I am 18 months post sleeve surgery. I have about 20 pounds to go to meet goal. I am 5'"3. I remember when I was in my twenties and early thirties and I was obese (versus morbidly obese) I would read the height weight charts and always figure they didn't really apply to me. I was heavy boned. Therefore it was fine I was 10 or 15 or 20 pounds heavier than those charts. Now that I have lost so much weight I realize not only am I not big boned I am actually pretty petite.

I was trying to find a bracelet to go with a particular dress. Everything I tried on was way too big for my wrists. I actually almost need to buy children't sized jewelry. Remember I still need to lose 20 pounds to be at "goal". Goal would put me at the top end of my range for my height. Therefore I probably should lose more like 30-40 more pounds. I can't imagine how tiny my wrists will be then. So much for being "big boned".

So what other lies did you tell yourself while you were fat?

I told myself people will like me for me.

I told myself its okay if I over eat because skinny people do too.

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I told myself:

- I just need more willpower and I can get thin

- the next diet will be it and then I will shed the fat and never regain it

- I will only be a truly successful person when I'm thin

- I'm a weak willed wimp who just needs to toughen up and then I can lose this weight

Those are the lies I was told, told myself and unfortunately believed.

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I was a huge liar to myself. "It doesn't matter that I'm obese because I'm fit - I exercise much more than the thin people I know." "I very rarely eat junk food, so I'm not at risk for diabetes." "The carbs I eat don't count because it's all whole grains, Beans and fruit/veg." "If I just focused more I could lose all this weight and finally keep it off." "I'm a grownup who knows how to eat; I don't need a dietician." "I can be happy or thin/dieting, but not both." "It's profeminist for me not to care about my weight." "I'm not addicted to food." "I'm not as obese as the Biggest Loser cast so I don't need to lose weight." "I can do sports just as effectively fat as thin." "There's nothing I can do about becoming thin so I may as well give up." "My doctor told me I don't need to lose weight, so he must be right."

All LIES!

I told my self, "I am happy".

I kept telling myself, "I am happy".

I now tell myself, "I'm working on being happy".

It's a special event.

The problem was I was doing many "special events" particularly while traveling. For the people I was meeting with it was "a special event." They only had them two times a year, but I was have 70 or 80 of them a year.

You deserve it.

I mean seriously I just over indulged myself all the time.

It didn't help I had a high stress job an expense account and attended a lot of company events at 5 star hotels and very expensive restaurants. Working in the Tech field we had free lunch every day at work, catered happy hour on Fridays with unlimited booze in the office, free vending machines. You name it. I had an endless buffet of free food for years. Also no one cares if you are a fat nerd, it adds to your legend.

I still deserve all the nice and exquisite things in the world but they don't have to be food based. There is a world full of shoes

Your last two sentences just fast-forwarded me through a year of counseling, I think. Thank you!

I always told myself I was big boned and like you my bones are actually very petite. None of my old jewelry fits and my mother N law's jewelry does fit either. She was tiny!!!! When she passed away I got a lot of her jewelry and I need to get most of it resized.

- I told myself after many diets that failed because of regain that I was happy fat.

- I told myself I really didn't eat much so I simply had a crappy metabolism and I no longer needed to try.

- I told myself many many times that I worked hard, had a ton of stress and deserved to eat crappy food.

The list could go on an one.....

I truly believed I had a crummy metabolism. I had no idea how much I ate till the nutritionist had me log everything in. It was an eye opener for me.

I kept telling myself that I didn't look as big as I actually was, that I carried my weight well. Now, only 3 months after sleeve, I look at the pre-sleeve pics and realize how wrong I was.

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I told myself that the damage I was doing to my body would go away whenever I finally got thin.

Well, some did. Not all. Joints are badly damaged, high blood pressure still needs meds, and loose skin will never snap back.

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I thought. I'm really not that big. I eat fairly well. Perhaps a bit too much. But good quality food. I believed you had to eat right when hunger knocked.

Ha. I have learned how little the body can get by on daily sometimes. I have learned it really is ok to be hungry for a couple of hours when you need to be , for a myriad of reasons. It all works out.

if i cross my legs over like this (photo on the right) i will look smaller. "these are my skinny jeans" "my bmi isn't that high" "i'm not THAT big"

The biggest lie I told myself was that my compulsive eating was worth it, and that I really wasn't that big.

The biggest lie I told myself was that my weight wasn't having a negative impact on my life. That all I needed was more willpower and I could pull it together. That my joints really weren't being damaged because some of us just were born to carry a heavier load(saying this as I battle my dislocated knee caused by carrying that heavy load for so long). How bad could it be if I can still jump up and down? This one candy, ice cream, piece of cake won't send me railing over the edge into a binge. I could go on and on. In hindsight, I think we all do these things. Mainly it's a coping mechanism to get us through this unbearable place we are in. It's easier to say "it's out of my control" or "it doesn't apply to me" because then we don't have to take responsibility for where we arenas how hopeless we feel to change it.