Telling Friends and Family about surgery

[1poundatatime 174]

I started off not wanting to tell anyone besides my husband... Then I had to tell my parents out of necessity (they will be babysitting while I travel for surgery)... I told me sister because we're close... Then one by one I've told 3 close friends....

And I'm so happy I did because it will be nice to have support post-op. I may tell others later, but I'm taking it one day, one person at a time!

[nitasjourney 49]

This made me smile...so in other words, EVERYONE. Lol

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[Kimba Maria Wiggins 81]

I told my housemates, my Twitter followers and my Facebook friends. A few tried to talk me out of it but I wasn't backing down. One was so negative that I refuse to talk to her again. My surgery was 2/28/17.

[AndiUGoonie 6]

I first told my daughter and my mom since they live with me.

Then I told a few people at work and why I wont be pitching in on pizza no more lol

Now that I got my surgery date..I made a big post on my FB page and everyone was really supportive..if they weren't they didn't say anything which is preferable lol

[kins117 104]

I'm not telling anyone but my husband and my close friends. My family doesn't know.

[Please 188]

On March 4, 2017 at 0:16 AM, boymomx2 said:

Did you tell all of your friends and family that you were having the surgery or not? Not sure what to do! My husband knows and other than that I haven't told anyone.

I'm only telling my husband. I'll be travelling alone while he has the kids.

[LilEngine 20]

Having a revision from Lapband to Sleeve (next week) I already feel like Ive failed at this, so I am not only keeping it to myself, I am not telling my teenage children (this should be interesting) and when asked abt the weight loss I will most likely lie to those that knew of my previous surgery and say I'm now using my band or blame it on some new diet. I just don't want the questions/opinions of others....there I said it.

[Berry78 4,259]

The people that live in my house with me need to know because while I'm recovering, they have to pick up my slack. It also will help having them watch out for me if I get sick.

Anyone that lives outside the house is on a need to know basis. I definitely won't tell them before the procedure, and I'll play it by ear after.

I don't work, so don't have that dynamic.

[ThickGirl5683 318]

I only told my husband and my mom. My surgery is on March 20th so on or about the 18th I will tell my children I'm having "surgery" to fix a few things.

[CJ1107 23]

I only told my parents, brother and fiancée. I don't want any negative energy around me during this time so I kept it just between us. Afterwards I'll decide if I want to share with others or not. Go with your gut feeling!

[blizair09 3,250]

I told anyone and everyone about the surgery and every aspect of my journey since the beginning of my six month pre-op diet program on March 21, 2016. It keeps me accountable, and I am lousy at keeping secrets anyway. And, at this point, I have lost 180 pounds. It's pretty damn obvious that I have had some medical intervention to use as a tool to help me in my journey.

Telling people educates them. I will never regret being open about everything.

[Finding_Stacy 263]

I've only told a few people. I don't know why since I'm pretty much an open book, but just a handful of people know. A few of them probably have already forgotten. Actually, it's a lot of pressure when people know, at least for me. I'd rather get a handle on this before I have to answer anyone's questions. I figure by the time they really start noticing, I'll have my handle on it by then.

[SassyScienceNerd 213]

17 minutes ago, blizair09 said:

I told anyone and everyone about the surgery and every aspect of my journey since the beginning of my six month pre-op diet program on March 21, 2016. It keeps me accountable, and I am lousy at keeping secrets anyway. And, at this point, I have lost 180 pounds. It's pretty damn obvious that I have had some medical intervention to use as a tool to help me in my journey.

Telling people educates them. I will never regret being open about everything.

I feel torn. On one hand, how will people know that surgery isn't the easy fix they think it is unless they are privvy to people in that situation and going through that journey? (ME) The only way to change that perception is to be an example. But right off the bat, I just want to recover and do the work and get my head right. I don't want to also have the additional job of educating the masses and defending my decision and learning how to deal with the sting of jerks who don't get it.

Maybe one day I'll be a good surgical ambassador. But that day is not today.

[LeaninLanc 83]

I'm only 9 days out of surgery but this morning ran into a church member who persistently asked me "Whats up with you, you look really good ?" [emoji12]. It is hard for me to believe but I've already lost about 20 pounds and I think it is mostly in my face. I will be an ambassador for the surgery someday but since I'm literally still walking around with a surgical drain I told her that I'd been getting the best sleep of my life...and that's true. I have a real peacefulness about reclaiming my health. There's another 100 plus to lose so for now just my core group of family, friends and co-worker knows. I'm glad they do know, their support has been a gift.

[Apple1 2,572]

I am only planning to tell my husband and adult children. I just don't want to deal with all of the questions and judgments.

I have co-workers that tell me now I don't need to lose weight... obviously they don't understand the health challenges. Although my BMI is only 32, I have type 2 diabetes, high cholesterol, and lower back pain. I carry my weight mainly in the middle and many people don't think I weigh as much as I do. So for right now I am not planning on telling anyone outside my immediate family.