Finally, Got Stuck And So Happy!

[saritin81 12]

You know, I got on this site hoping to get answers from people just like me but instead of feeling comfortable, I am afraid of being honest or feeling like I am going to be judged if I make a mistake, ask a stupid question or make a comment about my experience so far with the band. Let's take this post for example, she says she is happy she got stuck and people act like she has lost her mind instead of educating her in a nicer way. She said she was eating tacos and she is made to feel like she committed a sin. She says she is going 70mph and suddenly the post is fake. Let's get real, if we are on here is because we all overate, ate the wrong things more frequently than not and probably didn't do much exercise so to make someone feel bad about their choices or comments is pretty hypocritical to me. It's not what you say more than how you deliver your message.

We are here to motivate and support each other not repremand or judge each other.

P.S: this is not meant for "all" who posted on here, only for some as well as others in other posts I've read.

[shortishelli 14]

Saratin... Thank you! My thoughts exactly!! :-)

[saritin81 12]

[Jean McMillan 2,973]

You know, I got on this site hoping to get answers from people just like me but instead of feeling comfortable, I am afraid of being honest or feeling like I am going to be judged if I make a mistake, ask a stupid question or make a comment about my experience so far with the band. Let's take this post for example, she says she is happy she got stuck and people act like she has lost her mind instead of educating her in a nicer way. She said she was eating tacos and she is made to feel like she committed a sin. She says she is going 70mph and suddenly the post is fake. Let's get real, if we are on here is because we all overate, ate the wrong things more frequently than not and probably didn't do much exercise so to make someone feel bad about their choices or comments is pretty hypocritical to me. It's not what you say more than how you deliver your message.

We are here to motivate and support each other not repremand or judge each other.

P.S: this is not meant for "all" who posted on here, only for some as well as others in other posts I've read.

I understand your point, but every word I've posted on this thread still stands, and I'm going to add a few more.

If you think the response to this thread was harsh, you ain't seen nothin' yet. I can direct you to another online band forum frequented by people with the consideration and sensitivity of Attila the Hun.

Also, when interpreting and reacting to posts on any online forum, keep in mind that these are people you may never meet in person. You can't hear their tone of voice or see their body language, so you have to decipher words that are, in a sense. out of context. My best friend, whose honesty I cherish, can say things to me that would make me smack another person for saying, because I know she loves me and wants the best for me.

Finally, consider the possibility that "tough love" sometimes does us more good than coddling when we're headed down a bad road.

[saritin81 12]

I understand your point' date=' but every word I've posted on this thread still stands, and I'm going to add a few more.

If you think the response to this thread was harsh, you ain't seen nothin' yet. I can direct you to another online band forum frequented by people with the consideration and sensitivity of Attila the Hun.

Also, when interpreting and reacting to posts on any online forum, keep in mind that these are people you may never meet in person. You can't hear their tone of voice or see their body language, so you have to decipher words that are, in a sense. out of context. My best friend, whose honesty I cherish, can say things to me that would make me smack another person for saying, because I know she loves me and wants the best for me.

Finally, consider the possibility that "tough love" sometimes does us more good than coddling when we're headed down a bad road.[/quote']

Hi Jean...my bff is also very stern with me and honest but, that's someone I've known for many years. However, I can tell you that there are some things I choose not to tell her at times because her honesty can make me feel bad or worse.

I don't think that honesty is bad, I think its what or how you say it more than what you say. If it was that simple for us to make better food choices, stop when we know we are full and exercise then we wouldn't have gotten the band because we could do it on our own. Maybe she has been eating healthy and she decided to treat herself with a taco, I see nothing wrong with that. But, if an opinion is given I don't think it should be delivered to that person as if they were committing a crime. Simply explaining she shouldn't be eating a taco should suffice. Also, calling someone a liar??? Definitely not something I personally find ok to do.

Just because people do it or there are forums that are worse doesn't make it any better.

You said what you said and stand by it and that's ok as it is how you feel just the way I feel how I feel and said what I said.

I can't control how people comment to others posts but felt the need to mention that a little filtering could go a long way.

Thanks for your reply.

[Pheath 38]

I think this can be a harsh place considering that we were all a bunch of fatties. Filtering can be useful.

[Jean McMillan 2,973]

I can't control how people comment to others posts but felt the need to mention that a little filtering could go a long way.

Well, we're in agreement about that, anyway. Unfortunately good communication skills are not required of LBT members.

[Jean McMillan 2,973]

Just because people do it or there are forums that are worse doesn't make it any better.

That's quite true, but I mentioned the other, harsher forum because if someone here is thinking of leaving town (so to speak), I want to wish them the best of luck in finding a friendlier neighborhood.

[kll724 3,055]

I am sorry that I may have hurt some feelings. But, I know there are trolls on all forums. I just know that my body would have reacted a whole lot different if I am stuck and in the car. Most of the time, you can not control a pb, and washing it down does little good. It will come up of its own accord, believe me!!!!Best wishes, as I said before. Karen

[cheryllm63 4]

I know exactly what you mean. I was beginning to think there was something wrong because I could eat anything. After my second fill, I finally had some things get stuck. I was almost relieved. At least now I know that things are making progress.

It looks like some comments you just need to overlook.

[shortishelli 14]

I know exactly what you mean. I was beginning to think there was something wrong because I could eat anything. After my second fill' date=' I finally had some things get stuck. I was almost relieved. At least now I know that things are making progress.

It looks like some comments you just need to overlook.[/quote']

So glad for you! :-) & yes, I am overlooking all the ridiculous comments since some people didn't understand my post to begin with lol Now im on my 4th fill and losing a pound per week.. And still eating my taco once a week LOL

[CB2 26]

I think this can be a harsh place considering that we were all a bunch of fatties. Filtering can be useful.

Lol. Love it!

[marfar7 1,528]

I totally understand how you feel. I've had my band almost 3 yrs now and recently had a slip. After my unfill/refill, I haven't vomited at all (I guess thats good). It's been a couple of months. I was just telling my husband the other day that when I vomited, I realized that the band was working. Now it doesn't feel that it's working (even tho I'm pretty much keeping what I lost off). I know that the band is still working cuz I'm full on a small amt of food still - but never vomit.

It's still nice to be reminded that our bands are working - in a physical way!

Marci

[wannabethin2012 12]

Same here! I told my doctor on the 3rd Fill that I was sad because I hadn't thrown up yet, and I really wanted too. But I then explained I just wanted to know that it was working because I hadn't felt restriction yet.

[Maddysgram 6,159]

Same here! I told my doctor on the 3rd Fill that I was sad because I hadn't thrown up yet, and I really wanted too. But I then explained I just wanted to know that it was working because I hadn't felt restriction yet.

The throwing up is not the worst part of getting stuck, it is the incredible pain that comes with it.

I have not been banded yet, but I have had a stuck situation with Red Yeast Rice for cholesterol. It took 3 mths to figure out that was what was causing it. Truly I wanted to kill myself it was so painful. I told Bariatric Dr about it and he said "yep, that 's what it feels like". I will do everything in my power not to do that!!!

Just my 2 cents worth!

Best wishes to you!