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Yesterday was suppose to be fast day for me and I crashed and burned. I was doing good until I went to meet with my daughter's new daycare to drop off my schedule. She asked me if I wanted anything to drink, and I said no, but they ended up bringing me a glass of orange Tang, I think anyways. I didn't want to be rude, so I drank it, and it all went down hill.

I have been feeling very overwhelmed lately. My husband has be gone for 2 weeks out of the last 3 (which I am not used to at all, watching my children by myself) and I am going back to work in just over a week after being at home for almost 7 years with my kiddos. I just feel very down and feel like crying. I have struggled with depression in the past (this weight gain that I am dealing with was from switching medications). I have been doing well not being on anything, its just been as of late. I started taking St. John's Wort, but only recently. And my eating habits are still very tied to my emotions. So as of late, I have not been doing well. I have been sticking to the fasting twice a week, but on days when I don't, I feel out of control. I know I have to get my head back in the game, but I am really struggling. I was happy where I was maintaining and I am frustrated that I feel like I have to diet to get these pounds back off. Ugh :(

Sorry for my rambling. I am just feeling lonely and frustrated and, and, and. I am going to try and fast today to make up for the day yesterday. But right now it is only 8:20am, so I have a long day ahead of me!

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Sweet, sorry you have a case of the blues. Things will change, they always do. Be kind to yourself. So lucky for your kids you got to stay home for them until school! Hope whatever you will be doing you will end up loving! Meet some lovely people.

Stayed the same weight today. Better than gaining! This new year/low has stuck for 3 days now. Thats definitely a good thing!

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Wow' date=' I hope nobody's fasting. Clearly I have food on the brain. I should start my own food discussion/food porn thread and keep the naughty stuff there.[/quote']

Oh my lord! It's the morning after Fast and I'm REALLY hungry now after eating/ I mean reading your post! Ha! Now I want homemade chicken Soup, stock to make it and the chicken. Well, the bread sounds yummy too! Ha!!!

Girl, you are an awesome cook. I would never be able to stay focused and maintain never mind lose. Lol

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Yesterday was suppose to be fast day for me and I crashed and burned. I was doing good until I went to meet with my daughter's new daycare to drop off my schedule. She asked me if I wanted anything to drink, and I said no, but they ended up bringing me a glass of orange Tang, I think anyways. I didn't want to be rude, so I drank it, and it all went down hill.

I have been feeling very overwhelmed lately. My husband has be gone for 2 weeks out of the last 3 (which I am not used to at all, watching my children by myself) and I am going back to work in just over a week after being at home for almost 7 years with my kiddos. I just feel very down and feel like crying. I have struggled with depression in the past (this weight gain that I am dealing with was from switching medications). I have been doing well not being on anything, its just been as of late. I started taking St. John's Wort, but only recently. And my eating habits are still very tied to my emotions. So as of late, I have not been doing well. I have been sticking to the fasting twice a week, but on days when I don't, I feel out of control. I know I have to get my head back in the game, but I am really struggling. I was happy where I was maintaining and I am frustrated that I feel like I have to diet to get these pounds back off. Ugh :(

Sorry for my rambling. I am just feeling lonely and frustrated and, and, and. I am going to try and fast today to make up for the day yesterday. But right now it is only 8:20am, so I have a long day ahead of me!

Oh, it's so hard to be alone with the kids when you're not used to it! I understand - there's absolutely no break for you. It's also easier for me to make poor food choices - it's like my food is the only thing I can control - if I have to be challenged all day long I feel like giving up the food, too, is just too much.

You might need more regimented eating just to help your brain deal with the food. I slip more when I don't plan my days. You plan a fast day, right? Why can't you plan a feast day, too? Keep those calories on track. It's hard but it might help you feel more in control. And you may find that your "out of control" eating isn't as bad as you think it is. In any case, it can't hurt.

It was incredibly hard for me to lose pounds after being in maintenance, too. You watched and cheered me on! Now I'm cheering you on. It's hard and it's hugely disappointing. It doesn't matter why we gained, the end result (for me at least) was a feeling of failure. Like I was treading ground I'd already covered. It was frustrating and disheartening and incredibly slow going. But I did buckle down and I did force myself to be diligent even when feeling pressure and stress in my life...and it did work.

Hang in there. Give the St. John's wort some time. If you really need help I hope you have someone local you can just kick back with and do a vent session to. I never have anyone local (curse of the military life) but have a dear friend in Indiana that always understands. I hate it when I can't vent about my kids or my husband or fifteen measly pounds to someone that understands. It's critical to me to have that outlet without being judged.

