Tells me that I didn't need the surgery!!!! I understand where they are coming from but it's getting on my nerves....do they honestly think that I would put myself through ALL of this just because?! What really grind my gears is when they don't even educate themselves on the surgery and just assume crap!

Oh I know... I was told "you are not big enough". WTH I was two pounds shy of 300! That's not ok. I know they mean well but it is like I tossed a coin.

I totally agree. I get that all the time "Why don't you just do it the normal way??" Or "I know someone who did that and gained all her weight back. I'm sure you'll do fine though".

That is when you tell them that you really don't care what they think as this does not effect them at all. Then you tell them that obviously they have never struggled with a weight issues because if they had they would know how hard it can be especially when secondary diagnosis hinder weight loss. I then proceed to tell them that i have spent the last 8 months doing many classes and research and with the assistance of my doctors have come to this decision. Last I let them know that surgery is not easy or an easy way out. It takes alot of work and wls is only a tool to assist you. I know how frustrating others ignorance can be as I have had to tackle it myself. I am an RN and have been honest with coworkers and friends. At work we see the bad patients of WLS and the complications so of course that is what everyone bases their opinion on. WLS has come a long way and I have seen many successful people.

Oh I know... I was told "you are not big enough". WTH I was two pounds shy of 300! That's not ok. I know they mean well but it is like I tossed a coin.

exactly!!! >___<

Exactly why only my dad and husband know! Ill let everyone know once I'm on target and losing and getting my act together with my new life!

Heard it all.. I have a friend that told me the same thing you don't need the surgery I know somebody had the surgery got back big again I told her I don't want to hear about what happen to somebody else LOL!! She suppose to be my friend I was waiting for her to say I will pray for you..shake my head everything will be alright my sista congrat

I have heard "Have you really put forth the effort to lose weight on your own?" No, I just want to have surgery for kicks and giggles!

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Exactly why only my dad and husband know! Ill let everyone know once I'm on target and losing and getting my act together with my new life!

I wish I had only told certain people but noooooo I decided to tell everybody!

Heard it all.. I have a friend that told me the same thing you don't need the surgery I know somebody had the surgery got back big again I told her I don't want to hear about what happen to somebody else LOL!! She suppose to be my friend I was waiting for her to say I will pray for you..shake my head everything will be alright my sista congrat

Thats exactly what happened today...my brother's girlfriend takes it upon herself to tell me every person she knows that has had the surgery and who got big and blah blah blah I politely told her that everyone is different and she go the hint to move along ....thanks so much!

I have heard "Have you really put forth the effort to lose weight on your own?" No' date=' I just want to have surgery for kicks and giggles!

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lol oh yea I get that one too like are you kidding me!!

Or the "have you really thought about this?"

You know what? No! Haven't given it any thought at all! Thanks your your advice! ????

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I heard all those things from my family too!!! Then I had the surgery and thought that they would stop. Nope! Still the endless stories of gastric disasters. So I just shake it off and keep going. I mean we are strong people, instead shaking off overweight comments we shake off gastric comments.

I was told something horrible when I had my gastric bypass! I am on Medicare and one of my "friends" said "I cannot believe that Medicare is covering an "elective surgery" so basically I am paying for your surgery because you are too lazy to get off your butt and excercise and keep the twinkes out of your mouth!" Needless to say I do NOT need friends like that and I explained to her the process we have to go through to even get approved for the surgery and how hard I tried to loose the weight on my own so many years. It was just a stab in the heart to hear that!!

I was told something horrible when I had my gastric bypass! I am on Medicare and one of my "friends" said "I cannot believe that Medicare is covering an "elective surgery" so basically I am paying for your surgery because you are too lazy to get off your butt and excercise and keep the twinkes out of your mouth!" Needless to say I do NOT need friends like that and I explained to her the process we have to go through to even get approved for the surgery and how hard I tried to loose the weight on my own so many years. It was just a stab in the heart to hear that!!

That was really awful to say and I know it hurts even more when it comes from the people that you thought would support your decision...For years I was talked about because of my weight and I see since I will no longer be heavy they're going to be talking about my surgery....I can't win or lose!

I have to admit I am guilty in the fact that I always thought you had to be like 400-500 lbs to be elegible for WLS. When my sister who was 240 got approved and had surgery I went for it a year later. We both have the same insurance, I was worried because I was 214 with a BMI of 36 but I was approved with no pre surgery diet or anything. But you are right, even some of my doctors were like your not "that" big where you need WLS... go figure !!! I do educate as I see fit... some people are not worth waisting your time on if you know what I mean - LOL