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MY EX TRIED TO TEAR ME DOWN



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Hello everyone, Warning beware of jealous people in your life. So my now ex but also my daughters father has as I feel always tried to sabotage me. I gained close to 100 pounds in the last 6 years since I've been with him had a baby got super comfortable and let myself go. Well since my surgery and before he was never with my lifestyle change he would bring fast food and candy into the house, he didn't work out with me on a regular basis (and mind u he is athletic and a boxer) there was no genuine encouragement nor support. He was and is a serial cheater. He told a girl he cheated on me with about me getting the surgery before i even had it and just recently told another woman i believed to be a friend but he was sleeping with her too that I had the surgery and now I think i'm better than ppl and they laughed about how I'm still big and my body gone be a mess (I seen the messages) the disrespect is at an all time high. Bottom line is I am better than what they obviously thought of me. This change has been the best thing that has ever happened to me, I'm happy about life again, I see the changes in me mentally, spiritually, and physically. I'm looking forward to the future and learning not to settle or accept anything I'm discovering my worth and now I'm glad I can close that chapter in my life and looking forward to my journey and finding someone new that sees the Goddess in me

down 83 lbs and not stopping

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See the blessing in this new journey!..you lost more than 83lbs of useless weight...(losing his dead weight) !!!! Your journey (I'm 2months out) ..it humbles you and gives you clearer perspective of what you want,deserve and need for your life..Live for your daughter..the healthier you are..the happier she is.I

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U look amazing❤

Thank u ????

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You go girl!! Stand tall, you are beautiful. Remember Karma is a bitch...and nasty people always get their due in time. :)

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You look amazing! Keep up the positive self love and don't worry about what others think. You are right where you need to be now and so far it seems your journey has given you insight. Your first act of self love was to finally understand that you were way to good for him! You deserve someone who will be by your side in this crazy journey.

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You are doing an awesome job keep it up and stay strong. For one he must have never really loved you. Second whatva fucking asshole!!!! I can say my wife of 2 months now but we been together 5 years had the surgery done almost 2years now I was her biggest cheerleader actually I followed her diet and that with pre op diet from the liquids to now still follow it andbI lost just as much weight as her. To me if I wouldn't have followed it would have been totally disrespected her cause its not an easy road.

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You are beautiful! Ignore the ignorant comments. People will always talk about you when that are miserable with their own lives. Keep doing what's best for you and block out the negativity.

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Shellee, you hit the nail on the spot with a hammer! My best friend and I adore her so much. I broke down and told her I am getting the sleeve done. She ended up crying and wanting me to hold her. She was so worried that my attitude would change. I asked her why? She said to me I know a few people that got it done and their attitudes changed and I did not like it. She mentioned 1 person that we both knew (co-workers). So this was a concern for me because prior to surgery and prior to my recent marriage I was with someone for 10 years and I left him. And I was solo for 5 years or so. In that time-frame I worked on myself and became who I am now. So of course the running through my head am I going to change and "what is going to happen"...

So going through everything that needs to be done for surgery 6 head-shrink sessions, I asked my shrink about this and told her my concern that my bff is so afraid of loosing me because of what she experienced. She told me "think about it, that person was like this before surgery."! I sat and thought about it and told her she was right.. i ran to my bff and told her that I brought this up to her. My bff said I am so happy we have no filter and we can talk open and honest about this because I love you and I cannot loose you. So I recently just saw her after dropping 28 pounds. And she said "we cannot be friends anymore"! You have more energy and you drive my kids insanely crazy now! I told her I cannot help it they are not mine so the "aunt has special privileges of driving kids crazy and leaving them with the parents" ! I go that is !

I went to babysit them while she was at the doc's. And 24/7 we all talk about the beach (we are beach bums) so the boys wanted to pretend they were there so we put the beach slides on the t.v. And I had my beach chairs in my car so I got them. She comes home and say's what the hell? I said we are pretending to be at the beach since you did not win the lottery yet! At least I didn't bring the sand in from the sandbox! . "See I told you I haven't changed"! She said no"you just got crazier"!

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Stay strong you're beautiful.

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My sister u are are beautiful, God is so good, look to him spiritually and stay prayed up. I too was with a serial cheater and was over weight, but God brought me a good man that loves all my curves and loves me for me. Iam down over 100 lbs and 40 more to go,so sis stay on track do not be discouraged. Love ya!

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You go girl!

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Girl you better PREACH!!!!! YOU LOOK ABSOLUTELY AMAZING!!!! hes nothing but a hater!!! SO HE SAYS YOUR BODY GONNA LOOK A MESS??? Hes gonna be one of the men trying to be with you even more once you hit goal weight heck even before that! I just woke up and this was the first notification i seen on my phone this is soo inspirational! This is why i decided to not be with anyone until after i have the surgery because i have heard so many stories of JEALOUSY! its a shame! You would think people would br happy for you for changing your life for the better! Keep your head up many blessings are coming your way! He will definitely REGRET what hes done to u.. Keep shining like a beautiful gem you are!

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I've been there my ex husband was like that. There our great men out there I'm am currently remarried to an amazing man once a cheater always a cheater never go back to it once the trust is broke it's broke forever is how I feel.

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