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2 minutes ago, GreenTealael said:

Actually I think I'm going to disclose the reason why I wasn't feeling well last date. Gonna take the plunge and talk about WLS...

I usually say something on my first date that is a meal, if I feel like there is potential with the guy. How little I can eat is always noticed, so I figure it's an opportunity to just get it out there.

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1 hour ago, GreenTealael said:

Actually I think I'm going to disclose the reason why I wasn't feeling well last date. Gonna take the plunge and talk about WLS...

Nooooooooopoooppoooooo! Don't do it! It's too soon!!!!

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11 minutes ago, GreenTealael said:

I can't keep dying on dates lol

Nooo ... you don't want that .... :lol:

If there is a good way to bring it up, just go for it IMO.

For me, every time .."You didn't eat much, was it ok? Was something wrong?"

If I like the guy and see potential, I just say I had WLS, and don't have a lot of stomach capacity. I keep it light and positive and low on details. If I don't like the guy I just make up some reason like my stomach is off, late lunch, etc..

I figure it is good screening, if he's scared off by my WLS, better to know sooner rather than later.

And this is coming from someone who is fanatical about keeping it a secret at work. So I'm not of the opinion to just tell everyone.

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7 minutes ago, GreenTealael said:

I can't keep dying on dates lol

Ugggh are there restaurants ur good with and love? Maybe u could just ask if he would be game to try it? Then order what u know u tolerate?

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2 minutes ago, FluffyChix said:

Ugggh are there restaurants ur good with and love? Maybe u could just ask if he would be game to try it? Then order what u know u tolerate?

But this is someone's who's trusty and beloved yogurt turned on her .... :lol:

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46 minutes ago, sillykitty said:

But this is someone's who's trusty and beloved yogurt turned on her .... :lol:

Good grief! I'd forgotten that!!!

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1 minute ago, GreenTealael said:

* Shaking my old man fists*

They all turn on you in the endddddd

Aren't you supposed to be on a date??

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Date went very very well, even received flowers. Disclosure of WLS, no big deal. Getting another date...

Buuuuuut (don't shoot me) is it because I'm visually appealing now?

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7 minutes ago, GreenTealael said:

Date went very very well, even received flowers. Disclosure of WLS, no big deal. Getting another date...

Buuuuuut (don't shoot me) is it because I'm visually appealing now?

Yes.

Don't go there. You can't change the past, but living well is the best revenge on everyone. You can alter and have altered your future--for keeps!!!!

Congrats on flowers and full disclosure going well! Cudos! Glad I told you to do it! :D haha

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4 minutes ago, FluffyChix said:

Yes.

Don't go there. You can't change the past, but living well is the best revenge on everyone. You can alter and have altered your future--for keeps!!!!

Congrats on flowers and full disclosure going well! Cudos! Glad I told you to do it! :D haha

Hahahaha

Taking the sorting hat off ...

I don't care about the past but I think I'm seeing a subsection of obesity prejudice where people are more responsive to other people's WLS if they appear to have been successful... This is the second time it has happened to me so far and I'm concerned...

Am I going crazy?

Probably

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15 minutes ago, GreenTealael said:

Date went very very well, even received flowers. Disclosure of WLS, no big deal. Getting another date...

Buuuuuut (don't shoot me) is it because I'm visually appealing now?

Yay!! :)

Count down to cardio time .... :P

As far as visually appealing goes ... we all have types. There are definitely men I wouldn't date based upon their physical appearance. So I can't really hold it against someone for doing the same thing, can I?

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On 10/24/2018 at 20:11, GreenTealael said:



Date went very very well, even received flowers. Disclosure of WLS, no big deal. Getting another date...




Buuuuuut (don't shoot me) is it because I'm visually appealing now?






So glad the date went well and WLS was no big deal! I know it’s easy to think it’s only because you are visually appealing now - but that is YOU!! And since he didn’t freak at the WLS it seems he like you for YOU!! ❤️

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