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Best: my doctor(pcp) told me he didn't even recognize me in the waiting room and told me I was doing a great job.

Weirdest::I am a teacher and when I came back to school in August my boss kept telling me I had such a nice tan and was getting dark. (She didn't know I had the surgery and you could tell she saw something different in me but wasn't sure what it was.

Awkward: when people say, I don't know what you've done but you sure look pretty now. Any "compliment" that kind of makes it seem like you looked like complete crap before your surgery

Funniest: I was telling my best friend how I hope I keep some of my butt as I continue to lose. And she told me now you can actually tell I have a butt! lol before my belly and back had so much extra fluff that it really minimized my rear and made me look like I had no junk in my trunk. Now I am evening out some so my butt sticks out more. Yay!

Wish I had junk in my trunk! I'm going from a big blob back there to flat LOL

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Oh i do love this thread!!

Best would maybe be this weekend. Saw an aunt/uncle of mine I haven't seen in a year. Ran up to them, threw my arms around them to hug me and they both stared. My aunt looks at my uncle and says "who's that".. haha.. Once I reminded them I'm their NEICE, she repeated over and over "OMG I didn't recoginze you, you look so beatiful".

Worst thing I got was "wow, you look sick. Your face is all pale. You look like a cancer patient" (let me tell you, I was LIVID!!!!!!!!).

Another bad one was when I took the kids to meet their dad for the weekend and he tells me "Hey i'm selling weight loss Protein shakes, did you want some".. :huh: umm.. hey jack@ss..i've lost 80 lbs..I dont need to buy your product!

of course I love all the "hey skinny mini " and "hey skinny B!t..." or "hey sexy mama". I actually was called a milf the other day...(giggle). ME? What? aww shucks..

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my favorite is when people I barely talked to at work are coming up to me telling me how great I look...the worst is when I have had several people make the comment "oh I bet your husband is more attracted to you now" but those I just brush off because the good definitely outweighs the bad :)

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One of my best was when my friend told me that even my shoulders are skinny. I've had a few you've lost so much weight now you need to stop. This was from someone who weighted about 100lbs.

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Best: my hubby...I m so proud of you.

Worst: my neighbour...look at you! You re skinnier than me!

Ruddest: same neighbour, to my daughter... your mom is becoming beautiful! Another friend was in such a shock to see how much weight I lost so she screamed: stop losing! Your face is getting old...

And to top it all, my bro in law who was pretty sure last month that I ve reached my maximum and my body won t drop any more lbs. Because as he said these surgeries have a limit. I have lost 10 lbs since that day...funny and sad at the same time. But I hold no grudges because I am happy and if they re jealous, let it be.

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Oh i do love this thread!!

Best would maybe be this weekend. Saw an aunt/uncle of mine I haven't seen in a year. Ran up to them' date=' threw my arms around them to hug me and they both stared. My aunt looks at my uncle and says "who's that".. haha.. Once I reminded them I'm their NEICE, she repeated over and over "OMG I didn't recoginze you, you look so beatiful".

Worst thing I got was "wow, you look sick. Your face is all pale. You look like a cancer patient" (let me tell you, I was LIVID!!!!!!!!).

Another bad one was when I took the kids to meet their dad for the weekend and he tells me "Hey i'm selling weight loss Protein shakes, did you want some".. <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/huh.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':huh:' /> umm.. hey jack@ss..i've lost 80 lbs..I dont need to buy your product!

of course I love all the "hey skinny mini " and "hey skinny B!t..." or "hey sexy mama". I actually was called a milf the other day...(giggle). ME? What? aww shucks..[/quote']

Cancer?! Really?! The milf one is a good one!

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So to add to the stupid comment. Today I went down to lunch to warm up my Soup. Mind you I am 5 weeks out as of today and down 23 pounds. My lovely manager is siting there and she asks in front of about 8 people, so how much have you lost(she asks this almost everyday) I said well I am the same as friday. She proceeds to say, "well you would think the weight would fall right off of you" like i am going to lose 100# in a month. I said well I am happy with my progress actually. She is determined to show that I am either not following things right and eating dorittos for every meal, or that this is such an extreme step and it doesn;t work. Well F*#k her is all I have to say to that

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Worst.... Did you have a boy or a girl!!!!!

Best.!..... You are looking fantastic!!

Most Awkward.....First I have to say my mother passed away on Thanksgiving last year. I look like her but with the extra weight not as much. Today the youth pastor from her church came into my work and was very startled and said "You really look like your mother!" I asked him did it startle him when he saw me and just point blank said "Yes". I am kinda of worried about it because my father is living with me and has been gone traveling since I had my surgery and I hope it isn't to much for him when he comes home in 3 weeks because I really really look like her now.

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So to add to the stupid comment. Today I went down to lunch to warm up my Soup. Mind you I am 5 weeks out as of today and down 23 pounds. My lovely manager is siting there and she asks in front of about 8 people, so how much have you lost(she asks this almost everyday) I said well I am the same as friday. She proceeds to say, "well you would think the weight would fall right off of you" like i am going to lose 100# in a month. I said well I am happy with my progress actually. She is determined to show that I am either not following things right and eating dorittos for every meal, or that this is such an extreme step and it doesn;t work. Well F*#k her is all I have to say to that

I totally agree!!! You need to make sure you get a day where you are dressed really nice and looking really good and let her get a good look!! I bet she say's absolutely nothing but just stares and that will say it all!

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Best ...a person told me I looked like the old me again & was acting like the old me, again....meaning my high school/college days - looks & outgoing personality...I don't see anything remotely close to that yet, but this person was sincere...so, I must be doing a little better than I thought. WORST - "you have lost 80 some lbs, so you need to lose that much more & you'll be looking good, girl, right?" - such an @$$hole!!!

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My friend told me she admired the courage I showed by taking such a serious step toward my own health. She then listed all of the steps she has watched me take in the past: quitting smoking, going vegetarian, taking yoga, meditation, going to the doctor.... that was my favorite compliment.

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My absolute favorite is very simple....my very best friend and person I admire the most in the world said to me your doing really good.....simple but means a lot. Also' date=' when I saw my surgeon last time, he is always very encouraging but he hugged me and said I'm proud of you. Nothing has really bothered me, I feel like anything said to me lehas been said with good intentions so I receive it that way.[/quote']

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Best ...a person told me I looked like the old me again & was acting like the old me, again....meaning my high school/college days - looks & outgoing personality...I don't see anything remotely close to that yet, but this person was sincere...so, I must be doing a little better than I thought. WORST - "you have lost 80 some lbs, so you need to lose that much more & you'll be looking good, girl, right?" - such an @$$hole!!!

FAINT!

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Best and worst is, you need to stop losing weight... my answer is " when you met me you are just used to seeing me FAT! Had you met me at this weight you would not mention my weight!........ I am HEALTHY, leave me alone!!!!!

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I got called a skinny b***h last week. I took it as a compliment!

Ok, today was my worst: my former boss said "How's the dieting going?"

Me: "Well - I've lost 50 lbs"

Him: "Fifteen?"

Me: "No, FIFTY"

Him: (glances at me incredulously) "Really? Fifty?"

YES, A-HOLE, FIFTY!!!!

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