Tells me that I didn't need the surgery!!!! I understand where they are coming from but it's getting on my nerves....do they honestly think that I would put myself through ALL of this just because?! What really grind my gears is when they don't even educate themselves on the surgery and just assume crap!

I have heard all of this as well. I was 212 when I went for my consult. So I heard and still hear that this was not necessary, and if I had just set my mind to it and worked hard I wouldn't have had to take the "easy way out" I have stopped trying to defend my decision. I just tell people it's not their business.

So hear everyone right now. My night nurse told me after surgery that I am too small for this surgery....can you believe this from my nurse. I was 267 when I started this and was down to 243 the day before surgery going to weigh myself on tues. Everyone has THEIR reasons and wouldn't be getting the surgery on a whim!

Yeah someone told.me, why would you want to do that??? I replied with... I will die without it. And it was so true. I was knocking on deaths door.

Aaggghhh! People just can't handle their own insecurities and jealousy. They hate us fat and hate the fact we are doing something about it. Maybe hate is a strong word but you get my point. Glad we can vent and support each other here. Just rem we did this for ourselves

I have heard "Have you really put forth the effort to lose weight on your own?" No' date=' I just want to have surgery for kicks and giggles!

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I got "Have you ever thought about a diet?". No I've only been trying to diet since I was 10!

I totally agree. I get that all the time "Why don't you just do it the normal way??" Or "I know someone who did that and gained all her weight back. I'm sure you'll do fine though".

I hate when they say that too! If I wasn't a loving man lol...

I got "Have you ever thought about a diet?". No I've only been trying to diet since I was 10!

ok that really made me laugh out loud!! lol I've always been a chubby kid so I know exactly wat you mean!!

I completely understand!!!!! I have friends that when I tell them that the goal is to lose 150 lbs and they say either 1) do u even have 150 lb to lose or 2) well I hope you aren't too boney and skinny after because u look good now and carry your weight well. To which I say "my body and joints feel every single lb that I carry and this isn't about vanity, it's about living a more healthy life." I think people immediately jump to the vanity and superficial benefits of losing weight and not the health benefits. They just need to be reminded and have their focus readjusted. I've had good luck with this response and have gotten a lot of support.

I got "Have you ever thought about a diet?". No I've only been trying to diet since I was 10!

This made me laugh out loud as well. I feel the same.

I completely understand!!!!! I have friends that when I tell them that the goal is to lose 150 lbs and they say either 1) do u even have 150 lb to lose or 2) well I hope you aren't too boney and skinny after because u look good now and carry your weight well. To which I say "my body and joints feel every single lb that I carry and this isn't about vanity' date=' it's about living a more healthy life." I think people immediately jump to the vanity and superficial benefits of losing weight and not the health benefits. They just need to be reminded and have their focus readjusted. I've had good luck with this response and have gotten a lot of support. <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' />[/quote']

I like the point ur making. It is so true people need to educate themselves before they criticize.

I have to admit I am guilty in the fact that I always thought you had to be like 400-500 lbs to be elegible for WLS. When my sister who was 240 got approved and had surgery I went for it a year later. We both have the same insurance' date=' I was worried because I was 214 with a BMI of 36 but I was approved with no pre surgery diet or anything. But you are right, even some of my doctors were like your not "that" big where you need WLS... go figure !!! I do educate as I see fit... some people are not worth waisting your time on if you know what I mean - LOL[/quote']

I felt the same.way..i was 224 5"9, how tall are u...

Sometimes I think people don't know what else to say. I think they think it is a compliment because they aren't comfortable saying "I'm glad you are having surgery because you are/were really overweight!"

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Sometimes I think people don't know what else to say. I think they think it is a compliment because they aren't comfortable saying "I'm glad you are having surgery because you are/were really overweight!"

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I was thinking the same thing!

I had a client yesterday ask me if I've tried to lose weight on my own. Wtf?! No, never. This is a first run.....

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I have heard all of this as well. I was 212 when I went for my consult. So I heard and still hear that this was not necessary' date=' and if I had just set my mind to it and worked hard I wouldn't have had to take the "easy way out" I have stopped trying to defend my decision. I just tell people it's not their business.[/quote']

I was 211