Well, not really sure how to feel about this

[Band Aid mom 64]

So, I am having lap band on 2/12. My doctor wanted me to start my pre-op diet 4 WEEKS beforehand. I decided to practice this week and see how I did- not terrible but definitely need a little work. I have to stay at 20 carbs or less per day and I am hitting about 30-50. But the real thing that is needling me, but makes me happy all at the same time, is my husband has lost 8 pounds this week- (me, not so much- only 2). The part that makes me happy is that he is super supportive and on board with all things that will make my journey easier (he really is a fantastic guy). He has not complained one bit this week with all my crazy meals. But what a kick in the gut to see that at this rate, he will reach MY goal weight before I even get started. SIGH I feel guilty for complaining because I know that there are a lot of companions out there that give no support at all, but man. . .

[katesuccess 990]

Hey @Band Aid mom - I feel that one too! Some men just seem to lose SO much easier, it's nearly maddening. Good thing we love them because that trait would make it hard if not. On the other hand, mine began losing when I started my pre-op too, and then pretty quickly shifted into 100% supportive without doing all of what I was doing eating-wise. Then post op we walked together a good bit, but since i kept losing (and he didn't) I started running. He's continued to sort of lag behind in terms of fitness and food and weight loss, but he's continued to be much more active than before all of this, and eats much healthier foods and smaller portions than before. I'm really proud of him, and (like you) love that he's supportive.

Still, I'm not sure i'll tell him that part of his best support is not outdoing me in weight loss!

Also - good for you doing a try-it period! That's help you know if it's going to be harder or easier for you, and which things you like or can't stand. I did the same, and then ended up just starting a couple days early since I was mentally feeling ready. We had one last dinner out - but I actually ate very little, not at all a "Last Meal Pigout" - and was happily satisfied.

And I will say, for nearly everyone that weight DOES start coming off once you're fully on the liquids and post surgery. It's going to happen--just you watch!

Kate

[LipstickLady 25,682]

Men are jerks. Nothing we girls can do about it but kvetch to each other. Good news is, you will get there, too. It just might take a little longer. In the mean time? He's a butt wipe.

[Sharon1964 2,530]

Every time I think that it's pretty unfair that men have an easier time with weight loss (in general), I remind myself that as a woman, I grew two human beings in my body.

[Onward 40]

Only race yourself. He can't even get to your goal...cuz it's yours! He's on a parallel track and you'll have a sexier husband. Boy, lady...things are going your way!

[pink dahlia 2,513]

You can either look at it 1 of 2 ways, either you're going to get a stronger healthier body and a "supportive all the way" husband, or a stronger healthier body and a "supportive all the way" husband whose going to get tired of hearing about how his scale numbers are lower/different from yours. A wise person once told me " choose your battles wisely." Im lucky I still have a very supportive hubby, if you have one, count your blessings, not his /your numbers on a scale. Some people on this site will tell you that they have NO or little support at home. Sad but true.

[Band Aid mom 64]

@@pink dahlia I am oh so happy that he is there for me instead of fighting me on this. I just told him it might be better if he let me see/feel the difference in his body instead of spouting off numbers. Guess what, he was VERY HAPPY to accommodate LOL!

@sharon1964- you are soooo right. Things really changed with my body after my two girls were born 25/26 years ago and I'm looking to reclaim it now! It will just take a little more time. P.S. They were soooooo worth it!

[mrsto 2,925]

You can either look at it 1 of 2 ways, either you're going to get a stronger healthier body and a "supportive all the way" husband, or a stronger healthier body and a "supportive all the way" husband whose going to get tired of hearing about how his scale numbers are lower/different from yours. A wise person once told me " choose your battles wisely." Im lucky I still have a very supportive hubby, if you have one, count your blessings, not his /your numbers on a scale. Some people on this site will tell you that they have NO or little support at home. Sad but true.

Amen! I have a wonderful husband, who has been supportive since day one. Though he does not have the "fat issue", he does have about 20 pounds he plays with. When he decides to lose weight, it drops off like nothing. I can't fault him for that because it's a physiological fact that men lose weight quicker than women. They don't have NEARLY the fat cells that we do, and have a higher volume of muscle mass. I gave up comparing years ago. It is frustrating, but it's simply of fact of life.

Edited January 11, 2015 by mrsto

[Sharon1964 2,530]

@sharon1964- you are soooo right. Things really changed with my body after my two girls were born 25/26 years ago and I'm looking to reclaim it now! It will just take a little more time. P.S. They were soooooo worth it!

Actually, I wasn't referring to the changes that come with pregnancy and childbirth. I was referring to the ability we have as women to grow a human. Guys lose weight more easily (in general, not trying to offend anyone); women can grow humans. I'll take "grow humans" any day.

[punkinvine 227]

Hang in there. The Band is a tool for you and me to get where we need to be. My hubby was always very supportive and could drop wt. by just getting busy on the farm during planing and harvest season. Not me though. I needed the band to get me going and it has. Your pre trial of the diet is admirable. Go Girl! YOU will succeed with this tool. I did not until I had the band and 5 years later I am healthier and more fit than I had even imagined! Compare yourself to the old you and no one else! Watch your BMI and blood pressure. It is just about YOU being strong and content! Blessings on your journey!

PS: I can tell you I started out at size 22 tight and wear size 8 loose now. I did 5 min. on the elliptical at my first post lap band gym visit. Now I do 30 min/ 2 miles 3 days a week. YOU can do this! Just use your tool!

[Bandista 7,466]

My husband eats like a pig and doesn't have real weight or food obsession issues. He's not a string bean -- could lose ten or twenty -- but he loves food. I used to keep up with him pretty well but not anymore. Loving being a light, delicate eater........

[barriej9 61]

I did not loose much during the pre-op phase. Just focus on you!