Ok so the other day I was watching Oprah, and there was a woman on there who had had RNY. She looked great, very much health improved. Anyways she said something that sparked my interest. She said that she is not attracted to overweight men or men who are attracted to overweight women. She was like 600 pounds to begin with, and is now about 200.

So I thought, hmmm Im gonna do a poll! I want to know how you ladies and gents feel about this issue. Just for the fun of it, just out of curiosity, and just because I really like polls.

The largest man i dated was a gorgeous man from Gyauna (spelled wrong i am sure.) He was very dark skin, about 6ft8 and about 320.

The skinnest man i dated was 6ft and 138 and he was almost see thru white.

I like them all sizes. I am not sure that i would date someone that has a hard time getting around. I am SOOO active that it would cause issues. I am not the sit around type. But they could be huge as long as they were still active and wanting to do stuff.

I did settle down with a skinny though. But i had to talk it out with family and friends and him bc i was afraid that it would build on my insecurities and stuff, i mean. FOR REAL> he is 33 and still in 30/34 jeans. Shopping for both of us is difficult!! lol.

Ok this is a great topic. Me and my friends talk about it alot. I have one very skinny friend and she prefers bigger men with meat on them. Another one of my friends is MO and she likes big guys as well. She tried to get me to go to a dating website for Big and Beautiful people. I told her as strange as it sounds I dont like big guys (well at least in weight LOL) I have always dated tall guys who are pretty much fit. A little pudge in the belly is ok but as long as its not a beer belly or more. Also black men and older men always are hitting on me. I'm 26. But Im just not physically attracted to them. My feeling is many men dont like fat girls and thats fine with me but I feel I have the right to not like fat guys. It sounds very bad but i cant help it.

This poll was the best ever!!! I discuss this with my co workers all the time. I used to be small up until I had my daughter 13 years ago and i got bigger and bigger. At 9 months pregnant I weighed 202, now I am 168. When I was small I would never ever date a fat man. REALITY check, after gaining weight and being fat my mind frame changed. I would date a fat man but I dont think I would be very interested in a very obese man unless he had a whole bunch of other good qualities, Good credit, good job, nice car, money saved,christian, great personality, good looking, good to me etc....

I,m sorry, Just call me Shallow Hal.

I had always been over wieght and never , never dated anybody with more than just a couple off lbs/kg,s extra.

Hal:)

I don't mind a guy who is a little chunky, as long as he's got some junk in his trunk. I'm just not attracted to those guys with huge belly's and NO butt.

lol..sorry....I'm a butt girl.

Just call me shallow! I, am a "B" man fit and trim always have. even when I was large,I still was Hot! hehe.

This is great!

I have had all types as ex-boyfriends....but to be honest....at this point I would just like to meet a man who likes me for me. Someone decent enough, clean, smart, and kind. Oh and funny too. Gee, am I asking too much?

A man, an honest to goodness man who wants to date me! :peep:

This is great!

I have had all types as ex-boyfriends....but to be honest....at this point I would just like to meet a man who likes me for me. Someone decent enough, clean, smart, and kind. Oh and funny too. Gee, am I asking too much?

A man, an honest to goodness man who wants to date me! :peep:

I have never in my life had a relationship that lasted for than 4 years. I don't know why, But I believe that a lot of it has to do with my own self esteem. I literally sabotaged in many ways my last relationship 4 years ago because I couldn't believe that anyone would actually find me pretty. We actually fought over my self depreciation and negative self image.

I am hoping to get past this. I have always viewed myself as ugly...I look in the mirror....I see ugly.

But I AM WORKING ON IT. And I hope that someday....there is someone out there for me.

(Before I'm too old...lol)

I would have to agree with you on that! I do the same self sabbatoge and I do need to change my point of view. I love me inside. I even think that at times I am pretty, until I see my weight...my double chin, my stomach, my fat...:faint:

Oh well, thats what I am here for....to start woring on it...

Hang in there and good luck!

I've always been attracted to heavier women. Its just me. My ex-wife has the band and to be honest she went too far for me. she was lovin it but I was like wait where did my wife go.....

There are a lot of us guys who like women with some weight on them. They dont always fes up...

So here, here ladies...Dont lose too much!

My husband doesn't like Hollywood type bodies, either. This works out well for me. But I got the band because my weight was driving me nuts. I felt embarrassed and humiliated by it.

I've always been attracted to heavier women. Its just me. My ex-wife has the band and to be honest she went too far for me. she was lovin it but I was like wait where did my wife go.....

There are a lot of us guys who like women with some weight on them. They dont always fes up...

So here, here ladies...Dont lose too much!

Thanks for givin us girls with more to love..well, some hope of finding love! TGIF!:clap2:

How to Make a Woman Happy

It's not difficult to make a woman happy. A man only needs to be:

1. a friend

2. a companion

3. a lover

4. a brother

5. a father

6. a master

7. a chef

8. an electrician

9. a carpenter

10. a plumber

11. a mechanic

12. a decorator

13. a stylist

14. a sexologist

15. a gynecologist

16. a psychologist

17. a pest exterminator

18. a psychiatrist

19. a healer

20. a good listener

21. an organizer

22. a good father

23. very clean

24. sympathetic

25. athletic

26. warm

27. attentive

28. gallant

29. intelligent

30. funny

31. creative

32. tender

33. strong

34. understanding

35. tolerant

36. prudent

37. ambitious

38. capable

39. courageous

40. determined

41. true

42. dependable

43. passionate

44. compassionate

WITHOUT FORGETTING TO:

45. give her compliments regularly

46. love shopping

47. be honest

48. be very rich

49. not stress her out

50. not look at other girls

AND AT THE SAME TIME, YOU MUST ALSO:

51. give her lots of attention, but expect little yourself

52. give her lots of time, especially time for herself

53. give her lots of space, never worrying about where she goes

IT IS VERY IMPORTANT:

54. Never to forget:

* birthdays

* anniversaries

* arrangements she makes

HOW TO MAKE A MAN HAPPY

1. Show up naked

2. Bring Beer!

HaHa...thats great! I love it...thx for making me smile on a Friday!!:biggrin1:

~Liz~

03/10/06

241/156/160

5'7''

I have been married for over 6 years now. When I married my husband He was 6'2 and 195 lbs. I was shocked the other day when my mom asked me, "What if your husband feels bad that you are getting surgery but he isnt?"

I said, "Why would he want surgery? He's not overweight."

My mom looked at me like I was joking. Later I was looking at my husband and realized he was getting a little chunky. I asked if he knew how much he weighed and he said "ABout 275 I think, why?" I couldn't believe I hadn't noticed an 80 lb weight gain!!! mb I just love him or just am not focused on his weight, or just TOO focused on my own weight problems. Anyway, once I realized he was overweight I now worry that he'll start getting some of the same health issues I'm dealing with. However, I think after surgery he will lose weight just because I'm eating/cooking better and I want to be much more physically active as a whole family. But yeah, mb love is blind.

BTW- weird coincidence. We've both struggled with weight our entire lives. when we met, we had BOTH just lost about 50 lbs and BOTH were at a normal weight. I just gained it all back before we got married and he hadn't. BUT that was one of the things that attracted me to him was that I knew he would understand my weight struggles and wouldn't judge me if I regained (which he NEVER has judged me for)