This year is going to be so stressful. I have been an emotional basketcase lately. I'm guessing due to hormones being released from the fat melting away...and. I have had a hysterectomy! My in laws don't know I had bypass and dinner is at their house. I haven't seen them in a year and I weigh the same now as one year ago. At least I am not fatter. Ugh how to tell these judgemental people I had surgery???

You don't have to. I'm not telling my family. It will be hard but it's none of their business. Just say you are on a strict diet or don't feel well. I know how you feel. Good luck.

I agree with Worm2872.... why do you have to tell them???? Your medical history is no ones business. YOU choose to tell who you want !!! If they ask about your eating, just say you are watching what you eat and have not recovered 100% from surgery. I say don't tell them... no need to !!! I have only told very close family and friends and a few close work friends. If someone says you look good or wow you lost weight I stay "thank you". If they say how are you doing it I say diet and exercise !!! No lie because I am on a diet and I exercise a hour + daily.

I am doing the same thing. I will not tell my in laws. They are very judgmental people and criticize everything and everyone. When I seem my mother in law in oct I was 65 lbs lighter than the last time we seen each other. I credited eating healthy, cutting junk, and exercise. It satisfied her curiosity. Don't tell them!! But if they notice just say thank you:)

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Omg thats just like me!!! I have not told anyone especially my inlaws, now im having thanksgiving at heir house!!! Im just going to say i have a stomach virus..... Hoping thats enough....(crossing fingers)

Omg thats just like me!!! I have not told anyone especially my inlaws' date=' now im having thanksgiving at heir house!!! Im just going to say i have a stomach virus..... Hoping thats enough....(crossing fingers)[/quote']

My husband tokd them I had stomach surgery. They just don't know why. Its crazy. I hate the secrets because I feel like it gives them evenn more power over me. I think I dislike the attention and drama even more though.

If someone asks about my eating it portions-I just say I had Abdominal Surgery. They always respond with OK--and never ask anymore questions :/

Just tell them you are following your physician's plan. That is not a lie & is all they need to know. I was going to say that but my bf blabbed to anyone who would listen. Still mad about that. . .oh well . . No crying over spilled milk at this point

I kinda wish I didn't tell some people, but then again by telling a few people - I've help then take the next step.

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I kinda wish I didn't tell some people' date=' but then again by telling a few people - I've help then take the next step.

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Well I will try to not bring anything up. I will tell u how it goes

I have told everyone... No secrets here!!! I'm proud of my accomplishments. It's hard work no matter what anyone says!!

Tell them you had your gallbladder out. That's laproscopic too.

So odd I am struggling with the same issue. I am not blabbing my private business to many people and am especially worried about what to say to my in laws. Today we said I am sick and I stayed home. But I am also only eight days out from surgery.

Why is it a big deal to tell or not tell people? Excuse my French but 'F' them all, your trying to improve your way of life m. Be proud of itself and your decision to change your life and be healthy. If the cant support you then screw them you don't need negative people in your life. Focus or positive ones god has put in front of you.

Be proud of what we did. I feel it's harder now dieting then it was before surgery. I tell everyone. I'm proud of my life choice.

Well I will try to not bring anything up. I will tell u how it goes

Everything went well. Nobody noticed my eating or talked about my weight. A good day