I'm absolutely SHOCKED at how many times I get hit on now vs before weight loss. Is that how normal people have to live?! It was nice at first but honestly it stresses me out and distracts me now. HOW DO I FIX THIS. Anyone else going through the same thing? It took me a while to realize all those people have been mildly flirting till my friend pointed it out because I just thought everyone was nice (I recently moved to a new city lol). It's ridiculous because I never thought my looks had *that* much to do with it. Jeez. It's not like I'm more confident now or anything either.

Jazz Hands!

26 minutes ago, Walter.Sobchak said:

I am browsing this at work, if it’s about to get NSFW I need a heads up. I don’t want to be scrolling this thread only to see spread eagles and schwanns picks.

LOL, back to work!

5 hours ago, abefroman329 said:

A few months ago, I was talking to a single woman in her late 40s, and she said men send her unsolicited d**k pics too.

she is still young.

I don’t know why people send the pics, I think those bits are extremely unattractive. I’ve certainly never seen one that i’ve thought wow that’s a good looking ...... They may be functional and can be pleasurable IF used correctly but they certainly ain’t pretty.

I would rather get a pic of flat abs and that bit just above that goes into a V!

22 minutes ago, elcee said:

I don’t know why people send the pics, I think those bits are extremely unattractive. I’ve certainly never seen one that i’ve thought wow that’s a good looking ...... They may be functional and can be pleasurable IF used correctly but they certainly ain’t pretty.

I would rather get a pic of flat abs and that bit just above that goes into a V!

I've seen some Lookers...

21 minutes ago, GreenTealael said:

I've seen some Lookers...

Now this we agree on

Some of us like ink. ?

On 11/29/2018 at 13:59, elcee said:

I don’t know why people send the pics, I think those bits are extremely unattractive. I’ve certainly never seen one that i’ve thought wow that’s a good looking ...... They may be functional and can be pleasurable IF used correctly but they certainly ain’t pretty.

I would rather get a pic of flat abs and that bit just above that goes into a V!

Exactly.
I met my wife on Match.com 9 years ago and she said guys would send her d**k pics all the time and that she was disgusted by it. Some men are just idiots.
I have never sent a picture of mine to a woman, then again I am hung like a short stack of dimes ???

For the record, sending unsolicited dick pics and the like is illegal.

4 hours ago, JessLess said:

For the record, sending unsolicited d**k pics and the like is illegal.

God. I remember the good old days where nothin much bothered us or was illegal. LOL. Today's world of PC exhausts me and makes me feel very old and ragged. I remember when we didn't look for slights at every turn and when we didn't take ourselves so mother fuc*ing serious all. the. dayum. time. *sigh* I remember running with scissors as a child too.

2 hours ago, FluffyChix said:

God. I remember the good old days where nothin much bothered us or was illegal. LOL. Today's world of PC exhausts me and makes me feel very old and ragged. I remember when we didn't look for slights at every turn and when we didn't take ourselves so mother fuc*ing serious all. the. dayum. time. *sigh* I remember running with scissors as a child too.

god. Back in the good old days some people got all up in arms simply because someone use the "wrong" drinking fountain. Now it's bathrooms. Sorry but there were no good old days.

1 minute ago, LadySin said:

god. Back in the good old days some people got all up in arms simply because someone use the "wrong" drinking fountain. Now it's bathrooms. Sorry but there were no good old days.

For me, there is a balance and what you just expressed was opposite ends of the pole without any balance. Two extremes. My views are mine, and I'm def. not trying to get in a PC argument or push my views on anyone.

On 11/28/2018 at 1:03 PM, Polymorphing said:

I'm absolutely SHOCKED at how many times I get hit on now vs before weight loss. Is that how normal people have to live?! It was nice at first but honestly it stresses me out and distracts me now. HOW DO I FIX THIS. Anyone else going through the same thing? It took me a while to realize all those people have been mildly flirting till my friend pointed it out because I just thought everyone was nice (I recently moved to a new city lol). It's ridiculous because I never thought my looks had *that* much to do with it. Jeez. It's not like I'm more confident now or anything either.

It's a bit of a change going from invisible to noticed. Most people find healthy as attractive. Take the flirting as a compliment. It takes time to settle into your new appearance.

Funny that I was also a bit clueless about flirting and a few terms men use. Example. I was the only person on the back mats at my gym. I was stretching and foam rolling. Three guys pop around the corner. The term "making it rain" was used. The guys on the forum were kind enough to explain it to me. *laughing*

How do you fix this? Put things in perspective. You are healthy and that attracts attention. Decide where your line is with flirting, compliments, creepy behavior and full frontal pics.

We kinda had an uncomfortable moment recently when the woman who performs at the local music-for-kids performances, which Henry and I attended regularly while I was on leave, told my wife how cute she thought I was.

If the woman didn’t look like a gargoyle, it might have been really awkward for everyone involved.