Parenting is hard and it's doubly hard when you're doing it solo. I totally understand. Tonight when those kids are in bed, skip the cleanup and take a long soak in the tub or curl up in bed with a book. Really. You deserve some sanity and the mess will still be there tomorrow. :)

~Cheri

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Yesterday was suppose to be fast day for me and I crashed and burned. I was doing good until I went to meet with my daughter's new daycare to drop off my schedule. She asked me if I wanted anything to drink' date=' and I said no, but they ended up bringing me a glass of orange Tang, I think anyways. I didn't want to be rude, so I drank it, and it all went down hill.

I have been feeling very overwhelmed lately. My husband has be gone for 2 weeks out of the last 3 (which I am not used to at all, watching my children by myself) and I am going back to work in just over a week after being at home for almost 7 years with my kiddos. I just feel very down and feel like crying. I have struggled with depression in the past (this weight gain that I am dealing with was from switching medications). I have been doing well not being on anything, its just been as of late. I started taking St. John's Wort, but only recently. And my eating habits are still very tied to my emotions. So as of late, I have not been doing well. I have been sticking to the fasting twice a week, but on days when I don't, I feel out of control. I know I have to get my head back in the game, but I am really struggling. I was happy where I was maintaining and I am frustrated that I feel like I have to diet to get these pounds back off. Ugh :(

Sorry for my rambling. I am just feeling lonely and frustrated and, and, and. I am going to try and fast today to make up for the day yesterday. But right now it is only 8:20am, so I have a long day ahead of me![/quote']

Girl, I feel your pain. Sometimes it just gets overwhelming, doesn't it? In those years where your children are small, you juggle and juggle and struggle and struggle and sometimes we just need a good CRY. Been there, done that. Don't feel bad just know as FYE, this too shall pass!

That doesn't help much when you are in the middle of it but we support you and talk it out all you want to. If possible, carve out a little space for yourself with a good friend or just by yourself. Reflection and SPACE help me more than anything else. Best to you!

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Yesterday was suppose to be fast day for me and I crashed and burned. I was doing good until I went to meet with my daughter's new daycare to drop off my schedule. She asked me if I wanted anything to drink, and I said no, but they ended up bringing me a glass of orange Tang, I think anyways. I didn't want to be rude, so I drank it, and it all went down hill.

I have been feeling very overwhelmed lately. My husband has be gone for 2 weeks out of the last 3 (which I am not used to at all, watching my children by myself) and I am going back to work in just over a week after being at home for almost 7 years with my kiddos. I just feel very down and feel like crying. I have struggled with depression in the past (this weight gain that I am dealing with was from switching medications). I have been doing well not being on anything, its just been as of late. I started taking St. John's Wort, but only recently. And my eating habits are still very tied to my emotions. So as of late, I have not been doing well. I have been sticking to the fasting twice a week, but on days when I don't, I feel out of control. I know I have to get my head back in the game, but I am really struggling. I was happy where I was maintaining and I am frustrated that I feel like I have to diet to get these pounds back off. Ugh :(

Sorry for my rambling. I am just feeling lonely and frustrated and, and, and. I am going to try and fast today to make up for the day yesterday. But right now it is only 8:20am, so I have a long day ahead of me!

This is really a tough one. It's hard to be home with out your DH and the stresses of the kids going back to school...and to top it off, your starting work next week also after 7 years of staying at home....Most antidepressants take approximately 3 weeks to feel any relief but what's more effective is getting out of the house and going for a long walk to clear the mind. Perhaps you can get a babysitter for a couple of hours get a break. Hope you feel better soon.

As I'm reading this I realize that I need to also take my own advise. I'm finding myself feeling overwhelmed and eating when I'm not hungry. Had to curtail my wanting to eat last night when I wasn't even hungry. I'm so addicted to chocolate brownie Quest bars and keep say I'm not going to buy them and then I do.......:( and I eat them. Gained 2 lbs since yesterday so this morning I'm back on track I hope.

Supersweetums thanks for sharing with us what your going through. Keep sharing........ :P

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Hi guys. I forgot to check in last night after my fast.. Ended with 547. It wasn't easy I will say that.

Sweetums,

Ugh stress, stress and eating or trying not to eat has been a theme for me for the last couple of weeks too.

I'm hungry today (my stomach growls and bubbles is that hunger?)

Cheri, my son had been moved twice! And we are in our first week... I'm not thrilled about the new class assignments either. That kid always gets the short end of the stick I tell you.

