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Hello everyone, Warning beware of jealous people in your life. So my now ex but also my daughters father has as I feel always tried to sabotage me. I gained close to 100 pounds in the last 6 years since I've been with him had a baby got super comfortable and let myself go. Well since my surgery and before he was never with my lifestyle change he would bring fast food and candy into the house, he didn't work out with me on a regular basis (and mind u he is athletic and a boxer) there was no genuine encouragement nor support. He was and is a serial cheater. He told a girl he cheated on me with about me getting the surgery before i even had it and just recently told another woman i believed to be a friend but he was sleeping with her too that I had the surgery and now I think i'm better than ppl and they laughed about how I'm still big and my body gone be a mess (I seen the messages) the disrespect is at an all time high. Bottom line is I am better than what they obviously thought of me. This change has been the best thing that has ever happened to me, I'm happy about life again, I see the changes in me mentally, spiritually, and physically. I'm looking forward to the future and learning not to settle or accept anything I'm discovering my worth and now I'm glad I can close that chapter in my life and looking forward to my journey and finding someone new that sees the Goddess in me

down 83 lbs and not stopping

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Good for you, you look great don't let them get to you!!!

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What a cruel jerk! That's awful. Glad you ditched the bum. Let some skank have his sorry ass and STDs.

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Good for you, you look great don't let them get to you!!!

Thank you

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What a cruel jerk! That's awful. Glad you ditched the bum. Let some skank have his sorry ass and STDs.

Yup exactly how I feel

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you look awesome. You've dropped a lot more baggage than the 83 pounds!

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83 pounds!!! That's an accomplishment in its self keep pushing yourself and forget what others say. They aren't important to you so their opinion should never matter. You got this

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you look awesome. You've dropped a lot more baggage than the 83 pounds!

thank u. absolutely

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First of all, you look great! Secondly, you look like you feel amazing.

Thirdly, what a giant ******! Pardon my French.

Who cares about if your body is going to be a mess, that weight that holds you down is gone and your life is going to be great without that boxer weight that's trying to hold you back!

Congrats and Good Luck!

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First of all, you look great! Secondly, you look like you feel amazing.

Thirdly, what a giant ******! Pardon my French.

Who cares about if your body is going to be a mess, that weight that holds you down is gone and your life is going to be great without that boxer weight that's trying to hold you back!

Congrats and Good Luck!

Thank you. I do feel amazing I was more than happy to drop his weight too. I' not sure what my body will look like because I do exercise too but what ever it is has to be better than the excess weight and I will embrace it. We were sleeved around the same time congrats on your weight loss as well and Good luck on your journey

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First of all, you look great! Secondly, you look like you feel amazing.

Thirdly, what a giant ******! Pardon my French.

Who cares about if your body is going to be a mess, that weight that holds you down is gone and your life is going to be great without that boxer weight that's trying to hold you back!

Congrats and Good Luck!

Thank you. I do feel amazing I was more than happy to drop his weight too. I' not sure what my body will look like because I do exercise too but what ever it is has to be better than the excess weight and I will embrace it. We were sleeved around the same time congrats on your weight loss as well and Good luck on your journey

Sleeve Buddies!!!

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Reanea-

Just think all that BS talk and do's. its a new year a new you and just added fuel to your fire! They are jealous, he is jealous, because he is and they are not your enabler any more! You have gained control of your destiny and now you have the power. You will define who is there for you and who you will be there for. I noticed "gym" life, weightloss "life" changes who you surround yourself and most important is WHAT is important to you as human and as a woman!

I love your smile and you look so awesome! Be proud, be you!

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So often people in our lives do not want us to succeed because that changes the dynamics of your relationship. Cut the people loose that refuse to uplift you. This change is hard enough without someone holding you back and sabotaging your every move. You deserve a good man. Remove the bad people to make room for the good

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You look absoultely amazing!!! Keep up the great work, you will find someone who appreciates you for you!

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