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Ok, that was hilarious and completely believable. In my opinion, I would tell them so they're not shoving alcohol or junk food in your face. Let them razz you all they want, like a previous poster said, they'll be hating it when you're getting all the attention from the ladies. Good luck on your journey.

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I've told my best riding buddies & they sort of sat there a stared a few minutes. One of them finally said well when u get down to little scrony azz we can finally kick it. They also said if it will make u feel better go for it.

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Forgive me for butting in on the man conversation and perhaps for being inappropriate, but.... if you tell them and they give you a hard time, tell not to be jealous. It removes inches from your waist and adds inches elsewhere. I read that in your secret women haters man club forum:)

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Forgive me for butting in on the man conversation and perhaps for being inappropriate' date=' but.... if you tell them and they give you a hard time, tell not to be jealous. It removes inches from your waist and adds inches elsewhere. I read that in your secret women haters man club forum:)[/quote']

Yep my wife cant take it anymore. I sent her to the hospital cause she thought I ruptured her uterous.

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Great topic! I am 9 days from surgery and have been having the same thoughts about what I am going to tell friends and family. My buds are all big men like me and will probably be shocked and some may talk smack about it but will most likely understand: blood pressure, CPAP, ankle/knee problems taking more meds than we need to. I will probably struggle with the events where really bad food and drinking are involved more than I will with their initial comments/reactiions.

For now I am going let it ride. Only a few close friends will know until I start losing. I have another procedure that I am having done same time so I have a valid reason for scar, weight loss and being out of work for a week.

Great support here guys, thanks!

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I lied.... They all think I'm having my gallbladder removed. =) why tell the truth when a lie is easier.

Nothing wrong with that approach. In the wise words of the immortal George Costanza: "Remember, it's not a lie if YOU believe it"

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I told no one and in 6 weeks no one has asked. I've had a couple of comments but they can see the diet I'm on and just assume it's working.

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Nothing wrong with that approach. In the wise words of the immortal George Costanza: "Remember, it's not a lie if YOU believe it"

I tell you Jerry. At that moment I was a marine biologist!

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I told no one and in 6 weeks no one has asked. I've had a couple of comments but they can see the diet I'm on and just assume it's working.

That's guys for you, right? I'm down 30 lbs. since 01/01/12 in prep for my surgery on 01/08/13, and the only friends who have commented, with one exception, have been female.

I have only told close friends to date and they've all been supportive. A group of male work friends invited me out for wings and beer tonight, and as I'm on day two of the preop diet, I declined. They pushed and i told them why. Generally supportive.

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I'm gonna tell em what they've heard me say many, many times in the past. "I'm on a diet again". Which is exactly the case.

And I'm sure I'll get the usual jabs like ......."yeah sure.....the Atkins 2 minute diet".......or ......damn, "that means the local Wendy's and pizza Hut are gonna go bankrupt" and I'll chuckle right along with 'em..............I'm sure there will be plenty of legit comments later when they see the results......

As far as the surgery......Guys don't really give a sh*t. In fact, I'll probably show them the five bullet scars where I single handedly stopped a bank robbery and captured a gang of crazed gunmen and saved 20 hostages. .......Yeah.....that's the ticket..

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I'm gonna tell em what they've heard me say many' date=' many times in the past. "I'm on a diet again". Which is exactly the case.

And I'm sure I'll get the usual jabs like ......."yeah sure.....the Atkins 2 minute diet".......or ......damn, "that means the local Wendy's and pizza Hut are gonna go bankrupt" and I'll chuckle right along with 'em..............I'm sure there will be plenty of legit comments later when they see the results......

As far as the surgery......Guys don't really give a sh*t. In fact, I'll probably show them the five bullet scars where I single handedly stopped a bank robbery and captured a gang of crazed gunmen and saved 20 hostages. .......Yeah.....that's the ticket..[/quote']

LMFAO ???? this so sounds like the guys I work with

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Well I'm six day since my surgery and most of my circle of friends are congratulating me. Had one argument on Diabetes and that was it. Of course I waited till two days prior to tell anyone other than my wife and boss as I did not want to get the hundred monkeys in my head. Little self defence. See how it goes from here.

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I'm 10 days post op. Besides my family, I've told about 5 buddies. Some of them had genuine concerns, but all of them said that if I decided to do it, they would be supportive. And they all have been.

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