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Ok, so I'm pretty much a vampire. I haven't appeared in a single family photo or event pic in the last 20-30 years or so. I CAN NOT STAND having my piccy taken. (Am I yelling? Cuz I feel like I am?) You know what I'm tawkin' 'bout?

So yesterday I got as dolled up as I ever get, which ahem, means I bathed, brushed my teeth, dried and scrunched up my hair--but I went out on a limb and put on a tiny bit of makeup. I swear to the sweet baby Jesus of the golden fleece diapers, I looked hot. I felt hot. I felt like this! I swear! You shoulda seen me struttin' my hot stuff through the lemon Jello section. Mama June, give. it. up. Cuz I was smokin'. You get the picture? In case you don't, I could be this chix sistah from another mistah!

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So I screwed up the courage, called myself Felicia, and asked Mr. F. to pop off a few "before photos" so I can use them for comparison. I will suffer through another round the morning of surgery, and then will take them periodically throughout the journey to Oz. (Thank you @James Marusek. I will be eternally grateful for this advice.)

When I looked at them, I almost cried. I thought I'd made such progress. I felt "thin" at my 235lbs. I mean look up at my twin right there. What happened? I almost went outside and ate worms. Not part of my pre-op plan to be sure, but still a powerful source of Protein and Fiber if you're so inclined...Oh, what I look like... :(

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Do any of you feel the same way or have you had the same experiences??? Just so you know...

Ring, ring...

Hello selfies?

Go screw yourself! Signed,

Sincerely yours,

Body Dysmorphic in Houston

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21 minutes ago, Real California April said:

Literally why I haven't posted a photo but I don't think I ever look good in pics. Even when I'm smokin in the mirror.

SW: 366
CW: 329
GW1: 200
RNY Dec 18, 2017!

I get ya! ((hugs))

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24 minutes ago, summerset said:

I basically know nobody that likes how he/she looks on a photograph, lol.

Bahahaha! I personally think we should all post pics of who we "think" we look like in our heads! :)

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So true. Same thing happens to me. I put make on and fixed my hair for a progress photo. Well, my hair looked flat and lifeless and it looked like I made myself up to look worse. I have some high quality cosmetics, recommended by my cosmetologist daughter. You would have no idea looking at those photos. lol


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* make up


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8 minutes ago, KatFight said:

So true. Same thing happens to me. I put make on and fixed my hair for a progress photo. Well, my hair looked flat and lifeless and it looked like I made myself up to look worse. I have some high quality cosmetics, recommended by my cosmetologist daughter. You would have no idea looking at those photos. lol

LOL! Oh man! I hear ya! :) Mr. F. showed me one of the pics and I absolutely had white rings around my eyes! I yelled, "Turn off that flash--dear God and all that's holy!" *snort*

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Yeah I so know what you mean. My secret flinch: I think I sound so dopey. First time I heard a recording of my voice I realized I sounded just like Marjorie, the bratty,older sister of Chuck up the street. I always thought I sounded like a well modulated alto, instead I sound like a 12 year old. Fluffy thought she looked smokin' hot,,i sound like a trip to jail for some guy. I usually stood in the back row in pictures or took them. Heck,on my last ID I've gone from a cute chubby chick to the point A guy I was trying to pick up would,tell me" Go on home, I'll just do myself". A wolf whistle, shoot guys my age wheeze and are short of breath as it is. If I was gonna become a cougar I'd have to go,for a serious claw sharpening. Rowrr, wheeze wheeze--' is anybody impressed?

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I'm always surprised when I catch a reflection of myself in a window somewhere. OK, not surprised...horrified, lol.

I checked the mirror at home before I left the house. Who the heck is that?

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In my own mind...I look like Kate Winslet. In real life...I look almost nothing like Kate Winslet.

Paint me like one of your french girls, Fluffy!

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I know this feeling :-(
I went to a friends wedding in a long halter neck dress. Whilst checking myself in the mirror I obviously held my (already packed into Spanx) stomach in and stuffed my boobs in. I thought I looked ok..... until the photos started. At least a few years ago you would not see them for weeks while the photos went off to be developed. Now, 2hrs into the event with several hours to go- I just wanted to go home after seeing what I actually looked like on everyone’s iPhone pics. :-(


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@Creekimp13 Crap! I really almost spewed my True Lemon Water at the damn screen. THE best!!!! :D

@Aurora2609 :51_scream: I'm so sad at that story!!!! Bless your sweet soul!!! ((hugs)) Let's make a pact right now. No more piccys posted evs! Ok?

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