Years ago..my ex grandmother in law (who was really mean to me) bought me 2 pair of underwear for Christmas,,she's dead now. They looked really small so in front of everyone she held them up and said "yall think these will fit Karen? Yeah they'll fit,,see??" Then she stretched them beyond recognition to show everyone that my fat butt would fit those bloomers. Besides the fact she did this in front of 75 family members..some of my ex's cousins were kids my age that I went to school with. I was humiliated and it affected me for years. It probably wouldn't have bothered me so much now but back then I was so insecure and self consious about my weight..it was so embarrassing. I could see others were embarrassed for me and even commented to me about how bad they felt for me,,which made me feel worse. I just wanted it to be over and bury my head somewhere. I wanted to post this so I can get over it..anyone else have a really sucky moment?

A few years ago I worked for my dad who is a doctor. My mom also worked for him. I was only 130lbs at the time but for my height which is 4'9 I wasn't skinny nor was I fat. I had aspirations of becoming a pharmaceutical sales woman and one day I was asking a drug rep what I needed to do. My mom turned around in front of a waiting room full of patients and an office full of staff and said, " you will never get hired by a drug company because they don't hire fat people. " the whole office went silent and I just about wanted to die. She's a very cruel person.

Sitting here reading everyone's stories... It makes me sad that we live in a world of such cruelty and prejudice. I, like the op, find some kind of strange healing in reading these stories. Maybe it's because I can see that I was and am not alone in my embarrassments and pains, maybe it makes me feel more a part of something instead of alone, but whatever it is I know this for sure... We are some of the strongest and most courageous people I know. To have gone through and continue to go through all these things and still strive to better our lives instead of being beat down and torn apart is nothing short of miraculous!

I'm so sorry to read these stories. Some of them really cross the line and are absolutely hateful. I'm sorry anyone had to go through those things and I hope that nobody is giving any of those hateful and ugly people space in their heads by holding onto the hurt and shame those people caused.

My "lightbulb" moment was when I broke a wooden dining room chair that was part of my friend's antique set. We were at a large gathering of my husband's coworkers and their families. I was already the biggest girl in the room and this just cemented things for me. My husband was already asked on occasion if I had put on a lot of weight after marriage or with my twin pregnancy - as if people just couldn't believe he'd fallen in love with a fat girl! In any case, I was beyond humiliated and was even more embarrassed when she refused to let me apologize and tried to blame the chair and tell me it was okay. She wouldn't let me compensate her or anything. It was horrible. I knew I was big but I never thought I would damage furniture!

I had been researching surgery for more than a year at that point and made the appointment for my sleeve less than a week later. It was very difficult for me to accept invitations with work people for a long time after that.

~Cheri

When i was a kid kids would comment on mother,s huge ass . She still has huge ass. It didn't feel good as a kid. When my kids were in school they come home sad cause kids said i was fat . My highest wt was higher250, i lost the wt. Kept off for her3,4 yrs then wake up n i was 237. Totalled my motorcycle broke leg n skull fracture n i forgot to eat.. lost down to a kid10 quick like the sleeve, then kept off for3 yrs then wake212 again so i had the stomach removed lol I'm smaller than i ever been as adult and my granny asks me if I'm gonna lose that roll. Omg i was sitting hunched over. Some ppl only see fat and not the person. Wanna know how to make a fat person mad quick? Mention wls yep. Your their enemy for life.. try telling your fat friends about it you will see

My most humiliating moment. Keep in mind that I am easy Indian but born in Canada. I love my culture and all but Indian people upon people with weight issues and have no issue talking about it. So here goes:

I was at an Indian clothing store helping my boyfriend pick out an outfit for an up coming wedding. When the lady at the store asked him what size he was and he told her, she brought out that size. However, that outfit was too tight on him. He hadn't gained any weight, I'm sure they just had the wrong size on the label. He made a sweet comment to the sales lady "I guess I may have packed on a few pounds..my gf is such a great cook". The sales lady answered "well she must be trying to get you to look like her so she won't look so fat standing next to you like she does now". I was speechless. My boyfriend saw the look on my face and said lets go. We were planning on going shopping and then going out to my fave restaurant to have dinner but who wants to eat after hearin a comment like that?

The whole drive home I wiped my years silently. He knew I was so upset and tried to convince me to go home, freshen up and go out with him. Instead I went home, layed in my bed and cried myself to sleep while he held me. So embarrassing.

My most recent was just a couple of months ago. I live in Texas and LOVE to country western dance. It's not a big deal to 2 step with someone. It doesn't mean you are going home with them. Anyways, I was at a honkey tonk with 4 very pretty, skinny friends and this very unattractive guy approached our group and all but begged each girl to dance with him. When he got to me, he looked at me and turned and walk away. It hurt and ruined my night! Uggh!

My worst was last summer when I was vacationing in Portland with my fiance. We were walking around the Pearl District and had been having a great time when some guys drove by in a truck and one pointed at me' date=' they drove by again and this time rolled down their window, shouted, "FAT BIT*H" and threw a candy bar at me and then sped away.

I was mortified and also so embarrassed that my fiance had to be there too. I guess I was afraid he would realize that I was fat all the sudden and leave. He didn't and actually threw a book at the truck for me. But still. Terrible.[/quote']

Hello!!

I am from Portland (born and raised). So sorry to hear this happened to you!! I am bummed to hear this!! So sorry. In thirty years I have never experienced anything like this. Golly.

I have been a big girl since @ least 2000. After getting pregnant with nine year old it all went to hell from there. Once when she was three we were taking a bath together and she said mommy we are mermaids but ur the fat mermaid. A three year old tells it like it is. As a administrator for a Family Practice office I new I would never advance in my career if I was fat and yes it is against the law, but it happens everyday.

