a thyroid tumor that had caused a weight loss. ( I did have a tumor--- had it removed)

Now she keeps asking how much I have gained.

Going to see her on Thanksgiving. " does this shirt make me look fat?"

I grew a beard and am cutting my hair shorter. I tell people that is the change they are seeing.

Happy Thanksgiving Everyone----- except You Canadians. Remember to eat all the right things for your stage.

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After losing 104 lbs my nail tech pointed to my stomach and said I still need to work on that! Hello!! I've got another 40 lbs or so to lose then it's off to the plastic surgeon for a Tummy Tuck.

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After losing 104 lbs my nail tech pointed to my stomach and said I still need to work on that! Hello!! I've got another 40 lbs or so to lose then it's off to the plastic surgeon for a Tummy Tuck.< /p>

I would have accidentally-on-purpose stuck her in the face with her own nail file :P

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My grandma tries to say things with the best intentions, but I can't stand when she's looking at an old picture of myself and comments on how me and my husband " blew up so quickly" and then says something like "atleast you started to get on track now"

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Sounds like my Mom who doesn't know how to compliment a person without adding a caveat. Over Thanksgiving after telling me I look beautiful she then she told me that now that my face is so much thinner my lines are more visible. Gee thanks, Mom.????

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I am getting my sleeve in February but I hate comments like ... "You've always had such a pretty face..." I'm like, well I think the rest if me is pretty too!!

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It's a tough room.

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Yesterday a male friend told me my butt looks good. That's my favorite one so far, because I have always hated my butt at ANY weight, so to hear someone compliment that of all things was nice!

My worst one is still my sister saying about me "she's lost a truckload, she only has half a truck to go".

I'd like to run over her with my half a truck.

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Zen, I bet you could get a large line of people to run that half truck over her when you're finished. Sheesh.

This was not about weight, but when I saw her last week my mother said, "Man…you have had your hair all sorts of styles and shades but after all that I think you've finally hit upon something that is flattering." Say it isn't so, Mom.

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I am cutting my hair shorter and growing a beard.

So when people say.....". There is something about you...."

I just say a " new beard"

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