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Hi All,

I was sleeved on the 15th Nov 2017 and I’ve lost 22lbs so far which is great. Because I’m short the weightloss looks much more than it is (what a relief) BUT I’m finding that I’ve become shy and a bit uncomfortable about my weight loss. Everyone at work has been commenting and complementing me (I didn’t tell anyone that I got sleeved) to a point where it’s making me uncomfortable. On Tuesday I wore a dress which I wore way back when I was lighter and no one has seen the dress, new job, and everyone was making a fuss. It got to a point where I just sat at my desk for the rest of the day until I went home. The next day I went back to wearing my fat clothes to camouflage my weightloss.

I know that this is strange but has anyone gone through the same thing?

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I'm just now starting to show slimming in my face, no where else yet. But I'm worried about it too. I just started my nursing school which is 2.5years with the same 100 people. So I know after summer break there will probably be a bigger difference and I don't wanna be fussed over. It makes me uncomfortable but I also haven't told anyone (other than family ofcourse) about my sleeve. I'm worried that as the weight drops off someone's going to ask what I'm doing. But hopefully I'll be more confident in myself as the weight comes off and I'll be more open to sharing my experience. :) best of luck!

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I'm just now starting to show slimming in my face, no where else yet. But I'm worried about it too. I just started my nursing school which is 2.5years with the same 100 people. So I know after summer break there will probably be a bigger difference and I don't wanna be fussed over. It makes me uncomfortable but I also haven't told anyone (other than family ofcourse) about my sleeve. I'm worried that as the weight drops off someone's going to ask what I'm doing. But hopefully I'll be more confident in myself as the weight comes off and I'll be more open to sharing my experience. [emoji4] best of luck!

That’s also the thing, I’m just back from 3 weeks annual leave so it’s a big difference to those at work. My face deflates as soon as I don’t eat carbs so with the all round healthy lifestyle it’s much slimmer. I’ve found myself letting people know I gym everyday so that I get less questions. A pregnant lady told me that I’ve transferred all my fat to her. Good luck with your journey, the whole cover-up is exhausting but it’s worth it on the weekend when you don’t have to see them :-)


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Ugh. I dread going back to work. I will have been gone six weeks and thankfully I’m tall so my 50 pounds looks like other people’s 20 pounds but I know it’s noticeable. I was trying on my scrubs the other day and I refuse to go back wearing new scrubs and minus 60 pounds.

Not sure what I will say.

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I own it. Doll myself up at work. Walk down the hallways like it's a runway and when ppl compliment how good I look or say wow you have lost so much weight. I say THANK YOU! I've lost 51lbs. I'm awesome right?! lol

I just own it. I am more confident and proud of how much i've lost and how i'm looking these days!

Obviously, everyone is different and others are shy or uncomfortable because we've hid from everyone and ourselves for so long in our old bodies. But now is the time to practice self love and own that you look great! xo

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I understand. I am really uncomfortable with people commenting on my body, and it makes me feel self-conscious. I try to simply smile and casually say, "Oh, thanks," as I know people are trying to be kind and supportive. Then I shift the subject.

I imagine it will die down and things will go back to normal. When I had lost about 35 pounds, I got a flurry of comments in one week from different folks, probably because I started wearing some pants I had that hadn't fit before. Since then, it happens once a week or so and always catches me off guard, but I try to just go with it.

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I also feel so uncomfortable with the attention. Then it gets so awkward because I don't know what to say or what I say is nonchalantly arrogant. Like I would say oh really thank you and then walk away seemingly stuck up but really I just feel uncomfortable and want to get away. I guess we have to get used to it. I also realize this issue is stunting my weight loss. I feel if I lose any more people will be ruthless with comments. Terrible mindset yet that's what I've discovered about myself. Wls is so hard. I also don't feel pride with my weight loss. Not a sense of accomplishment that I helped myself get better. Whereas if you did it the old fashioned way you feel so proud and accomplished you lost 10 lbs. Here I am 58 pounds less but feel like a cheater. Ugh I hate my analytical mind. I drive myself crazy sometimes.

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I also feel so uncomfortable with the attention. Then it gets so awkward because I don't know what to say or what I say is nonchalantly arrogant. Like I would say oh really thank you and then walk away seemingly stuck up but really I just feel uncomfortable and want to get away. I guess we have to get used to it. I also realize this issue is stunting my weight loss. I feel if I lose any more people will be ruthless with comments. Terrible mindset yet that's what I've discovered about myself. Wls is so hard. I also don't feel pride with my weight loss. Not a sense of accomplishment that I helped myself get better. Whereas if you did it the old fashioned way you feel so proud and accomplished you lost 10 lbs. Here I am 58 pounds less but feel like a cheater. Ugh I hate my analytical mind. I drive myself crazy sometimes.

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I was thinking the exact same thing, if I had done it the old fashioned way I would have been proudly telling everyone about it and at times I do feel like a cheater but I also think that I could’ve never been on this healthy eating plan which I’m on for 8 weeks if it were not for the surgery. People fail even with the surgery because they go back to their old eating habits. I think our minds work overtime when it comes to weightloss, just so tiring.


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Ugh. I dread going back to work. I will have been gone six weeks and thankfully I’m tall so my 50 pounds looks like other people’s 20 pounds but I know it’s noticeable. I was trying on my scrubs the other day and I refuse to go back wearing new scrubs and minus 60 pounds.
Not sure what I will say.

Congrats! That’s a whole lot during a six week period. If I were you I’d have it altered, and only once you’re 50-70% of the way with your weight loss then get new scrubs.


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I own it. Doll myself up at work. Walk down the hallways like it's a runway and when ppl compliment how good I look or say wow you have lost so much weight. I say THANK YOU! I've lost 51lbs. I'm awesome right?! lol
I just own it. I am more confident and proud of how much i've lost and how i'm looking these days!
Obviously, everyone is different and others are shy or uncomfortable because we've hid from everyone and ourselves for so long in our old bodies. But now is the time to practice self love and own that you look great! xo

I love that - ‘practice self love’ I’m going to make it my new years resolution


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Congratulations I was November 27th I lost 42 lbs and I'm still trying to work at it. I went back to my liquid diet to stay on track. My New Year's resolution is I made my front room into a gym so I won't become too lazy and I'm going to try to work out at least 3 times a week watch what I eat this is a lifestyle not a diet. Next week I'll be taking my second picture . And for my birthday this year I want to be 50 and Fabulous.

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I will admit that the weight loss always being a major topic of conversation was something I had to adjust to, but once I made that adjustment, I have always basked in it. Losing 225 pounds is something that few people in life can do (though, admittedly, many don't have to). It is something to be proud of, and the conversations have been 100% positive and supportive.

So, in a nutshell, I LOVE it! :)

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I hear you, it's really weird having people staring at your body and realizing they were thinking about your body beforehand (and now). But honestly, I just cheerfully say "thanks so much!" because I know they mean it as a compliment. Literally every time I go to the gym someone new comes up and compliments me. It's not every day that they see someone who lost 130 pounds! It's weird, but I try to think about it as a positive thing.

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I’m definitely shy about my (almost) 55 lb loss. I only told my bff, hubby/daughter/mom and the friend that had the #vsg before me. So when anyone asks how I’ve “lost so much” or “what I’m doing” I simply thank them and if they pressure for an answer I say “I eat waaaaay less now” ;). I’m never in the mood to justify my decision to anyone, and the people that think this surgery was the “easy way out” don’t deserve my explanation anyway HAHA :)

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