This year is going to be so stressful. I have been an emotional basketcase lately. I'm guessing due to hormones being released from the fat melting away...and. I have had a hysterectomy! My in laws don't know I had bypass and dinner is at their house. I haven't seen them in a year and I weigh the same now as one year ago. At least I am not fatter. Ugh how to tell these judgemental people I had surgery???

I knew if I told a few people I would have to let the cat out of the bag. I look at it this way I can either be open and honest about it or I can have people whisper about it behind my back. I live in such a small town that it was worth it to me to just post it on Facebook and be done with it. So far the response has been positive, more curiosity about the surgery than anything else. If someone starts to be judgemental then I just say these are the choices I made for my health, they might not be the choices you would've made, but if respect me, you can respect my choice. By being open I hope I change a few minds about the stigma of weight loss surgery.

I knew if I told a few people I would have to let the cat out of the bag. I look at it this way I can either be open and honest about it or I can have people whisper about it behind my back. I live in such a small town that it was worth it to me to just post it on Facebook and be done with it. So far the response has been positive' date=' more curiosity about the surgery than anything else. If someone starts to be judgemental then I just say these are the choices I made for my health, they might not be the choices you would've made, but if respect me, you can respect my choice. By being open I hope I change a few minds about the stigma of weight loss surgery.[/quote']

That's a great attitude and I have no problem telling strangers friends or my family. But people who have hurt me in the past are another story. I am working ob trusting them and when I can I will explain the surgery more to them. My circle of friends does not live nearby so my business srays mine. If a time comes when my in laws worry or ask I will be honest but otherwise its don't ask don't tell fir me