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I made one stupid post (that i apologized for) and all of a sudden I'm Satan. I realize I was initially at fault but I also was not the only one. Well... since no one on here gives a crap about me anymore I guess I'll go. Good luck to all of you. This foeum was truly gelpful :(

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Why do you even care what other people think? Post what you like and let the haters hate.

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Why do you even care what other people think? Post what you like and let the haters hate.

Agree :-)

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waaaaaaa! Please don't go!

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Ignore hate. Stay and share. We are better with diversity of opinion. No worries.

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Seela, rather than run away, PM the people in question and apologise. If the site is helping you, you need to be on it. But the lesson is - think before you post, be sure of what you say - and don't make excuses for ur actions. You may think you weren't the only one but that doesn't make what you said to someone in crisis right....

Own it and move on, you made a mistake, be more thoughtful in future. Good luck.

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Had a good cry and now I feel better. If you read my post I said I already appologized for it.. how many times should I have to own it? And for someone who tells everyone they dont judge or want conflict iamfatpat seems insistant on judging me and stirring it up. I certainly hope everyone had fun ripping me a new one at my expense. I was already struggling and now I just feel like total and complete crap. So, fatpat abd laura... congradulations... I give up... you are the queens of this blog and I am nothing. Hope that's what you wanted to hear. And I hope for your sake you don't ever say something stupid when someone like you is around because you all were so hurtful to me tonight that I just don't giva a ... about anything anymore!!!

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Once you apologized it should of been over. Everyone needs to watch the way they treat others...it defines who you are. We all mess up...as long as you fix the behavior. There is no need to keep jumping on someone for a mistake...even a bad one. I would leave this alone. It is obvious you and some others will never be friends...and that's ok. What is also obvious is that you are suffering and you do need help...just like everyone else. We all handle stress differently. I may not like the way you were snappy with that post to the college kid...but I didn't see hate drom you I saw inexperience, stress, and a need to vent...you just took it out on someone else. Stay with the forum and learn from your mistakes and learn that other people may always be ugly...they may never let it go...u can't change that. You need to work on yourself...as we all do...not each other.

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I have folks on here that hate my guts and folks that love me to pieces. What a surprise, just like the world I live in! I have had run ins with people on here that later became friends. People fight, even "adults".

I have been on here for over a year and a half being helped and trying to help. I am quite a wise guy but try to be kind in my humor. I have been tolerated for the most part. I have been attacked at times. Big whoopy. I am not harmed by black and white two dimensional letters on a screen. Now if you come to my house and attempt kick my butt that would be a problem. :D

Stay and see how things develop. Be as nice as possible and see if folks won't warm up to you. You don't have to sacrifice your pride just put your retaliation on pause. Sometimes you find no need of it.

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I know what post you are referring to, and I have to say that the entire thing got way, way, way out of hand. Honestly, I didn't think what you wrote was bad at all and really correct.

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So, fatpat abd laura... congradulations... I give up... you are the queens of this blog

Actually, *I* am the queen around these parts, Laura and Pat are simply my yellow, capsule shaped minions...

My input for what it is worth. That old adage about treating others as you want to be treated? You can hit Pat with sarcasm and humor, you can lob a few f-bombs at Laura, you deal out honest, solid advice, facts or opinions to either, you can disagree, debate or flat out tell them to shove it up their assticles and they can take it.

In turn, YOU should be able to take people telling you to go to hell, calling your comments b!tchy, people telling you that you are a tool and to pull your head out of your ass, etc. because that's how YOU have treated others here. It wasn't one post, it has been your pattern and that's ok. I am not putting you down for who you are, I am not saying you don't have the right to be say whatever you are feeling. I am simply telling you that you have to expect your voice to come back at you and when it does, you have no justification for whining about it.

Stay or go, it's up to you. Personally, I think you should stay. It's clear you need the support and this is a great place to get it. That said, we are all adults here and you will be treated with the same respect you dole out to others.

Good luck to you on your journey!

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