Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Why cant i see my accomplishment?



Recommended Posts

I have finally hit the -50 lb mark. I'm about 1 lbs to onederland but I just don't see it. I don't feel much different. Is it because I'm only half way there? Idk maybe it's because I haven't been doing the best with my diet and haven't lost any significant weight this past month. Feeling down that's all ????

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

You have lost 50 pounds! You have to be able to see it! Don't let depression take over - recommit to yourself and make yourself the priority. You got this!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'd say it took me about 50lbs to start to see it and feel it. I bet you're almost at the point! Stay focused you got this and your hard work will totally pay off!!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hey Wendy. I lost nearly 100 lbs. and didn't see it. I am seeing a therapist to help me to see the new me and not the fat girl. I'm down 130+ lbs. and still working on seeing what everyone else sees.

I bet while you don't see the difference, others do.

Hang in there!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I can understand why you are feeling low but i feel that you should acknowledge the hard work you have put in to lose those 50 lbs.It is not an easy task but then you managed to accomplish it.You also need to keep a positive attitude for the future so that you are able to get to your ideal weight.You may not be able to see the change in yourself but I am sure the people around are able to see the big change.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hi Wendy, you are doing beautifully! We have very similar stats only I'm a November bandit. I really hovered at those gates of Onederland a while but once through it all seemed a lot more real to me, like it's really happening.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

It seemed to take longer to lose those last few pounds to get to onederland, but I think it's because I wanted it so bad! So when I finally got there I sorta missed the excitement till now cuz in working for my next goal to be considered just overweight and no longer obese :! Hang in there !

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Sounds like you are doing great. It is probably body image issues and a feeling of I want this all done right now. Well, we did not get there overnight and we won't get back overnight. When I had my band put in 02/13 I was told to expect a weight loss of 45 to 60 percent of my excess weight in 2 years. Well, I had a miracle and have lost about 80 percent of my weight in less than a year and now I am struggling with the last 15 pounds. I have lost only 10 pounds since Jan 1, 2014. I get a little bend out of shape now and again, but remember where I was when I started and where I am now. 46 in pants to 34. OK, in my mind I want 32's but maybe for now I had better just get used to 34 and be grateful. Maybe working with your dietitian and the therapist at your clinic will help you get over this slump.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Many of us struggled with this. In time, you will see what others see. I didn't realize what everyone kept shoo shooing behind my back until two years post op. I took a picture and that's when I noticed how much smaller I looked. My neck was so scrawny looking lol. Looking at myself in the mirror I didn't see. It was the photo that did it. Don't be down on yourself. You're beautiful sweetie. Congratulations on 50 lbs down. :)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

First go find something that weighs 50 pounds. Pick it up. Walk around with it. Tell me then how you feel. You are walking around every minute of every day with 50 pounds less on your joints, muscles and bones. You have done fantastic. Take a look at your photo's before losing the weight. Do like I do when I can't feel the impact of my loss. Go ahead and ask people if they notice your weight loss. Then thank them and tell them you have worked really hard to lose the weight. This last part solidifies in your mind that you have lost weight and that all the hard work has positive results. Write down the compliments people give you. When you are having a down day go back and re-read your compliment journal. Only journal compliments. You will begin to train your brain to remember the true compliments. Right now your brain hangs on to the negative experiences of being heavy. When you re-read the compliments your nervous system does not know the difference in a vividly imagined event and the real thing. So you relive those moments you got compliments. Your nervous system will hang on to those positive events. We are good at always vividly remembering negative comments and experiences yet we discard the positive. A compliment journal helps your nervous system relive those great moments. I have a compliment journal. I journal what the person said. I journal how it made me feel. When I have a bad day or feel discouraged I pick up my journal, flip through it and re-read and re-experience those positive feelings. Don't be afraid to ask others if they have noticed your weight loss. Other's don't always say it but if you help bring it out of them it is the same as an unsolicited compliment. Here for you. And Wow!! I bet you have a hard time lifting that 50 pounds up and walking around!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • KeeWee

      It's been 10 long years! Here is my VSG weight loss surgiversary update..
      https://www.ae1bmerchme.com/post/10-year-surgiversary-update-for-2024 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Aunty Mamo

      Iʻm roughly 6 weeks post-op this morning and have begun to feel like a normal human, with a normal human body again. I started introducing solid foods and pill forms of medications/supplements a couple of weeks ago and it's really amazing to eat meals with my family again, despite the fact that my portions are so much smaller than theirs. 
      I live on the island of Oʻahu and spend a lot of time in the water- for exercise, for play,  and for spiritual & mental health. The day I had my month out appointment with my surgeon, I packed all my gear in my truck, anticipating his permission to get back in the ocean. The minute I walked out of that hospital I drove straight to the shore and got in that water. Hallelujah! My appointment was at 10 am. I didn't get home until after 5 pm. 
      I'm down 31 pounds since the day of surgery and 47 since my pre-op diet began, with that typical week long stall occurring at three weeks. I'm really starting to see some changes lately- some of my clothing is too big, some fits again. The most drastic changes I notice however are in my face. I've also noticed my endurance and flexibility increasing. I was really starting to be held up physically, and I'm so grateful that I'm seeing that turn around in such short order. 
      My general disposition lately is hopeful and motivated. The only thing that bugs me on a daily basis still is the way those supplements make my house smell. So stink! But I just bought a smell proof bag online that other people use to put their pot in. My house doesn't stink anymore. 
       
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • BeanitoDiego

      Oh yeah, something I wanted to rant about, a billing dispute that cropped up 3 months ago.
      Surgery was in August of 2023. A bill shows up for over $7,000 in January. WTF? I asks myself. I know that I jumped through all of the insurance hoops and verified this and triple checked that, as did the surgeon's office. All was set, and I paid all of the known costs before surgery.
      A looong story short, is that an assistant surgeon that was in the process of accepting money from my insurance company touched me while I was under anesthesia. That is what the bill was for. But hey, guess what? Some federal legislation was enacted last year to help patients out when they cannot consent to being touched by someone out of their insurance network. These types of bills fall under something called, "surprise billing," and you don't have to put up with it.
      https://www.cms.gov/nosurprises
      I had to make a lot of phone calls to both the surgeon's office and the insurance company and explain my rights and what the maximum out of pocket costs were that I could be liable for. Also had to remind them that it isn't my place to be taking care of all of this and that I was going to escalate things if they could not play nice with one another.
      Quick ending is that I don't have to pay that $7,000+. Advocate, advocate, advocate for yourself no matter how long it takes and learn more about this law if you are ever hit with a surprise bill.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • BeanitoDiego

      Some days I feel like an infiltrator... I'm participating in society as a "thin" person. They have no idea that I haven't always been one of them! 🤣
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • ChunkCat

      Thank you everyone for your well wishes! I totally forgot I wrote an update here... I'm one week post op today. I gained 15 lbs in water weight overnight because they had to give me tons of fluids to bring my BP up after surgery! I stayed one night in the hospital. Everything has been fine except I seem to have picked up a bug while I was there and I've been running a low grade fever, coughing, and a sore throat. So I've been hydrating well and sleeping a ton. So far the Covid tests are negative.
      I haven't been able to advance my diet past purees. Everything I eat other than tofu makes me choke and feels like trying to swallow rocks. They warned me it would get worse before it gets better, so lets hope this is all normal. I have my follow up on Monday so we'll see. Living on shakes and soup again is not fun. I had enough of them the first time!! LOL 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×