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We've tried very hard and spent a lot of money over the last three years to get this site going. It's extremely hard to start a dating site from scratch. When I researched making this site, I learned that most companies make up 500 - 1,000 fake profiles and send fake messages to people. I wasn't about to do something as dishonest as this. What I do need for this dating site to be a success is for people to talk about it and share the link with their friends. A lot of people say negative things about the site because it's not got 100,000 members. I'm not sure where people think I'm magically supposed to make those people appear from.

This dating site is totally free to use, unlike other sites. I am happily married and don't need the site. The site was created two and a half years ago when I was talking to some wls friends about the hardships of dating after wls. I thought how cool it would be to date or even marry someone living the same lifestyle. I asked my husband to build the site and I assumed the wls community would support it and advertise it. It takes a village to make a new dating site successful.

As I stated earlier, this site cost me a few thousand dollars. I did it because I am passionate about weight loss surgery, relationships and helping people succeed. The site is completely free to use. The only person it costs is me.

There have been at least three successful relationships come from the site that I know of.

It would be great if rather than talking negatively about the site and the lack of members if people would help support it by sharing the link with your friends and in your online support groups. Only then will the wls singles grow.

Thanks so much and good luck!

I'm glad the site exists. I just wish there were more poeple on it. That's not your fault, it's just a new site. I for one would love to find someone near me who also had weight loss surgery. I think that would make things much easier, someone who knew where you came from, your struggles, and who understands some of us might have loose skin and not be repulsed by it.

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Hi All! Alex has graciously allowed me to post once about my dating site for weight loss surgery patients. I designed this site after input from several friends who have had weight loss surgery, myself included. Many of us are new to dating and just discovering ourselves and dating in general is hard enough, let alone after weight loss surgery. I thought it would be a great idea to bring men and women together who have both had some type of weight loss surgery. We all want to stay on track and we all fear regaining the weight we've worked so hard to lose. Finding someone with similar goals and interests would be great for long term success. www.loveafterwls.com was born!

loveafterwls.com is NOW totally FREE! If you were a previous paying member, please unsubscribe and rejoin as a FREE member.

Our site offers personal profiles with up to ten pictures, blogging, instant messaging, forums and more. Like all new dating sites, it will take awhile to grow our membership but come on in, fill out your profile, start a blog if you wish and help build this dating site into something great!

Please tell your friends, especially men. We currently have a lot more women on the site than men.

Visit www.loveafterwls.com for more information!

Thanks :)

i have tried several times to register. It says this page is forbidden. Any ideas?

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Sadly no

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Were you able to sign up yet? For awhile we blocked anyone from outside the US because people were signing up from overseas and spamming the forums. We've unblocked that again and I'm just having to be more diligent about deleting spam.

It's true there is not a ton of traffic on the site but we've got over 3,000 members and growing every day. It takes time to build a successful dating site. Be patient, check back often and share the link in your groups and with single friends!

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Were you able to sign up yet? For awhile we blocked anyone from outside the US because people were signing up from overseas and spamming the forums. We've unblocked that again and I'm just having to be more diligent about deleting spam.

It's true there is not a ton of traffic on the site but we've got over 3,000 members and growing every day. It takes time to build a successful dating site. Be patient, check back often and share the link in your groups and with single friends!

I joined and its desolate...no one there...

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There is nowhere to sign up. There is an introductory splash page which describes the site and the owner's intention. There are no links or anywhere to continue registration. Screenshots attached.

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Looks like we've been hacked in the last 24 hours! Not to worry, they didn't get in but did manage to mess up the site. My IT department is working on it.

Thanks for letting me know!

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1 minute ago, LoveAfterWLS said:

Looks like we've been hacked in the last 24 hours! Not to worry, they didn't get in but did manage to mess up the site. My IT department is working on it.

Thanks for letting me know!

You're welcome. This really should be locked down and all the bugs hammered out. For a site with so few users and in such an early stage of release to get targeted by hackers is troubling and not good for potential user considering the service. I do hope you have success with the updates as I would like to see this service really develop. The market is there, just have to spread the word.

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Hi, we weren't actually hacked. There were some Joomla upgrades that needed to be made.

Thanks!

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I'd start hitting up places like Craigslist, too

Craigslist is dangerous...I won't join if it goes through there


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