So, what things about the bari world/community give you the ick? No idea why, but for me it's the word "pouch" and the concept of having a pouch inside of me -- I'm sure there are good psychological reasons for why most bari professionals use that term post-op, but for me I will always call it my stomach and I feel so much better when other people do too.

16 minutes ago, smc124 said:

I mean perhaps this wasn’t the post to read if you didn’t want here about things that give folks the ick… just sayin

I mean perhaps some of you, yourself included, need to understand that words have multiple meanings and not just your very basic and negative understanding, there is a difference between things being "ick" (which is a very immature word to use...grow up and use our adult words) and the whole lot of you just being miserable. The bariatric community, which again, you are a part of, has a reputation for being mean, cliquey and unwelcoming. This is why I stayed off this site for six months. Just saying.

Grow up. Any of you who posted things about terminology, like the number of you who cannot understand what a tool is, really need to go back to grade school for comprehension.

I'm over people being mean, and miserable behind a keyboard because they can. Some of you really need to start facing consequences for your negativity.

Step on a lego and have the day you deserve.

xoxo.

Dear Sunshine Princess, the only person who's being really judgmental on this thread so far seems to be you.

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Grow up. Any of you who posted things about terminology, like the number of you who cannot understand what a tool is, really need to go back to grade school for comprehension.

This is at least bordering the line to insult if not crossing it and I'd recommend taking it down a notch or two (though you will most likely not doing this, practically no one posting in that style ever has).

12 hours ago, Sunshine Princess said:

I mean perhaps some of you, yourself included, need to understand that words have multiple meanings and not just your very basic and negative understanding, there is a difference between things being "ick" (which is a very immature word to use...grow up and use our adult words) and the whole lot of you just being miserable. The bariatric community, which again, you are a part of, has a reputation for being mean, cliquey and unwelcoming. This is why I stayed off this site for six months. Just saying.

Grow up. Any of you who posted things about terminology, like the number of you who cannot understand what a tool is, really need to go back to grade school for comprehension.

I'm over people being mean, and miserable behind a keyboard because they can. Some of you really need to start facing consequences for your negativity.

Step on a lego and have the day you deserve.

xoxo.

For the record, "gives you the ick" is a popular thought/discussion prompt currently, but you may not be familiar with it if you're not a frequent user of tiktok and tumblr, as I am. It's fine to not be familiar with something, it's not fine to imply that other people are somehow deficient or immature for using a slang term you're not familiar with.

It's also entirely possible to be fully aware of and familiar with the meaning of a common word or phrase like "surgery is a tool" or "pouch" and still feel a level of frustration, annoyance, or other negative association with it because of its frequent use within a sub-group to the point of cliche, meaninglessness, or because of how it's frequently employed as a conversation stopper or thought-terminating cliche. Again, it doesn't mean the person who doesn't like the word is stupid or lacks reading comprehension. People don't dislike the word "moist" because they don't understand it means damp.

I hope you have a good day, despite your insistence on implying a bunch of strangers engaging in a light-hearted discussion about memes within their cultural subgroup are stupid because they don't agree with you.

Edited February 10, 20233 yr by kbsleeved

11 minutes ago, kbsleeved said:

It's also entirely possible to be fully aware of and familiar with the meaning of a common word or phrase like "surgery is a tool" or "pouch" and still feel a level of frustration, annoyance, or other negative association with it because of its frequent use within a sub-group to the point of cliche, meaninglessness, or because of how it's frequently employed as a conversation stopper or thought-terminating cliche.

IMO this hits the nail on the head.

Many of the terms people mentioned in this thread are most likely giving them the cringe or ick not because someone said "journey" or "stall" but because of their overuse, often - as you already said - up to the point of meaninglessness.

Conversation stopper and/or thought-terminating are also nailing it.

Im sorry that the Angry OP is feeling bullied, or if they feel others are being bullied...as i think I can safely say for everyone that is/was not the intention ?

I don't think anyone (other than AOP, ironically) targeted their respective angsts to anyone in particular?

BUT in the interest of grace, OP is a relatively new member (who was inactive for 6 months) vs alot of us on this thread who are sort of BP old dogs, so we've had years to develop our icks to "overused" words and practices, while newer folks have only recently integrated them into their vernaculars. So i can see how she may have felt "targeted" for us expressing our distastes for words she may be using?

We've all got different perspectives (which i think is a good thing!)

In any case, i would just like to say I am far from miserable (quite the contrary actually) and in my humble opinion think that the BP forum community is actually one of the nicer, more supportive and friendly forums out there.

....aaaand SCENE.

As you were.

p.s. sorry this so long

p.p.s. to the OP in question: sorry if anything i said made u feel bad, i can see how u may have felt bad if u use the words i put down. ❤️ perhaps disclaimers were needed.

p.p.p.s. to the ORIGINAL OP of this thread: I still enjoyed participating and getting a chance to vent. Further, I am 50 years old and "ick" is a regular part of my vocabulary. ❤️

EDITED TO ADD: i took a moment just now to read a bit of OP's activity history...kinda gives a bit more perspective where they were coming from. ?

Edited February 10, 20233 yr by ms.sss

...but anyway!

another ick: FOAMIES both in word and in practice.

(see how i changed the subject there?? ?)

1 hour ago, ms.sss said:

(see how i changed the subject there?? ?)

Back to the original subject, lol.

I hope it will be more than a nice try.

I’ll add another ick. To keep us trending… Rn for me it’s milk of magnesia. I know that’s not bari specific but just thinking about the taste makes me shudder.

I’ll also add in a generic annoyance with seeing people treat me more kindly or graciously since my weight loss has become noticeable…ick

Well, that milk of magnesia stuff looks a bit like barium suspension, so...

02/10/2023 07:58 PM, summerset said:

Well, that milk of magnesia stuff looks a bit like barium suspension, so...

Now that stuff is the king of ick…. I felt like I tasted it for hours ?

Adding the term Glow Up to the “ick” list. Idk why exactly but mainly because it’s over used.

22 minutes ago, GreenTealael said:

Adding the term Glow Up to the “ick” list.

That's a new one for me though. What do people mean when they say/write it? Something like thriving?

1 hour ago, smc124 said:

Now that stuff is the king of ick…. I felt like I tasted it for hours ?

Really? I always think of barium suspension as one of the better tasting oral contrast agents.

There is the one that smells like licorice but tastes really nasty and one that's supposed to have a taste like oranges but is equally nasty. The worst I ever tasted was something that smelled like peppermint toothpaste. Dear mother of God...

I always use i. v. contrast agents. They taste of almost nothing.

Edited February 10, 20233 yr by summerset

On 02/10/2023 at 16:08, summerset said:

Really? I always think of barium suspension as one of the better tasting oral contrast agents.

There is the one that smells like licorice but tastes really nasty and one that's supposed to have a taste like oranges but is equally nasty. The worst I ever tasted was something that smelled like peppermint toothpaste. Dear mother of God...

I always use i. v. contrast agents. They taste of almost nothing.

Maybe I’m confusing it whichever one I had that was made of shrimp shells

2 hours ago, summerset said:

That's a new one for me though. What do people mean when they say/write it? Something like thriving?

A Cinderella style transformation. It can be weight related or not but it’s usually about becoming more beautiful in some physical way.