Any Friday faster's? If so, wishing you an easy and successful fast day.

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Hi guys. I forgot to check in last night after my fast.. Ended with 547. It wasn't easy I will say that.

Sweetums' date='

Ugh stress, stress and eating or trying not to eat has been a theme for me for the last couple of weeks too.

I'm hungry today (my stomach growls and bubbles is that hunger?)

Cheri, my son had been moved twice! And we are in our first week... I'm not thrilled about the new class assignments either. That kid always gets the short end of the stick I tell you.

Any Friday faster's? If so, wishing you an easy and successful fast day.[/quote']

Sorry your son is having problems. I'm thankful, though, he has a great advocate in his Mother. Bless you.

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Sorry your son is having problems. I'm thankful' date=' though, he has a great advocate in his Mother. Bless you.[/quote']

Thanks,

My son is gifted..which presents a lot of problems in itself. The school always lets him down in regards placement. But he also has Tourette syndrome. Which puts a burden on him somedays in regards to other children and a uneducated teacher here and there..

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Sorry your son been moved twice....this is really a struggle for both him and your family. hang in there, he's lucky he has a really cool mom! :P

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I'm back.... tried to have a catch up on the thread but there is a lot and I'm tired!

Firstly happy belated birthdays to GT and Dee... hope you both had a good time.

It is great to see many of you at new lows or seeing new numbers on the pesky scale. Always gives me hope.

I had an amazing holiday - and I do feel like I have actually relaxed and chilled out a little. I actually wore a bikini - and it didn't feel as bad as I thought it would. I was really nervous for the first few days and stuck with my tankini but after doing a good recce and realising that I wasn't the biggest and there were defo ladies rocking bikinis who were bigger than me I took the plunge. My tummy hasn't seen the sun for nearly 20 years and after a few days it started to feel very liberating.

I did my 'best' re food choices in an all inclusive restaurant; always had Protein first. Skipped a few meals here and there and if I had lunch it was light, sometimes just fruit - OMG - the peaches are simply beautiful!

Will weigh in the morning and I am expecting to see a gain - hopefully not too much. I will attempt a fast day tomo - won't commit 100% because I am expecting to feel knackered after travelling all day today. However, there will be a fast day in the next few days. i wan't to get back on the wagon and I also want to see new numbers on that pesky scale!

Good to be back ladies!

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A bikini! Well done you.

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Welcome back coops! Sounds like a great holiday, and I'm v impressed you wore a bikini! You rock.

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Coops, welcome back and I'm so happy about the bikini...you probably rocked it and since you bought that flat tummy by God the sun should shine all over it!

Sweet...I'm so sorry that you are in a tough place. Awareness is such a good thing, and it sounds like you are not trying to sweep everything under the rug. Single parenting is hard when you have a good partner who normally is pretty helpful and you start feeling overwhelmed not having that extra person around. Going back to work after staying home is a huge adjustment. Don't stress about your eating right now, you can always buckle down once things settle.

LV...sorry the first week has already brought issues. We just finished our first week also and I'm so tired and I wasn't the one who had to go to school (not yet, that starts next week for me...ugh.)

Ms.S...I love that while you are encouraging SS you found that you needed to take your own advice. Great thing about these forums... ;)

So yesterday was a fast day...ended at 546. Today was a feed day and I decided to make Cookies :blink: and pulled a frozen pizza from the freezer for dinner. :wacko: So far logging my Cookies and pizza (oh and I made a salad to go with my pizza) I'm at 1478. I couldn't finish the whole slice of pizza which is good, but still it was quite expensive calorically speaking. Oh and I saw a new low on the scale but waiting until tues to see if it 'sticks."

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Thanks for the encouragement everyone, it means a lot. I think I am actually going to try and give myself a little slack with eating at the moment (not slack off, just be gentler with myself...I really need to learn that more).

Coops - sounds like an amazing vacation and good on you for the bikini! I don't think I would ever wear one, even if I get a Tummy Tuck. I always admire those that do!

Laura - it so hard when our kids struggle. My son has ADHD and it hasn't been an easy road. It must be so hard for your son to adjust when they keep messing with his schedule. I hope things settle in soon!

M2G - I will be waiting for the announcement, you are doing amazing with the 5:2, a superstar!

Everyone sounds like they have been rocking it! I did fast today and I am only sitting at just under 300 calories for the day, so I might have a snack here.

Thanks for being an amazing group. We might not "know" each other as far as seeing each other, but I really do feel connected to everyone here.

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