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How tall are you Dibaby? I just noticed your goal is 199. That's not very far from where I started out. I am only 5'2" though.

Sounds like you are really having fun!

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I'm 5'10"...199 is just my first goal really...but a huge one for me

I have to do smaller goals to make it to a big one I guess

But really 180 I'll look fabulous and a size 10/12.

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You're so lucky to be tall. I always wish I was taller.

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Hi,

My name is Missy. I am 45 years old and have been slightly overweight all my life. I have been divorced for nearly 25 years.

I didn't get significantly overweight till I hit my mid 30's. For the last 10 years I gained steadily til I reached a top wt of 266.

And I am only 5'2" so I was ROTUND. Well, I still am, but getting better. 30 lbs has made a difference.

I don't date, not because I don't want to, but because I don't get asked. I haven't been on a date in 3 1/2 years.

I'm kinda stuck in a funny mindset....do I want someone who would only ask out a skinny me?

I am not hesitant about sharing that I've been banded. It doesn't bother me to talk about it at all. If it bothers them, thats they're problem.

Banded on 5/22/06

start wt 266

current wt 229.

Struggling but hopeful.

As for your mindset: I wonder, do you want a fattie to love? Did you even love the fattie you? I Don't want a fattie! I'm looking good and I expect my man to look good too!

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Semantics.

Fine...if the timing isn't right then don't tell them until it is.

Better?

Why worry about telling your new love interest that you are banded?

I can't be the only one who realizes that when we go on that first date to a restaurant and I order a cracker (after he orders a side of beef), that my new flame just might notice there is something up?

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When I went on the one date I did have since I have been banded, I told him I had a late lunch and ordered a bowl of Soup. I didn't want to have any problems and have to run to the bathroom, so I played it safe.

If I ever met anyone that I thought I would be spending a lot of time with, I would tell him.

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You're so lucky to be tall. I always wish I was taller.

I like being tall..but it's really hard to find a tall guy it seems. I would say 75% of the interest I get online are shorter than me and I'm just not comfortable with that.

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It's great profile. But from what I have read in profile reviews, it needs to be shorter. Put some of your interests that you have in the main body up in the interests section. Otherwise, I think it's great and you are already on a bunch of people's favorites list.

Participate in the forums when you have time. A lot of the people that I read about, get to know each other in the forums and then have an interest to meet.

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I would also say average in the weight! You don't look a few extra lbs at all anymore!

You could add must not be married to contact you. I forget where the settings are for that. I have not must be married or looking for an intimate

encounter.

I wish you and some of the others would look at my profile and give me some feedback too. My name is Oregondaisy, if you put the looking for a woman

55 in the zip code 97420 in, you should be able to find it. I don't know how to make links.

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Yeah it looks good I think manatee..but yeah maybe shorten it up a bit. I would also change your body type to average. Your gonna confuse people. You sound very honest and sincere..thats a HUGE plus. Go see mine..i'm Dibaby37

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Dibaby will you take a look at mine?

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Dibaby I couldn't find your profile on POF. I did a username search, and nothing came up.

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Denise, yours looks fine, but I would put in more photos if I were you, and maybe something about who you're looking for

Di, again, there's nothing there about who you're looking for. Good photos. On the profile review I was told to remove my paragraph about losing weight so I did -- maybe that works better on a female's profile?

I know my profile is long, but it started short and I kept expanding it as I had more and more disappointing conversations. I figure that if someone reads that and still contacts me, she has a good feel for who I am.

As far as body type, that's just what I feel. Doing better, yeah, but still got a big spare tire and a convex shape. You all know how the right clothes and angles can hide things in a photo! When I hit my goal, I'll change it to average. If I can ever see my abs, I'll change it to athletic :)

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I've been trying to get some more pictures on there. I haven't found one that I liked well enough to put on there. In the full body shots, I still look so fat.

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Manatee I love your new pic! I think it gives a much better idea of what you look like. I think your profile was great. Have you had much luck on POF? I was on for a little bit and it was quite a ride, let me tell you. There were a lot of "interesting" people on there.

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