Sad part is I used to be the girl in high school that made fun of fat people and swore I would never be fat. I hurt a lot of feelings and have prayed for forgiveness daily, but good ole KARMA bit in the ass and I too became this huge fat person.

My teen age son was teased by friends with the your momma so fat jokes and i was devasted for him.

My breaking point was my boss ( a doctor ) making fun of me. I was tired of being the fat boss and the room going silent when I walked in and at least now when the room goes silent it is because I am the boss not the huge fat boss.

I graduate May 10, 2012 with my MBA but knew no one would ever hire me being a lard ass so I had surg April 10th and have never looked back.

Just a couple of months ago I was walking out of a store as these two guys in their 20's (I'm 31) were walking in. As we crossed paths one of the guys wasn't paying attention and bumped into me, then he turned and said "ahhh I'm sorry, don't eat me!" I was there shopping for a bathing suit because we were going to the beach for my sons birthday the next day. I didn't want to and I hadn't been in years, but I somehow had myself believing that I didn't look "that bad" in the suit I picked out. But after that happened, I wanted to hide in my room like usual. It gets worse. So, the next day we go to the beach with my boyfriend and son because that's what my son wanted to do for his bday. I put on my fat lady bathing suit and had a good time. When I got home, later that evening I caught my boyfriend jerking off to pictures and videos of girls in bikinis. So I guess I thought we had good family time at the beach but he was really just staring at hot young skinny chicks and couldn't wait to get home and take care of himself. Then he told me that maybe if I went to the gym occasionally, he wouldn't need to look at porn. Of course it's ok that he is chubby, because the same rules don't apply to men.

As I read these I was trying to think of not one but which tramatic embarrassing moment to post. Then I realized it still hurts to bad to think about so my mind couldnt come up with the worst. People who have never been 'obese' DO NOT know how something weightwise as young as 7 sticks with you for the rest of your life. Being 41 I still feel like crying when I think of what Ive been through and not being as large as some others I cant imagine shat theyve been through. It literally breaks my heart. After you go through this surgery and change how do you react to overweigt people who have not had it? Do you gave pity for them? Guilt you could get it and not them? Im only in my 3rd week but still getting through the emotional part of it. Glad Im not where I was but afraid of where Im going. Does this make sense and did you go through it too?

OMG ppl are cruel! I have a couple tales to post later when I have time but it just sickens me to see how cruel ppl are! Young kids don't always mean it maliciously but teenagers and grown ups? Just wrong in every way!!!

As I read these I was trying to think of not one but which tramatic embarrassing moment to post. Then I realized it still hurts to bad to think about so my mind couldnt come up with the worst. People who have never been 'obese' DO NOT know how something weightwise as young as 7 sticks with you for the rest of your life. Being 41 I still feel like crying when I think of what Ive been through and not being as large as some others I cant imagine shat theyve been through. It literally breaks my heart. After you go through this surgery and change how do you react to overweigt people who have not had it? Do you gave pity for them? Guilt you could get it and not them? Im only in my 3rd week but still getting through the emotional part of it. Glad Im not where I was but afraid of where Im going. Does this make sense and did you go through it too?

I am going through something like that now. Although I haven't been sleeved yet, I most definitely plan to do so, barring some blip in the universe that prevents me from doing so. I feel like an evangelist,I see other overweight people and think to myself , why don't they have WLS. I want to go over and tell them of the great opportunity. Then I slap myself into reality. I am not a fan of evangelism. To each his own, I say. My decision is my own, not everyone I know would agree with it (if I even told them). So how would I feel about my obese brothers and sisters, after the weight loss. The way I feel about those I have worked with as a nurse over the years...the poor, the disenfranchised, the sick, the homeless. I don't feel sorry for them, I want to help, or at least support them because, in the end, There but for the grace of God, go I.

I feel the pain as each person shares their story. Sometimes those memories are still vivid and real. Reading these through, I see a common bond... we are not a lot alone. We are strong and overcomers.

I hope each us finds the strength to let go and heal. We are worth it.

I can't wait for surgery this fall. The journey continues.

Peace

Chad

Peace queen I agree with others, she is gone and clearly had some jealous need to treat you that way. Her loss. Sorry you held onto that feeling.

I have had many in my life, but one sticks out because it was a family member. I had not seen my grandmother (step dad's mom), in quite a while, I was about 13 or 14 and she came up to me squeezed my cheeks together and said "oh look you still have a taco face"... Seriously? I was like 140 lbs at 5'10"... But it stayed with me. She too was mean and long gone from my life and this world.

Hugs to all who have endured MEAN PEOPLE!!

Wow, I'm so sorry about the experiences you all have had. I'm glad I came to this forum because sometimes when you hear the comments people make about us, you feel like your the only one going through it at the time. I have many stories to tell. Some days I dare someone to say something about my weight, and other days I will break down and cry. One of the days I was ready to knock someone into the middle of next week was the time my family and I were at the mall. My husband is a large guy too and we had not eaten anything that day so we could go out to eat. We were standing in the line at the food court and this idiot walks past and says, "HEY, HEY, HEEEY" he and his friends were laughing, but that all ceased when his gaze met mine. I was NOT in the mood for nonsense that day. He stopped laughing and kept walking. I've had children be brutally honest in my daughters' school, one little girl walked up to me squeezed my arm and was saying, "tubby, tubby, tubby" *sigh* and the list goes on, but I try to stay positive and ask God to give me strength not to act on how I feel and he has done that, I'm not in any trouble LOL, but I really hurts to hear people be so insensitive and say hurtful things. I'm afraid to ride a plane, train, bus, anything with confined space because I don't think I could handle the embarrasment of not fitting.