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Went to visit my father who had been hospitalized last weekend. It was the first time I had seen my family since July. Walked into the hospital room to see my mom, my brother and sister in law, my niece and her boyfriend all sitting in the room. They all got quiet, and just waited for me to introduce myself (they thought I was one of the medical staff). It took at least 30 seconds for my brother to recognize me. Lol, 75 lbs less of me to recognize. My moms mouth was just hanging open. LOVED IT!

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@Mayaresearchmom - THAT IS AWESOME! You need to post that in the NSV too!!!

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"Wow, you look great! You're so lucky you could have surgery to do the work for you."

::sigh::

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Everyone here, has to REMEMBER, YOU did this for YOU!..Ladies, you will not get compliments from the other 'ladies', they are jealous....you will get compliments from the guys... in a hush hush way...but hey I took them... Shoot for your goal...ignore all around you and do what you know you NEED to do. You will reach your goal and go beyond,,,,,,,,,, and it will feel SO GOOD to you..... I lost half of me........ Best thing I ever done. In a NUTSHELL. Live your life, ignore everyone else... you did this for YOU!!! Drink that Water, Lose and be happy! Because you will find, there are a lot of jealous people out there. :P

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Everyone here, has to REMEMBER, YOU did this for YOU!..Ladies, you will not get compliments from the other 'ladies', they are jealous....you will get compliments from the guys... in a hush hush way...but hey I took them... Shoot for your goal...ignore all around you and do what you know you NEED to do. You will reach your goal and go beyond,,,,,,,,,, and it will feel SO GOOD to you..... I lost half of me........ Best thing I ever done. In a NUTSHELL. Live your life, ignore everyone else... you did this for YOU!!! Drink that Water, Lose and be happy! Because you will find, there are a lot of jealous people out there. :P

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So to add to the stupid comment. Today I went down to lunch to warm up my Soup. Mind you I am 5 weeks out as of today and down 23 pounds. My lovely manager is siting there and she asks in front of about 8 people, so how much have you lost(she asks this almost everyday) I said well I am the same as friday. She proceeds to say, "well you would think the weight would fall right off of you" like i am going to lose 100# in a month. I said well I am happy with my progress actually. She is determined to show that I am either not following things right and eating dorittos for every meal, or that this is such an extreme step and it doesn;t work. Well F*#k her is all I have to say to that

exactly one of the reasons in not telling

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Bosses aren't suppose to make comments like that. Talk to HR if it persists. Some people won't pass up am opportunity to make you feel "weak". I'm almost 8 months post and down 108. You keep your head up high. Don't let anyone put doubts in your way! You're gonna do fab!

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My husband said " hey, you are wasting away!" To which I replied " hardley! I have a long way to go yet!"

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I like every comment I get. It sure beats the non-comments no one ever sad out loud when I was fat. Everything from "wow" to "I can't believe how great you look" and even "you can stop losing now" and "eat a donut you skinny bitch". However, the "you have no boobs or butt so now you look like a prepubescent boy" wasn't particularly flattering ????

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I`m sure it must be a cultural thing or perhaps we are more thick skinned but in certain parts of the north of England "You don`t sweat much for a fat lass" is considered a compliment !! Pippinleicester.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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