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Hi All,

So I don't have my sleeve yet ( I am in the pre-op phase) but my husband and I are both planning on having it done. I am just curious to see if your love life has improved at all since losing weight. I adore my husband and think our sex-life is average...of course I am sure he would love more of it but I figure just the sheer energy and sex appeal has to increase....or is that wishful thinking? I would love to hear any experience feel free to be as private or detailed as you wish. ;)

Thanks!

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Well I'm single and refuse to date at my current weight, so I'm hoping that things will dramatically improve when I lose some! ;)

I have read other forum posts tho where people do say their libido is MUCH improved after losing weight. Heck, I've even read forum posts about people who are trying to figure out the gentlest way to have sex just days after surgery!

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Thanks Makemyownluck! We have been together for 7 years, when we were thinner and younger now older and fatter with kids. lol

I am hoping it increases all around. Libido but my attraction for my DH would increase as well I would think.

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I'm 45 and my husband is 57 and yes!! things have definately improved in the bedroom. My husband was always happy with me and interested, but now that i am more comfortable with myself, we are definately busier than usual.

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Yes ma'am!! My libido has increased dramatically since surgery. My hubby is currently loving life cause I'm jumping his bones every chance I get!! Part of it is the hormones being released but a bigger part of it is the weight loss has made me way more confident and I feel so much better about myself!! Not to mention the fact that I am more bend-y now...LOL!! ;)

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I'm down 144 pounds & my sex drive has increased dramatically! I would have sex 2-3 times a day! And my fiancé is more than happy to oblige. I am more comfortable naked & will try more positions & don't get out of breath when in doing the work! And I'm so much more flexible than I was before. ;-)

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I think pretty much everyone here will agree that sex gets SOOOO much better when you start losing. I've been obese my entire life so I didn't realize how much it could change. Just like everyone else mentioned, hormones being released, feeling more confident and open-minded, being more flexible, etc. One thing that hasn't been mentioned, which I have noticed is that I am MUCH more orgasmic now. I used to get off less than 50% of the time through intercourse but now it's about 90%, and many times is happening twice. :o I know sex is very mental with women and I'm sure that's part of it because I'm less insecure and "in my head" during it. I also think it has to do with less "stuff" being in the way down there. The sensations are more intense and my partner can get deeper and closer to me. I don't feel as much of a squishy barrier now. Trust me, you have A LOT to look forward to in this department! Good luck!

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Ditto what everyone else is saying!! & my hubby has been eating healthier right along with me, so has lost about 40lbs too....so we are Both enjoying!!! ;-)

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Ditto what everyone else is saying!! & my hubby has been eating healthier right along with me' date=' so has lost about 40lbs too....so we are Both enjoying!!! ;-)[/quote']

Us too! My hubby has been eating very healthy with me and has lost some weight!

To the OP oh yes it gets better! I married my husband and was at my heaviest. My husband has always been attentive and makes sure to take care of me before he finishes and he would have to do other things to get me there, besides intercourse. Now that I've lost 80lbs and he has lost about 15 lbs we have found that we can both climax thru intercourse alone! That is so hot! I love it! I've always been attracted to my husband and thoroughly enjoy sex with him but its even better now! I'm excited to see how it is when I reach goal!

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...Just jumping in to mention that if anyone's sex life is lacking for other reasons, weight loss may or may not improve the sitch. I have more issues around sex than Playboy Magazine, and although I'm very hopeful that a better body image will help, I know that there are some glitches in the way my brain views sex that run deeper than my jiggle, and will need another approach to improve 'em.

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WOW! Thank you eveyone for your responses! I have always like sex but as I get older, fatter and slower I just don't care as much. I am sure it is a mixture of things. I find most of the time, I just have no desire or am too tired. It just seems like a lot of work. Lol

By the time I hit the sack I am exhausted and just want to sleep. Did I mention I have a full time career, an almost 4 year old boy and almost 17 year old boy? I am soooooooo ready to have more energy and enjoy my 30s the way I wished I could've enjoyed my 20s. I turned 29 in Feb and won't be eligible for insurance to pay until May 31st, 2014. :( However, I have been waiting this long and I have started the pre-op process so I figure it will be a kick-ass 30th bday present!

Thanks again for all of the repsonses! Its wonderful to have something to look forward to! Please keep up the posts!

***** the 17 year old is not mine. He is my younger brother-in-law who lives with us permanently.

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I had the sleeve and so did my hubby between the 2 of us we have lost 280 lbs needless to say sex is hotter when you are missing a whole person, or 2! And I'm more limber with less weight. 10 times better than pre surgery.

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Sex is so much better! I have more confidence and more energy! My husband is SO happy!!!

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From a guys point of view Sex is so much better now I am able to do more positions than before my Stamina is better than ever before. Not to get to graphic but it appears like my sex organ is getting bigger as well! HaHa

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28 male dec 2013 sleeved. Im young and always wanted sex but now its ridiculous. Always thinking about it and ex. 2 to 4 a day hookups are normal. I went from 308 to 165lbs--from 48waist to 31 waist. Def hornier and more confident

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